Hi folks,
I'm having my reception at a neighborhood pub. Pub food in a pub. The party planner there had never had a wedding reception before, and suggested putting something on the invite like "pizza, beer and dancing to follow" so people wouldn't be expecting a big sit down thing. What do you think of this? How would you handle it?
Re: "Warn" guests about informal reception?
You can sneak it in on the directions card, as "to the pub where we will have our pizza, beer, music and dancing"
On the reception card, put the name of the pub and the address, and people will likely know what to expect. They won't be anticipating a dual entrée plated meal with white glove service at the neighborhood bar.
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fka dallasbetch
This exactly...
@Knottie1429926455 If you lurk you'll also find that a lot of posters have very black and white ideas about things whereas I see a lot more grey areas that take personal opinion into account. You're right though, there's no reason to be rude and that's why I always strive to be positive
I guess I'm doing my wedding all wrong as well, oh well. Doomed to failure it is, then.
These are etiquette boards where people come to learn those general rules. They are actually very helpful.
What is not helpful, or received well, is when people come on here & try to defend bad ideas that are against the rules of etiquette or dispense advice that is not based on actual etiquette but personal opinion or experience. Why would we have standards of etiquette if they were subject to opinion?
Everyone is of course free to post as they wish. But don't expect not to be corrected if what you're promoting is rude, tacky, or might make your guests uncomfortable.
It's actually really simple if you take the time to read these boards.
I find it terrifying that there are such ridiculous wedding dictators as yourself, there's just no need. I'd really like to understand what makes it offensive to tell your guests the kind of reception you are having? And why it affects you so deeply what other people include on their invitations, for that matter.
Look, people post here asking questions about etiquette and we tell them what etiquette has to say. You don't like that? Go post somewhere else.
It would be one thing to explain what is considered proper etiquette, but what you have shared here has been nothing but rude and snarky things. Don't pretend to be the queen of etiquette when you can't even be civil towards anyone who has the misfortune of encountering you.
And as for "pretend to be the queen of etiquette" ? Never have done that. "Can't even be civil" ? I'm not the one being rude or snarky, or even proposing to be rude or snarky.
Sorry, but if you need to pass judgments on anyone, you're barking up the wrong tree.
I'm sorry that you can't be bothered to answer honest questions and would rather assume that everyone but you is in the wrong and you don't need to justify your rudeness.
I'm not sure what's wrong with you, but I hope you seek help with your superiority problem.