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Solved!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi girls....

I've solved the thing... I've changed the place for a bigger one from the same venue.



Thank you all!

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  • You need to have a seat for every guest. Plan for 100% attendance.
     
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  • vsgalvsgal member
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    It may be common in Brazil, but in the USA you have to have a seat for every butt.  The reception is the thank you to your guests.  You need to make every comfortable.   Your guests comfort trumps your desire to have a band of your dreams.  Figure out a way to have seats for everyone at the ceremony.
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  • Is it possible to have the band set up in the mezzanine area and you have all your guests seated at the cermony?  Could you place higher seats in the mezzanine area, so that your guests could still see the cermony?  Perhaps high bar stools that have a back on them? Plan for 100% attendance.  Since your ceremony & reception are at the same place, your guests would be more inclined to attend the whole day.  When you begin to get RSVPs back, and people are declining on attending, then maybe you can have the ceremony site set up like you described above.
  • I personally won't have guest seating for everyone (ONLY bc it's on the Cape Hatteras Seashore & the National Park Service says only handicapped/disabled can have seats...ceremony will be short & sweet), but in your situation, I think it seems rude.  You're pretty much isolating some guests.  I'd be irritated if I were one of those guests. 

    If it were in Brazil, I'd so go for it.  If your wedding is here, come up with another solution. 
  • vsgalvsgal member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_less-guest-seats-so-i-can-have-the-band-just-the-way-i-like?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:c88eff53-677c-4bbb-b488-b2e5a66252c0Post:3aa9f5ea-ce55-4c09-a5ef-a4b307a4c639">Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I personally won't have guest seating for everyone (ONLY bc it's on the Cape Hatteras Seashore & the National Park Service says only handicapped/disabled can have seats...ceremony will be short & sweet), but in your situation, I think it seems rude.  You're pretty much isolating some guests.  I'd be irritated if I were one of those guests.  If it were in Brazil, I'd so go for it.  If your wedding is here, come up with another solution. 
    Posted by marryingafootballcoach[/QUOTE]
     

    It is rude in your situation as well.  You need to find a new venue.  I would be very irritated to have to stand for well over an hour in cute shoes during a ceremony.  You should follow your own advice before you start giving it to others.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like? :   It is rude in your situation as well.  You need to find a new venue.  I would be very irritated to have to stand for well over an hour in cute shoes during a ceremony.  You should follow your own advice before you start giving it to others.
    Posted by vsgal[/QUOTE]

    I understand what you're saying, but this is pretty common on the beach.  So many brides get married every year at the OBX, and it's just the way it is.  The guests are expecting it, and like I said... It's going to be a short ceremony.  I have been to two weddings there in the past two years, and no one complained. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_less-guest-seats-so-i-can-have-the-band-just-the-way-i-like?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:c88eff53-677c-4bbb-b488-b2e5a66252c0Post:59640624-6a6e-48d1-ad39-b5e99a36a6dd">Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like? : I understand what you're saying, but this is pretty common on the beach.  So many brides get married every year at the OBX, and it's just the way it is.  The guests are expecting it, and like I said... It's going to be a short ceremony.  I have been to two weddings there in the past two years, and no one complained. 
    Posted by marryingafootballcoach[/QUOTE]

    Not hearing anyone complain and people not complaining are two different things.

    I'm not elderly or handicapped, but I have enough knee trouble that if I showed up to a wedding and you told me I was standing, I'd probably just go and sit in the car. 
  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like? :   It is rude in your situation as well.  You need to find a new venue.  I would be very irritated to have to stand for well over an hour in cute shoes during a ceremony.  You should follow your own advice before you start giving it to others.
    Posted by vsgal[/QUOTE]

    Actually no, it is NOT rude in her situation.  The National Seashore dictates how many chairs are allowed on a beach.  It's the law.  Period.  When said person wants to get married on the beach and there are no other alternatives, this IS in fact her only choice.

    Many people seem to think that a beach wedding is the same as a church wedding or venue style wedding where you should be able to have seats for every person in attendance.  Getting married at the beach is very different, especially this particular beach that is a <em>National Seashore</em> and is protected by Federal Law.

    As long as HER guests are aware of this and especially, the reasoning behind it, it is certainly acceptable.  It's not as if she is being a cheap ass and simply not <em>wanting</em> to provide chairs but Federal Law that tells her she can't.

