DH/FI/SO bitching

julieanne912

hellohkb said:

@ibarfburlapandlace Are we with the same person? FH does this almost daily. It's so annoying. He moves things and assumes I have psychic powers and knows where he put things. FH: Wheres my comb? Where's my *description of one random shirt I haven't seen in months*? Where's my checkbook? I have no words.

This just happened this morning.  H calls me on my way to work "Do you know where my keys are to unlock the trailer hitch"?  In my head I'm like "how the fuck would I know where those are?".  He said he thought he put them on his nightstand.  I said "Did you check the shelf UNDER the top of the nightstand?"... "Uhhh no hold on let me look"

Seriously?? 

ShesSoCold

H and I have been having some issues that he hadn't seen. Now he's working on them, which is great, but I feel like an ass. I feel like he's kissing my ass and the fact that he had no issues with me or our relationship makes me feel like a dick. 

lyndausvi

 DH called (from TX) last night in a frantic that the new hat he bought in NYC was stolen.  He *knew* he packed it in his bag.   I looked around didn't see it.   He got all sad.  First he loved the hat and second, it was kind of expensive.

When I went to bed I thought I would look a little more to see if he actually left it here.   He stuff are all in mesh Container Store drawers in the closet.    Everything has a place, he just doesn't put it in their place.    So even though white tees go in the 4th drawer down there are in every drawer.   Naturally I start pulling out shit and putting it in the correct drawer because just looking at the chaos drives me crazy.   

 Sure enough, under some white-t's, mixed in with some boxers there was the hat.... in the sock drawer.

levioosa

kvruns said:

levioosa said:

BF took a liter of soda from his 100 degree car and immediately put it in the refrigerator.  Overnight it exploded, leaked all over the fridge, and congealed all over the kitchen floor (in a truly impressive way, really).  He did his best to clean it up before I woke up, but our ideas of what is clean are two very different things.  I've been over the mess three times and my whole kitchen is still sticky.  Uhhhh.  

ETA: 

*congealed, not concealed, although right now the stickiness is very sneaky.  Every time I think I've got it all cleaned up, BAM, there's more.  

I didn't even know that could happen


He told me it looked like syrup, which was thankfully a phase of the cleanup I missed. ugh

MissKittyDanger

I feel like most guys are the same, and my H is pretty much similar to a lot of these.

We actually got into a relatively on-going issue to the point I actually said "Look, if we don't resolve this shit won't work out!" {it's true but stated out of frustration}

Round about issue:

I'm sick of doing everything. He procrastinates. I do it, then bitch. He claims nagging. "if you didn't nag, I would do it" {that statement makes me want to throw him} I respond with "if you didn't procrastinate, I wouldn't have to 'nag' and I am not nagging I AM ASKING YOU TO GET OFF YOUR ASS"

Needless to say, we've come to the conclusion we must write done who does what until we figure out a better solution.

But really ... I'm nagging? You're lazy. *scowl*

MissKittyDanger

julieanne912 said:

hellohkb said:

@ibarfburlapandlace Are we with the same person? FH does this almost daily. It's so annoying. He moves things and assumes I have psychic powers and knows where he put things. FH: Wheres my comb? Where's my *description of one random shirt I haven't seen in months*? Where's my checkbook? I have no words.

This just happened this morning.  H calls me on my way to work "Do you know where my keys are to unlock the trailer hitch"?  In my head I'm like "how the fuck would I know where those are?".  He said he thought he put them on his nightstand.  I said "Did you check the shelf UNDER the top of the nightstand?"... "Uhhh no hold on let me look"

Seriously?? 

Mine does this too. "You cleaned up and moved everything!"
No .... I cleaned and put it where it should be. Or it's clearly in a spot you are unable to see due to it's obvious location.

julieanne912

MissKittyDanger said:

julieanne912 said:

hellohkb said:

@ibarfburlapandlace Are we with the same person? FH does this almost daily. It's so annoying. He moves things and assumes I have psychic powers and knows where he put things. FH: Wheres my comb? Where's my *description of one random shirt I haven't seen in months*? Where's my checkbook? I have no words.

This just happened this morning.  H calls me on my way to work "Do you know where my keys are to unlock the trailer hitch"?  In my head I'm like "how the fuck would I know where those are?".  He said he thought he put them on his nightstand.  I said "Did you check the shelf UNDER the top of the nightstand?"... "Uhhh no hold on let me look"

Seriously?? 

