Annoyances

lyndausvi

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

CharmedPam

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

PrettyGirlLost

How in the hell are you 18 and not know your own damn address?! 

She would have had to input her address on her college applications, financial aid applications, etc.  Or did her parents fill all that shit out for her?

And how does she not know her address on campus?  FFS.

"Morning People" on the bus annoy me- the ones who have to squawk loudly at 8am while the rest of us are silently trying to take a nap, read, etc.  If you can't talk quietly then please just STFU.

kahluakoala

CharmedPam said:

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

lyndausvi said:

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

ShesSoCold

HAH I have a similar one, Lynda.

My BIL is a 21-year-old high school drop out who just quit his job at a grocery store because someone told him he might know someone who is hiring painters. 

His mom, H's stepmom, keeps calling H to ask H if his boss needs help.

1. H is an electrician. If they needed help, they would need actual electricians, not schmos who want to get paid but not actually do any real work. BIL has never expressed any interest in electrical work (or any work, really). 

2. BIL has a mouth, a tongue and vocal chords. He's more than capable of calling his brother.

3. H does not do the hiring. The boss lives right next door to BIL/stepMIL. They know the guy. Why is your mom calling H when BIL can just go to his house and talk to him?

Sorry, BIL. Your mommy isn't going to get you a job. You're going to have to get off your dead ass.

bleve0821

When DH plays devil's advocate and takes a stance I vehemently oppose... like last night, when I mentioned the story the Chicago Tribune ran about Corey Cogdell-Unrien.  "They were trying to make it a local piece."

THERE ARE SO MANY BETTER WAYS TO WRITE THAT ARTICLE, THEN, and anyway, if it's a "local" piece, then most of the city (or at least the Bears fans) should already know who Mitch Unrien is, so the name "Unrein" should have rung some bells.  Maybe, maybe not, but still.

Also:  SharePoint.

Also ETA (because TK ate yet another draft), that is ridiculous @lyndausvi, but my BIL couldn't even remember the address of the house he lived in for four years.  Not the street, the house number, or the zip code.

Jells2dot0

I'm annoyed that today is our anniversary and we're at work. I haven't seen H in a few days and wanted so badly to call in sick and just hang at home together.

lyndausvi

KahluaKoala said:

CharmedPam said:

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

lyndausvi said:

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

 I don't expect to her know off the top of her head.  It's not something that was urgent, so I didn't need the information right this minute.   

However, I do expect an 18 year college student to be able to figure out how to get the information without tell ME to ask her mom.   Since, at some point she needs to know and/or have the information no?    She could have said "umm, not sure.  Let me get back to you?"     Instead it was ask mom.    

lyndausvi

Jells2dot0 said:

I'm annoyed that today is our anniversary and we're at work. I haven't seen H in a few days and wanted so badly to call in sick and just hang at home together.

Happy anniversary.


DH told me today as he left for work he might get off early.      I'm trying not to get my hopes up because something always pops up.   But I'm really annoyed that we haven't had a dinner together in over a week.  I work Thurs-Saturday nights, so if it's not tonight it will be another week.

ILoveBeachMusic

lyndausvi said:

KahluaKoala said:

CharmedPam said:

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

lyndausvi said:

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

 I don't expect to her know off the top of her head.  It's not something that was urgent, so I didn't need the information right this minute.   

However, I do expect an 18 year college student to be able to figure out how to get the information without tell ME to ask her mom.   Since, at some point she needs to know and/or have the information no?    She could have said "umm, not sure.  Let me get back to you?"     Instead it was ask mom.    

Exactly! She needs to learn the new address and figure out what address mail is sent to. Our sons attended a university where UPS had one address to deliver and USPS had a different one. Yes the first week of school they didn't know it, but I pointed out where they could find it among there paper work. I really think we are creating a world of people who can't function without their hand being held.

short+sassy

 AtomicBlonde said:

When DH plays devil's advocate and takes a stance I vehemently oppose... like last night, when I mentioned the story the Chicago Tribune ran about Corey Cogdell-Unrien.  "They were trying to make it a local piece."

THERE ARE SO MANY BETTER WAYS TO WRITE THAT ARTICLE, THEN, and anyway, if it's a "local" piece, then most of the city (or at least the Bears fans) should already know who Mitch Unrien is, so the name "Unrein" should have rung some bells.  Maybe, maybe not, but still.

Also:  SharePoint.

