Worst Things You've Seen At Weddings You Attended

TrixieJess

Something with protein, quinoa, tofu, tempeh, etc. There is lots you can do vegan-wise, it's just finding a caterer to work with you. We are lucky where we live, we have several caterers to choose from that offer vegan alternatives.

Sioux1986

This actually happened at MY wedding.....

Our wedding took place on my dad and step-mom's 15th anniversary. I was planning on a doing a little speech or toast, but my dad called me about 2 weeks before hand and asked if his best friend, who was attending, could give a toast. I said "sure" because it was one less thing I had to do then and I didn't want to be BSC bridezilla and all "MY DAY." Well, I wish I had been a little selfish and said no or at least did the speech myself because this is what happened:

First, the speech was about 10 minutes long, longer than any other toast or speech given at any wedding I've ever seen (we capped our joint BM/MOH at 2 minutes). Our wedding took place at Disney World, and my dad's friend worked this in by COMPARING my dad's FIRST WIFE (aka my mom, who was at the wedding) to Ursula, Cruella Deville, and Maleficent. (As in: <Sioux's dad> had to spend at lot of time with Ursula/CD/Maleficent before finding his princess-- my step mom) He also mentioned my dad's cancer, which was kind of depressing as well. 

It. Was. Mortifying. 

I tried to handle it as gracefully as possible and keep it moving (it was the only dark spot on an otherwise perfect day). After the wedding, a lot of my guests talked about it and expressed straight confusion/disgust over it. I don't hold it against anyone, but if I could go back I would definitely say no, just to spare my mom any negative feelings (though she handled it gracefully as well). 

I think our faces say it all:

allispain

Sioux1986 said:

Our wedding took place at Disney World, and my dad's friend worked this in by COMPARING my dad's FIRST WIFE (aka my mom, who was at the wedding) to Ursula, Cruella Deville, and Maleficent. (As in: <Sioux's dad> had to spend at lot of time with Ursula/CD/Maleficent before finding his princess-- my step mom) He also mentioned my dad's cancer, which was kind of depressing as well. 

It. Was. Mortifying. 

SITB

Ouch. That's awful. I didn't attend my dad's wedding to his new wife (it was so soon after the divorce from my mom that I hadn't wrapped my head around it yet, plus my dad's a big of a douchecanoe). My sister went, though, and had to walk out part way through the reception. Everyone kept making toasts about how they'd always known dad and new wife were meant to be and how sad it was that it took so long for them to get together. Yeah. That was because he was married to my mom. For almost 35 years. New wife is his old secretary - she worked for him for 15 of those 35 years. These were all work colleagues who apparently didn't give a crap that my sister was there listening to them pretend like her mother never existed.

Sioux1986

allispain said:

Sioux1986 said:

Our wedding took place at Disney World, and my dad's friend worked this in by COMPARING my dad's FIRST WIFE (aka my mom, who was at the wedding) to Ursula, Cruella Deville, and Maleficent. (As in: <Sioux's dad> had to spend at lot of time with Ursula/CD/Maleficent before finding his princess-- my step mom) He also mentioned my dad's cancer, which was kind of depressing as well. 

It. Was. Mortifying. 

SITB

Ouch. That's awful. I didn't attend my dad's wedding to his new wife (it was so soon after the divorce from my mom that I hadn't wrapped my head around it yet, plus my dad's a big of a douchecanoe). My sister went, though, and had to walk out part way through the reception. Everyone kept making toasts about how they'd always known dad and new wife were meant to be and how sad it was that it took so long for them to get together. Yeah. That was because he was married to my mom. For almost 35 years. New wife is his old secretary - she worked for him for 15 of those 35 years. These were all work colleagues who apparently didn't give a crap that my sister was there listening to them pretend like her mother never existed.

Nothing says "here's to a life long commitment" by acknowledging an affair/affair-like behavior! 

allispain

Sioux1986 said:

allispain said:

Sioux1986 said:

Our wedding took place at Disney World, and my dad's friend worked this in by COMPARING my dad's FIRST WIFE (aka my mom, who was at the wedding) to Ursula, Cruella Deville, and Maleficent. (As in: <Sioux's dad> had to spend at lot of time with Ursula/CD/Maleficent before finding his princess-- my step mom) He also mentioned my dad's cancer, which was kind of depressing as well. 

