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Dress Regret -- Updated!

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edited October 2014 in Attire & Accessories Forum
Okay, here goes. I purchased my dress about a month after getting engaged. I was home visiting my family (I don't live close to them), and it was my first shopping trip. I went to three stores and tried on maybe 15 dresses. This one was actually one of the first ones I tried on; it was the only one that made me teary-eyed. But now I'm having some reservations/regret. First things first, I'm getting married on a plantation in Charleston. I walked the property with my fiance last weekend, and now I'm worried that a semi-cathedral train might be too much. I'm also not sure I love how far down the lace goes. If I keep the dress, I'm thinking I'd want my seamstress attach the belt at my natural waist and stop the lace there, and then add one or two more layers of organza. Is it normal to have second thoughts? Should I keep looking for a dress and try and sell this one? Help!
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    beachyone15beachyone15 member
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    I am probably not going to be much help because I think that dress is gorgeous on you!


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    Knottie01055312 said:
    Okay, here goes. I purchased my dress about a month after getting engaged. I was home visiting my family (I don't live close to them), and it was my first shopping trip. I went to three stores and tried on maybe 15 dresses. This one was actually one of the first ones I tried on; it was the only one that made me teary-eyed. But now I'm having some reservations/regret. First things first, I'm getting married on a plantation in Charleston. I walked the property with my fiance last weekend, and now I'm worried that a semi-cathedral train might be too much. I'm also not sure I love how far down the lace goes. If I keep the dress, I'm thinking I'd want my seamstress attach the belt at my natural waist and stop the lace there, and then add one or two more layers of organza. Is it normal to have second thoughts? Should I keep looking for a dress and try and sell this one? Help!

    it is normal to have second thoughts, especially if you bought your dress early.  But, that dress is gorgeous on you. I think if you remove the lace overlay and end it at your natural waist, you will end up looking chopped in half.  Leave it as is.

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    beachyone15 said:
    I am probably not going to be much help because I think that dress is gorgeous on you!
    I'm with this. I think it's normal to be nervous, but I think you look stunning! 
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    rainbows0215rainbows0215 member
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     The dress looks wonderful on you.

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    Alikat9614Alikat9614 member
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    Holy crap, that dress is gorgeous and gorgeous on you! I think it's perfect just the way it is, personally :)
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    rooz103rooz103 member
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    I second QueerFemme's opinion on chopping it in half, and echo PP in that it's a stunning dress as-is and that you look amazing in it. 
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    southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    I agree with all PPs. Don't alter that dress - its stunning and perfect for you. You look absolutely gorgeous. Don't let time and doubt change your mind. Remember why you got teary and chose it in the first place.
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    plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    This will be absolutely gorgeous for a plantation wedding... wow!  stunning!
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    theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Probably 1 out of 5 posts on this board are about dress regret. So yes, it's very common! It looks gorgeous on you. Leave it as is.
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    missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    I think the dress is beautiful as is, and looks stunning on you.  That said, I think it's totally normal to have second thoughts.  I ordered mine a few weeks ago and have had second thoughts about ten times.  I'm sure I'll feel differently once I put it on.  

    Your seamstress can certainly make alterations, including shortening the train, if you so desire.
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    ElcaBElcaB member
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    I wouldn't change a thing about that dress. 
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    emmaaaemmaaa mod
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    Dress regret is completely normal! I think that dress will go fine with your venue and it looks gorgeous on you! I wouldn't remove the lace overlay in fear of it chopping your body in hald as QF stated. Leave it as is.

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    MandyMostMandyMost member
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    LOVE the dress on you, definitely don't do anything to the lace! I would probably have the train shortened, though, if it was me. Or, at least have a serious conversation with the seamstress to make sure it can be bustled exactly how you want it, and totally out of the way, after the ceremony. 
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    Knottie1463426215Knottie1463426215 member
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    @MandyMost, sorry just seeing this. Yes, I think I may have the train shortened just a litttle bit.
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    climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I think that dress looks amazing on you!! I totally had dress regret too, but I ended up loving it when it all come together. 
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    Dress is beautiful.  


    I had an outside wedding.  I didn't want a train but my dress came with one.  I just  put a permanent bustle in so it would not drag.    

    Now I think the train is just fine for your wedding, but there is the option of putting a bustle or shortening the train  if you are worried.






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    drina0218drina0218 member
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    For the love of everything that is holy, you better keep that dress! It's gorgeous and there is a reason you felt teary in it. I think a majority of us have had second thoughts about our dresses, but this is perfect on you. No pressure haha.
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    Knottie1463426215Knottie1463426215 member
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    @drina0218 haha! Thank you. I'm definitely going to keep it. I'm going back to the bridal shop in October to start looking for bridesmaids dresses, and I'm going to try the sample on again too. I think I just need to be in it again as a reminder.
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    Knottie1463426215Knottie1463426215 member
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    Update... Dress is in and I'll be trying it on next week. Wish me luck.
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    doeydodoeydo member
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    Wow.  Congrats.
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    Yay!!!!!
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    Alikat9614Alikat9614 member
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    Gorgeous!!!
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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    Beautiful!
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    SachaBeeSachaBee member
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    This dress is beautiful on you! I think it might be prudent to shorten the train, though. 
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    Knottie1463426215Knottie1463426215 member
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    Thanks @SachaBee. I'm actually keeping the train as-is, however.
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    Denise40Denise40 member
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    You look gorgeous in that dress!
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    NdelibleNdelible member
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    That is gorgeous!  Just stunning!  Congrats!
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    Thank you for the update. Your dress is absolutely stunning on you!
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