Wedding Woes
SpeechieE
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Postpone but Still Marry?
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Hi all!
Our wedding is supposed to be June 13th, but I've heard from my venue they've already canceled all events in April and will be looking at canceling May events due to the Coronavirus. No one is sure how things will be in June yet, but we live in Missouri where our governor has done very little to stop the spread. We opened the first testing center in my city today, so no one knows how many cases we really have.
Luckily, we were able to reserve the only date our venue still had open this year, Nov 7, as a back up. My question is, has anyone went ahead and filled out all the paperwork to be married before the ceremony? We've been engaged 2 and a half years now and really don't want to wait until Nov 7 to finally be married. We already paid for everything or I would have just canceled the ceremony all together. Would it be weird to be married in May/June/whenever we can go outside again, then have the ceremony and reception in November?
Our wedding is supposed to be June 13th, but I've heard from my venue they've already canceled all events in April and will be looking at canceling May events due to the Coronavirus. No one is sure how things will be in June yet, but we live in Missouri where our governor has done very little to stop the spread. We opened the first testing center in my city today, so no one knows how many cases we really have.
Luckily, we were able to reserve the only date our venue still had open this year, Nov 7, as a back up. My question is, has anyone went ahead and filled out all the paperwork to be married before the ceremony? We've been engaged 2 and a half years now and really don't want to wait until Nov 7 to finally be married. We already paid for everything or I would have just canceled the ceremony all together. Would it be weird to be married in May/June/whenever we can go outside again, then have the ceremony and reception in November?
Re: Postpone but Still Marry?
To ease my anxiety, we've come up with a plan B that I think I could be happy with. We're thinking that we'd go ahead and do a virtual ceremony (zoom session or something) on June 13th at 4:30pm like we had planned and then postpone the "reception" until a later date. I won't be wearing my wedding dress for the virtual ceremony because I want to save that for the big party, but I'd buy a simpler but still pretty dress for the virtual ceremony.
We don't want to wait to get married, and we still want our original date to be our anniversary. Whether we can officially be married that day or not, who knows at this point but to me that's just paperwork. If courthouses aren't open, we'd just go to the justice of the peace later but still celebrate our anniversary of June 13th.
You can tell your guests that due to circumstances related to the pandemic that they're going to a party and not a wedding. I'm even OK (and normally am not) with the concept of reenacting the entire thing considering the current circumstances.
There is no time ever that you get a reason to not be truthful.
We can agree to disagree on whether or not doing so is OK. You seem to think that arbitrary lies of omission are OK and I think they are not.
By doing this you then extend it to mean that you are under the premise it is OK to select how truthful you can be with others and consider it somehow morally acceptable. My take is that one of strong morals doesn't split hairs like this.
My BIL and FSIL are considering eloping and doing a ceremony later {their wedding currently set for early September} and I can assure you everyone would be offended if they had not said they were already married.
You can have a faux ceremony and still tell people you're married.
Most people would disagree, but not everyone has morals.
Ppl can reenact a wedding anytime they want, I dont' care about that. But why would you tell me it's your wedding if it is not? That's ridiculous.
Keeping it from people is asking for trouble. As I said in my initial response at the top, people will likely still want to celebrate people's marriages later this year even IF they decide to go ahead with sealing the deal at an earlier date.