It. Was. Mortifying. 

SITB

Ouch. That's awful. I didn't attend my dad's wedding to his new wife (it was so soon after the divorce from my mom that I hadn't wrapped my head around it yet, plus my dad's a big of a douchecanoe). My sister went, though, and had to walk out part way through the reception. Everyone kept making toasts about how they'd always known dad and new wife were meant to be and how sad it was that it took so long for them to get together. Yeah. That was because he was married to my mom. For almost 35 years. New wife is his old secretary - she worked for him for 15 of those 35 years. These were all work colleagues who apparently didn't give a crap that my sister was there listening to them pretend like her mother never existed.

Nothing says "here's to a life long commitment" by acknowledging an affair/affair-like behavior! 

Seriously!

princessandknight

I've been to several weddings in the past few years, but a few of them have been quite special.

My younger sister, always competitive, had to get married before me.  She and her husband had been renting a house together, and planned on having the wedding and reception in their yard.  Then they moved.  Her invitations had been part of a cut white poster page, top had a purple stamped flower, and she printed the invitation in different shade of purple magic marker.  When they sent out their change of plans, to his parents' place, they had used some random MS word program and they looked professional in comparison to their invitations.

My sister got stuck in the sliding glass trailer door on her grand entry to the back yard.  She and her bridesmaids wore their dresses for the ceremony and pictures, then changed to ill fitting street clothes right after.  I was not allowed to be in any of the family pictures, despite being her only sibling (but I was good enough to take her hair down and redo it in a simple french braid).  Their food was set up in a garage, and the food was okay, but everything was BYOB, and they only had bottles of water that were set out on a table in the sun, a drink dispenser of warm lemonade, and that was it.  She and her husband didn't do anything wedding related after the ceremony (where he put her ring on the wrong hand).  Nobody danced, they didn't say anything when they went to cut the cake.  Everyone in our family said it was a family bbq no one actually wanted to go to.

TY;DR- Sister got stuck in trailer door and basically had a big family bbq no one wanted to be at, no dancing or wedding related activities.

I was BM to one girl who really shouldn't have even bothered getting married.  She had already been living with the guy and had his baby, but his family was religious so they had to get married.  She didn't seem to care about anything other than getting gifts.  She had a fit when she wasn't going to get a bridal shower, because her sister (who she picked as MOH) was too cheap to throw it.  When another BM and I threw her one, she and the other three BMs came but never thanked us or helped reset the space afterwards.  She wanted to take the table decorations we had made for the shower to use for the wedding.  Also planned the "rehearsal dinner" for when I would be traveling to the location, from two hours away, and it was just a store bought thing of lasagna served at his parents' house.

Their wedding was horrible.  It was outside, and the BMs had to go an hour before the wedding for pictures.  Then, after the outside wedding, we had to stay out for another hour and a half so we could get more pictures with the groomsmen.  The reception was at his parents house, and they draped one layer of tulle over their entire garage, put some tablecloths down and called it a day.  They had a tent outside the garage with tables of "food" (chips, veggies) and made a redneck cooler by putting two by fours at the ends of a table, a weather cover in the middle with ice in it (that continued to leak all over the ground).  Their "cakes" they had made the day before, and just threw on his parent's cake topper on one.  They didn't cut the cake, or have anyone else to, so her former stepfather's new wife cut it because she felt bad.  There were no favors, and when another BM (who had graciously agreed to let me stay at her house that night, since I live several hours away from the wedding) and I tried to leave, she said we couldn't because she wanted special pictures done with sparklers.  At this point, I was as red as a lobster (far darker than my red hair), and I really just needed to put something on my burnt skin, so we left anyway.

TY;DR- Friend got married just for gifts, expected everyone else to cater to her while spending nothing.  Another BM and I probably spent more on her shower and a hotel room for her morning prep than they did for the entire wedding. 

MusicSoul24

This thread popped up at a perfect time.  I was just at a wedding yesterday, and let me tell you, it was very.....interesting.

