Weird question for the etiquette pros. (Every time I think I
have this wedding thing down, a bizarre situation pops up... and I just want to
make sure I’m on the right side of etiquette.) I’m not trying to B-list or have
a tiered reception... but I have a little bit of a unique situation. FI’s
sister Beth and her husband John have a 2-year-old who will also be our amazing
little ring bearer. But because Beth and John want to party later on at the
reception sans toddler – they’ve asked John’s sister Amy and Amy’s fiancé Tim
to pick the little guy up after dinner right at our venue, go home, and babysit him for the rest of the night.
My FI and I get along with Amy and Tim at family events but
we’re not so close that we would be inviting them to the wedding. However,
seeing as though they’re coming to the venue after dinner to pick up our nephew…
what is everyone’s thoughts on my FI and I telling them that they’re welcome to
pop in and have a drink or a few dances or a piece of cake before heading home? I was originally thinking
this was a great idea because they’re recently engaged and currently looking
for wedding ideas, and also because our venue is an hour away from their house and
even though they’re not guests, I still want to offer some hospitality to them.
But then I was thinking that I don’t want this to come off as rude or anything,
like asking people to show up for a tiered reception. I don’t think they would see
it like that, but I just wanted to make sure. I also know that I would have to
coordinate with the venue regarding the open bar headcount so that I’m not
cheating them.