My fiancé proposed about four months ago and while I know for a fact I want to marry him I’m not oblivious to the fact that there are some issues that need to be addressed. For now, I’ll settle for venting:
We have two beautiful kids together and he has a 12 yo from a previous marriage and I’m finding that most of our disagreements stem from the latter. For one I am very much a neat person and have never lived in a home that was allowed to remain unorganized. My fiancé however did not raise her that way and I am constantly having to run behind her to remind her to clean up her messes which just makes me feel awkward. The other issue is I have zero privacy because she’s constantly busting into our room unannounced (usually with me standing there but naked). My fiancé has “talked” to her about it to no avail. On top of that she keeps taking and using all of my and the babies’ stuff without asking, most of which she’s either listed or ruined including several hundred dollars worth of makeup and a $800 dresser. Anyone who knows me know I HATE yes HATE when people touch my things. Again, my fiancé has claimed he’s talked to he me but I see no evidence of that. Last but certainly not least I abhor listening to the way she speaks to her elders. If I spoke to my parents or grandparents the way she does I wouldn’t been murdered. But again, my fiancé allows it and oddly enough doesn’t bat an eyelash. Most days I feel like I’m losing my mind and jump through hurdles to let my kids know those behaviors aren’t tolerated. End rant.