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Re: Yes

  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:0165ea87-80f8-41f2-99e2-bfd2f3ea09fb">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : Then how is she able to not claim you until you are 26? Are you emancipated?
    Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]
    She hasn't been supporting me. She didn't pay any of my bills last year. I don't live in her house
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:b942b54c-d9da-42da-a317-a065ef29baa6">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : She hasn't been supporting me. She didn't pay any of my bills last year. I don't live in her house
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    Thats neither here nor there.  You're still legally a dependant of her.  If you are unable to support yourself 100% financially (Rent, food, gas, car, whatever..), then you're depending on someone, and on your FAFSA, they want to know who, or whom that is, be it your FI, or your mom, until you're 26.  That's why I had to put my parents even though, H and I support ourselves.   Because I'm only 23, they're correctly assuming that I am not 100% financially on my own.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:3519b93b-c67a-43e1-ae1a-056df8dd87c3">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : Thats neither here nor there.  You're still legally a dependant of her.  If you are unable to support yourself 100% financially (Rent, food, gas, car, whatever..), then you're depending on someone, and on your FAFSA, they want to know who, or whom that is, be it your FI, or your mom, until you're 26.  That's why I had to put my parents even though, H and I support ourselves.   Because I'm only 23, they're correctly assuming that I am not 100% financially on my own.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    I'll be putting FI on my Fafsa
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:9ed2f1e6-1e31-40f5-9baf-f0c52402de6a">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : I'll be putting FI on my Fafsa
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    Then why are you waiting on your moms information? I think you have to put your parents.
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:9ed2f1e6-1e31-40f5-9baf-f0c52402de6a">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : I'll be putting FI on my Fafsa
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
    Pretty sure you have to put your Mom because legally she is still responsible for you. Doesn't matter where you live. <div>
    </div><div>Also, for grad school, I did not need my parents info, even though I was 22. I think if you are applying for masters you don't need it.</div><div>
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    </div><div>Beachy-I think I noticed that before and forgot to tell you. Isn't that crazy! we might have passed each other, or know some similar people! </div>
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    If they're getting married, then it would be her FI for both taxes and I believe FAFSA

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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:60d602f9-b0ae-47b7-a7a2-6a030739738f">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]If they're getting married, then it would be her FI for both taxes and I believe FAFSA
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
    In my head I'm trying to avoid the "if you get married, this will all work out" conversation, because in the long run, it might not....but I agree. She wouldn't be a dependent once married...
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    But then why does she need her mom's info. Neither of this makes sense. The better way for her to state it is "when FI and I get married in Nov I will be completing the FAFSA". Not, mymom is out of town for 6 weeks and I need her.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    It's been a scary amount of years since I had to do a FAFSA, but I'm pretty sure they ask you for last year's tax information.  If you're planning on starting school in January, you wouldn't wait until then to apply for FAFSA.  So therefore when they ask for info from the prior year's tax return, they would be referring to 2010, where you weren't married at all.  
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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:b63981fe-0c81-4a87-b168-9a8039a1d1d4">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]But then why does she need her mom's info. Neither of this makes sense. The better way for her to state it is "when FI and I get married in Nov I will be completing the FAFSA". Not, mymom is out of town for 6 weeks and I need her.
    Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]
    GG. You're doing it wrong. This is not logical, it's just a lot of talk. Who knows which way is up in this conversation.
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  • edited December 2011
    Just to clear this up

    http://www.fafsa.com/understanding-fafsa/fafsa-dependency

    BAM.
    Ok that's all I have to contribute. lol
  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:b21a565b-8da2-4a15-ad29-a5c5d0a57035">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just to clear this up <a href="http://www.fafsa.com/understanding-fafsa/fafsa-dependency" rel='nofollow'>http://www.fafsa.com/understanding-fafsa/fafsa-dependency</a> BAM. Ok that's all I have to contribute. lol
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
    sadly I googled this today too, but was at work and didn't have time to link it.<div>
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  • edited December 2011
    She just makes my head hurt. 
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:b21a565b-8da2-4a15-ad29-a5c5d0a57035">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just to clear this up <a href="http://www.fafsa.com/understanding-fafsa/fafsa-dependency" rel='nofollow'>http://www.fafsa.com/understanding-fafsa/fafsa-dependency</a> BAM. Ok that's all I have to contribute. lol
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Well, that was outrageously logical. Where do you get off using so many facts and reasoning, huh?

