The baby question.....

lacqueredlover

People ask such inappropriate questions and are so judgey sometimes!  I can't even tell you how many people ask me if I want to "have my own family" too because my fiance has two kids.  I hate when they say that because it completely diminishes how important those two kiddos are to me!  AND, it's no ones business but mine and his if we plan on ADDING to our family, not having our OWN family.  

If people want to get preggo right away, awesome, that's their choice.  A friend of mine purposely got pregnant 3 weeks after her wedding and she's happy so I'm happy for her.  I have lots of others who wait and that's what works for them.  If they decide not to have kids at all, totally their choice!

QueerFemme

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

lacqueredlover

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

People are literally the worst.  Why what you and your spouse does is anyone else's business is beyond me.  

I can't wait to have a dog.  If we decide that's the end of adding to our family, then yay for us!

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lacqueredlover

pinkrevenge said:

MagicInk said:

 Please, my uterus is where I store the vodka.

Someone needs to put this on a fucking pillow. And then I will pay way too much money for it.

or a cross stitch on a wall or something

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mileybangerz

People say I shouldn't have kids. I'm still not sure why...

beethery

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

I don't know who told you that, but let it be known: Whoever it was, YOU AND I ARE NOT FUCKING COOL. WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. I don't have to tell you that you're an asshole because I'm sure you already know.

That shit is totally fucking unacceptable.

QueerFemme

beethery said:

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

I don't know who told you that, but let it be known: Whoever it was, YOU AND I ARE NOT FUCKING COOL. WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. I don't have to tell you that you're an asshole because I'm sure you already know.

That shit is totally fucking unacceptable.

Eh... I would out her, but she knows who she is.  She left TK for a while, and came back with a different name, and I imagined, probably thought some of us wouldn't know who she was, or didn't care if we figured it out. A bunch of us were in an off TK facebook group and we got to know each other pretty well.  So, when she started telling some stories here as her new identity, it was easy to figure it out.  A couple of us were like, wait, what?  That story sounds very familiar.   

But yeah...  she's an asshole.

beethery

I am just feeling this right now about it:

CAN'T DO IT. Can't!

VulgarGirl

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

I always tell people were gonna have a little homo army just to piss them off.

Reality is, more then 2 terrifies the shit out of both of us, but lets have gay babies to piss off homophobes! 

VulgarGirl

QueerFemme said:

beethery said:

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

I don't know who told you that, but let it be known: Whoever it was, YOU AND I ARE NOT FUCKING COOL. WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. I don't have to tell you that you're an asshole because I'm sure you already know.

That shit is totally fucking unacceptable.

Eh... I would out her, but she knows who she is.  She left TK for a while, and came back with a different name, and I imagined, probably thought some of us wouldn't know who she was, or didn't care if we figured it out. A bunch of us were in an off TK facebook group and we got to know each other pretty well.  So, when she started telling some stories here as her new identity, it was easy to figure it out.  A couple of us were like, wait, what?  That story sounds very familiar.   

But yeah...  she's an asshole.

I'm like 98% sure I know who it is, but often that's when I'm the most wrong.

ashley8918

MagicInk said:

QueerFemme said:

beethery said:

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

I don't know who told you that, but let it be known: Whoever it was, YOU AND I ARE NOT FUCKING COOL. WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. I don't have to tell you that you're an asshole because I'm sure you already know.

That shit is totally fucking unacceptable.

Eh... I would out her, but she knows who she is.  She left TK for a while, and came back with a different name, and I imagined, probably thought some of us wouldn't know who she was, or didn't care if we figured it out. A bunch of us were in an off TK facebook group and we got to know each other pretty well.  So, when she started telling some stories here as her new identity, it was easy to figure it out.  A couple of us were like, wait, what?  That story sounds very familiar.   

But yeah...  she's an asshole.

I'm like 98% sure I know who it is, but often that's when I'm the most wrong.

I'm 100% positive that I know.

beethery

ashley8918 said:

MagicInk said:

QueerFemme said:

beethery said:

QueerFemme said:

People ask us when we are going to have kids too. I'm 44. My spouse is 39. We have dogs. We don't want kids.  We like our lives the way it is.  But, then the religious right tells me I'm not proper parenting material and there was this one time, that a certain knottie who GBCK'd a few times and is now back and happily among you, told me that my marriage wasn't as valid as hers.  And all of that almost makes me want to have a bunch of kids just for spite.  

