So my MOH is a long time friend, we're not super close due to the fact that we're both pretty busy but she seemed really happy when I asked her. In retrospect, I wish I had just asked my oldest cousin because even though she lives in NYC and I'm in Cali she seems more invested. My friend I thought would be my voice as I tend to just stay quite when I'm upset and she is very outspoken. But, the wedding is in September and she is pretty much nowhere to be found. In early May we planned a somewhat last minute bachelor/bachelorrette party that was about 175 for the shared room and the gas to get there, $15 for a baseball ticket, and then money for food and my FI and I bought a ton of beer and liquor for everyone to drink. She told me the week before that she couldn't come, and only because I called to confirm with her! She said it was because of money but two weeks prior she told me that her husband was encouraging her to quit her job! Then, my MIL wanted to throw me a shower and all she could to was talk crap about her and when she was with me, she was making suggestions of how she could help make the shower better but then did nothing. She showed up late, then ordered an "Adios MotherF******" at the bar and proceeded to banter with my little sister who is 15 about being the MOH and at some point she told my sis (jokingly) to "eat or suck a d***." Also, my MIL said she offered to buy the cake but when I asked her about it she acted totally clueless so I paid for it and I was venting to my godmother about it and she insisted that she pay for it which was really sweet. She says she wants to throw me a lingerie party but I doubt its going to happen. I'm not looking forward to it for the gifts, but more for the experience of hanging out with my friends. I have been in tears multiple times because I hate the fact that she has that title but has done nothing to earn it. What do I do? My FI says I should confront her but I'm more of a suck it up and suffer kind of person. I'm totally lost.