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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:3f6e42cc-a901-4df9-89eb-a4acb025c96d">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]And I'm pretty sure the only reason you bring up wanting to join the military is to suck up to Stan.  <div>[/QUOTE]</div><div>
    </div><div>This is a bad idea, FTR. Nothing grinds my gears more than people who have a better shot than me of actually getting in (enlisting in this case obviously), who don't freaking mean it. 

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:49fde47b-e33e-4137-935d-91d32bdca478">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : You need grades for scholarships.  I have been going to a CC. I did horrible my first two terms.<strong> With me going back in Jan. Its like I get a second chance </strong>now that I know what I want to do 
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    Ehh... If you're starting at a new school and don't plan to give them any sort of transcripts (FYI.. you have to give them HS at the very least), then you're kind of starting over.   I considered just startion 100% over given how poorly I had done previously, but because I took classes in HS, and didn't do terrible in ALL the classes I took, I decided to just suck it up, and see what credits they would give me.  Now, for my degree program, they don't really care that I failed a photography class, or that I passed remedial math with a D, they see that I've gone from a poor student, to a really good student with A's & B's. 

    Honestly though, I just don't think you're ready for college.  Not everyone is right out of HS.  Clearly, I am a shining example of that.  I was pissed off that my parents wouldn't let me go to UofAlabama (I would have been 8-10 hours away from them, is a sorority, tailgating every weekend like it was my job) like I wanted to, they said I wasn't ready and that I should do a year or two at CC and prove to them that I could handle going to college out of state, and what did I do? I skipped classes, didn't do my homework, and ended up failing 4 classes in 2 semesters.  One of them I don't think I ever set foot in. I proved them right 100%.  What did I do? I joined the Navy, did my time and now I'm older, and more mature and doing well in school.  I honestly think that you're not ready.  You say you "know" what you want to do now, just like you knew you were going to enlist, and you were for sure not changing your 2013 wedding date.  You're completely incapable of making a decision and sticking to it for more than a week or two tops.  Save your money and just keep working for now.  Get married, or push it back or whatever, but I just think it'd be a waste of money for you right now.  Grow up some, and then go back to school.

    And FTR, your enlistment BS still really REALLY pisses me off.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:d1b1d51d-4d24-4da6-bd80-f94931e2290e">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yes : Ehh... If you're starting at a new school and don't plan to give them any sort of transcripts (FYI.. you have to give them HS at the very least), then you're kind of starting over.   I considered just startion 100% over given how poorly I had done previously, but because I took classes in HS, and didn't do terrible in ALL the classes I took, I decided to just suck it up, and see what credits they would give me.  Now, for my degree program, they don't really care that I failed a photography class, or that I passed remedial math with a D, they see that I've gone from a poor student, to a really good student with A's & B's.  Honestly though, I just don't think you're ready for college.  Not everyone is right out of HS.  Clearly, I am a shining example of that.  I was pissed off that my parents wouldn't let me go to UofAlabama (I would have been 8-10 hours away from them, is a sorority, tailgating every weekend like it was my job) like I wanted to, they said I wasn't ready and that I should do a year or two at CC and prove to them that I could handle going to college out of state, and what did I do? I skipped classes, didn't do my homework, and ended up failing 4 classes in 2 semesters.  One of them I don't think I ever set foot in. I proved them right 100%.  What did I do? I joined the Navy, did my time and now I'm older, and more mature and doing well in school.  I honestly think that you're not ready.  You say you "know" what you want to do now, just like you knew you were going to enlist, and you were for sure not changing your 2013 wedding date.  You're completely incapable of making a decision and sticking to it for more than a week or two tops.  Save your money and just keep working for now.  Get married, or push it back or whatever, but I just think it'd be a waste of money for you right now.  Grow up some, and then go back to school. And FTR, your enlistment BS still really REALLY pisses me off.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I've already met with the advisor and someone at the bank. I'm 100% going back to school in Jan. I will be giving them my transcripts so I don't have to take some of the silly classes over again. Taking the 3 terms off and figuring out what I wanted to do has gotten me places. I no longer want to be in the medical field.</div><div>
    </div><div>And  FYI: I wasn't thinking about this board or anyone but myself and FI when I broke down to FI and said I was enlisting. I have just come to terms with that dream got burried with my best friend.

