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hale10

If anyone has any advice? I'm marrying a Marine here soon, and not to sure how to use this?  

firsttimersluck

New at what, exactly? 

Using theknot.com? 

Being a spouse to a Marine? 

Moving, military, deployments, wedding planning? 

hahah We cover a lot of topics here! :] 

Hi and Welcome! Congratulations on your engagement! 

Tell us about yourself and your Fi! How long have you been together, how's the planning going?

hale10

New at all of it really! Haha, I cant get my wedding ticker to post for one, not to positive how to post pictures on here, my fiance' and I are young parents, we have a 15 month old little boy who is very loved!   we have no clue how to plan a weeding! What colors to use where to have it, nothing, like I said we are very new to all of it haha and a bit lost on where to start? Any advice? & thank you  

Beachy730

New at all of it really! Haha, I cant get my wedding ticker to post for one, 

go to "update signature" in the blue bar over there <--- and then paste you code into the signature box

 not to positive how to post pictures on here,

If you want a sig picture you have to upload it to a site like photobucket, and then copy and paste the html code into the signature like above.  If you just want to put pictures in a post you can either copy and paste sometimes from the internet, or use the button below of a tree to upload the picture.  

 my fiance' and I are young parents, we have a 15 month old little boy who is very loved!   

we have no clue how to plan a weeding! 

I would start with some good gardening gloves and a knee rest.

What colors to use 

whatever colors you want.  Even if your FI wears his uniform your colors don't need to match it.  Pick the colors you both like.

where to have it

First figure out a guest list and budget, and then look for a venue that fits both of those

, nothing, like I said we are very new to all of it haha and a bit lost on where to start? Any advice? 

Remember that the most important part of the day is that you're getting married.  The rest of it is just planning a big party.  Don't get caught up in all the little details that nobody will notice but you.  

& thank you  

Zimsgirl

Hi and Welcome! 

Here is a sticky from the chit chat board that answers a lot of your TK questions (siggy, ticker, etc.) Click Here

Posting a picture for just one post is easy. Just click the little tree icon at the bottom of your post and voila pick your picture

As far as your wedding I agree with beach. Set a budget then start on your guest list. You can pick any colors you want. Pinterst is great for ideas. If you want an invite pm me your email addres. Careful it's addicting haha.

Something I've learned from the ladies on this board is to get a military clause in your contracts with vendors. If you need to change your date for something military related your deposit will be refunded, transferred to new date, etc.

Hope that help and hope you stick around

ggirl2001

First of all welcome and congrats! When is your wedding? Where are you from and/or currently living? 

First thing you want to do is set a budget, then get guest lists from parents and see what you can do within your budget. Get a military clause in all contracts, just in case, something happens and you need to move the date.

Don't worry about colors. Pick colors you both like, they don't need to match his dress blues if he decides to wear them. 

kara811

These ladies have answered the questions already so I just wanted to say, Hi and Welcome!

amh04

Diito the PP's. Just wanted to say Hi and Welcome!

Danidawn20

Welcome!
I agere with the military clause in contracts. I almost had to change my date bc Fi would not have been back in time, but then I got sick and well, he's back.

SamiJoeB

Just wanted to say Hi! and Welcome!!  I'm a Marine Wife!

Where is your FI stationed? How long has he been in? Has he deployed yet? How young is young? How did y'all meet?

firemedicrr

Hi These lovely ladies have answered your questions, but it's nice to "meet" ya. 

crownsuperstar

Hey and welcome!!!! Would love to hear about your wedding plans so far!

divinemsbee

Welcome,welcome!

hale10

Thank you everyone:) We are getting married on "what would have been" my Aunts birthday, may 21st, she passed away from breast cancer 2 years ago, but she was like my mother, getting married on her birthday means a lot to me, because we are three days apart in birthdays and we celebrated everyone together haha, only problem is, its a Monday, but we actually met in Walmart parking lot odly, I was 16 when I met him, like I said very young, my best friend and I where going shopping and they were best friends, he hopped in the back seat of the car and the moment he looked at me I new something was different about him, he was very shy, and sweet, he joined the Marines about 8 months after we met, I've never met someone with the drive that he has for his job, he absolutly loves it, I am originally from Florida, still living here near the beaches, hes in school about an hour away from me so I get to bring him home on the weekends. He was suppose to get this Christmas off to come home, but the day he was suppose to leave they wouldnt let him,   so i'm not sure how these Holidays work, especially with a child, but we are blessed hes stationed close to us,

I have a lot of family wanting to go to our wedding, we are trying to pick somewhere close so my great grandmother, and my grandmother will travel with us, I grew up with a lot of Military family, mostly Navy, Air Force, and Army, so its nice to talk to my family about their stories, everyone in my family married young in the Military, so i'm excited to see how it turns out, He will be 19 and I will be 18 when we get married, so yes, we are "babies" most people call it haha but we are very serious, does anyone have a price range on about what to spend on the weeding? I want to get a hint before I go budgeting haha thanks again everyone,

ggirl2001

Your price range is what you can afford. You can do a very simple affair or more pricey wedding. Decide what you can reasonably spend and plan from that. Ladies here have a ton of tricks for keeping costs down.

hale10

I ment to say 15*

hale10

Yeah we are trying our best to keep cost down, living on the beaches, our weddings here get a bit pricey but I found some vendors near by that are really pretty that we both like.

