Pregnant Bride?

Button5807

If this is actually for real you are a complete idiot.

You're trying to trick him into marrying you before he can find out the baby might not be his. You're completely immature and your relationship obviously lacks any kind of communication. The fact that it's possible for someone this unintelligent to reproduce scares the crap out of me.

katanne9

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[QUOTE]If this is actually for real you are a complete idiot. You're trying to trick him into marrying you before he can find out the baby might not be his. You're completely immature and your relationship obviously lacks any kind of communication. The fact that it's possible for someone this unintelligent to reproduce scares the crap out of me.
Posted by Button5807[/QUOTE]


TROLLLLLLLLLLLLL

paintgirl

1. He will leave you if he wants to, whether or not you are married.
2. I would DEFINITELY buy a dress Kate Gosselin wore for her vow renewal. It turned out so well for her.

SAVE THE MONEY ON THE DRESS! You need a DNA test instead.

PaigeMcC

hetshup

OP- I highly recommend an amnio, that way you KNOW. And any david's bridal alfred anglo whatever will have empire waist gowns which is what you need for your expanding belly. I also recommend a c-section so your tubes can be tied and the world will have less idiots. Maybe go on Springer too. I bet they could find you a lovely preggo gown.



Sapphire- Want me to get the name of the photog that my friend that got married in Victoria used? He was pretty good, I like the pictures.... TTD toobing? Oh heck yeah!

babybchbum

I call MUD.

OP: I'm sorry you feel you have to marry this man because he might leave you if the "baby comes out darker" I'm sure any man in his right mind would leave you even after the wedding.

Jenna: Love your siggy picture as well

sapphirebaby926

hetshup - yes! that would be awesome!

dwest2201

OP: Seriously?! 

Jenna: I love that picture as well... its so sweet!

noelle24

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[QUOTE]1. He will leave you if he wants to, whether or not you are married. 2. I would DEFINITELY buy a dress Kate Gosselin wore for her vow renewal. It turned out so well for her. SAVE THE MONEY ON THE DRESS! You need a DNA test instead.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

Bwahahaha! Paint, FTW.

ekathleen684

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[QUOTE]OP- I also recommend a c-section so your tubes can be tied and the world will have less idiots. Maybe go on Springer too. I bet they could find you a lovely preggo gown.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Hetshup- I thought you were genuinely helpful until this part. LOL

OP- This has bad news written all over it. Figure out who your baby daddy is before you get married.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]Hey there. I am about 5 1/2 months pregnant and my boyfriend and I are thinking of getting married before the baby comes. We haven't officially decided but I'm a little scared of #1 <strong>how I will look in a wedding dress if I'm preggo</strong>. Where will I find one? And how will I be able to get one I'll still fit into a few months down the road. It will be a quick wedding but I still want the dress and flowers and stuff. (OH and cake because me and the baby love cake) I don't want to wait 'till after the baby because I'm #2 <strong>not entirely sure that it's my #3FH's baby</strong> and I don't want it to be born darker (if you know what I mean) and then #4 <strong>he'll leave me.</strong> Thanks for your answers :)
Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

I'm warning you right now I'm cranky and this is going to be harsh.

#1 This whole posts screams about the wedding and how you'll look.  Guess what? THAT ISNT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART!  The most important part is that you'll be marrying the man you love.  Superficial.

#2 You explained that you were broken up and got back together yadda yadda yadda...If you're not sure it's his baby, and if this would be a problem then guess what, YOU SHOULDNT GET MARRIED!!!!  You need to figure out who baby's dady is before you press on...b/c it seems like a big issue.

#3 He's your boyfriend.  You're not engaged.

#4 If he'll leave you when he finds out it's someone else then marriage won't fix it.  Marriage isn't a bandaid, things don't magically change because you're married!  If he's going to be angry and leave (which in my opinion is probably a good bet) then getting married before you pop won't help that.  He can still leave.

AND
I think you need to get your sh!t together.  You need to figure out who the baby's father is, what you want in your life, what's best for the baby and then talk to your BF about what is best for him.  From your post it seems like you have a lot of talking to do..as well as a lot of growing up before this baby arrives.

hetshup

Ekath- I do try to give advice before I get super snarky. I just don't think some people should be allowed to breed.