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  • edited December 2011
    Did you start college immediatley after gradutaion?
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:89eb57c4-09b2-43d6-95b6-c0d77e1f2866">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]Did you start college immediatley after gradutaion?
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    Yes thinking that I was fully aware of what I wanted to do and some other things that have now changed
    Military Brides December 2011 Siggy. Holiday picture with your SO. We suck and don't have one :/ Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.
  • edited December 2011
    Wow, not many HS Graduates start college like a week after graduation.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:b49d5253-56ba-45eb-8763-66f712d2b229">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow, not many HS Graduates start college like a week after graduation.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    I started in the fall. I thought that is what you meant. I have always planned on going all 4 terms. Thats what I meant when I said I took 3 terms off
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  • edited December 2011
    Kendall, You think you know what you want to do, but you'll probably change your mind again.  Like I said before you seem to lack the ability to make a decision and stick to it for more than like a week.  Except your Siggy.. from July.. Can you please change that, It makes me never want to go there.  Plus its huge.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:7989f6fa-c683-47e5-9331-ad58172bfa35">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]Kendall, You think you know what you want to do, but you'll probably change your mind again.  Like I said before you seem to lack the ability to make a decision and stick to it for more than like a week.  Except your Siggy.. from July.. Can you please change that, It makes me never want to go there.  Plus its huge.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    Sorry I couldn't get it any smaller. Don't go there. Its ungodly spendy. Its pretty and the slide is cool but thats about it<div>
    </div><div>I'm set on what I want to do. I even set up an education plan with my advisor today :] </div>
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    What do you want to do?
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Funny story, I thought I knew I wanted to do. Got my undergrad degree and everything. Guess what? That's not what I am doing. I went and started my masters program after a semester break and now I am doing what I want to do.

    In other words, the people who know what they want to do at 19 are very very very rare. 
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Also, FTR I am not saying don't go back to school. I am saying stop acting like everything is set in stone and nothing changes. THAT is the attitude that irks people on here. You keep saying things like they are going to happen and there is no alternative, i.e. "when my FI commissions", "I know what I want to do in school now", etc. You say that you know what life is like, but you have yet to show it to anyone. I can tell you that everyone on here when they were 19 thought they knew how the world worked, I can also guess that they will all tell you they were completely wrong.

    Start recognizing that things change and things don't happen the way they want to and maybe people will start to actually respect you on here. Because here's the catch, yes, right now I am doing what I love, however, in 10 years that might not be the case and I might do something different. I will never assume that this is my career for "life" because I know that I change over time, so thus, what I want and love to do might change as well. 

    Basically stop acting like you are always right and that we know nothing because we haven't lived your life. Because, newsflash, you haven't lived any of ours so you have no clue what we know and what we can relate to. 
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011

    I went to college right after high school graduation. I was 18. I thought I wanted to be a teacher. I'm happy in my job. I am good at what I do. However, if I could do it all over again, I don't know if I'd do it again. I wish I could have had more life experiences before picking something as huge as a college major.

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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_yes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:10514b14-311b-4dff-a3a7-6e252f2e2dc2Post:6bd78098-401d-4df7-a2b1-4a6474f1f027">Re: Yes</a>:
    [QUOTE]I went to college right after high school graduation. I was 18. I thought I wanted to be a teacher. I'm happy in my job. I am good at what I do. However, if I could do it all over again, I don't know if I'd do it again. I wish I could have had more life experiences before picking something as huge as a college major.
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
    Exactly. I went for teaching as well and I'm sure I would be happy doing it, but I love counseling right now. But, that could change again in a few years. Heck, its already changing, which is why I want to get my ph.d.

    I say go to college and choose your degree, but at least recognize that your feelings might change, which is what Kendall refuses to do in any aspect of her life.

    Disclaimer: I am aware that there are many people who go to college, love their job and degree choice. I know it happens, but its just not common. Just like there are young marriages that survive, but its not common. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
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    edited December 2011
    Okay guys, I understand where a lot of you are coming from...but come on. This has gotten to the point of 5th grade bullying. I mean people make mistakes...they fail at college for many reasons. But it isn't my place to tell them that they should or shouldn't continue to pursue their passions..even if it is just the flavor of the week. You can't really declare a major in CC anyway. It is mostly just gen-eds. That is great about the first 2 years of college, you can be flexible, you can change your mind a million times. 
    The fact that kendell doesn't admit her plans might change is completely normal. Coming from someone that changed their major several times, you don't plan for it..it just happens. Some statistic said that some large number of college grads don't even get a job in their major...and it doesn't matter. 

    While I am on the side that she is a stupid little girl, picking on her just because has gotten retarded. I mean really...the siggy? 

    I don't understand how you can have 3000 in debt from the community college. WTF? Different prices in different towns but I know people that their whole associates degree from the local community college was about 2000.





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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    Ggirl- I totally agree with you!
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