     

  • vsgalvsgal member
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    So, if I get married on a beach, I can make people stand.  But if I get married in a room, I can't.  If you can only have 10 chairs on the beach for your ceremony, then you only get to invite 10 people to the wedding.  That is the end result of your decision to have a beach wedding.  She has a choice.  She can invite more people and move the wedding inside or she can have a small beach wedding.    I have been to beach weddings.  There has always been seating available. 
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  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_less-guest-seats-so-i-can-have-the-band-just-the-way-i-like?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:c88eff53-677c-4bbb-b488-b2e5a66252c0Post:0e55e705-ea26-409a-88dd-1f5f2d33d5c4">Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>So, if I get married on a beach, I can make people stand.  But if I get married in a room, I can't. </strong> If you can only have 10 chairs on the beach for your ceremony, then you only get to invite 10 people to the wedding.  That is the end result of your decision to have a beach wedding.  She has a choice.  She can invite more people and move the wedding inside or she can have a small beach wedding.    I have been to beach weddings.  There has always been seating available. 
    Posted by vsgal[/QUOTE]

    Have you ever been to the National Seashore in Hatteras?  I doubt it.

    Would YOU be willing to break a Federal Law?  I doubt it.

    Would you scrap your entire dream of getting married on a beach, b/c Federal Law states that you cannot have more than X amount of chairs, even though you have spoken to your guests and they are perfectly ok with standing for a 20min ceremony?  I doubt it.

    And the bolded part, you are reaching pretty far with that one.  
     

     

  • It is very rude, and honestly quite selfish, to choose a band over your guests' comfort.  You need to have a seat for every guest, period.  If you have to sacrifice having a digital piano over a grand piano, then so be it.  Believe me, your guests are much more likely to be upset over having to stand during your ceremony then they are that the sound of your music is ever so slightly different than how it'd be on a bigger piano.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like? : Have you ever been to the National Seashore in Hatteras?  I doubt it. Would YOU be willing to break a Federal Law?  I doubt it. <strong>Would you scrap your entire dream of getting married on a beach, b/c Federal Law states that you cannot have more than X amount of chairs</strong>, even though you have spoken to your guests and they are perfectly ok with standing for a 20min ceremony?  I doubt it. And the bolded part, you are reaching pretty far with that one.    
    Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

    I'm sure there are other beaches that allow more chairs.  This is still a matter of choosing a selfish preference (getting married on THAT beach) at the expense of your guests' comfort.
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  • pkontkpkontk member
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    If I were to get married on a beach, I would make sure it was a beach that could accommodate seats for every guest.  My laid-back father has made it VERY clear that no matter what I decided for my ceremony and/or reception, there must be a seat for every single butt.
  • Your venue in and of itself is a choice. Choosing to get married somewhere that will require you to do something rude to guests is you choosing to be rude.  You don't get a pass because of the venue.  
  •  I am usually a quiet "lurker" on the boards~ but I feel some of you are quick to judge others decisions/choices~ there is nothing rude about the decision on the chairs on the beach~some of you need to do your research~ Outer Banks, Hatteras National Seashore is in the top 3 of US destination weddings!
    So I guess, there are a lot of RUDE bride and grooms according to those of you are quick to call others rude~ obviously you are going to think and feel what you choose~but rules are rules and those  who are choosing to have their venue on this pristine beaches of the National Seashore with  family and friends~who are fully aware that there is no seating provided~except for instances of elderly or handicapped,  are perfectly accepting of the fact ~it's NOT PERMITTED~ or they wouldn't plan in advance to travel to a destination wedding for their family member or friend~

    I for one have been two weddings one on the beach and the other a golf course~NO seating~ not once did I complain~ or think either of my dear friends rude~ but then again I don't judge others~ 

    A  lover of the OBX~a fellow Cape Hatteras bride to be~ =)
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  • OP, I would have seats, if I were you.

    FWIW, I'm from Brazil and never heard of weddings where it's acceptable to not have seats for everyone. It's also rude to do that there.
  • Both the band and the beach issue are identical.

    1) My dream wedding set up only allows seating for X many people. (In the case of the beach, X = 0)

    2) I want to invite X + some number.

    Therefore if I accomplish both of these *desires*, not everyone will have a seat. However, I decide that accomplishing both of these desires is far more important than being polite to my guests.

    That's what the reasoning is. To be polite you can 1) modify your dream set up or 2) invite fewer people. But you can't be polite and have both desires. It's a choice.
  • vsgalvsgal member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: less guest seats so I can have the band just the way i like? : Have you ever been to the National Seashore in Hatteras?  I doubt it. Would YOU be willing to break a Federal Law?  I doubt it. Would you scrap your entire dream of getting married on a beach, b/c Federal Law states that you cannot have more than X amount of chairs, even though you have spoken to your guests and they are perfectly ok with standing for a 20min ceremony?  I doubt it. And the bolded part, you are reaching pretty far with that one.    
    Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

    I have been to the National Seashore.  Many times, in fact.

