Male or female officiant?

Cookie Pusher

We had no preference and contacted prospective officiants of both sexes. In the end, a dear friend of ours got ordained to marry us, and she was amazing.

theartistformerlyknownas

daria24 said:

Oooh I admit that I do prefer that too. And I will also admit I prefer a female massage therapist. Basically anyone that has to touch me for extended periods of time or turn me into a hand puppet. 

thisismynickname2

I don't have a preference. My husband did. We hired, technically, a husband and wife officiant team, but the wife did a reading while the husband led the ceremony.

Yeah, that was fun thinking of the most delicate way possible to word why we choose just him for the ceremony (they had offered a choice either/or/both).  I ended up saying something actually true-- that September is such a busy month for weddings that we'll just go with [man] in case [woman] needed to book another wedding. 

littlemushroom

lolo883 said:

I prefer a woman for pedicures. I don't think the guy at my particular place understands how badly it hurts when he hacks away at my cuticles like he's cutting through jungle underbrush. 

ETA: Stupid box won't let me out.

I have found the exact opposite at the nail places in my area. The males are always so much gentler than the woman.

My preference is man for pedicures, woman for any doctor that sees me naked.

danamw

We had a male minister, because my SIL knew him as a youth pastor. But I have no preference.

KatieinBkln

thisismynickname said:

I don't have a preference. My husband did. We hired, technically, a husband and wife officiant team, but the wife did a reading while the husband led the ceremony.

Yeah, that was fun thinking of the most delicate way possible to word why we choose just him for the ceremony (they had offered a choice either/or/both).  I ended up saying something actually true-- that September is such a busy month for weddings that we'll just go with [man] in case [woman] needed to book another wedding. 

Not trying to start shit. But what was your husband's reasoning for preferring a man?

thisismynickname2

KatieinBkln said:

thisismynickname said:

I don't have a preference. My husband did. We hired, technically, a husband and wife officiant team, but the wife did a reading while the husband led the ceremony.

Yeah, that was fun thinking of the most delicate way possible to word why we choose just him for the ceremony (they had offered a choice either/or/both).  I ended up saying something actually true-- that September is such a busy month for weddings that we'll just go with [man] in case [woman] needed to book another wedding. 

Not trying to start shit. But what was your husband's reasoning for preferring a man?

He just.... did. We were both raised Catholic where, of course, there are only male priests. Every wedding he's been to had someone male. He prefers the "traditional" ceremonies in that kind of sense. He couldn't give me any real good reason other than it's just what he's used to and more comfortable doing.  We could have had them both officiate too, but with a shorter ceremony he thought two people would be too much. Luckily it worked out with the wife doing the readings. 

Some people are just stuck in tradition. My friend was married in a Lutheran parish with a female pastor, and while some members of her family were fine or even pleased with it, others clutched their pearls over it not being "traditional."

theartistformerlyknownas

littlemushroom said:

I prefer a woman for pedicures. I don't think the guy at my particular place understands how badly it hurts when he hacks away at my cuticles like he's cutting through jungle underbrush. 

ETA: Stupid box won't let me out. I have found the exact opposite at the nail places in my area. The males are always so much gentler than the woman. My preference is man for pedicures, woman for any doctor that sees me naked.

Is my dental hygeinist not supposed to see me naked?

Blergbot

Our good friend, who happened to be female, performed our ceremony. My preference had nothing to do with the sex of our officient and much more to do with the fact that she knew us and was a meaningful part of our ceremony.

KatieinBkln

thisismynickname said:

KatieinBkln said:

thisismynickname said:

I don't have a preference. My husband did. We hired, technically, a husband and wife officiant team, but the wife did a reading while the husband led the ceremony.

Yeah, that was fun thinking of the most delicate way possible to word why we choose just him for the ceremony (they had offered a choice either/or/both).  I ended up saying something actually true-- that September is such a busy month for weddings that we'll just go with [man] in case [woman] needed to book another wedding. 

Not trying to start shit. But what was your husband's reasoning for preferring a man?

He just.... did. We were both raised Catholic where, of course, there are only male priests. Every wedding he's been to had someone male. He prefers the "traditional" ceremonies in that kind of sense. He couldn't give me any real good reason other than it's just what he's used to and more comfortable doing.  We could have had them both officiate too, but with a shorter ceremony he thought two people would be too much. Luckily it worked out with the wife doing the readings. 