> MOG wore a beige/nude dress.  With a neon pink bra.
> At the ceremony, the pastor's homily used Bambi (you know, the Disney movie) as a point of reference - when Bambi is "twitterpated" and in love with the chick deer was likened to this couple's union.  Then he talked about how important it was for the groom to take care of the bride because she's so fragile and delicate.
> Before the vows, the pastor looked at the bride and said that they had a surprise for the two of them, which was the bride's mother singing a song about the sacred vows they were about to take.  Bride's face turned to stone - she attempted to smile towards the end, but it just looked like a grimace (Mom's singing was definitely sub par).  In her defense, though, if someone had told me during my wedding that there was a surprise for me I probably would have had the same reaction.
> Bride yelled across the room at the reception to have the pastor give the blessing.
> There was alcohol at the reception, but I had to teach the bartender how to make a fuzzy navel.  I had to tell him what was in it.  Then, he started pouring the peach schnapps into the glass and told me to "tell me when."
>  There weren't any utensils to pick up cheese/pepperoni/crackers/fruit/vegetables.  Everyone was using their fingers.
> MOG was setting up the chocolate fountain and instead of using a napkin to wipe dripped chocolate off the bowl, she used her fingers, then licked her fingers, then continued using them to clean up the chocolate.
> B&G didn't do their first dance or cut the cake until 2 hours into the reception.  Most people had left by that point.
> MOG and bartender mixed up the punch in a bucket.  A literal bucket.  That had dirt all around the top.  Just because it had pine sol in it doesn't make it clean.
> A groomsman's girlfriend showed up to the reception in sweatpants and then proceeded to drag said groomsman out because she "hates all the people that are there."  Caused a bit of a spectacle.

On top of that is that the bride is 26 weeks pregnant and is super showing but kept proclaiming on facebook how she "didn't even look pregnant" while wearing her wedding dress (spoiler alert: she totally did).  Now don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with pregnancy before marriage, but I do have a problem with pretending that you're not pregnant when you so obviously are.

The true icing on the cake, however, was that she wore the dress that she had bought during her first engagement.

Sioux1986

MusicSoul24 said:

This thread popped up at a perfect time.  I was just at a wedding yesterday, and let me tell you, it was very.....interesting.

> MOG wore a beige/nude dress.  With a neon pink bra.
> At the ceremony, the pastor's homily used Bambi (you know, the Disney movie) as a point of reference - when Bambi is "twitterpated" and in love with the chick deer was likened to this couple's union.  Then he talked about how important it was for the groom to take care of the bride because she's so fragile and delicate.
> Before the vows, the pastor looked at the bride and said that they had a surprise for the two of them, which was the bride's mother singing a song about the sacred vows they were about to take.  Bride's face turned to stone - she attempted to smile towards the end, but it just looked like a grimace (Mom's singing was definitely sub par).  In her defense, though, if someone had told me during my wedding that there was a surprise for me I probably would have had the same reaction.
> Bride yelled across the room at the reception to have the pastor give the blessing.
> There was alcohol at the reception, but I had to teach the bartender how to make a fuzzy navel.  I had to tell him what was in it.  Then, he started pouring the peach schnapps into the glass and told me to "tell me when."
>  There weren't any utensils to pick up cheese/pepperoni/crackers/fruit/vegetables.  Everyone was using their fingers.
> MOG was setting up the chocolate fountain and instead of using a napkin to wipe dripped chocolate off the bowl, she used her fingers, then licked her fingers, then continued using them to clean up the chocolate.
> B&G didn't do their first dance or cut the cake until 2 hours into the reception.  Most people had left by that point.
> MOG and bartender mixed up the punch in a bucket.  A literal bucket.  That had dirt all around the top.  Just because it had pine sol in it doesn't make it clean.
> A groomsman's girlfriend showed up to the reception in sweatpants and then proceeded to drag said groomsman out because she "hates all the people that are there."  Caused a bit of a spectacle.

On top of that is that the bride is 26 weeks pregnant and is super showing but kept proclaiming on facebook how she "didn't even look pregnant" while wearing her wedding dress (spoiler alert: she totally did).  Now don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with pregnancy before marriage, but I do have a problem with pretending that you're not pregnant when you so obviously are.

The true icing on the cake, however, was that she wore the dress that she had bought during her first engagement.

1.) "Tell me when: sounds to me like a silver lining opportunity 

2.) The second bolded actually made me throw up in my mouth. 

MusicSoul24

I won't lie, I definitely abused the "tell me when" thing... Sorry not sorry.

TheArtemisMoon

My sister-in-law's cousin showed up 20 minutes, flung open the doors, and had on a white dress. 

