Wedding Woes

Postpone but Still Marry?

Hi all!

Our wedding is supposed to be June 13th, but I've heard from my venue they've already canceled all events in April and will be looking at canceling May events due to the Coronavirus. No one is sure how things will be in June yet, but we live in Missouri where our governor has done very little to stop the spread. We opened the first testing center in my city today, so no one knows how many cases we really have. 

Luckily, we were able to reserve the only date our venue still had open this year, Nov 7, as a back up. My question is, has anyone went ahead and filled out all the paperwork to be married before the ceremony? We've been engaged 2 and a half years now and really don't want to wait until Nov 7 to finally be married. We already paid for everything or I would have just canceled the ceremony all together. Would it be weird to be married in May/June/whenever we can go outside again, then have the ceremony and reception in November?

Re: Postpone but Still Marry?

  • It wouldn’t be weird at all and I am SURE everyone would understand. Totally your call on whether you share with guests or not. 
  • I'm also a June 13th bride!! We live in Michigan and things are pretty bad here right now. So far I don't think our venue is looking at June events yet, but I'm feeling really anxious about whether we're going to have to postpone our wedding or not. I think we have to wait until the end of April, maybe beginning of May, before any decision would be made.

    To ease my anxiety, we've come up with a plan B that I think I could be happy with. We're thinking that we'd go ahead and do a virtual ceremony (zoom session or something) on June 13th at 4:30pm like we had planned and then postpone the "reception" until a later date. I won't be wearing my wedding dress for the virtual ceremony because I want to save that for the big party, but I'd buy a simpler but still pretty dress for the virtual ceremony. 

    We don't want to wait to get married, and we still want our original date to be our anniversary. Whether we can officially be married that day or not, who knows at this point but to me that's just paperwork. If courthouses aren't open, we'd just go to the justice of the peace later but still celebrate our anniversary of June 13th.
  • It wouldn’t be weird at all and I am SURE everyone would understand. Totally your call on whether you share with guests or not. 
    Chiming in and adding agreement that THIS is bad advice.

    You can tell your guests that due to circumstances related to the pandemic that they're going to a party and not a wedding.  I'm even OK (and normally am not) with the concept of reenacting the entire thing considering the current circumstances. 

    There is no time ever that you get a reason to not be truthful.  
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    banana468 said:
    It wouldn’t be weird at all and I am SURE everyone would understand. Totally your call on whether you share with guests or not. 
    Chiming in and adding agreement that THIS is bad advice.

    You can tell your guests that due to circumstances related to the pandemic that they're going to a party and not a wedding.  I'm even OK (and normally am not) with the concept of reenacting the entire thing considering the current circumstances. 

    There is no time ever that you get a reason to not be truthful.  
    Totally agree.  I'd never been a fan of a re-enactment but I'm for it for all of the couples who have to postpone due to the pandemic, if that's what they'd like.  Absolutely don't lie to your guests though.

    Casadena
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