Also ETA (because TK ate yet another draft), that is ridiculous @lyndausvi, but my BIL couldn't even remember the address of the house he lived in for four years.  Not the street, the house number, or the zip code.

My nemesis  

CharmedPam

KahluaKoala said:

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

Then I will apologize.  I have never lived in a dorm, and just assumed.  My bad. 

southernbelle0915

Ew, I'd feel the same as you and think you're being totally reasonable. I'd say "let me know your address if you want this visa gift card."

Who cares if she's only been there 5 minutes? Obviously someone is trying to send her something and it's probably not a letter...Figure it out, princess. If she can't be bothered to figure out her own address, you can't be bothered to send her a present. Sorrynotsorry.

Mine? I was completely out of good hair ties this morning so I'm wearing one of the old, stretched out ones. #theworst

SP29

While I agree that your niece may not know her mailing address YET (it is more complicated... slightly), I don't think, "I don't know, ask Mom" is a reasonable answer. Why should her mom know more than her? If mom can figure out the address, so can the person living there.

MissKittyDanger

General annoyance {also could be a fwp} In less than a month I need to find a dress and get my hair done for a wedding of my coworker. Because of the wedding, my H and I need to be sure all other finances are settled to figure out how much we are giving as a gift {they have 3 kids and doing honeymoon later. Not registered but we want to give cash gift}

Since we're moving at end of September - buying first house! - we have to set up UHaul and all the finances that come with buying a house before figuring out what we can give.

Just annoying because it's a lot of work -.-'

ei34

SP29 said:

While I agree that your niece may not know her mailing address YET (it is more complicated... slightly), I don't think, "I don't know, ask Mom" is a reasonable answer. Why should her mom know more than her? If mom can figure out the address, so can the person living there.

Yeah, or if the niece thinks her mom does know the mailing address, why can't she ask her mom herself, and then give OP the answer?

It may be generational, because a lot of teenagers these days expect the adults in their lives to swoop in and do as much as possible.

PrettyGirlLost

KahluaKoala said:

CharmedPam said:

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

lyndausvi said:

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

This is sarcasm, right?

I knew my college address within the 1st week of getting onto campus. . . it's not that damn hard to figure out.  Yes, when you live in dorms your mail is typically delivered to the post office on campus, usually located in the student union, which is one of the 1st damn things pointed out to you during orientation. 

Granted if you don't know your mailbox number and the address of the post office it might take some personal initiative and effort to go to the post office and ask for assistance, or ask your RA, your roommate, etc.

If she's so overwhelmed with info during orientation that she can't figure out her address, she's likely in for a rude awakening once classes start.

ShesSoCold

According to the google, children should be able to know their full name and address by about age 4-6.

Why this should not apply to an adult college student is beyond me.

madamerwin

eileenrob said:

SP29 said:

While I agree that your niece may not know her mailing address YET (it is more complicated... slightly), I don't think, "I don't know, ask Mom" is a reasonable answer. Why should her mom know more than her? If mom can figure out the address, so can the person living there.

Yeah, or if the niece thinks her mom does know the mailing address, why can't she ask her mom herself, and then give OP the answer?

It may be generational, because a lot of teenagers these days expect the adults in their lives to swoop in and do as much as possible.

Agree that niece should figure out what her own address is and get back to you herself. Telling you to ask her mom is lazy, IMO.

My annoyance: H was forced onto graveyard shift six months ago (long story short, new boss decided that shifts should be determined by seniority, even though everyone was hired for specific shifts). There was a day shift that opened up in the same department (slightly different role) in late February. H applied for it. The interview wasn't scheduled until April. His boss took WEEKS past that point to finish interviews, and despite H and a few other candidates being totally qualified, boss decided to re-open the position in early June "to have more options." That was two months ago; they have still not filled the position.

The department director knows what a good worker H is, and how much better he is at his job than a few of his colleagues. But director let the incompetent boss (who is actually on probation for not doing his job properly) make the decisions. H emailed again last week and was told that his boss recommended someone for the position, but that the director still needs to approve it.

No word this week.

It's been SIX MONTHS since the position opened, and they still have not filled it. H really doesn't want to leave his company, but at this point it's just getting ridiculous. 

emmaaa

PrettyGirlLost said:

KahluaKoala said:

CharmedPam said:

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

lyndausvi said:

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

This is sarcasm, right?