Man and wife. Excuse me, he's a husband now. Talk about disrespectful to the woman getting married. 

Fairyjen1

   Many years ago I went to a wedding of a former dance partner. We were both in a regional ballet company and became good friends. We had a lot in common and for several years would do many fun things together. We never dated or were romantically involved. Just good friends. His mom really liked me and often invited me over to dinner at their house. 

   He found a girl and got married and I and my BF at the time were invited to the wedding. I really liked the bride (We even had the same first name and she sort of resembled me, this will be important later) and we always had gotten along great. At one point during the reception I was hanging outside with my BF, the grooms mother happened to walk by and said with a very dissapointed tone "I hope you noticed he married a girl with your name and your face" and then stormed off. I'm still not really sure what she meant by doing this. 

  Talk about awkward. I still keep in touch with the couple today, but I haven't contacted his mom since. 

majorkira

sheknows6 said:

One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.

I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.

I'm vegan and my mother in law thought it was rude for us to "take up options with vegan dishes" and suggested that we serve steak and chicken and that I "pack a dinner". Please keep in mind we did offer non-vegan options and that this was at a fancy restaurant. So I was supposed to just each out of a brown paper bag marked "bride"?? At my own wedding?? Not to mention over 50% of our friends are vegetarian or vegan. Gurl, how about we eat the beautiful vegan options we ordered and I can pack you a lunchable if meat is that important to you. 

majorkira

justsie said:

Quick question for those of you that are vegan, what would you like to see at a wedding as a dish? I have some friends who are vegan and some that are veg. and all I know is what they get at restaurants- which is usually just a plate of sides. Our town blows for anyone that has a dietary restriction/preference so I know that's probably just because of that. 

Are there any other suggestions you guys have that are delish?

Most vegans will go nuts if you offer seitan. at the few non-vegan weddings where the vegan option was seitan all the vegan/vegetarian guests almost wept with gratitude (the ones who still eat gluten at least)

thisismynickname2

sheknows6 said:

One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.

I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.

I'm vegan and my mother in law thought it was rude for us to "take up options with vegan dishes" and suggested that we serve steak and chicken and that I "pack a dinner". Please keep in mind we did offer non-vegan options and that this was at a fancy restaurant. So I was supposed to just each out of a brown paper bag marked "bride"?? At my own wedding?? Not to mention over 50% of our friends are vegetarian or vegan. Gurl, how about we eat the beautiful vegan options we ordered and I can pack you a lunchable if meat is that important to you. 

On the vegan/veg topic... Prior to meeting DH I was with a long-time boyfriend who was vegan, and it was during our relationship that I started being a pescatarian. We thought we'd get married and my sister said, "If you have a vegetarian wedding reception I'm not coming."

I honestly think the problem is people are afraid of vegetarian or vegan food. I went to a vegan sandwich shop (by accident) with DH once, who nervously ordered his sandwich and loved it (some kind of nut-based cheese was on it, I guess). There's a restaurant by me that's well-known in the veg community and they have amazing vegan milkshakes. I can't get DH to try them. Vegan cupcakes? To die for.

I actually think that someone who has a lot of veg/vegan friends/family, or who is veg/vegan themselves, should just find a variety of the best the cuisine has to offer without really telling nosy busybody guests, and let them die of foodie pleasure when they eat your vegan wedding cake. If they don't know it's veg/vegan, they can't bitch about it. Just my theory. 

RezIpsa

thisismynickname said:

sheknows6 said:

One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.

I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.

I'm vegan and my mother in law thought it was rude for us to "take up options with vegan dishes" and suggested that we serve steak and chicken and that I "pack a dinner". Please keep in mind we did offer non-vegan options and that this was at a fancy restaurant. So I was supposed to just each out of a brown paper bag marked "bride"?? At my own wedding?? Not to mention over 50% of our friends are vegetarian or vegan. Gurl, how about we eat the beautiful vegan options we ordered and I can pack you a lunchable if meat is that important to you. 

On the vegan/veg topic... Prior to meeting DH I was with a long-time boyfriend who was vegan, and it was during our relationship that I started being a pescatarian. We thought we'd get married and my sister said, "If you have a vegetarian wedding reception I'm not coming."