I don't know who told you that, but let it be known: Whoever it was, YOU AND I ARE NOT FUCKING COOL. WE ARE NOT FRIENDS. I don't have to tell you that you're an asshole because I'm sure you already know.

That shit is totally fucking unacceptable.

Eh... I would out her, but she knows who she is.  She left TK for a while, and came back with a different name, and I imagined, probably thought some of us wouldn't know who she was, or didn't care if we figured it out. A bunch of us were in an off TK facebook group and we got to know each other pretty well.  So, when she started telling some stories here as her new identity, it was easy to figure it out.  A couple of us were like, wait, what?  That story sounds very familiar.   

But yeah...  she's an asshole.

I'm like 98% sure I know who it is, but often that's when I'm the most wrong.

I'm 100% positive that I know.

I know now too, and I can honestly say that I am livid that I ever wasted time being pleasant to that person.

QueerFemme

You guys are cracking me up.  

ashley8918

beethery said:

I know now too, and I can honestly say that I am livid that I ever wasted time being pleasant to that person.

At this point, so am I. I am SO over it. 

I was nice, and even got defensive on her behalf. But I can't get behind this shit, or similar comments.

ETA

QueerFemme

ashley8918 said:

beethery said:

I know now too, and I can honestly say that I am livid that I ever wasted time being pleasant to that person.

At this point, so am I. I am SO over it. 

I was nice, and even got defensive on her behalf. But I can't get behind this shit, or similar comments.

ETA

I have no idea if it's the person you think it is ... but, yeah. I defended her right to her religious beliefs and even talked to her about atheism, gay marriage, abortion, all sorts of stuff for over a year.  She was all like... ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I respect you SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much.   Omg... you are so amazzzing.  I am so happy for you that your marriage is legal now.  

Except when it came down to it.. she was like oh.. but, it's not as valid or valuable because it's not ok with God or the church... and I will have to vote against your legal rights.  

Asshat.

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VulgarGirl

QueerFemme said:

ashley8918 said:

beethery said:

I know now too, and I can honestly say that I am livid that I ever wasted time being pleasant to that person.

At this point, so am I. I am SO over it. 

I was nice, and even got defensive on her behalf. But I can't get behind this shit, or similar comments.

ETA

I have no idea if it's the person you think it is ... but, yeah. I defended her right to her religious beliefs and even talked to her about atheism, gay marriage, abortion, all sorts of stuff for over a year.  She was all like... ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I respect you SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much.   Omg... you are so amazzzing.  I am so happy for you that your marriage is legal now.  

Except when it came down to it.. she was like oh.. but, it's not as valid or valuable because it's not ok with God or the church... and I will have to vote against your legal rights.  

Asshat.

Well said. I hate, I fucking hate that shit. Honestly, I'd rather the people who outright tell me I'm gonna burn. At least I know where those mother fuckers stand. But you wanna high five me then turn around and say "But really it's not quiet the same and I'd have to vote against it" that's fucking shitty. 

jdluvr06

@queerfemme I have no idea who it was because I'm not that observant but that poster is an ass. (((Hugs)))

QueerFemme

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

luckya23

QueerFemme said:

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

Times like these, I wish I wasn't so damn nosy!!  (also when I spent an hour reading the Bump thread, etc)

 

beethery

QF you are a fucking champ.

@ashley8918 good call on the JonTron gif. It is 100% appropriate right now.

Knottie37373131

We will both be 25 when we get married in May. We are waiting at least 1 to 3 years after we are married to start trying to have kids. We know we are not ready yet and would like to pay off some of my debts and buy a house first. I am also taking an anxiety medication Paxil and know that I need to get off of it before we start trying to have children. I am at least at a very low dosage so it should not be too terrible. I have totally been getting baby fever this past year though and I can't wait until the time is right.