AmandaSC1988

Welcome and good luck on your planning!

As far as your price range question. it varies greatly on the couple. You can have a relatively inexpensive ceremony at the JOP or you can have an elaborate black tie affair So, it can be as little as $50 to as expensive as $500,000 (why on earth anyone would want to spend that on one day is beyond me, but to each their own)

We are spending around $10,000 (not including HM) and having about 120 people, but with my craftiness and FIs connections we are actually going to be able to get everything we want for much less. 

ETA - An idea for cheaper vendors, try posting an ad on craigslist.... you are going to get a TON of unqualified people, but you will find people that are part-time  or just starting out.  We found a couple of our vendors that way and they are great and we ended getting a great deals. Instead of you hunting for vendors...they fight for you.

hale10

I never thought of that, one of my cousins had a 30,000 dollar wedding that I thought was outragouse! They ended up getting divorced a month later! 10,000 sounds about nice, does the Military help you pay for your wedding? Or is it all out of your pay?

LetsHikeToday

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-this-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:7e4f324d-fb38-4047-bc19-c1e97f8de768Post:0a19cc43-fb78-49d7-a8c5-3b5460744dc1">Re: New at this</a>:
[QUOTE]I never thought of that, one of my cousins had a 30,000 dollar wedding that I thought was outragouse! They ended up getting divorced a month later! 10,000 sounds about nice, does the Military help you pay for your wedding? Or is it all out of your pay?
Posted by hale10[/QUOTE]

I am going to go out on a limb and say the military does not help pay for your wedding.

crownsuperstar

I will go out on the same limb with Hike and say a big NO!  The military does not help pay for a wedding. 

AmandaSC1988

I second Hike.
 
The only thing the military is doing for us is granting his leave request.  FIs lead promised me he would make sure FI was at the wedding, even saying they would fly him in on one of the helicopters if needed. (I'm sure he was half joking on that)...but there is no absolute guarantee he will get off, which can be scary...but number one rule about being a military spouse...be flexible

ggirl2001

Is it mean that I want to laugh right now? Because I totally am.

melbelle24

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-this-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:7e4f324d-fb38-4047-bc19-c1e97f8de768Post:6f3c717f-c68a-4c3b-9481-662dae558132">Re: New at this</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it mean that I want to laugh right now? Because I totally am.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]
Where's the "Like" button for this?

crownsuperstar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-this-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:7e4f324d-fb38-4047-bc19-c1e97f8de768Post:6f3c717f-c68a-4c3b-9481-662dae558132">Re: New at this</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it mean that I want to laugh right now? Because I totally am.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

I heart you! Again you are inside my mind.

crownsuperstar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-this-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:7e4f324d-fb38-4047-bc19-c1e97f8de768Post:f3952797-1fdc-4ecf-a103-d76b64f01573">Re: New at this</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New at this : Where's the "Like" button for this?
Posted by melbelle24[/QUOTE]

Mel- Like!  I want a Love button!

calindi

First, holy lack of punctuation!  Use some periods, even exclamation points, maybe a question mark.  But break up that GIGANTIC run-on sentence!  I can't believe you could have possibly passed 5th grade without learning how to punctuate a paragraph.

Second, the military won't pay for your wedding.  The military is a job for your guy, which means it pays him a salary and health benefits, and because the job requires relocation and deployments and such, it also offers housing allowance and relocation assistance.  Other than that, they won't pay for you to get your nails done, or to buy a dress, or anything. 

Third, it's a "wedding" not a "weeding".

Fourth, you're going to need to figure out what to do with your own future, because as a military spouse it isn't all sunshine and roses with everything paid for, as you're finding out.  What will you do when he goes on extended training sessions?  What will you do if he gets deployed?  Worse, what will you do to support yourself and any children you may have in the future if he is injured or killed in action?  You need to figure out your own future, and hopefully he'll be supportive in helping you reach it, whether that means you staying in one place to go to college for a few years or doing it long distance or some other sort of preparation for a career.  Make sure you've figure it all out and are prepared.

LetsHikeToday

Cal- In fifth grade. They use. Periods every few. Words. Trust me. I teach 3 classes of writing. :-)

calindi

Hike, I was an advanced 3rd grader with a superior grasp of punctuation.  I assumed most everyone else caught up around 5th grade?  Perhaps I'm giving the general population too much credit.  So when do they start ignoring punctuation all together?

kara811

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-this-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:7e4f324d-fb38-4047-bc19-c1e97f8de768Post:6f3c717f-c68a-4c3b-9481-662dae558132">Re: New at this</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it mean that I want to laugh right now? Because I totally am.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

<div>"Like."  I have a weird feeling that OP might be a troll. If she's been around the military, why doesn't she know that the military would never pay for someone's wedding?! </div>

divinemsbee

C- 13. The year they can get a Facebook account.