Mine does this too. "You cleaned up and moved everything!"
No .... I cleaned and put it where it should be. Or it's clearly in a spot you are unable to see due to it's obvious location.

The funniest part was he texted me like 10 minutes later saying "Found them".  I asked "Where at?" and he has read the text but hasn't responded... $10 says they were on the shelf of the nightstand.  

spockforprez

ShesSoCold said:

H and I have been having some issues that he hadn't seen. Now he's working on them, which is great, but I feel like an ass. I feel like he's kissing my ass and the fact that he had no issues with me or our relationship makes me feel like a dick. 

Ya. I had this a LOT a few years ago, and still happens to a certain extent. When we moved in together we promised we'd be up front about everything so things wouldn't fester. I seemed to be the only one who ever had anything to say. It hurts my feelings when you do this, my boundary for this is that, when you say X I get really angry. FH never said a thing. I would tell him how much of a jerk I felt like all the time, that I felt like I was constantly complaining even though he is actually pretty fucking awesome. I know for sure I'm hard to deal with sometimes but he would NEVER complain. He's more open now and willing to say things, but it's really hard to get him not to be so passive.

banana468

I feel like I'm mildly grumpy with DH this week.   He gets after me to clean up the kitchen and keep it "sanitary".   It used to be that he'd load the dishwasher.  But him loading the dishwasher is on his own time.   So multiple times this week I'll come down in the morning to a mess in the sink and a half empty dishwasher that needs to be loaded.   I'll take the time to load and run it when I could have just emptied the damn thing if he bothered to do it.

And working out of the house, I can use my break time to do some dishes or a load of laundry but lately that's all I'm doing at my break time.   

DH is also great for leaving his shoes around the house.   We have a toddler.   I'd like to get the shoes out of the way of the kid who thinks that everything goes in the mouth.   Yes we need to build his immune system but I'd prefer it not be by  licking items that have walked through a ship yard. 

And this week is a float week.   So DH has to put in more hours if he wants to float the Monday holiday.   He'd working extra and at the end of the day he wants to cuddle and have me rub his feet or head.   I'm fine with that but when I request a rub of the feet or head he's going for the boobs.   I am so over the request to relax me equaling the desire to pork.   

I love the dude I do - but he's been rather daft this week. 

sarahufl

My H almost never gets on my nerves, but this morning he did. In the past week and a half, I have been home for about 36 hours- 12 of which were spent tailgating with his family. I got home last night around 10 from California to a dead car in the airport parking lot so I didn't get home home till after 1am.

Get home and he has a freaking Man Cold- which means he is a snarfling mess and snoring so I don't sleep. I HATE when H has a cold- it's like it is the end of the world. Never mind, I am 16 weeks pregnant and can't get comfortable ANYWAY but especially not with his snoring and tossing.

Wake up this morning and the trash is overflowing, he forgot to take out recycling, there is sour milk in the fridge. He literally hasn't gone to the store since I left town. I do the grocery shopping in our house about 99.9% of the time, but come on! At least get some fruit and yogurt and throw out the sour milk before I come home.

thisismynickname2

I have to say I like reading these threads because I don't want to vent to people I know IRL. I heard really good marriage advice once (at least, I agree it's good advice): Never say to others what you haven't already said to your spouse. It's very rare I say anything negative about DH to my friends. I just don't think it's very respectful to him. So it's also good to know that in every relationship people drive each other a bit nuts sometimes and the things I get concerned about seem pretty par for the marriage course. 

fyrchk

lyndausvi said:

 DH called (from TX) last night in a frantic that the new hat he bought in NYC was stolen.  He *knew* he packed it in his bag.   I looked around didn't see it.   He got all sad.  First he loved the hat and second, it was kind of expensive.

When I went to bed I thought I would look a little more to see if he actually left it here.   He stuff are all in mesh Container Store drawers in the closet.    Everything has a place, he just doesn't put it in their place.    So even though white tees go in the 4th drawer down there are in every drawer.   Naturally I start pulling out shit and putting it in the correct drawer because just looking at the chaos drives me crazy.   

 Sure enough, under some white-t's, mixed in with some boxers there was the hat.... in the sock drawer.

Boxes:::

OH MY GOD! Are you in my house? I just put all of FI's clothes away and had to reorganize everything (AGAIN...for the 70th time). Boxers in with hoodies, bathing suit in with t-shirts, etc. Nothing folded, just in there. He also had the tags from new clothes ripped off items and in the drawers instead of throwing them away. It was ridiculous.

