Is it silly to avoid a december baby?

Jstump2

I read this thread this morning and it got me thinking. I hadn't really given much thought to the due date. I just knew we were ready to start trying last month and so we did. Welp I found out tonight that I'm pregnant so November baby it is!

teddygirl9

My So's bday is 12/19 and he hates it. He is totally one to advocate against december babies, or at least late december babies. One of my friends' bdays is on dec 25. I never forget her bday!

theartistformerlyknownas

Jstump2 said:

I read this thread this morning and it got me thinking. I hadn't really given much thought to the due date. I just knew we were ready to start trying last month and so we did. Welp I found out tonight that I'm pregnant so November baby it is!

YAY congrats @Jstump2!! Another proud addition to Club KUK!

decembergrl2014

My bday is New Year's Day, and I was supposed to be born on 12/16, so you never know. As long as your baby is healthy, that's the most important thing.

manateehugger

H's birthday is the week after Christmas, and his brother's is 12/23;  they both gleefully refer to their birthdays as "Personal Christmas."

Just have a baby when you're ready to have a baby.

ashley8918

lyndausvi said:

I'm sure this is an unpopular opinion but I think it's pretty fucked up to plan your due date around when it's the most convenient for people to attend birthday parties and be able to spend money on gifts.

Like really fucked up.

Then again I come from a family who celebrates birthdays in more modest ways.  There was always a big 1st birthday party.  Then birthdays were low-key.   We only got presents from our parents, siblings and god-parents.   When you are one of 24 grandkids it was too much to give gifts to everyone for every birthday.     7 of my cousins were born in March.   3 of them siblings.   Sorry, it's ridiculous to have extended family attend 7 birthday parties in the same month.

Our birthdays were spent just like any other day.  My siblings were fall babies so they had school anyway. I was a summer baby, so my birthday was little more relaxed.   My sister and I got to pick our birthday dinner.  Anywhere we wanted to go.  We also had your standard cake from a box. 

 My brothers are twins, so yeah they had to share their birthday with someone else.   They also picked their birthday dinner.  Normally they picked the same place, but if they didn't then we would have the dinners on different nights. 

You are my people.

themuffinman16

In November, I am one of 6 people in my family having a birthday. I have a twin and an honorary triplet. So I don't care about overlapping, I just want the family to be together. I do not like big birthday parties either... maybe for the first Birthday.
But it is still hard to get ten people together in my family any time before Christmas. Again, most people deal with December birthdays, and it never hurt anyone. Just some people I know weren't big fans of their December birthdays, as kids.

JennyColada

I'm January, but was due in March. So sometimes you just never know.

holyguacamole79

themuffinman16 said:

In November, I am one of 6 people in my family having a birthday. I have a twin and an honorary triplet. So I don't care about overlapping, I just want the family to be together. I do not like big birthday parties either... maybe for the first Birthday. But it is still hard to get ten people together in my family any time before Christmas. Again, most people deal with December birthdays, and it never hurt anyone. Just some people I know weren't big fans of their December birthdays, as kids.

When you have kids, (so I hear), you roll with the punches. I have fertility issues, too, and I'd rather not be in the final months of pregnancy in the Houston summer. But when I have signs of ovulation, we have sex with little regard as to when the hypothetical baby will be born.

morewineplease

My sister was born Dec 22. She came home from the hospital on Christmas day in a stocking (which my mother still has). Could be the best christmas present ever.

sarahufl

You can only plan for so much. What if (God forbid) you got pregnant with your dream due date and....things didn't work out?

My sister planned her perfect late winter baby had 2 losses in a row. She ended up being super pregnant in the Miami September heat. She didn't care because she got her baby. But SO MANY nosy ass, rude people asked her what she was thinking being pregnant in the summer.

Nothing about having children is remotely convenient including when you want to have them.

Especially if you have issues getting pregnant, I wouldn't wait.

bride2b71614

You can want the child to be due a certain month, but in reality, preventing yourself from TTC to get to that month is a bit silly. The kid will happily celebrate their birthday whenever it is. Just keep trying.

Inkdancer

Making plans is a good way to make the universe laugh. 

You skip March so you won't have a December baby. Instead, baby is due in Feb. Something happens, baby comes early, congrats you now have a December baby. 

Trying to control when you give birth is just plain silly.