I knew my college address within the 1st week of getting onto campus. . . it's not that damn hard to figure out.  Yes, when you live in dorms your mail is typically delivered to the post office on campus, usually located in the student union, which is one of the 1st damn things pointed out to you during orientation. 

Granted if you don't know your mailbox number and the address of the post office it might take some personal initiative and effort to go to the post office and ask for assistance, or ask your RA, your roommate, etc.

If she's so overwhelmed with info during orientation that she can't figure out her address, she's likely in for a rude awakening once classes start.

My first day of living on campus, my aunt asked for my mailing address. I googled it. And then I confirmed with my RA.

MissKittyDanger

ShesSoCold said:

According to the google, children should be able to know their full name and address by about age 4-6.

Why this should not apply to an adult college student is beyond me.

This!

Plus, when one moves wouldn't you want to know where you live!? That's your new home.
46 days until I move and I already know pretty much everything about my address except for the last 3 letters of postal code {i just cannot seem to get it to click yet!}

AddieCake

I hard core judge a college student who doesn't know her address. IDGAF how short a time she's lived there. And if you don't know, find out. Say to yourself, "Hey, I should probably know this." Don't tell someone to ask your mommy.

I'm irrationally irritated that my period is late and I have cramps. Now that we've moved on to foster care and stopped TTC, don't dick with me like this, Mother Nature. Just get on with it already. 

PrettyGirlLost

emmaaa said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

KahluaKoala said:

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

This is sarcasm, right?

I knew my college address within the 1st week of getting onto campus. . . it's not that damn hard to figure out.  Yes, when you live in dorms your mail is typically delivered to the post office on campus, usually located in the student union, which is one of the 1st damn things pointed out to you during orientation. 

Granted if you don't know your mailbox number and the address of the post office it might take some personal initiative and effort to go to the post office and ask for assistance, or ask your RA, your roommate, etc.

If she's so overwhelmed with info during orientation that she can't figure out her address, she's likely in for a rude awakening once classes start.

My first day of living on campus, my aunt asked for my mailing address. I googled it. And then I confirmed with my RA.

Holy shit!  You must be a Mensa member, amirite?

AddieCake said:

I hard core judge a college student who doesn't know her address. IDGAF how short a time she's lived there. And if you don't know, find out. Say to yourself, "Hey, I should probably know this." Don't tell someone to ask your mommy.

I'm irrationally irritated that my period is late and I have cramps. Now that we've moved on to foster care and stopped TTC, don't dick with me like this, Mother Nature. Just get on with it already. 

Yeah, and there's nothing so mind boggling that occurs during freshman orientation that it takes up all of your mental faculties.  You take a tour of campus, you do team building crap and ice breakers with people in your dorm and in your freshman seminar if you have a class like that, you meet with your advisor, your hand is held while you register for classes, and you have a lot of free time to just piss around since classes haven't even begun yet.

lyndausvi

PrettyGirlLost said:

This is sarcasm, right?

I knew my college address within the 1st week of getting onto campus. . . it's not that damn hard to figure out.  Yes, when you live in dorms your mail is typically delivered to the post office on campus, usually located in the student union, which is one of the 1st damn things pointed out to you during orientation. 

Granted if you don't know your mailbox number and the address of the post office it might take some personal initiative and effort to go to the post office and ask for assistance, or ask your RA, your roommate, etc.

If she's so overwhelmed with info during orientation that she can't figure out her address, she's likely in for a rude awakening once classes start.

That is where my mind went.   Really?  Ask your mom?  How about you figuring it out yourself and then let me know?

She has been down there for a week now.  She had orientation back in June.  She is rushing right now, classed do not start until the 17th.

PrettyGirlLost

lyndausvi said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

This is sarcasm, right?

I knew my college address within the 1st week of getting onto campus. . . it's not that damn hard to figure out.  Yes, when you live in dorms your mail is typically delivered to the post office on campus, usually located in the student union, which is one of the 1st damn things pointed out to you during orientation. 

Granted if you don't know your mailbox number and the address of the post office it might take some personal initiative and effort to go to the post office and ask for assistance, or ask your RA, your roommate, etc.

If she's so overwhelmed with info during orientation that she can't figure out her address, she's likely in for a rude awakening once classes start.

That is where my mind went.   Really?  Ask your mom?  How about your figuring it out yourself and then let me know?

She has been down there for a week now.  She had orientation back in June.  She is rushing right now, classed do not start until the 17th.