 

lovesclimbing

H doesn't throw stuff away or put stuff away when he's done with it. For example, he will have four or five cups around the kitchen with either coffee residue in the bottom or tea bags in them. Or worse, he'll put the cup in the sink but leave the tea bag in it. Is it really that hard to take 10 seconds to rinse your coffe cup so it's easier to wash later without stuff stuck to the bottom and throw the tea bag in the trash that is 6 feet from the sink? I don't get it.

Also, we seriously disagree on how to handle dishes. He would rather have dirty dishes spread all over the kitchen and table than have them stacked up in the sink. I would rather have them all in one place with water pouring over them to soften the stuff before they go in the dishwasher.

wandajune6

thisismynickname said:

I have to say I like reading these threads because I don't want to vent to people I know IRL. I heard really good marriage advice once (at least, I agree it's good advice): Never say to others what you haven't already said to your spouse. It's very rare I say anything negative about DH to my friends. I just don't think it's very respectful to him. So it's also good to know that in every relationship people drive each other a bit nuts sometimes and the things I get concerned about seem pretty par for the marriage course. 

Exactly why I started it! DH is having an asshole week. We all have them and they don't define a relationship (assuming, of course, they're not every week). When you bitch to your friends/family, they remember that. People never remember the good stuff you share about your partner. People thrive on the dirt, the bitching, etc. Sometimes you just want to vent about the crap in a place where you don't have to worry that they'll hold it against you both.

julieanne912

thisismynickname said:

I have to say I like reading these threads because I don't want to vent to people I know IRL. I heard really good marriage advice once (at least, I agree it's good advice): Never say to others what you haven't already said to your spouse. It's very rare I say anything negative about DH to my friends. I just don't think it's very respectful to him. So it's also good to know that in every relationship people drive each other a bit nuts sometimes and the things I get concerned about seem pretty par for the marriage course. 

Ditto!  Also good to know I'm not the only one with a sometimes annoying H LOL!  

thefanciestbeckler

Well my husband (who, let's not forget, doesn't have a job) just crossed into territory that he should never have crossed. A couple of weeks ago, we bought a TV to go in our basement. We ended up getting one that was slightly outside of our budget and it put us in a tight place financially.

Fast-forward to this week - H decides he wants to take it back because it isn't worth having financial struggles because of a TV (yay him!). BUT. He has been putting off taking it back. At first it was "I don't feel like taking it off the wall and boxing it up". Understood. That part is annoying. He took it down and boxed it up today after talking about it for days.

Well, I paid bills yesterday, so we are down to having almost no money. I asked him earlier if he had taken the TV back like he said he was going to do today and he said "No I am putting it off til tomorrow". Then, when I told him that we were really short on money and I needed him to do it today, he got all pissy with me and acted like it was a huge inconvenience!!!!! Really??? He was sitting at home watching TV!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH he needs a job PRONTO!!!

QueenOfGlitz

julieanne912 said:

He whines about how he's stressed out about money, but then goes and spends over $200 on a new hockey jersey/sweater because "it's a brand new design and I had to have one".  

Also, he's being lazy lately, but getting on me for being lazy too.  That's annoying.

Excuse me for replying to an old-ish post. But did you say HOCKEY?

I don't condone his spending, let me just say that.

But do you like hockey yourself, too?!

julieanne912

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 said:

He whines about how he's stressed out about money, but then goes and spends over $200 on a new hockey jersey/sweater because "it's a brand new design and I had to have one".  

Also, he's being lazy lately, but getting on me for being lazy too.  That's annoying.

Excuse me for replying to an old-ish post. But did you say HOCKEY?

I don't condone his spending, let me just say that.

But do you like hockey yourself, too?!

Ha, yes I love hockey too.  I just don't go buy $200 jerseys when I already have like 6 at home.  I'm more of a, shop off the clearance rack at the end of season.  My personal fave is to buy boys XL tshirts on clearance cause they're like $10.  

QueenOfGlitz

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 said:

He whines about how he's stressed out about money, but then goes and spends over $200 on a new hockey jersey/sweater because "it's a brand new design and I had to have one".  

Also, he's being lazy lately, but getting on me for being lazy too.  That's annoying.

Excuse me for replying to an old-ish post. But did you say HOCKEY?

I don't condone his spending, let me just say that.

But do you like hockey yourself, too?!