I honestly think the problem is people are afraid of vegetarian or vegan food. I went to a vegan sandwich shop (by accident) with DH once, who nervously ordered his sandwich and loved it (some kind of nut-based cheese was on it, I guess). There's a restaurant by me that's well-known in the veg community and they have amazing vegan milkshakes. I can't get DH to try them. Vegan cupcakes? To die for.

I actually think that someone who has a lot of veg/vegan friends/family, or who is veg/vegan themselves, should just find a variety of the best the cuisine has to offer without really telling nosy busybody guests, and let them die of foodie pleasure when they eat your vegan wedding cake. If they don't know it's veg/vegan, they can't bitch about it. Just my theory. 

------boxes------------

I take stuff to work potlucks all the time and get the "I thought you were vegan!" Or "You are vegan but you don't cook vegan?" every time.

You can hear the gears crunch in their head when I tell them the delicious stuff they have been hoivering down is vegan.

Best part of the potlucks. Because lord knows I can't eat anything at them.

lovemesomemonster

RezIpsa said:

thisismynickname said:

sheknows6 said:

One of my BM's is a vegan and I actually had to make sure to have a special dish there specifically for her to be able to eat- my mother told the caterer "it's ok, she can just eat salad".....uhm, actually mom, vegans don't live off just iceberg lettuce and croutons.

I could understand not specifically accommodating a vegetarian/vegan diet for all your guests since most food lines include non-meat options, but to not even offer some sort of special consideration for you AS A BRIDESMAID is just rude.

I can't believe you have to bring your own plate to be able to eat. That's a big crock of shit if you ask me.

I'm vegan and my mother in law thought it was rude for us to "take up options with vegan dishes" and suggested that we serve steak and chicken and that I "pack a dinner". Please keep in mind we did offer non-vegan options and that this was at a fancy restaurant. So I was supposed to just each out of a brown paper bag marked "bride"?? At my own wedding?? Not to mention over 50% of our friends are vegetarian or vegan. Gurl, how about we eat the beautiful vegan options we ordered and I can pack you a lunchable if meat is that important to you. 

On the vegan/veg topic... Prior to meeting DH I was with a long-time boyfriend who was vegan, and it was during our relationship that I started being a pescatarian. We thought we'd get married and my sister said, "If you have a vegetarian wedding reception I'm not coming."

I honestly think the problem is people are afraid of vegetarian or vegan food. I went to a vegan sandwich shop (by accident) with DH once, who nervously ordered his sandwich and loved it (some kind of nut-based cheese was on it, I guess). There's a restaurant by me that's well-known in the veg community and they have amazing vegan milkshakes. I can't get DH to try them. Vegan cupcakes? To die for.

I actually think that someone who has a lot of veg/vegan friends/family, or who is veg/vegan themselves, should just find a variety of the best the cuisine has to offer without really telling nosy busybody guests, and let them die of foodie pleasure when they eat your vegan wedding cake. If they don't know it's veg/vegan, they can't bitch about it. Just my theory. 

------boxes------------

I take stuff to work potlucks all the time and get the "I thought you were vegan!" Or "You are vegan but you don't cook vegan?" every time.

You can hear the gears crunch in their head when I tell them the delicious stuff they have been hoivering down is vegan.

Best part of the potlucks. Because lord knows I can't eat anything at them.

totally agree with this! We spent a week staying with a friend of my mom's in CA who is vegan and her cooking still stands out in my mind! Don't get me wrong, I love me some bacon but if she was my personal chef I could have gone vegan hands down!!

ginnybinny17

5 hour unhosted gap in between the ceremony and reception.  The entire thing was at a hotel about 45 minutes away from the closest city (where most attendees were from) so a lot of people went back home in between.  A lot of other people (including me) stayed at the hotel bar and watched football.

I get why the ceremony happened when it did (about 8:00 am to 1 pm) because it was a religious thing.  But for the love of god just do a brunch afterward for the reception.  Please don't make guests wait until 6 pm for the traditional dinner reception.  P l e a s e.

Sioux1986

ginnybinny17 said:

5 hour unhosted gap in between the ceremony and reception.  The entire thing was at a hotel about 45 minutes away from the closest city (where most attendees were from) so a lot of people went back home in between.  A lot of other people (including me) stayed at the hotel bar and watched football.