Some people are just stuck in tradition. My friend was married in a Lutheran parish with a female pastor, and while some members of her family were fine or even pleased with it, others clutched their pearls over it not being "traditional."

Thanks for answering!

beethery

lolo883 said:

littlemushroom said:

I prefer a woman for pedicures. I don't think the guy at my particular place understands how badly it hurts when he hacks away at my cuticles like he's cutting through jungle underbrush. 

ETA: Stupid box won't let me out. I have found the exact opposite at the nail places in my area. The males are always so much gentler than the woman. My preference is man for pedicures, woman for any doctor that sees me naked.

Is my dental hygeinist not supposed to see me naked?

Gimme your billing info, you just ruined my keyboard

falsara

We didn't have a preference but our officiant is female, so that's what I clicked. She's a friend of the family.

amelisha

Maybe I should add my officiant picking experience.

I emailed the venue and said "Oh, hey, I forgot to mention when I booked, but we'd prefer a fully civil ceremony, no religious references of any kind, please." Their reply..."Certainly. Would you prefer one of our characters? We have Elvis, Marilyn Monroe, Chippendales, vampires, Star Trek..."

Vegas. I love it. And I'm tempted.

larrygaga

amelisha said:

Maybe I should add my officiant picking experience.

I emailed the venue and said "Oh, hey, I forgot to mention when I booked, but we'd prefer a fully civil ceremony, no religious references of any kind, please." Their reply..."Certainly. Would you prefer one of our characters? We have Elvis, Marilyn Monroe, Chippendales, vampires, Star Trek..."

Vegas. I love it. And I'm tempted.

CHIPENDALES

LadyMillil

I voted female because we used my childhood minister who is female. If she wasn't available we were probably going to hire a male JOP, because he did a good job at a friend's wedding. 

kaitlynmichelle

Our officiant was female. We had to pay someone to travel in to our venue since it isn't in any major city areas and she was the closest. When we contacted her she seemed great, so we went with her.

H wanted a female officiant but didn't really have anything against having a guy do it either. I was fine either way.

amelisha

larrygaga said:

amelisha said:

Maybe I should add my officiant picking experience.

I emailed the venue and said "Oh, hey, I forgot to mention when I booked, but we'd prefer a fully civil ceremony, no religious references of any kind, please." Their reply..."Certainly. Would you prefer one of our characters? We have Elvis, Marilyn Monroe, Chippendales, vampires, Star Trek..."

Vegas. I love it. And I'm tempted.

CHIPENDALES

I know. Chippendale and a showgirl together would be even better.

But FI and I decided that if we're going to do this and actually get married and have a ceremony other people are going to attend and all that, we should probably take it seriously. All bets are off for an every-five-years private vow renewal though. I think we'll start at the top of the character list and work our way down until we die. Hopefully we'll die before the Twilight one.

tcnoble

amelisha said:

larrygaga said:

amelisha said:

Maybe I should add my officiant picking experience.

I emailed the venue and said "Oh, hey, I forgot to mention when I booked, but we'd prefer a fully civil ceremony, no religious references of any kind, please." Their reply..."Certainly. Would you prefer one of our characters? We have Elvis, Marilyn Monroe, Chippendales, vampires, Star Trek..."

Vegas. I love it. And I'm tempted.

CHIPENDALES

I know. Chippendale and a showgirl together would be even better.

But FI and I decided that if we're going to do this and actually get married and have a ceremony other people are going to attend and all that, we should probably take it seriously. All bets are off for an every-five-years private vow renewal though. I think we'll start at the top of the character list and work our way down until we die. Hopefully we'll die before the Twilight one.

I really really wanted Mighty Mike - midget Elvis!! We are Vegas but locals and nothing very "Vegas" about our whole event so I was like come on MIDGET ELVIS buuuuut my father didn't think it was so great. Total fun ruiner.

cupcait927

KatieinBkln said:

Whoever is cheaper and promises not to use the opportunity to preach about anything.

That was our approach - best fit happened to be female. She was cheap, didn't talk about God, and our families loved her.

hellohkb

I'm not really sure why but going in I preferred female. Now we may wind up having a male marry us if my uncle decides to get ordained.

VulgarGirl

I will say...I'm kind of glad we had a lady marry us. It had that whole strong woman, girl power, go us vibe. Plus she was just funny as hell and did an awesome job.

ohannabelle

lolo883 said:

MagicInk said:

lolo883 said:

Our officiant didn't sign the marriage license with their genitalia so I'm not sure why it matters.

