Not Engaged Yet

I think he really is going to propose for real! :D

OK I have been with my bf almost 7 years almost. We are in our late twenties, saving for our house, we almost got a down payment! We have been living together 4 years :) anyways my bf was always non chalant about getting married and always would tease around Christmas about having me a ring but then laugh and say he doesn't. Anyways...a couple weeks ago he let out that he had been ring shopping, he has been asking what styles I like this and that. Yesterday we were arguing and he like "oh I'll kick you out"...so I said "really over that ...your lame if you want to break up then just do it it's obviously on your mind" ...my bf says "OK if I really wanted to kick you out, why would I be ring shopping?"...I'm like "yeah right I'll believe when I see this happening, I know your actually telling me your shopping for the ring but I'm not counting on it because all other years and not only that you got to propose because you want to, I hope not doing it just for me"(I always said marriage before kids).....my bf said "it's about that time and believe me I'm not joking this is for real and happening soon"

Omg you guys....I don't when it is happening but I'm beyond excited. I'm thinking might be Christmas but again trying not to get my hopes up...his dad said to me last week "I hope not getting me anything for christmas"...I replied "we will see I don't give to get "...bf dad said "well my best gift to you this year is my son...my bf gave him weird look but said nothing " < what does that sound like to you guys? Will it be Christmas you think?

Oh my bf said other day before argument bit he says "you should enter wedding contest" I'm like "why ? We are not engaged and who knows when that will happen " my bf said "next year"....I'm like "yep ok" but then his dad says the above stuff^ and my boyfriend don't shut up so I think might be soon or maybe it is in new year? What do you guys think?


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Re: I think he really is going to propose for real! :D

  • Also we are most likely going to city hall with close friends and family then dinner somewhere somehow. There be like 30-40 of us. You think pot luck dinner is tacky at someone's house obviously tables done fancy? Or you think the keg would give us a good deal? Or would it be okay to ask people to pay for their dinner? Cause I mean I have been to weddings where I was asked to pay 100 for my plate. What you think?
  • AuroraRose41AuroraRose41 member
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    edited December 2015
    Also we are most likely going to city hall with close friends and family then dinner somewhere somehow. There be like 30-40 of us. You think pot luck dinner is tacky at someone's house obviously tables done fancy? Or you think the keg would give us a good deal? Or would it be okay to ask people to pay for their dinner? Cause I mean I have been to weddings where I was asked to pay 100 for my plate. What you think?
    @labro FTW! She covered everything. Just calm down and really try to focus on other things right now. ETA: I know it's easier said then done. Trust me. My FI talked about proposing for 1.5 years, and I had my moments of craziness too during that time. But there were times I remember being disappointed that he didn't, because I was sure he was going to, instead of just enjoying the moment with him.

    And as for the comment I quoted, first of all, you shouldn't be planning anything right now. Secondly, all of the bolded is a bad idea. Just because you have had to pay for your plate at other weddings does not make it a good idea to force your guests to pay for theirs. 

  • edited December 2015
    THANKS EVERYONE :) lol I have been planning my wedding for like 4 years on pinterest and stuff ...I'm sure you all thought about it and some have planned as well don't lie haha I don't think anything wrong with sorta planning for sure now especially now that I know proposal probably coming soon....obviously be better if had a date buy I like to get ahead and get an idea.

    And just FYI I was not saying because someone made me pay at their wedding that I'm going to do that too because they did it..I was just saying isn't that the norm? I heard of other people going to weddings and having to give 100 a person. If not then I guess I know a lot of rude people then
  • Also, and please let me know if this violates TOS, but @Knottie#'s, if you are real, you thought he was going to propose last year, and obviously he did not. You received a lot of the same advice then as well. I have to wonder how you felt after thinking it was going to happen then and then it didn't happen after all. What if that situation happens again this year? 

  • Thanks ladies :) I'm so excited
    You guys are lying if you haven'the started planning before engaged..if your even engaged yet lol its a girl thing to do
  • So, your boyfriend threatened to kick you out and instead of focusing on a big, scary red flag, you're excited that he might propose soon? Ok then.
  • Thanks everyone for thoughtful advice! Really appreciate it
  • Trolling? Lol okkk then maybe you guys are since all you guys do is insult people or wait your all immature women or girls :wink:
  • edited December 2015
    What are you talking about? I never posted anything last year lol @AuroraRose41 oh and stop commenting if you don't like my posts.

    Maybe most you girls are just angry cause your "not engaged yet" or any sign of engagement which is pathetic to be mad about be happy and take things slow...my boyfriend and I been together almost 7 years.
  • At least put in a little effort, try to be coherent and believable.

  • Reading comprehension fail. I never said I didn't like your posts @Knottie1449232324, and I am free to comment on whatever I please, because that's how the internet works. I merely brought up your post history because if you truly did think a proposal was going to happen last year, then I thought that a rational person would remember how sad/disappointed/etc. they felt when a proposal did not happen. Because I remember how I felt those few times I was disappointed too, and was trying to speak as someone who had been there. And I meant it in the same way I would speak to a friend over coffee. 

    Oh, and I am very much engaged and happy, thank you very much. But I guess you also couldn't read my wedding countdown ticker at the bottom of each comment. 

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