I get why the ceremony happened when it did (about 8:00 am to 1 pm) because it was a religious thing.  But for the love of god just do a brunch afterward for the reception.  Please don't make guests wait until 6 pm for the traditional dinner reception.  P l e a s e.

Did I read that correctly? It was a 5-hour ceremony? Followed by a 5 hour gap???

ginnybinny17

Sioux1986 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

5 hour unhosted gap in between the ceremony and reception.  The entire thing was at a hotel about 45 minutes away from the closest city (where most attendees were from) so a lot of people went back home in between.  A lot of other people (including me) stayed at the hotel bar and watched football.

I get why the ceremony happened when it did (about 8:00 am to 1 pm) because it was a religious thing.  But for the love of god just do a brunch afterward for the reception.  Please don't make guests wait until 6 pm for the traditional dinner reception.  P l e a s e.

Did I read that correctly? It was a 5-hour ceremony? Followed by a 5 hour gap???

The ceremony was SUUUPER long, but it was so long because of all the different religious rituals.  That part I didn't mind at all, because you weren't required to sit down the entire time -- there was food and coffee in the back, and people kind of milled around, ate, drank, talked, etc. while some of the religious rituals took place.  It was nice because the family pointed out the ones that were considered most important (especially the actual "marriage" moment), and then other parts had actual audience participation.  It was super fun and really interesting.

Then we all had a hosted lunch, which was really delicious.

The five hour gap that followed til the actual reception was heinous, though.  It's one of my very dear friends who is a wonderful person so we all kinda took the hit on the chin but...good god.

[Deleted User]

ginnybinny17 said:

Sioux1986 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

5 hour unhosted gap in between the ceremony and reception.  The entire thing was at a hotel about 45 minutes away from the closest city (where most attendees were from) so a lot of people went back home in between.  A lot of other people (including me) stayed at the hotel bar and watched football.

I get why the ceremony happened when it did (about 8:00 am to 1 pm) because it was a religious thing.  But for the love of god just do a brunch afterward for the reception.  Please don't make guests wait until 6 pm for the traditional dinner reception.  P l e a s e.

Did I read that correctly? It was a 5-hour ceremony? Followed by a 5 hour gap???

The ceremony was SUUUPER long, but it was so long because of all the different religious rituals.  That part I didn't mind at all, because you weren't required to sit down the entire time -- there was food and coffee in the back, and people kind of milled around, ate, drank, talked, etc. while some of the religious rituals took place.  It was nice because the family pointed out the ones that were considered most important (especially the actual "marriage" moment), and then other parts had actual audience participation.  It was super fun and really interesting.

Then we all had a hosted lunch, which was really delicious.

The five hour gap that followed til the actual reception was heinous, though.  It's one of my very dear friends who is a wonderful person so we all kinda took the hit on the chin but...good god.

Nope.  After five hours of watching you get married, no way I'm coming back for more YOU five hours from now.  I'm done.  I'll be watching football in my own basement, thanks.

larrygaga

adk19 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

Sioux1986 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

5 hour unhosted gap in between the ceremony and reception.  The entire thing was at a hotel about 45 minutes away from the closest city (where most attendees were from) so a lot of people went back home in between.  A lot of other people (including me) stayed at the hotel bar and watched football.

I get why the ceremony happened when it did (about 8:00 am to 1 pm) because it was a religious thing.  But for the love of god just do a brunch afterward for the reception.  Please don't make guests wait until 6 pm for the traditional dinner reception.  P l e a s e.

Did I read that correctly? It was a 5-hour ceremony? Followed by a 5 hour gap???

The ceremony was SUUUPER long, but it was so long because of all the different religious rituals.  That part I didn't mind at all, because you weren't required to sit down the entire time -- there was food and coffee in the back, and people kind of milled around, ate, drank, talked, etc. while some of the religious rituals took place.  It was nice because the family pointed out the ones that were considered most important (especially the actual "marriage" moment), and then other parts had actual audience participation.  It was super fun and really interesting.

Then we all had a hosted lunch, which was really delicious.

The five hour gap that followed til the actual reception was heinous, though.  It's one of my very dear friends who is a wonderful person so we all kinda took the hit on the chin but...good god.

Nope.  After five hours of watching you get married, no way I'm coming back for more YOU five hours from now.  I'm done.  I'll be watching football in my own basement, thanks.

