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What did you do to make your BF propose?
Ladies,
How did you encourage your BF to propose to you? If you've already hinted that you're ready, but nothing seems to be happening, is there anything else that you can do or have done to make it happen?
Thanks
How did you encourage your BF to propose to you? If you've already hinted that you're ready, but nothing seems to be happening, is there anything else that you can do or have done to make it happen?
Thanks
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Re: What did you do to make your BF propose?
That was sarcasm. Please god don't get pregnant to try to get him to marry you.
And, plus, do you really only want him proposing because you made him? Or do you want him to propose because he wants to?
Honestly, I recommend you talk to him. Don't drop hints. As adults (I am assuming you are both adults), you should be able to talk to each other openly especially about something as important as getting engaged. Hopefully, he is receptive.
Another unsolicited advise, please DO NOT give him an ultimatum. No one responds well to them and you'll always be left wondering if he proposed cause he wanted to or because he had an ultimatum.
Goodluck!
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HAHA Audgie! That's awesome! My bf jokes that I have to earn 100 points before he proposes (a lot of points are given for anal he said).
In answer to your post though, you cant do anything but sit tight and wait. Im not doing anything to make my bf propose. I'm actually so over the whole engagement talk and pre-wedding talk when he brings it up...i tell him to stop talking about it until we are engaged.
What do you mean by "hinting" did you send pics of rings to his email? Did you buy wedding magazines?
I poked holes in all the rubbers... Then, I bought my engagement ring and told him that if he didn't propose, he'd never see his baby!
[QUOTE]Ladies, How did you encourage your BF to propose to you? If you've already hinted that you're ready, but nothing seems to be happening, is there anything else that you can do or have done to make it happen? Thanks :)
Posted by juliatroyan[/QUOTE]
:shakes head: Please let this be fake. I can guarantee not one of these women made their FI's propose. So please don't.
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Also the thing is the baby is going to be a huge adjustment to me, him and my kids from my late husband so he was worried about asking them to make another adjustment of us getting married. The fact the kids keep asking if I am going to marry him and make them call him dad tells me he was right in being worried about that. However I think the financial aspect alone is enough reason to not deal with a new baby and a wedding esp if you want a formal wedding like my grandmother and father want me to have.
Still not convinced to marry me, so I told him that if we got engaged, he could have an XBox 360. That worked. Only took me 5 years to get him to pop the question! I call it a success.
Then let him do it in his own way, in his own timing.
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[QUOTE]HAHA Audgie! That's awesome!<strong> My bf jokes that I have to earn 100 points before he proposes (a lot of points are given for anal he said). </strong>In answer to your post though, you cant do anything but sit tight and wait. Im not doing anything to make my bf propose. I'm actually so over the whole engagement talk and pre-wedding talk when he brings it up...i tell him to stop talking about it until we are engaged. What do you mean by "hinting" did you send pics of rings to his email? Did you buy wedding magazines?
Posted by jilly2121[/QUOTE]
My bf said I started out with a piece of gravel and had to work up to a diamond. So it was gravel, quartz, wood, coal.... then it started at .0000001 carat. He had to stop, because I was earn a HUGE rock haha!
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Posted by sunbird627[/QUOTE]
We're still working on our box of Costco condoms. We bought them 4 months ago. Good thing those thingies last awhile.
[QUOTE]Tafft1-- There are issues and it is not him. It is monetary. My grandmother had a fit about my 1st wedding. That I basically all but eloped. 18 years later and she still complains. Boyfriend has known me since back then and knows this. He knows we can't afford the wedding she wants and the cost of a baby. He thinks a long engagement is too stressful. I am hoping to sit down and talk to him tonight actually. Also the thing is the baby is going to be a huge adjustment to me, him and my kids from my late husband so he was worried about asking them to make another adjustment of us getting married. The fact the kids keep asking if I am going to marry him and make them call him dad tells me he was right in being worried about that. However I think the financial aspect alone is enough reason to not deal with a new baby and a wedding esp if you want a formal wedding like my grandmother and father want me to have.
Posted by jdrose5[/QUOTE]
Babe, you are at least in your 40's now, correct? If I was so lucky to have either of my grandmothers alive right now and they told me to have a big expensive wedding because they didn't like my choices almost two decades ago at my first wedding I would tell them thank you very much for your opinion and then do what I as a grown woman wanted.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_did-bf-propose?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2509b531-22f6-4eb3-85b7-89f83df7242cPost:a0155844-e401-49ae-a730-36af97b3b4cd">Re: What did you do to make your BF propose?</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, I recommend you talk to him. Don't drop hints. As adults (I am assuming you are both adults), you should be able to talk to each other openly especially about something as important as getting engaged. Hopefully, he is receptive. Another unsolicited advise, please DO NOT give him an ultimatum. No one responds well to them and you'll always be left wondering if he proposed cause he wanted to or because he had an ultimatum. Goodluck!
Posted by wheatney22[/QUOTE]
If you want your man to propose, talk to him. It means you're ready to get married, and you're wondering when he's ready. Tell him that. Ask him if he's thought about marriage for the two of you (if you haven't talked about it before) and approximately what timeline he has in mind - is there an amount of time (i.e. "after we've been dating 3 years), is there a specific time (i.e. "next summer"), is there a personal or professional or financial goal he wants to reach first (i.e. "after my promotion" or "after I have $X saved"). Figure out what he's thinking by talking to him as two adults. Don't pressure him, and make sure he knows you're not pressuring him. Just have a conversation so you both are on the same page.
I made this analogy before - for most people, pushing the guy to propose is like having your high school boyfriend push you for sex. If you're not ready on your own, you're simply not ready. And it's rude and annoying to be pushed. Someone who loves you won't push you - they'll talk about what they want and ask you if you're ready, but they won't give you ultimatums or pressure you. So don't push him!
[QUOTE]Blow him. A lot. Swallowing does the trick.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]
THIS!
[QUOTE]I poked holes in all the rubbers... Then, I bought my engagement ring and told him that if he didn't propose, he'd never see his baby!
Posted by LyzMcFlyz[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>I also hear blackmail works well.</div>
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