Wait a second...they aren't supposed to use their gentials to sign?

I knew something seemed fishy when she took off her pants.

I think only Unitarian Universalists.

Please understand that Unitarians do not insist that you believe in pants, but if pants help you along your self designated path to your truth, then you are free to celebrate your pants, whether they be jeans, pleated trousers, Bermuda shorts, cropped pants, shorts, or sweat pants. Please stop in the lobby to admire the paper mâché globe of pants that our youth group constructed, using pants of organic recycled materials, and please join us for next week's sermon, "Do these pants make my angst look big," where we discuss the spiritual conflict of being free while we are hiding our true selves under the pants society requires of us. May you find peace within or without your pants, whatever those pants might be. 

hellohkb

ohannabelle said:

lolo883 said:

MagicInk said:

lolo883 said:

Our officiant didn't sign the marriage license with their genitalia so I'm not sure why it matters.

Wait a second...they aren't supposed to use their gentials to sign?

I knew something seemed fishy when she took off her pants.

I think only Unitarian Universalists.


Please understand that Unitarians do not insist that you believe in pants, but if pants help you along your self designated path to your truth, then you are free to celebrate your pants, whether they be jeans, pleated trousers, Bermuda shorts, cropped pants, shorts, or sweat pants. Please stop in the lobby to admire the paper mâché globe of pants that our youth group constructed, using pants of organic recycled materials, and please join us for next week's sermon, "Do these pants make my angst look big," where we discuss the spiritual conflict of being free while we are hiding our true selves under the pants society requires of us. May you find peace within or without your pants, whatever those pants might be. 

As someone raised UU, I giggled prefusely at this.

amelisha

ohannabelle said:

lolo883 said:

MagicInk said:

lolo883 said:

Our officiant didn't sign the marriage license with their genitalia so I'm not sure why it matters.

Wait a second...they aren't supposed to use their gentials to sign?

I knew something seemed fishy when she took off her pants.

I think only Unitarian Universalists.

Please understand that Unitarians do not insist that you believe in pants, but if pants help you along your self designated path to your truth, then you are free to celebrate your pants, whether they be jeans, pleated trousers, Bermuda shorts, cropped pants, shorts, or sweat pants. Please stop in the lobby to admire the paper mâché globe of pants that our youth group constructed, using pants of organic recycled materials, and please join us for next week's sermon, "Do these pants make my angst look big," where we discuss the spiritual conflict of being free while we are hiding our true selves under the pants society requires of us. May you find peace within or without your pants, whatever those pants might be. 

SLAIN.

jdluvr06

This thread is cracking me up.

I voted female but only because we had a female officiant. We didn't care one way or another as long as we got along and they were able to do a Pagan ceremony. We really didn't have a choice on the man or women thing anyway since there are no male Pagan officiants in my area. 

ohannabelle

Disclaimer: Unitarian pants remarks based on a much older joke, how many Unitarians does it take to screw in a lightbulb, so not entirely my own material. Semi-plagiarism. Thieving light. 

amelisha

Still hilarious, no apologies.

hellohkb

ohannabelle said:

Disclaimer: Unitarian pants remarks based on a much older joke, how many Unitarians does it take to screw in a lightbulb, so not entirely my own material. Semi-plagiarism. Thieving light. 

Shhhh

larrygaga

amelisha said:

larrygaga said:

amelisha said:

Maybe I should add my officiant picking experience.

I emailed the venue and said "Oh, hey, I forgot to mention when I booked, but we'd prefer a fully civil ceremony, no religious references of any kind, please." Their reply..."Certainly. Would you prefer one of our characters? We have Elvis, Marilyn Monroe, Chippendales, vampires, Star Trek..."

Vegas. I love it. And I'm tempted.

CHIPENDALES

I know. Chippendale and a showgirl together would be even better.

But FI and I decided that if we're going to do this and actually get married and have a ceremony other people are going to attend and all that, we should probably take it seriously. All bets are off for an every-five-years private vow renewal though. I think we'll start at the top of the character list and work our way down until we die. Hopefully we'll die before the Twilight one.

I hope so too. 

theartistformerlyknownas

@ohannabelle‌ I should know by now to swallow my wine when I see your name pop up. I just laugh-snorted it up my nose.