Maybe I'm wrong but this sounds like an Indian wedding to me. Where people can go fuck around while you get married because it takes so long.

It sounds awesome to me. My very few Indian friends aren't married yet. 

Anyway, the gap is gross.

GeekyBride87

I've already posted in another thread about how when one of our groomsmen got married, his future in-laws kidnapped him and the bride and took them out to eat at a restaurant during the reception as a "surprise" because they said they deserved better food on their wedding day. And apparently the groom's parents were not special enough to be invited to that little trip. His mom was not happy at all.

GeekyBride87

Oh and this hasn't happened yet, but we are attending a wedding on Saturday that starts at 4 with a dessert only reception and it was stated on the invention that alcohol will not be served but is "welcome." I think I'll bring a flask... I'm not pitching in alcohol for your entire guest list... Ugh.

LondonLisa

There was a 3 hour gap but no one told us when the meal started so we were stuck in the lobby at this tacky faux Castle in Wales whilst the bride and groom took photos (we were afraid to leave because we were kept being told "oh just a few more minutes"). The only food during the cocktail hourS was a candy bar and a coke was £4 (wine was £10 a glass/ Pints were £6- which is obscene in the countryside).

Found out 1/2 way through that the B&G had upped the price for guests to stay the night at the faux castle hotel to cover the ballroom hire (basically instead of the standard £100 a night, they got the hotel to charge £200 a night and use the extra £100 a room to pay for the venue hire).

It was a tiered wedding, we were stuck in a "b" room, evening guests came in the middle of the meal and had to watch us eat.

They demanded money for honeymoon ON their invitation. No thank you note. 

Needless to say they are off the Christmas card list.

allispain

LondonLisa said:

There was a 3 hour gap but no one told us when the meal started so we were stuck in the lobby at this tacky faux Castle in Wales whilst the bride and groom took photos (we were afraid to leave because we were kept being told "oh just a few more minutes"). The only food during the cocktail hourS was a candy bar and a coke was £4 (wine was £10 a glass/ Pints were £6- which is obscene in the countryside).

Found out 1/2 way through that the B&G had upped the price for guests to stay the night at the faux castle hotel to cover the ballroom hire (basically instead of the standard £100 a night, they got the hotel to charge £200 a night and use the extra £100 a room to pay for the venue hire).

It was a tiered wedding, we were stuck in a "b" room, evening guests came in the middle of the meal and had to watch us eat.

They demanded money for honeymoon ON their invitation. No thank you note. 

Needless to say they are off the Christmas card list.

I can't decide which part of this is the worst. Insane.

ginnybinny17

larrygaga said:

adk19 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

Sioux1986 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

5 hour unhosted gap in between the ceremony and reception.  The entire thing was at a hotel about 45 minutes away from the closest city (where most attendees were from) so a lot of people went back home in between.  A lot of other people (including me) stayed at the hotel bar and watched football.

I get why the ceremony happened when it did (about 8:00 am to 1 pm) because it was a religious thing.  But for the love of god just do a brunch afterward for the reception.  Please don't make guests wait until 6 pm for the traditional dinner reception.  P l e a s e.

Did I read that correctly? It was a 5-hour ceremony? Followed by a 5 hour gap???

The ceremony was SUUUPER long, but it was so long because of all the different religious rituals.  That part I didn't mind at all, because you weren't required to sit down the entire time -- there was food and coffee in the back, and people kind of milled around, ate, drank, talked, etc. while some of the religious rituals took place.  It was nice because the family pointed out the ones that were considered most important (especially the actual "marriage" moment), and then other parts had actual audience participation.  It was super fun and really interesting.

Then we all had a hosted lunch, which was really delicious.

The five hour gap that followed til the actual reception was heinous, though.  It's one of my very dear friends who is a wonderful person so we all kinda took the hit on the chin but...good god.

Nope.  After five hours of watching you get married, no way I'm coming back for more YOU five hours from now.  I'm done.  I'll be watching football in my own basement, thanks.

Maybe I'm wrong but this sounds like an Indian wedding to me. Where people can go fuck around while you get married because it takes so long.

It sounds awesome to me. My very few Indian friends aren't married yet. 

Anyway, the gap is gross.