    No, I would not break a federal law.  And yes, I would scrap my "dream" venue because of seating or any other issues that would cause my guests discomfort.  Period. Our wedding day was about celebrating with our families and making them comfortable.  You have been on these boards long enough to know it is never just  a "20 minute" ceremony.  People show up early.  Weddings don't always start on time.  Your 20 minutes = closer to an hour.  You have also been on these boards enough to know that people don't want to be confrontational with the bride.  No family or friend wants to be the one that says an idea of the couple's is improper etiquette.

    My first statement is not far-fetched.  If you had a poster that said they want to get married in a room that seats 120  with standing room for 50 more guests and they have a guest list of 150 so 30 will have to stand, you would be all over them to change venues or cut the guest list.  How is that different from this situation?  If a couple can only accommodate 10 people with chairs.  That is their final guest list or they need to change venues.  If a law states you can only have so many chairs, the law has effectively told you how many you can invite.  You have to decide if you want the venue or the people. 

    You have a choice.  You always have a choice.  You may not like the choices given, but you have a choice.   The end result needs to be a chair for every butt regardless of everything else.
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  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
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    If you had been to the National Seashore, then would know the laws and we wouldn't be talking about this.  The National Seashore is A LOT different that OBX.  I was married in Nags Head and I was fortunate enough to be able to have seats for every single one of my 96 guests.  However, the National Seashore is further south and has much much stricter rules.

    You don't know the reason why this bride choose this particular location and neither do I.  The fact of the matter is that this IS her location and she MUST obey Federal Law.

    I guess every single bride that was married throughout the OBX and did not have chairs, by law, has been doing it wrong all along.  I guess the Outer Banks being listed as the #2 top beach wedding destination in the U.S. is incorrect as well.  I think the Outer Banks Wedding Assoc. should go out of business too.

    I too have been to beach weddings where I stood and did not complain one single time....and neither did any of the guests that I spoke with either.  Sorry to burst your bubble, but not ALL guests think it's rude to stand for a 20min ceremony on the beach.  YOU may think it's rude, and that's fine, however, I don't.  So there's that.

     

  • jendem8jendem8 member
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    Also, who wears "cute shoes" on the beach?  ...just saying.  Take them off, put your toes in the sand, and stop being so judgmental of everyone else.  If you're going to complain about standing on the beach for the 20-30 minute ceremony, then I'm sure the bride and groom would actually prefer for you all to sit in the car.
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  • vsgalvsgal member
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    [QUOTE]If you had been to the National Seashore, then would know the laws and we wouldn't be talking about this.  The National Seashore is A LOT different that OBX.  I was married in Nags Head and I was fortunate enough to be able to have seats for every single one of my 96 guests.  However, the National Seashore is further south and has much much stricter rules. You don't know the reason why this bride choose this particular location and neither do I.  The fact of the matter is that this IS her location and she MUST obey Federal Law.<strong> I guess every single bride that was married throughout the OBX and did not have chairs, by law, has been doing it wrong all along</strong>.  I guess the Outer Banks being listed as the #2 top beach wedding destination in the U.S. is incorrect as well.  I think the Outer Banks Wedding Assoc. should go out of business too. I too have been to beach weddings where I stood and did not complain one single time....and neither did any of the guests that I spoke with either.  Sorry to burst your bubble, but not ALL guests think it's rude to stand for a 20min ceremony on the beach.  YOU may think it's rude, and that's fine, however, I don't.  So there's that.
    Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]


    Yes they have. 

    If the law says you can't have chairs on the beach, then you pick another venue that can accommodate all of your guests.  I don't know why this is hard to understand.  Just because you get married on a beach doesn't mean you can be rude and use the law as an excuse. 

    When was the last time you stood for only 20 minutes at a ceremony? The ceremony may only be 20 minutes, but guests stand much longer than that.  That never happens.
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  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
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    Why do you have such a hard on about this?

    Like I said.....I guess the Outer Banks being listed as the #2 top beach wedding destination in the U.S. is incorrect as well.  I think the Outer Banks Wedding Assoc. should go out of business too.

    I should also have TK remove the entire OBX board since thousands upon thousands of brides have been doing it wrong.  Maybe they should get rid of the Destination Wedding board too....

    The last time I stood for 20 mins at a ceremony was in October of 2010.....and I literally stood for only 20 minutes.

    Since you seem to know so much about the National Seashore, please insight as to what is currently going on with those beaches......

