I Messed Up Big Time...this could be the end.

holyguacamole79

@Sammyantha13‌, I'm glad you're doing better. I sure hope your therapist is right. It's good to hear that your FI is initiating the counseling.

bethsmiles

I'm so glad you are going to counseling. I'm hoping for the best for you and your FI

hellosweetie1015

I'm so glad to read this update. You do what makes you happy. If your counselor thinks the communication issue is fixable, and you BOTH want to work to fix it - which it seems you both do - then go for it!

Formerly CaitTDid23

KatieinBkln

I'm glad you're going to counseling, and particularly glad that he initiated it. 

If anything, I hope this whole thing has given you a sense of where exactly you draw the line and what your boundaries are--that's ultimately what will keep you safe, but also what will keep you happy, because going forward you'll know what kinds of things you need to fight for to safeguard your happiness. Basically, you can both be a lot more proactive about communicating and giving the other person what they need now that you have both seen what happens if you don't actively work at it. 

Good luck!

theartistformerlyknownas

Sometimes it takes a big event to see what the big issues are so you can talk about them outside of the hypothetical. I'm really happy you both think you can work it out, and I wish you the best of luck!