Hey , I'm so sorry you r going thru this. Not seeing you on mother's day bc mother in law more important. Nonsense . Sounds like the gf is a chip off old block of mom. Sounds like sons gf is a well....brat. idk best advice other than talk to your soon about how you'd like to be with him more , or make plans to take walks, lunches , etc things that don't break the bank. Invite son and gf or if gf doesn't come just son. Start to do all you can to make effort to be with son away from this so he can make sure it's what he wants . You are his mother , you deserve to be held high
July 12
Re: So how did you react?
He had the ring safety pinned into his wallet so he wouldn't lose it, but then was so nervous that couldn't get it un-pinned. So, he just opened his wallet, showed me the ring pinned in there and said "so, um, will you?". I think I said something like, "um, yeah... so, do you need help with that?". Then after the ring was on my finger, the happy nerves set in... and I started shaking like crazy! I did the same thing when I found out I passed my last architecture licensing exam. So, for about an hour I was shaking super bad, which made it crazy when showing it off to my family or trying to take photos of the ring.
I'm the fuck out.
My reaction was to laugh first and say oh, right now?! I figured he was waiting until the end of the hike. Most stressful but enjoyable snowshoe experience because I knew it was about to happen. I cried after he put the ring on. I think I was just smiling the whole time. He actually was just holding the ring after I said yes thinking I'd want to look at it. I was more focussed on a big hug and getting it on my finger for safety so we didn't lose it in the snow!
He hid the ring in one of those Russian nesting dolls (pic attached) and when I opened the last doll I was thinking "this isn't supposed to be in here. Did he buy a broken doll?" After a few seconds my brain connected the dots and I looked at DH and just started crying. He had a cute speech but I totally blanked out from my tears and don't even remember him asking me yo marry him (so I never technically said yes either).
So I guess we were never technically engaged or something.
FI says he had an awesome speech planned, but forgot it in the moment. I said yes, he kissed me, and we got a round of applause from the other patrons at the pub. Then we walked down the street to another pub for celebratory drinks, where he had a surprise engagement party waiting for me with all our friends and my mom and sister.
So he gets down on one knee, SIL pokes me to get me to turn around. I see him and start "Why are you on the gr... Oh......" and start crying. The kids start laughing because I was about to go off on him playing on the floor because I'm a clueless one alright.
DF - So. Um. I had something planned but I have no clue. Em, would you mind marrying me?
BIL & FIL - That's not how you ask!
Cue laughter from everyone in the area.
Me - Of course! Oh stand up already please, I need a hug now.
So I'm showing everyone the ring and nephew is giving me a look. Finally says "But you haven't said yes!" I love literal minded toddlers.
Thanks to SIL, this is all on video.