     

  • I just have to say it really AMAZES me how unbelievably rude people can be to one another. The great thing about your wedding is it is YOURS. I don't think it's fair to judge one anothers weddings or to suggest someone is being rude because their decision or view is different than yours. It is what it is and I'm sure at the end of the day everyone (sitting or standing) was overjoyed at being able to witness a beautiful marriage of two people they care for & love. 

    Let's just all get along and quit with the rudeness. I thought these boards were for supporting one another?
  • Honestly, I don't post anywhere on the knot other than the OBX board because of people like vsgal.  Your opinion is what it is and you have a right to it.  Other people also have a right to their opinions.  But people like vsgal, just can't let it go and agree to disagree that their are other opinions around.  I agree, totally fine for people to stand on a beach for 20-30 minutes.  We'll have a few chairs for those I know who CAN'T do this. You can have your opinion vsgal and express it, but to repeately come on here and attack people as being rude makes you a terrible person.  There's NO need to make people feel bad like that.  Eventually just agree to disagree.  We all have different viewpoints and they are not all going to coincide.

    I'm thinking vsgal attracts people much like herself and this is why she KNOWS that people will complain.  Those of us getting married in the OBX are much more chill and laid back.  My friends and family are the same way and don't care about the seats.  For most of them, they've been provided a free trip to the beach as well.  This is why I only post on the OBX board.  This will be my one and only post here because honestly, I don't have time for people like vsgal.  Good luck girl, hope your wedding lives up to all your ridiculous expectations.  Its one day and then it will be over.  Whatcha gonna do then?

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    [QUOTE]I just have to say it really AMAZES me how unbelievably rude people can be to one another. The great thing about your wedding is it is YOURS.<strong> I don't think it's fair to judge one anothers weddings or to suggest someone is being rude because their decision or view is different than yours.</strong> It is what it is and I'm sure at the end of the day everyone (sitting or standing) was overjoyed at being able to witness a beautiful marriage of two people they care for & love.  Let's just all get along and quit with the rudeness. I thought these boards were for supporting one another?
    Posted by tstar145[/QUOTE]

    I suppose I shouldn't judge people who charge an admission fee for their wedding either - after all, their view is simply different from mine.

    Sorry, no, there are things that are simply rude - forcing your invited guests to stand for your entire ceremony because you decided the peeeeeeeeeeeeerfect location was more important than being considerate of your guests is one of those things.
  • As OBX2011 said, the OBX is the #2 destination wedding location in the United States.   Thousands of weddings happen there every single year.  There are regulations for weddings in Corolla, Duck, Kitty Hawk, Kill Devil Hills, and Nags Head.  They all vary.  Seating on the beach is a safety issue...

     In Nags Head:
    Forty chairs are allowed on the beach during the ceremony for the elderly or infirm. Please make sure the chairs do not obstruct access on or across the beach in any way. Chairs must be removed immediately after the ceremony. The number of chairs is limited to 40 to allow for emergency beach vehicle access.

    The National Seashore is even more prohibitive:
     
    1. Amplified music, CD's, radios and public address systems are prohibited. Acoustic music will be considered for ceremonies at the seashore but not at historical properties.
    2. The releasing of balloons, birds or butterflies and the throwing of rice, birdseed, flower petals or other natural or artificial material is not permitted.
    3. No chairs, altars, flower containers, arches, railings, ropes, torches or candelabras are permitted. Exception: elderly guests or guests with disabilities may use chairs.
    4. Permittees must exercise particular care to avoid disturbing wildlife and vegetation. Visitors, photographers and weddings are not permitted in undisturbed dune areas.
    I was completely aware of the rules and regulations when I planned my wedding in the OBX.  I do not regret my decision...

    My mother was originally from the OBX.  So was her family... in fact the Whalehead Club in Corolla used to be in my mother's family.  I fell in love with the OBX as a child, and my mother is the reason for that.  On August 16, 2011, my mother was diagnosed with stage IV non-small cell lung cancer that had metastasized into her brain, her bones, her stomach, and her kidneys.  On October 16, 2011, she died.  So, when I get married on July 14, no, my mom, my best friend, won't be standing beside me... but, I'll be in one place I feel like she always will be.  

    My friends and my family understand my reasoning... because they have hearts.  And, it will be a beautiful day.   


