I think he really is going to propose for real! :D

Knottie1449232324

OK I have been with my bf almost 7 years almost. We are in our late twenties, saving for our house, we almost got a down payment! We have been living together 4 years anyways my bf was always non chalant about getting married and always would tease around Christmas about having me a ring but then laugh and say he doesn't. Anyways...a couple weeks ago he let out that he had been ring shopping, he has been asking what styles I like this and that. Yesterday we were arguing and he like "oh I'll kick you out"...so I said "really over that ...your lame if you want to break up then just do it it's obviously on your mind" ...my bf says "OK if I really wanted to kick you out, why would I be ring shopping?"...I'm like "yeah right I'll believe when I see this happening, I know your actually telling me your shopping for the ring but I'm not counting on it because all other years and not only that you got to propose because you want to, I hope not doing it just for me"(I always said marriage before kids).....my bf said "it's about that time and believe me I'm not joking this is for real and happening soon"

Omg you guys....I don't when it is happening but I'm beyond excited. I'm thinking might be Christmas but again trying not to get my hopes up...his dad said to me last week "I hope not getting me anything for christmas"...I replied "we will see I don't give to get "...bf dad said "well my best gift to you this year is my son...my bf gave him weird look but said nothing " < what does that sound like to you guys? Will it be Christmas you think?

Oh my bf said other day before argument bit he says "you should enter wedding contest" I'm like "why ? We are not engaged and who knows when that will happen " my bf said "next year"....I'm like "yep ok" but then his dad says the above stuff^ and my boyfriend don't shut up so I think might be soon or maybe it is in new year? What do you guys think?

Knottie1449232324

Also we are most likely going to city hall with close friends and family then dinner somewhere somehow. There be like 30-40 of us. You think pot luck dinner is tacky at someone's house obviously tables done fancy? Or you think the keg would give us a good deal? Or would it be okay to ask people to pay for their dinner? Cause I mean I have been to weddings where I was asked to pay 100 for my plate. What you think?

AlPacina

@wink0erin - Your wish came true!

labro

Knottie1449232324 said:

OK I have been with my bf almost 7 years almost. We are in our late twenties, saving for our house, we almost got a down payment! We have been living together 4 years anyways my bf was always non chalant about getting married and always would tease around Christmas about having me a ring but then laugh and say he doesn't. Anyways...a couple weeks ago he let out that he had been ring shopping, he has been asking what styles I like this and that. Yesterday we were arguing and he like "oh I'll kick you out"...so I said "really over that ...your lame if you want to break up then just do it it's obviously on your mind" ...my bf says "OK if I really wanted to kick you out, why would I be ring shopping?"...I'm like "yeah right I'll believe when I see this happening, I know your actually telling me your shopping for the ring but I'm not counting on it because all other years and not only that you got to propose because you want to, I hope not doing it just for me"(I always said marriage before kids).....my bf said "it's about that time and believe me I'm not joking this is for real and happening soon"

Omg, this was the longest run-on sentence I have ever seen. Pleassseee end the stream of consciousness earlier!

Omg you guys....I don't when it is happening but I'm beyond excited. I'm thinking might be Christmas but again trying not to get my hopes up...his dad said to me last week "I hope not getting me anything for christmas"...I replied "we will see I don't give to get "...bf dad said "well my best gift to you this year is my son...my bf gave him weird look but said nothing " < what does that sound like to you guys? Will it be Christmas you think?

Since I am totes in on the secret, yes!

WTF does "give to get" mean? Is this like....you won't put out for Christmas presents????

 Oh my bf said other day before argument bit he says "you should enter wedding contest" I'm like "why ? We are not engaged and who knows when that will happen " my bf said "next year"....I'm like "yep ok" but then his dad says the above stuff^ and my boyfriend don't shut up so I think might be soon or maybe it is in new year? What do you guys think?

Ok so sarcasm aside. Chill the eff out - and I mean that in a super nice way. If your BF asks you at Christmas time - awesome!!! But seriously try to chill between now and then, otherwise if he doesn't ask you at Christmas (what if he asks on a random day in January?) then you're just going to end up feeling resentful and disappointed. Focus on finishing up your Christmas shopping, putting those final touches on gifts, and making some damn delicious cookies ok?

re: wedding contests

1. I think they're a bunch of baloney. The stuff you're getting is probably sub-par quality and not worth the hassle.
2. Don't enter wedding contests unless you are ACTUALLY engaged. Also, it's probably advisable to have a date and a venue booked first.

labro

Knottie1449232324 said:

Also we are most likely going to city hall with close friends and family then dinner somewhere somehow. There be like 30-40 of us. You think pot luck dinner is tacky at someone's house obviously tables done fancy?
Yes. This is tacky.
Or you think the keg would give us a good deal?
The keg? Is this a restaurant? Sure, I'm sure they'll give you a really awesome deal. Lots of restaurants have special pricing for group events or pre-fix menus.
Or would it be okay to ask people to pay for their dinner?
Nonononononononnoooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!
Cause I mean I have been to weddings where I was asked to pay 100 for my plate. What you think?

