I know this isn't strictly etiquette, but would love honest opinions. I'm having real china for the wedding lunch, but thought it would be a good idea to have paper plates for the dessert table. We are having a dessert tables with a variety of cakes/pastries instead of a served dessert.
Would anyone find this tacky? We thought about putting the plates on the dessert table so people can take what they want.
Re: Paper plates for dessert - tacky?
But even for a very informal reception, I think I'd still want something stronger than paper plates. I'd go with heavy-duty plastic. You can get some that looks quite fancy.
Agreed. There are lots of pretty and inexpensive alternatives even with a very quick search.....
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Dessert is one place I really don't mind disposables for this very reason. Sometimes depending on how the meal is balanced people may not be able to immediately indulge in dessert that moment but would like to have it later on or take it home and many caterers become picky about the china being left for people to use later on. We had one caterer literally following people around if they were drinking water out of a water goblet because the caterer wanted to pack up and I find that tackier than if the dessert is on a disposable plate.
Also, even if your full meal was on disposables instead of china, you're just fine because it's not about fancy it's about function. The chairs don't need to be fancy, they need to function. Now when it comes to disposable silverware, spring for the heavier duty and not the super cheap ones...
Good point about the ability to use the dishware/container to take things home- but unless it's a bowl, box or plastic wrap is available, I'm likely not going to risk taking home an open of plate of food in the car.
For reusable plates, I would prefer paper over plastic, but I would go with the "higher end" ones.
I think the ones that you can get 100 for £2 are way too flimsy. I would definitely try to go for the plastic ones over the paper ones. I think the clear plastic ones look ok, like these from Tescos: https://www.tesco.com/direct/clear-dessert-plates-15cm-plastic-party-plates-32-pack/103-8000.prd?skuId=103-8000
Go with the sturdy plastic ones. Wooooo dessert!
However, plastic plates are also super wasteful, especially if you're thinking most people would use more than one. Could you look into compostable bamboo plates or something like that? Or maybe ask your caterer what the cost would be to include enough dessert plates for people to make multiple trips. If a lot of your desserts could be hand-held, you might find people will take one bigger trip & fill up their plate, and then maybe grab some holdable options later into the evening.
Also, it would personally irk me to know that I was creating more garbage, when I could have used china for dessert too.
It's a dry hire venue, so all plates, cups, cutlery etc have to be paid for by me and china dessert plates are more expensive than plastic. I would also have to pay more to get the catering staff to do this.
Yeah you're right about the cheap white paper plates. So I won't use them. The bamboo ones are more expensive than than the plastic ones, I think. I would also put a bunch of napkins down if people want to grab and go. But I will look into the compost friendly variety.
I respectfully disagree with that. Food is far more important to a wedding than the cutlery. It's not that I can't afford plates, I just don't want to pay extra and I want easier clean up. As long as they have something sturdy to eat off, I don't see a problem with plastic plates. I will use the hard ones as opposed to the flumsy ones. I'm using plastic cups for the bar as well. Don't want to pay for extra clean up for the glasses or do it myself. There are no bar facilities so I have to pay for a bar area to be put up. Anything I save can go onto more drinks at least.
Real glass on the table for the meal. Saves me hundreds. A wedding is only one day. Anything that saves me money is useful.
I would prefer a wedding with better food and cheaper cutlery than a basic dessert and better plates. No one leaves a wedding saying it was amazing because of the plates! Most people prioritise with weddings and any way to save money in less important areas, I will take.
http://www.smartyhadaparty.com/Fine-Disposable-Heavy-Plastic-Salad-Plates-c329.aspx
Pretty sure I said I wasn't going to use the flimsy paper ones already.
And most of those companies should also have plastic options as well. . which are recyclable, same as the paper versions, so there's no need to worry about potential "waste."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I made it clear I am considering hard plastic. You should probably actually read my posts before you criticise. Would make you look less silly.
Excellent idea! Will look into that. Didn't know that existed.
This isn't always true. Not every municipality (in the US) can take #5 or #6 plastics curbside, which is what most plastic plates are made of. Sometimes they have to be brought to the city or county recycling facility. Also, the couple would then also need a separate trash bin just for these plates and see if the catering staff would be willing to deal with them separately after the wedding. A lot of facilities won't take paper products with food on them, nor will they accept paper with that waxy coating that often makes it more sturdy and water resistant. A compostable option would still require a separate bin, but it's more obvious those products go somewhere besides the trash, unlike plastic or paper plates. If you haven't gotten estimates from your caterer for extra real plates (doesn't have to be actual china, sometimes they have cheaper options), it might be worth at least looking into it, right?
(Sorry for the derailment, I've been reading a lot about waste & sustainability lately)
Not necessarily.
If you don't think the venue staff can be bothered to throw paper/plastic plates into a recycling bin, why would you think they'd be bothered to throw compostable plates into a separate bin?
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I was thinking more of the guests. It's more obvious to most people that a bamboo plate should go somewhere else than a regular old plastic plate they see every day. It does also require more work from the catering staff, yeah. I still think it's worth ASKING about cheaper options for real plates, what can it honestly hurt?
I love you get so nasty with people after you get answers you don't like.