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    [QUOTE]As OBX2011 said, the OBX is the #2 destination wedding location in the United States.   Thousands of weddings happen there every single year.  There are regulations for weddings in Corolla, Duck, Kitty Hawk, Kill Devil Hills, and Nags Head.  They all vary.  Seating on the beach is a safety issue...  In Nags Head: Forty chairs are allowed on the beach during the ceremony for the elderly or infirm. Please make sure the chairs do not obstruct access on or across the beach in any way. Chairs must be removed immediately after the ceremony. The number of chairs is limited to 40 to allow for emergency beach vehicle access. The National Seashore is even more prohibitive:   Amplified music, CD's, radios and public address systems are prohibited. Acoustic music will be considered for ceremonies at the seashore but not at historical properties. The releasing of balloons, birds or butterflies and the throwing of rice, birdseed, flower petals or other natural or artificial material is not permitted. No chairs, altars, flower containers, arches, railings, ropes, torches or candelabras are permitted. Exception: elderly guests or guests with disabilities may use chairs. Permittees must exercise particular care to avoid disturbing wildlife and vegetation. Visitors, photographers and weddings are not permitted in undisturbed dune areas. I was completely aware of the rules and regulations when I planned my wedding in the OBX.  I do not regret my decision... My mother was originally from the OBX.  So was her family... in fact the Whalehead Club in Corolla used to be in my mother's family.  I fell in love with the OBX as a child, and my mother is the reason for that.  On August 16, 2011, my mother was diagnosed with stage IV non-small cell lung cancer that had metastasized into her brain, her bones, her stomach, and her kidneys.  On October 16, 2011, she died.  So, when I get married on July 14, no, my mom, my best friend, won't be standing beside me... but, I'll be in one place I feel like she always will be.   My friends and my family understand my reasoning... because they have hearts.  And, it will be a beautiful day.   
    Posted by marryingafootballcoach[/QUOTE]

    <3 <3 <3

    All I can do at this point is sit back and laugh.  I would love to know how many of the PP's have attended weddings in the OBX.  It's called an "OBX state of mind" for a reason....they obviously aren't getting it.  THIS is why the OBX doesn't like visitors....especially the ones who think they know everything.

    I am going to write Dare Co., and Currituck Co., and tell them to NEVER issue another marriage license throughout the OBX....I mean, since thousands of brides have been doing it wrong for like...EVER!  ;)

     

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_less-guest-seats-so-i-can-have-the-band-just-the-way-i-like?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:c88eff53-677c-4bbb-b488-b2e5a66252c0Post:31b1a62f-7541-4a82-a442-c6ed9b5b263d">Re: Solved!!!!!!!!!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Solved!!!!!!!!!!! : I suppose I shouldn't judge people who charge an admission fee for their wedding either - after all, their view is simply different from mine. Sorry, no, there are things that are simply rude - <strong>forcing your invited guests</strong>to stand for your entire ceremony because you decided the peeeeeeeeeeeeerfect location was more important than being considerate of your guests is one of those things.
    Posted by Sephiroth[/QUOTE]

    Did you miss the part where she said she spoke to her guests about this beforehand and that they are ok with it?  I hardly think that she is "forcing" her guests to do anything.  It's called an invitation for a reason, so you can check "No" if you choose not to attend.

     

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_less-guest-seats-so-i-can-have-the-band-just-the-way-i-like?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:c88eff53-677c-4bbb-b488-b2e5a66252c0Post:c6258a51-ee13-431e-91a6-ee79686accb5">Re: Solved!!!!!!!!!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Solved!!!!!!!!!!! : Did you miss the part where she said she spoke to her guests about this beforehand and that they are ok with it?  I hardly think that she is "forcing" her guests to do anything.  It's called an invitation for a reason, so you can check "No" if you choose not to attend.
    Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

    Just like you can check 'no' to a wedding that charged an admission fee. So?

    Your statement implies that because it's an invitation, it can't possibly be rude, since one can always decline. Surely you don't believe that no invitation can ever be rude?

    Just because no one complained doesn't mean that no one thought it was rude. It's very difficult to tell someone, to their face, that you think what they are doing is inappropriate.
  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 25 Love Its First Answer
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_less-guest-seats-so-i-can-have-the-band-just-the-way-i-like?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:c88eff53-677c-4bbb-b488-b2e5a66252c0Post:fd1f3095-edb4-40ab-98f5-a88ef5af5364">Re: Solved!!!!!!!!!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Solved!!!!!!!!!!! : Just like you can check 'no' to a wedding that charged an admission fee. So? <strong>Your statement implies that because it's an invitation, it can't possibly be rude, since one can always decline.</strong> Surely you don't believe that no invitation can ever be rude? Just because no one complained doesn't mean that no one thought it was rude. It's very difficult to tell someone, to their face, that you think what they are doing is inappropriate.
    Posted by Sephiroth[/QUOTE]

    No, you chose to read it that way.  Don't twist my words around.

    Sorry, but the fact remains that thousands of brides have done this before....whether YOU like it or not ;)

     

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