I know that we all love our significant others but sometimes they just seem to fuck everything up. Seriously pissed at DH right now for a few things and want to bitch to people who don't know him.
He's promised to quit smoking since we met. He's quit for months at a time then slip up. I'm understanding- we've had a crazy stressful few years. I just found out that he's been hiding the fact that he's been smoking a lot more than he claims: a pack a week instead of a cigarette a week. I can handle him smoking more. I don't like it but I'll forgive it. The sneaking around has me livid.
Also, he picks me up from the train station every day. The bus takes me about 80 minutes (it's always late and takes a very indirect route) and the drive from our house is 15-20 minutes. Long story short, I got left at the train station because he forgot to tell me that he couldn't get me- then didn't respond to any of my messages. He was on a phone interview (yea!) but he also told me about how the call kept dropping- yet he didn't respond to my texts/PMs wondering what happened to him while he was off the phone. I got home super-late because most bus routes stopped by the time I realized that he wasn't coming. When I finally got home, he was in a nasty mood from screwing up his interview and made things worse.
What has your SO done lately to piss you off?
Re: DH/FI/SO bitching
He gets $600 a month is just "spending money." That's to put gas in his car, buy his cigarettes, and whatever else he wants. I pay all of the bills (with our joint money after his $600), buy groceries, etc.
He is complaining because his friend came to visit last week and he spent his money taking his friend out. Wants me to give him more money. I tried to explain how much money he blows through with no idea what he's spent it on and he doesn't get it. He doesn't save any of it and expects me to give him more money when he's spent all of his. We are going to do a budget this weekend. Then he can see where the money goes and that I'm not just not wanting him to have more money.
Sometimes he talks to me in a condescending way about the dumbest things. The toilet keeps running and he told me hold the handle down until you hear it flush all the way. So I did. We're lying in bed later and he's like "I can hear it running, why didn't you hold it down like I told you". I'm like I fucking did. He's like "no clearly you didn't". Like he can't accept that it's still broken on it's own, no it had to be me "not listening".
It doesn't matter how long you hold it if the flapper chain gets tangled up. That's what was happening to mine. (This toilet was brand new and I *freaking hate it*)
ETA: Maybe he meant for you to wait until it's finished flushing, like has filled back up and turned off. I used to ask that - in fact I had a note taped on the wall behind the toilet for my roomies and DH!
I got home from DC on Sunday and my suitcase is still on the living room floor. I did, however, take out my clothes to wash. I blame my cat since he likes to lay on it and I feel bad taking away his new bed. Especially, since I had to board him while I was gone. I am not sure if he was forgiven me yet.
This all sounds familiar. In my house:
him: "Can you get me a shirt?"
me: "Why can't you get it yourself?"
him: "You've got too much shit in the way. I can't get to the closet."
me: "Please, tell me: what shit is blocking you from getting your own damn shirt?"
him: "My suitcase."
me: "And how long has it been there?"
him: "I dunno.... a month?"
And he kicks his suitcase aside to grab his shirt. Grrrrr
And then there's the dishes always piling up in the sink and the trash that starts overflowing. I don't mind doing it, I don't. But when I do it majority of the time, I want to snap.
Got a text from FI Monday night:
"I have $51 lol"
Not like we're trying to plan a wedding or anything. But the "lol" did make me chuckle...with rage.
FH: Wheres my comb? Where's my *description of one random shirt I haven't seen in months*? Where's my checkbook?
I have no words.