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Pregnant Bride?

Hey there. I am about 5 1/2 months pregnant and my boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married before the baby comes. We haven't officially decided but I'm a little scared of how I will look in a wedding dress if I'm preggo. Where will I find one? And how will I be able to get one I'll still fit into a few months down the road. It will be a quick wedding but I still want the dress and flowers and stuff. (OH and cake because me and the baby love cake) I don't want to wait 'till after the baby because I'm not entirely sure that it's my FH's baby and I don't want it to be born darker (if you know what I mean) and then he'll leave me.

Thanks for your answers :)
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Re: Pregnant Bride?

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:b1fc24eb-badc-4996-aee8-96ccc1be9a83">Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hey there. I am about 5 1/2 months pregnant and my boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married before the baby comes. We haven't officially decided but I'm a little scared of how I will look in a wedding dress if I'm preggo. Where will I find one? And how will I be able to get one I'll still fit into a few months down the road. It will be a quick wedding but I still want the dress and flowers and stuff. (OH and cake because me and the baby love cake) I don't want to wait 'till after the baby because I'm not entirely sure that it's my FH's baby and I don't want it to be born darker (if you know what I mean) and then he'll leave me. Thanks for your answers :)
    Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

    uh, what?
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:b1fc24eb-badc-4996-aee8-96ccc1be9a83">Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hey there. I am about 5 1/2 months pregnant and my boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married before the baby comes. We haven't officially decided but I'm a little scared of how I will look in a wedding dress if I'm preggo. Where will I find one? And how will I be able to get one I'll still fit into a few months down the road. It will be a quick wedding but I still want the dress and flowers and stuff. (OH and cake because me and the baby love cake)<strong> I don't want to wait 'till after the baby because I'm not entirely sure that it's my FH's baby</strong> and I don't want it to be born darker (if you know what I mean) and then he'll leave me. Thanks for your answers :)
    Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

    ......?
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  • tabimcbridetabimcbride member
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    edited December 2011
    Just wondering where I can get maternity dresses? Did anyone else go thru this, too?
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:8f991c7c-6d6a-4359-aa5d-e437b5d314c3">Re: Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just wondering where I can get maternity dresses? Did anyone else go thru this, too?
    Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

    No - but I also never cheated on my husband
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  • edited December 2011
    Jenna - I certainly hope so! I shudder to think that people actually think that a quickie marriage will make someone not leave them. Also you're sig pic is beautiful!
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  • tabimcbridetabimcbride member
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    edited December 2011
    Well he's not my husband yet and we broke up for alittle while and I'm pretty sure it's his but I just want to know about the dresses.
  • tabimcbridetabimcbride member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh and what's MUD?
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:e4d606a4-64b2-4e31-a277-247961c51ba4">Re: Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well he's not my husband yet and we broke up for alittle while and I'm pretty sure it's his but I just want to know about the dresses.
    Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

    And you can't tell him the baby might not be his because...?

    Can't help you on dresses as I've never been pregnant nor knew anyone who was getting married while pregnant
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  • edited December 2011
    MUD = Made Up Drama

    SapphireBaby - Thank you!! I'm just a little bit obsessed with our photographers, they are amazing!! And I know what you mean about the quickie marriage... doesn't exactly set the foundation for a lasting & loving marriage!

    And Tabim - I just went to a wedding where my friend was 6 months pregnant and she looked beautiful, I'm not sure where she got her dress though.
  • edited December 2011
    I'm glad you've got a great photographer lined up. Ours looked really awesome at first but come wedding day he sucked so I don't have a whole lot of pictures that I just love so I'm considering doing a TTD session but I don't really want to 'trash' my dress - just some nice pictures that I wanted but wasn't able to get
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  • tabimcbridetabimcbride member
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    edited December 2011
    well he knows it's a possiblity but neither of us knows for sure of course. I mean he wants to marry me either way but I'm scared he's just saying that but then leave me after the baby if we're not already married.


  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]well he knows it's a possiblity but neither of us knows for sure of course. I mean he wants to marry me either way but I'm scared he's just saying that but then leave me after the baby if we're not already married.
    Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

    sounds like a winner <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

    Being married isn't going to stop him from leaving you ya know?
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:2e9fa5d7-2572-4783-ab31-3b9f8c10c3cd">Re: Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]well he knows it's a possiblity but neither of us knows for sure of course. I mean he wants to marry me either way but I'm scared he's just saying that but then leave me after the baby if we're not already married.
    Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]
    how romantic! way to lay the groundwork for a strong relationship based on love and trust.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:d1b819cc-c1fb-4ce2-a582-4daa28fd7639">Re: Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : sounds like a winner Being married isn't going to stop him from leaving you ya know?
    Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]

    THIS

    maybe you should consider exactly why you are getting married
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  • MidniteRaeMidniteRae member
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    edited December 2011
    How old are you? How old is your BF? How long have you too been together? Did you two break up because you cheated on him? Why does it matter if the baby is darker? If you already have a crappy relationship, marriage isn't going to make it better.
    "You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you." -Ray Bradbury 
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    i haven't used this a while...