WinstonsGirl

QueerFemme said:

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

I vaguely remember some post about this.  And it's come up a few times recently about posters who have GBCK's and returned with a new name.  I honestly don't know how you all figure this out.  The FB group you mentioned makes sense, but some of you are crazy god sleuths like the Bump girls in the shit show post.  I almost wish there was a place to track new names so I could remember who old pp's were, though I can understand some people wanting privacy/a new start and that wouldn't be fair.  Some pp's have annoyed me and I would want know if they're back, but I can also respect wanting the anonymity of a second chance again.  

amelisha

WinstonsGirl said:

QueerFemme said:

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

I vaguely remember some post about this.  And it's come up a few times recently about posters who have GBCK's and returned with a new name.  I honestly don't know how you all figure this out.  The FB group you mentioned makes sense, but some of you are crazy god sleuths like the Bump girls in the shit show post.  I almost wish there was a place to track new names so I could remember who old pp's were, though I can understand some people wanting privacy/a new start and that wouldn't be fair.  Some pp's have annoyed me and I would want know if they're back, but I can also respect wanting the anonymity of a second chance again.  

I've been here for only a couple months but now I am paranoid that someone mistakenly thinks I'm a returning poster or something. Maybe I need to put down the vape and chill.

luckya23

amelisha said:

WinstonsGirl said:

QueerFemme said:

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

I vaguely remember some post about this.  And it's come up a few times recently about posters who have GBCK's and returned with a new name.  I honestly don't know how you all figure this out.  The FB group you mentioned makes sense, but some of you are crazy god sleuths like the Bump girls in the shit show post.  I almost wish there was a place to track new names so I could remember who old pp's were, though I can understand some people wanting privacy/a new start and that wouldn't be fair.  Some pp's have annoyed me and I would want know if they're back, but I can also respect wanting the anonymity of a second chance again.  

I've been here for only a couple months but now I am paranoid that someone mistakenly thinks I'm a returning poster or something. Maybe I need to put down the vape and chill.

I kind of thought that too but realized that I don't have the requisite homies! Lol

beethery

amelisha said:

WinstonsGirl said:

QueerFemme said:

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

I vaguely remember some post about this.  And it's come up a few times recently about posters who have GBCK's and returned with a new name.  I honestly don't know how you all figure this out.  The FB group you mentioned makes sense, but some of you are crazy god sleuths like the Bump girls in the shit show post.  I almost wish there was a place to track new names so I could remember who old pp's were, though I can understand some people wanting privacy/a new start and that wouldn't be fair.  Some pp's have annoyed me and I would want know if they're back, but I can also respect wanting the anonymity of a second chance again.  

I've been here for only a couple months but now I am paranoid that someone mistakenly thinks I'm a returning poster or something. Maybe I need to put down the vape and chill.

Unless you have some colorful skeletons in your e-closet, it's not you. We good.

amelisha

beethery said:

amelisha said:

WinstonsGirl said:

QueerFemme said:

It does trip me out that she came back here after saying how TK was a time suck and increased her anxiety and she didn't want it in her life anymore and blah blah blah blah, after she GBCK'd a few times.   And now comes back with a totally different fakeass name and acts like it's all new & rosey and makes a bunch of new homies. 

I vaguely remember some post about this.  And it's come up a few times recently about posters who have GBCK's and returned with a new name.  I honestly don't know how you all figure this out.  The FB group you mentioned makes sense, but some of you are crazy god sleuths like the Bump girls in the shit show post.  I almost wish there was a place to track new names so I could remember who old pp's were, though I can understand some people wanting privacy/a new start and that wouldn't be fair.  Some pp's have annoyed me and I would want know if they're back, but I can also respect wanting the anonymity of a second chance again.  

I've been here for only a couple months but now I am paranoid that someone mistakenly thinks I'm a returning poster or something. Maybe I need to put down the vape and chill.

Unless you have some colorful skeletons in your e-closet, it's not you. We good.

I'm the most boring person ever, no drama here. The rare herbal refreshment I partook in this evening just made me feel way paranoid, haha.

raissyrais

QueerFemme said:

ashley8918 said:

beethery said:

I know now too, and I can honestly say that I am livid that I ever wasted time being pleasant to that person.

At this point, so am I. I am SO over it. 

I was nice, and even got defensive on her behalf. But I can't get behind this shit, or similar comments.

ETA

I have no idea if it's the person you think it is ... but, yeah. I defended her right to her religious beliefs and even talked to her about atheism, gay marriage, abortion, all sorts of stuff for over a year.  She was all like... ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I respect you SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much.   Omg... you are so amazzzing.  I am so happy for you that your marriage is legal now.  

Except when it came down to it.. she was like oh.. but, it's not as valid or valuable because it's not ok with God or the church... and I will have to vote against your legal rights.  

Asshat.

I might have just figured it out...DAFUQ?