Just because other people have forced you to pay for your own dinner at a wedding (seriously wtf, is this made up???) doesn't make it ok for you to do it. that was 100% completely and utterly rude of them! Your plan for a small wedding at city hall with dinner afterwards is AWESOME! However, you need to host the meal afterwards fully. Don't charge people for their food. Don't charge for drinks. For goodness sakes, DO NOT arrange a pot luck either.

AuroraRose41

Knottie1449232324 said:

Also we are most likely going to city hall with close friends and family then dinner somewhere somehow. There be like 30-40 of us. You think pot luck dinner is tacky at someone's house obviously tables done fancy? Or you think the keg would give us a good deal? Or would it be okay to ask people to pay for their dinner? Cause I mean I have been to weddings where I was asked to pay 100 for my plate. What you think?

@labro FTW! She covered everything. Just calm down and really try to focus on other things right now. ETA: I know it's easier said then done. Trust me. My FI talked about proposing for 1.5 years, and I had my moments of craziness too during that time. But there were times I remember being disappointed that he didn't, because I was sure he was going to, instead of just enjoying the moment with him.

And as for the comment I quoted, first of all, you shouldn't be planning anything right now. Secondly, all of the bolded is a bad idea. Just because you have had to pay for your plate at other weddings does not make it a good idea to force your guests to pay for theirs. 

minskat30

Knottie1449232324 said:

Also we are most likely going to city hall with close friends and family then dinner somewhere somehow. There be like 30-40 of us. You think pot luck dinner is tacky at someone's house obviously tables done fancy? Or you think the keg would give us a good deal? Or would it be okay to ask people to pay for their dinner? Cause I mean I have been to weddings where I was asked to pay 100 for my plate. What you think?

What do I think?  Pretty much my thoughts went from this...



To this...



To this...



To this...

minskat30

Also to @labro for having the patience to actually answer these questions...

AlPacina

minskat30 said:

Also to @labro for having the patience to actually answer these questions...

Yea, that was incredible. I immediately went to this:

Knottie1449232324

THANKS EVERYONE lol I have been planning my wedding for like 4 years on pinterest and stuff ...I'm sure you all thought about it and some have planned as well don't lie haha I don't think anything wrong with sorta planning for sure now especially now that I know proposal probably coming soon....obviously be better if had a date buy I like to get ahead and get an idea.

And just FYI I was not saying because someone made me pay at their wedding that I'm going to do that too because they did it..I was just saying isn't that the norm? I heard of other people going to weddings and having to give 100 a person. If not then I guess I know a lot of rude people then

AuroraRose41

Also, and please let me know if this violates TOS, but @Knottie#'s, if you are real, you thought he was going to propose last year, and obviously he did not. You received a lot of the same advice then as well. I have to wonder how you felt after thinking it was going to happen then and then it didn't happen after all. What if that situation happens again this year? 

Knottie1449232324

Thanks ladies I'm so excited
You guys are lying if you haven'the started planning before engaged..if your even engaged yet lol its a girl thing to do

thespeshulestsnowflake

Knottie1449232324 said:

Thanks ladies I'm so excited You guys are lying if you haven'the started planning before engaged..if your even engaged yet lol its a girl thing to do

No. I didn't do any planning prior to my engagement. Hell, I've been engaged for 3 months and still haven't done much planning.

And stop gender stereotyping, not all women (not girls) like to wedding plan.

kimmiinthemitten

Knottie1449232324 said:

Thanks ladies I'm so excited You guys are lying if you haven'the started planning before engaged..if your even engaged yet lol its a girl thing to do

We knew when-ish we wanted to be married, we actually pushed it back a year in order to buy a house first.  We also talked about the big things, name changes, kids, cultural issues, because we're adults and that's what you do before you plan to share your life with someone.  There were also small things like a Pinterest board, not caring about matchy matchy bridesmaids, wanting a small bridal party, but did I plan anything?  No.

Even knowing when we intended to get married, I was still 100% surprised by the proposal and am so glad I was.  Stop worrying about when it will happen and enjoy this time in your relationship.  This is a fun time, don't rush it.