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  • edited December 2011
    Oh, and OP?

    Don't listen to them.  Everyone knows that a marriage is like a good antibiotic ointment.  It doesn't matter what has gotten into the wound before, because the neosporin will heal it all right up!

    You should definitely go ahead and get married. You wouldn't want him to leave you just because the baby isn't his!  I mean, really, what right would he have to do that?  Better lock him in now, before the baby is born.  For better or worse, right? 


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  • BlueBoxBrideBlueBoxBride member
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    edited December 2011
    My SO's cousin wore a beautiful Marchesa (there I am namedropping again, but I work in fashion so this a nasty, nasty habit) gown that was an empire waist with beading around the shoulders and neckline to draw attention closer to the face. I believe Kate Gosselin wore it for her televised "vow renewal" as well. While the Marchesa version is as expensive as sin, designers like ABS probably have a knock-off available through the big department stores. 

    I would type into store search bars "white gown empire." I believe BCBG had some suitable styles as well. 

    I would definitely come clean about the paternity-thing though. I'm a firm believer in that it's always easier to live honestly. Even if the baby looks like him, he can still find out about the other guy at any time. So it's just best to 'fess up and try to work things out before getting married. 
    "I liked it, so I put a ring on it" - future Mr. Box
  • edited December 2011
    Sapphirebaby - Do it!! I LOVE the TTD pictures! You can probably get some great shots with a different photographer in your area. I would have done a TTD shoot but it was either that or an engagement session so I had to choose!
  • edited December 2011
    I'm looking at different photographers right now but there aren't a whole lot in my itty-bitty town but I'm sure I can find somebody that will do them
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  • tafft1tafft1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Marriage will not fix the issues at hand - which obviously include infidelity and immaturity. Right now the most important person should be the child. Put yourself on hold and what you want and think what is the best choice you can make for your child. It seems your biggest worry is looking pregnant or finding a dress ? What about the possible father of the child ? Is he going to a part of his/her life ? What if he isn't the father ? Even if he is marrying is no guarantee everyhting will be okay. There is no rule that you cannot get married after you have a child and actually build a relationship. It's not like getting married is going to change anything of the current situation..if anything will make it worse. i hope this is MUD..because situations like this just make me want to stab people.
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  • edited December 2011
    tafft - there you go being all reasonable-like and actually offering advice! Can't we just talk about my possible TTD pictures instead?
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  • tafft1tafft1 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pregnant-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:26c956b9-610b-4e73-8bf8-04376fa909a5Post:27e22783-4e5b-4874-ba23-2e2b03240459">Re: Pregnant Bride?</a>:
    [QUOTE]tafft - there you go being all reasonable-like and actually offering advice! Can't we just talk about my possible TTD pictures instead?
    Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]


    Actually yes we can haha , that makes me sad that your photographer didn't do the justice you deserved and most likely paid for , that's really sad and a shame. Our photographer is actually a high school friend of FI and MOH , i would ask around friends and family if possible , never know where you might find a gem. i like talking about you way more than MUD girl. ;)
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  • edited December 2011
    It makes me sad too - my photog wouldn't come into our dressing area until I was IN my dress so I never got that cool hanging dress picture along with a number of the fun pictures we could have had before then since we were all kind of goofing off ya know? Frown

    I need to start gathering some inspiration photos so I have an idea of what I want to do
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  • tafft1tafft1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'll try to rummage through my photogrpaher's as well as my friends who recently got married , alot of them are fun and may help. I'll do what I can ;)
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  • edited December 2011
    Awesome - thanks!
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  • tafft1tafft1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Do you have any idea what you are looking for before I start posting random stuff that isn't what you want ? Anything you don't want ?
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  • edited December 2011
    You know I'm not really sure - the only things that come to mind is no beach things since it's a bit of a drive to get to one that's halfway decent. Maybe some stuff in a park or wooded area? OH and anything that has anything to do with firefighting (posing with a truck or some bunker gear or whatever) since DH is a fireman - that would be neat I think. I'm pretty open : )
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  • edited December 2011
    A wedding is not a band-aid. If your baby "comes out darker" your bf can still leave you. There is this thing called divorce. Does your bf know that the baby might not be his? You said he wants to be married to you regardless but does he know? I think you should wait.

    If you are insistent on going ahead, get an empire waist dress and a good pre-nup.
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