How about I PM you my address and you just mail me that gift card? XD  I'll even send you a thank you card!

ei34

ShesSoCold said:

According to the google, children should be able to know their full name and address by about age 4-6.

My 2-year-old already knows her full name. Genius alert!! *end sarcasm* 

drglitter

I'd reply with "Ok, let me know when you figure it out. I have something to send you." I bet she figures it out real fast.

My annoyance:

FH doesn't like the Olympics and won't watch with me. Well, last night he had a headache and was laying on the couch mostly unconscious so I turned it on (quietly) anyway. Then he feels better and decides to watch. Great, right?

No, not great.

Him: How far are they swimming?
Me: 200 meters...like it says on the screen

Him: Did he just win a gold medal?
Me: No, it's a semifinal...like it says on the screen

Him: Where's that swimmer from?
Me: Sweden...like it says on the screen

Maybe I was just in a mood, but damn...shut up and let me watch the Olympics.

kimmiinthemitten

People who want to talk on the phone all the damn time.

I have a vendor that calls me after he sends me every quote "to discuss."  There's nothing to discuss, send me the damn quote.

Or like my brother who wants to talk whenever he needs something.  Just text me what you want, I don't have time for your bullshit.  And he calls back to back to back - which is the worst.  Grow the eff up or I'll block your shit.

drid

My coworker folds our hand towels in the opposite direction from the rest of us! She goes hamburger, hotdog, instead of hotdog, hamburger. I know it sounds ridiculous but instead of just opening it up to throw an ice pack in or something, I have to completely unfold it. It only costs me an extra half second but it drives me nuts. First thing I do when I come in for my shift (she works opposite of me) is refold all of the towels. 

Just explaining it makes me feel ridiculous, but it drives me bonkers. Side note, I'm proud of myself for not mentioning it to her (and sounding crazypants) and just fixing them instead!

ernursej

lyndausvi said:

KahluaKoala said:

CharmedPam said:

How do you not know that?  "dear niece, step outside.  What's the number on the building?  look down the street.  Do you see a street sign?  What does it say?"

Mine:  I have to write an article for school which involved submitting 2 recorded interviews.  10-15 minutes in length.  Topic "What has the smartphone replaced/will replace?".  I can't even find one person to interview 10 minutes with on that topic, let alone 2.  arrrrgh.

lyndausvi said:

So my niece just went off to college.   We wanted to send her a visa GC.  Because, well we have all been the broke college kid and I thought it would be a nice gift.

So I text my niece to ask for her address.

Her response:    Ask mom.  I have no idea.


In my head I'm thinking,  Umm... you are an 18 year old college student living 16 hours away from your mom.  This should not be a difficult question.        

I don't want to ask my sister for the address.  An 18 year should be able to provide me the answer instead of telling me to contact her mom. 

I almost want to send her a text back that if she wants a gift she will provide me the address.      

My sister and I text all the time.  So it's not a big deal to ask her.  IDK,   I just think she should know how to provide me the information without going through my sister/her mom.

Maybe I'm the one who is being unreasonable? I am feeling a little bitchy this morning.  IDK, it just really annoyed me she passed the buck.  


What is your annoyances rational or irrational?

You are being unreasonable. She JUST left. When I lived in the dorms the first year of college my address was VERY specific and not the address I lived in since it had to go to the mail room at the university and be labelled a certain way to get to me. The bold is not accurate for dorm living. Her mailing address is not her living address and she just settled in and is likely overwhelmed with information. She's been on her own for 5 minutes, you can't cut her a little slack just because she's 18?

 I don't expect to her know off the top of her head.  It's not something that was urgent, so I didn't need the information right this minute.   

However, I do expect an 18 year college student to be able to figure out how to get the information without tell ME to ask her mom.   Since, at some point she needs to know and/or have the information no?    She could have said "umm, not sure.  Let me get back to you?"     Instead it was ask mom.    

I would text her back and let her know that you would like to send her a gift and to please let you know when she has figured out her address. I don't think it is unreasonable to expect someone to figure something out. An address is not rocket science.

IrishPirate60

When my nieces went off to college, I told them they now had their own relationship with me. I wasn't going to ask their parents for information. If they wanted me to know, they'd post it on FB or email me. Both made a point of letting me know their mailing address, especially once they figured out I like to send random goodies. Also, Amazon gift cards can be sent by email--and the deals are often better there.