Although TBH, the fact that he threatens to kick you out during arguments is a huge red flag to me!

untouchablets

Been with my bf 6 years, and I've done no preplanning and don't even know what kind of e-ring I'd like to have. so... No it's not really a girl thing to do. Its a BSC thing to do though!

minskat30

Knottie1449232324 said:

THANKS EVERYONE lol I have been planning my wedding for like 4 years on pinterest and stuff ...I'm sure you all thought about it and some have planned as well don't lie haha I don't think anything wrong with sorta planning for sure now especially now that I know proposal probably coming soon....obviously be better if had a date buy I like to get ahead and get an idea. And just FYI I was not saying because someone made me pay at their wedding that I'm going to do that too because they did it..I was just saying isn't that the norm? I heard of other people going to weddings and having to give 100 a person. If not then I guess I know a lot of rude people then

Great, I'm glad you've been planning your wedding while your BF threatens to kick you out of the house.  Sounds like you've got your priorities straight.



 Knottie1449232324 said:

Thanks ladies I'm so excited You guys are lying if you haven'the started planning before engaged..if your even engaged yet lol its a girl thing to do

Well, last I checked I had all the female parts...I did no pre-planning because, you know, I had and have interests other than getting married.  But by all means, knock yourself out.  After all...

climbingsingle

So, your boyfriend threatened to kick you out and instead of focusing on a big, scary red flag, you're excited that he might propose soon? Ok then.

speakeasy14

That was incredibly difficult to read. @labro covered everything.

I've never understood the rationale over obsessing when a proposal will happen. I just got back from an amazing vacation and the thought never crossed my mind. Instead I was able to enjoy my vacation, relax, and have fun with my boyfriend.

I also, would not want to marry someone who gets a kick out of taunting me or threatens to kick me out of my home. How about instead of focusing on when a proposal will happen, you focus on these red flags.

beanbot2002

Worst attempt at trolling, ever.

labro

wink0erin

@alpacina I was so excited, but I'm pretty sure this is fake. 


@labro You have the most patience ever. 



@Knottie1449232324 1) Learn to write sentences. Even if you are a complete troll and making all this up to try to get a rise, please for the love of god learn how to punctuate.
2) Your BF sounds like a dick. Threatening to kick you out and making comments about rings year after year is just sick and manipulative.
3) No, "all girls" don't pinterest plan their weddings before being engaged. Step away from pinterest if you can't avoid pinning wedding things. Stick to crafts, recipes, and fashion. No problem pinning an idea or two, but making a board for your wedding that's not happening is BSC.
4) I'm not even going to discuss "asking people to pay for their food at a wedding' because that is completely not true at all or you know complete asshats. 

5) He is getting you a pony for Christmas. Congrats. 

Knottie1449232324

Thanks everyone for thoughtful advice! Really appreciate it

Knottie1449232324

Trolling? Lol okkk then maybe you guys are since all you guys do is insult people or wait your all immature women or girls

Knottie1449232324

What are you talking about? I never posted anything last year lol @AuroraRose41 oh and stop commenting if you don't like my posts.

Maybe most you girls are just angry cause your "not engaged yet" or any sign of engagement which is pathetic to be mad about be happy and take things slow...my boyfriend and I been together almost 7 years.

lyndausvi

Knottie1449232324 said:

What are you talking about? I never posted anything last year lol @AuroraRose41 oh and stop commenting if you don't like my posts. Maybe most you girls are just angry cause your "not engaged yet" or any sign of engagement which is pathetic to be mad about be happy and take things slow...my boyfriend and I been together almost 7 years.

Well someone with your same account posted 2 threads in December of 2014.  Both of them about getting engaged at Christmas.   Easy to find.  Click on your user name.

If it wasn't you, then someone is stealing your knotty identity. 

speakeasy14

wink0erin

Knottie1449232324 said:

Trolling? Lol okkk then maybe you guys are since all you guys do is insult people or wait your all immature women or girls

*you're

drunkenwitch

At least put in a little effort, try to be coherent and believable.

minskat30

Knottie1449232324 said:

Thanks everyone for thoughtful advice! Really appreciate it

minskat30

Knottie1449232324 said:

What are you talking about? I never posted anything last year lol @AuroraRose41 oh and stop commenting if you don't like my posts. Maybe most you girls are just angry cause your "not engaged yet" or any sign of engagement which is pathetic to be mad about be happy and take things slow...my boyfriend and I been together almost 7 years.

Wrong on both counts but, by all means, keep playing.  



Here you go ***Removed for TOS Violation*** - You even got some of the same gif responses then.  Its amazing how the internet works and you can find someone's previous posts just by clicking their username isn't it?   

AuroraRose41

Reading comprehension fail. I never said I didn't like your posts @Knottie1449232324, and I am free to comment on whatever I please, because that's how the internet works. I merely brought up your post history because if you truly did think a proposal was going to happen last year, then I thought that a rational person would remember how sad/disappointed/etc. they felt when a proposal did not happen. Because I remember how I felt those few times I was disappointed too, and was trying to speak as someone who had been there. And I meant it in the same way I would speak to a friend over coffee. 

Oh, and I am very much engaged and happy, thank you very much. But I guess you also couldn't read my wedding countdown ticker at the bottom of each comment.