It was an Indian wedding, yeah!  The actual ceremony was really neat, and the casual nature of it (we walked around, talked, laughed, ate, watched the ceremony, etc) was wonderful.  The gap, not great.  But I LOVED all the fun rituals, and it was cool because they had a pamphlet that explained each one and the significance of it.

speakeasy14

GeekyBride87 said:

I've already posted in another thread about how when one of our groomsmen got married, his future in-laws kidnapped him and the bride and took them out to eat at a restaurant during the reception as a "surprise" because they said they deserved better food on their wedding day. And apparently the groom's parents were not special enough to be invited to that little trip. His mom was not happy at all.

There has been some pretty messed up things on this thread, but this, wow...

thisismynickname2

allispain said:

LondonLisa said:

There was a 3 hour gap but no one told us when the meal started so we were stuck in the lobby at this tacky faux Castle in Wales whilst the bride and groom took photos (we were afraid to leave because we were kept being told "oh just a few more minutes"). The only food during the cocktail hourS was a candy bar and a coke was £4 (wine was £10 a glass/ Pints were £6- which is obscene in the countryside).

Found out 1/2 way through that the B&G had upped the price for guests to stay the night at the faux castle hotel to cover the ballroom hire (basically instead of the standard £100 a night, they got the hotel to charge £200 a night and use the extra £100 a room to pay for the venue hire).

It was a tiered wedding, we were stuck in a "b" room, evening guests came in the middle of the meal and had to watch us eat.

They demanded money for honeymoon ON their invitation. No thank you note. 

Needless to say they are off the Christmas card list.

I can't decide which part of this is the worst. Insane.

"Cover your plate" concept taken to a new low. Disgusting behavior. 

LondonLisa

thisismynickname said:

allispain said:

LondonLisa said:

There was a 3 hour gap but no one told us when the meal started so we were stuck in the lobby at this tacky faux Castle in Wales whilst the bride and groom took photos (we were afraid to leave because we were kept being told "oh just a few more minutes"). The only food during the cocktail hourS was a candy bar and a coke was £4 (wine was £10 a glass/ Pints were £6- which is obscene in the countryside).

Found out 1/2 way through that the B&G had upped the price for guests to stay the night at the faux castle hotel to cover the ballroom hire (basically instead of the standard £100 a night, they got the hotel to charge £200 a night and use the extra £100 a room to pay for the venue hire).

It was a tiered wedding, we were stuck in a "b" room, evening guests came in the middle of the meal and had to watch us eat.

They demanded money for honeymoon ON their invitation. No thank you note. 

Needless to say they are off the Christmas card list.

I can't decide which part of this is the worst. Insane.

"Cover your plate" concept taken to a new low. Disgusting behavior. 

I actually left a lot of stuff out of this wedding- it was the most vulgar/. disgusting wedding I have ever been to. Photographer YELLED at us after the ceremony to only stand in certain places bc we were in the background of photos. As if it is ever OK to yell at another adult at a wedding. Also we all got yelled at by photog for not having confetti to throw for their photo grand exit as they left the church (not as in "you need to get confetti from the basket" but rather "Why didnt you buy confetti at the store and bring it to the wedding"- my response: "I didnt know BYOC weddings were a thing".).

Fi went up to bride to give her a hug and congratulate her and was met with an aggressive palm up stop signal  saying "Ugh Im just too busy right now to deal with you!"

Entertainment was the groom's HORRRRRRIBLE goth band....

frenchiekin

LondonLisa said:

There was a 3 hour gap but no one told us when the meal started so we were stuck in the lobby at this tacky faux Castle in Wales whilst the bride and groom took photos (we were afraid to leave because we were kept being told "oh just a few more minutes"). The only food during the cocktail hourS was a candy bar and a coke was £4 (wine was £10 a glass/ Pints were £6- which is obscene in the countryside).

Found out 1/2 way through that the B&G had upped the price for guests to stay the night at the faux castle hotel to cover the ballroom hire (basically instead of the standard £100 a night, they got the hotel to charge £200 a night and use the extra £100 a room to pay for the venue hire).

It was a tiered wedding, we were stuck in a "b" room, evening guests came in the middle of the meal and had to watch us eat.

They demanded money for honeymoon ON their invitation. No thank you note. 

Needless to say they are off the Christmas card list.

Bolded:  My jaw actually just dropped.  That one is tough to beat.  How do people even COME UP with these ideas??  And the fact that the hotel/inn/whatever allowed it?  I can't.