Ha, yes I love hockey too.  I just don't go buy $200 jerseys when I already have like 6 at home.  I'm more of a, shop off the clearance rack at the end of season.  My personal fave is to buy boys XL tshirts on clearance cause they're like $10.  

Eeeeeeee! Who's your fav team?

julieanne912

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 said:

He whines about how he's stressed out about money, but then goes and spends over $200 on a new hockey jersey/sweater because "it's a brand new design and I had to have one".  

Also, he's being lazy lately, but getting on me for being lazy too.  That's annoying.

Excuse me for replying to an old-ish post. But did you say HOCKEY?

I don't condone his spending, let me just say that.

But do you like hockey yourself, too?!

Ha, yes I love hockey too.  I just don't go buy $200 jerseys when I already have like 6 at home.  I'm more of a, shop off the clearance rack at the end of season.  My personal fave is to buy boys XL tshirts on clearance cause they're like $10.  

Eeeeeeee! Who's your fav team?

Colorado Avalanche... we have season tickets!

QueenOfGlitz

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

julieanne912

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

QueenOfGlitz

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

Well then..

ShesSoCold

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

julieanne912

ShesSoCold said:

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

LOL!  Pretty much.  The Avalanche are shall we say... a very frustrating team to be a fan of.  Lots of WHAT ARE YOU DOING yelling going on during some games.  I admit though, I cheer for the Hawks whenever they aren't playing the Avs.  Especially when playing the Blues or the Wild.  HATE the Wild.  

ShesSoCold

julieanne912 said:

ShesSoCold said:

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

LOL!  Pretty much.  The Avalanche are shall we say... a very frustrating team to be a fan of.  Lots of WHAT ARE YOU DOING yelling going on during some games.  I admit though, I cheer for the Hawks whenever they aren't playing the Avs.  Especially when playing the Blues or the Wild.  HATE the Wild.  

STUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

I'm also a Bears fan so I hear ya. I HATE the Blues. They announced last week that we're playing an outdoor game in MN against the Wild and I REALLY wanna go. I'm also trying to convince my sister to go to St. Louis for a Hawks game Saturday night/Bears game Sunday morning combo. I love how much St. Louis hates us. 

julieanne912

ShesSoCold said:

julieanne912 said:

ShesSoCold said:

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

LOL!  Pretty much.  The Avalanche are shall we say... a very frustrating team to be a fan of.  Lots of WHAT ARE YOU DOING yelling going on during some games.  I admit though, I cheer for the Hawks whenever they aren't playing the Avs.  Especially when playing the Blues or the Wild.  HATE the Wild.  

STUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

I'm also a Bears fan so I hear ya. I HATE the Blues. They announced last week that we're playing an outdoor game in MN against the Wild and I REALLY wanna go. I'm also trying to convince my sister to go to St. Louis for a Hawks game Saturday night/Bears game Sunday morning combo. I love how much St. Louis hates us. 

Yeah the Avs have an outdoor game in February against the Red Wings.  We've got our tickets already for that, they were separate from the season ticket package, but we got first priority to buy them so our seats are pretty good.   Should be fun! 

ShesSoCold

You kick some Redwing ass for me. I'm sad that they reconfigured the divisions and I no longer get to hate them as often as I had before.

anjemon

julieanne912 said:

ShesSoCold said:

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

LOL!  Pretty much.  The Avalanche are shall we say... a very frustrating team to be a fan of.  Lots of WHAT ARE YOU DOING yelling going on during some games.  I admit though, I cheer for the Hawks whenever they aren't playing the Avs.  Especially when playing the Blues or the Wild.  HATE the Wild.  

Hey! We're not that bad! MN teams never win anything unless you follow WNBA.

julieanne912

anjemon said:

julieanne912 said:

ShesSoCold said:

julieanne912 said:

QueenOfGlitz said:

julieanne912 -

Hawks fan here.

Oh god we can't be friends then.  

I lived in Chicago for a long time, including during 2010, so most of my friends are Hawks fans.  

LOL!  Pretty much.  The Avalanche are shall we say... a very frustrating team to be a fan of.  Lots of WHAT ARE YOU DOING yelling going on during some games.  I admit though, I cheer for the Hawks whenever they aren't playing the Avs.  Especially when playing the Blues or the Wild.  HATE the Wild.  

Hey! We're not that bad! MN teams never win anything unless you follow WNBA.

Funny, cause a lot of the Wild fans acted like they won the fucking Stanley Cup last year cause they made it to the 2nd round of the playoffs.