My situation is very unique, and I have been scouring the internet for suggestions. My mother is deceased, but my father has not remarried. My FI's parents were never married. His mother is married, and his step-father is heavily involved in his life, but so is his father, who is single. We really would rather avoid "together with their families" because everyone in our families is really giving their all for this wedding!
So, is it inappropriate to do Mr. & Mrs., then another line for Mr. and Mrs., and then a Mr. for his dad? It looks wordy on the invitation, but it's the best way to make sure everyone is recognized. Is this proper and okay? What does everyone think?
Re: Invitation Wording
Who is hosting your wedding? I cannot give you wording advice until I know this. Also, is it a church wedding? Catholic?
but seriously, "together with their families" is ideal for your situation.
The names on the invite aren't an honor. They just indicate who is hosting. Keep it simple.
My FI (*rolls eyes* men) thinks "together with our families" is tacky. I don't love it, but I think it's okay. I will happy show him all of your responses proving that it isn't tacky.
ETA : just curious, why do you say that a "formal" reception is to follow? Is it actually formal or is it just an "official" reception?
Ditto PP--hosting has nothing to do with who is paying.
Mr. John Bridesfather
at the Nuptial Mass uniting
in
The Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
Address
Now, please tell us that your reception will start soon after your ceremony. No time gaps!
So who is collecting the RSVPs to your wedding? Who know's the details of the event and is planned to respond to any pre-wedding questions in case a guest has questions about accessibility, or food allergies, or directions, etc?
These are the person/people who should be named as the host. As others have said, it has nothing to do with where the money came from.
That being said, if you do want to name everyone as above I don't think there's anything egregious about it.
Jane Doe
and
John Smith
request the pleasure of your presence
.......
Or would we still need to have the 'together with their families' thing at the top?
So I think (and @CMGragain, please correct me if I'm wrong!) But I think it would be
The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Jane Doe
and
John Smith
I agree with @redoryx that you would use
The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Lizardbit27
hand
Lizardbit 27's FI
if your families aren't hosting. Otherwise, I'd use the "together with their families" at the top.
::prepares for "I asked about X, not Y!!!" tantrum::
::hopes I'm wrong::
::refills coffee, just in case::