Paigey-- oh man you weren't kidding. All excellent points.

ekathleen684

Paige: I you. You made some awesome points. GOLD STAR for you!

My friend who "wasn't pregnant" had an empire waist dress.

BlueBoxBride

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[QUOTE]Paige: I <3 you. You made some awesome points. GOLD STAR for you! My friend who "wasn't pregnant" had an empire waist dress.
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

<div>It didn't need to be said that SO's cousin was knocked up. She was living/working in Manhattan and her BF (now DH) lived/worked in Chicago. All of a sudden, they HAD to get married within two months and the only way they were able to rent a venue in Manhattan was setting the date for Father's Day. The gown was incredibly flattering though, since it brought all of the attention closer to her face. </div><div>
</div><div>Her shotgun circumstances were a little different though. They are both executives and she easily could have taken care of her baby by herself without needing the guy to stick around. Marriage and a baby seems to have mellowed her out, so I'm guessing she's the happiest she's ever been. </div>

PaigeMcC

I gave fair warning, at least. And for being cranky I think I was pretty coherent.  lol

oceana919

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[QUOTE]Well he's not my husband yet and we broke up for alittle while and I'm pretty sure it's his but I just want to know about the dresses.
Posted by tabimcbride[/QUOTE]

::snort::

This is worthy of it's own Ricki Lake episode.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : ::snort:: This is worthy of it's own Ricki Lake episode.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

Or Springer!!

ekathleen684

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : Or Springer!!
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

Maury: Who's the daddy? Wedding Edition.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : Maury: Who's the daddy? Wedding Edition.
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]\

*snort*

oceana919

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okQsrwMhFjU&feature=related (NSWF)

zaneopal

I am passing huge tubs of popcorn around for this one. This is better than daytime TV.

jeanacorina

Well, you wouldn't have these kinds of problems if you kept your pants on.

nefariousmango

There are stores that make maternity gowns (the only wedding shop in a nearby town specializes in them, for whatever that says about the locals...) so you might look around for a specialty store.

In all seriousness, listen to the PPs.  If this isn't MUD, then you really need to get your $hit together before you start worrying about dresses and cake!

adcoxmt

So I'm late in the game, and I don't have time to scour what everyone else said, but the general consensus seems to be that a baby doens't necesarily mean a wedding is essential. See how your boyfriend feels after the baby is born. Such an incredible event of life should show you his true colors about his love for you and the baby (espescially if it's not his and he's still all gooey eye-d). I know people make mistakes and I' sure you're not the first person in the world this has happened to....but focus on whether your life with your man is strong enough for the long haul; you've already broken up once. If you only want him to marry you for the baby's sake...for the baby's sake, wait and reevaluate after he/she is born so that the child isn't brought up in a household where the foundation of trust and love may be shaky....I know its tough but have you considered adoption? You didn't really seem too excited about a baby, just more like "crap,. now we have to get married I guess." Something else to discuss with your b/f.

As far as a dress if you do go ahead with a wedding, and flowy one would obv be the way to go....I like the empire waist suggestions. ..

Good luck on whatever you decide, choose the path that will lead to a healthier, happier life for all parties involved.

paintgirl

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[QUOTE]Well, you wouldn't have these kinds of problems if you kept your pants on.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

I am frequently pantless and I'm not pregnant with a baby who's daddy can't be determined...

zaneopal

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[QUOTE]Well, you wouldn't have these kinds of problems if you kept your pants on.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

What if you only wear skirts, like the Duggars?

jeanacorina

You guys and your smarty-pants attitudes.

hetshup

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : What if you only wear skirts, like the Duggars?
Posted by zaneopal[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Then you have a chastity belt and a baby already attached. </div>

zaneopal

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : Then you have a chastity belt and a baby already attached. 
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

...How did the baby get there if I'm wearing a chastity belt? Did I immaculately conceive?

paintgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pregnant Bride? : ...How did the baby get there if I'm wearing a chastity belt? Did I immaculately conceive?
Posted by zaneopal[/QUOTE]

That's the story I'm sticking with if something ever backfires...