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    SwazzleSwazzle member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-confessional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:836ce47f-59c3-4288-9f33-aa1ed40321e1Post:80c29575-8364-44bf-8e51-8526cad9558d">Re: Friday Confessional</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi, sort of new here. signed up cause im a maid of honor in my best friends wedding. also have been with my bf for awhile now and planning to eventually get married so i guess it fits. first-no one should ever be ashamed to seek help for depression. you should take care of it exactly the same way you would with any other sickness. you deserve to be happy! <strong>my confession: and i dont mean to sound like a ahole about it bc i know some have had opposite problems im honestly afraid of how attracted to my bf i am. it almost doesnt even make sense and its distracting! we have been very serious for over a year now and previously had been on and off (but never really"off") for about 5 years. i should be bored of him in bed, but im not, and i just dont understand. sometimes its even hard to stand near him. i know i shouldnt question it, bc its a good thing, but its like disconcerting almost. like its not supposed to gbe that way.</strong>
    Posted by katiebelle2882[/QUOTE]

    <div>This sounds more like an AW than a confession. And frankly, makes no sense at all. </div><div>
    </div><div>Oh gosh, I'm so sorry that you're so attracted to your BF. That must be devastating for you.</div>



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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Confessional : This sounds more like an AW than a confession. And frankly, makes no sense at all. <strong> Oh gosh, I'm so sorry that you're so attracted to your BF. That must be devastating for you.</strong>
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    I just snorted my water, thanks.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-confessional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:836ce47f-59c3-4288-9f33-aa1ed40321e1Post:5390c7e4-a51c-4e37-a743-990bdeeb575a">Re: Friday Confessional</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Confessional : Not all men are interested in sex 24-7 either. For a long time in my relationship I thought there was something wrong because FI literally gets interested maybe 1 time a month and it doesnt always work out due to other things going on. We talked about it turns out no its not me its he just doesnt have that drive and never has. He loves me for me and finds me tremendously attractive its just not how he works. Note I've learned that quality is much more important than quantity from him. I'd rather get loved on a handful of times a year and feel special when it happens and loved than 4 times a week and like a piece of meat. FI is extremely loving and affectionate in other ways which compensates for the lack of chicky chicky bow wow. I have right now the most intimate happy relationship of my life. Sex and intimacy are different things. You can have intimacy without sex. You can have sex without intimacy.

    no i totally agree. i am talking about a separate issue in that if you aren't having sex alot it could be about body issues. and then if it is to remember that your man finds you sexy. separate from sex, you should probably always remember that when you are down on yourself, regardless of frequency its a nice thing to remember. everyone is different in terms of sex drive, and i think its only a problem if they differ so much that it becomes an issue. clearly you have figured it out, but i know people that havent. but if its something that would make another person unhappy then just like an other incompatiblity issue you can either decide its fine by you (like you) or decide that its too important and you need to find someone else. there is no right or wrong i dont think.
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    [QUOTE]it seems like alot of people who are having issues in the bedroom also have body issues. remember, your guy is with you BECAUSE he finds you sexy and wants you. i just try to remember that bc i have alot of bad days too whehn it comes to self image. i feel like ive also read somewhere tyhat if you getting some you are more likely to feel good about yourself. no idea if thats true or not but probably worth a try.
    Posted by katiebelle2882[/QUOTE]

    <div>I actually don't recall where anyone said they were having issues in the bedroom.  Not having sex for a while =/= bedroom problems.  For example: I don't have the sex drive that my FI has, and I have some female medical problems that don't exactly put me in the mood. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Confessional :
    Posted by katiebelle2882[/QUOTE]

    I think if a difference sex drives are an issue there are other bigger issues under the table. When you marry you marry for life. What happens if your spouse is injured, or has a medical problem and cant have sex? Do you leave? I think thats against the vows you took of for better or for worse. This is what I've learned from my experience. If you told me 3 years ago that I could be in a relationship where I didnt have sex atleast 1-2 times a week I would have looked at you like you were insane.Some time alone and meeting FI and having a real working relationship has taught me how stupid that was.
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    I have a really, really stupid confession.  I can't stop chewing fruit-flavored gum, even though it makes my jaw hurt and gives me a headache.  This makes me feel like I have the self control of a 5 year old who wants to eat candy all day.  But it's just so tasty!
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    I confess that I am sad my boyfriend didn't want to have sex last night, he continued to play his video game after I asked him to come into the bedroom. I also confess that I am jealous of the relationships you all have made on this site, I know I'm super new, but you should all realize how lucky you are, I mean THIS is free therapy! I confess that confessions make me feel weak, I don't want anyone to know my insecurities!
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    [QUOTE]I have a really, really stupid confession.  I can't stop chewing fruit-flavored gum, even though it makes my jaw hurt and gives me a headache.  This makes me feel like I have the self control of a 5 year old who wants to eat candy all day.  But it's just so tasty!
    Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

    I love those trident layers gums.

    The blueberry tangerine, and cherry lime are my favorites.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Confessional : I actually don't recall where anyone said they were having issues in the bedroom.  Not having sex for a while =/= bedroom problems.  For example: I don't have the sex drive that my FI has, and I have some female medical problems that don't exactly put me in the mood. 
    Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

    <div>I agree.  BF has a very high sex drive, and would probably be thrilled to go several times a day, every day.  I just don't have that much of a drive.  We don't have problems when we aren't having sex all the time.  </div>
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    i was just saying how if you aren't having sex alot and you feel gross and you are upset or wondering about it maybe they are related. not that they are necessarily, but maybe. when I feel gross about myself/fat (which is alot just like the rest of you) the last thing i want is to do it.

     I agree dewing, everything depends on the situation, and I dont think a relationship should depend on just one thing, if it does that would be THE biggest issue.

    As for my confession, no one said it had to make sense or be a good one. It IS ridiculous and I know that. I have been in a few long term relationships and its always gone away, and has always stagnated. Maybe I am more confessing that Im afraid it will end and Im just waiting for the inevitable crash? I don't know.
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    Confession-  I am always forever late to the party.  As I am once again today.  I check in daily, but feel that by the time I read most posts they're pretty dead.  So trying to figure out how to fix that.  I like you girls.

    Confession- I went for my annual today.  I'm not a fan of undressing for anyone other than BF.  So afterwards I decided lunch would be a big heaping bowl of Forver Yogurt fro yo smothered in every topping imaginable.

    For what its worth, to all the confuddled ladies, I have been there.  I actually married him instead of leaving him.  It was the worst thing I could've done.  I was so scared to be on my own, both financially and physically.  I cried a lot.  We had LOTS of issues, but I just kept plugging along hoping to work them out.  Leaving was hard.  REALLY hard.  But it was also very freeing, and I found myself.  That was more important than any relationship I could ever have been in.

    Good luck to you all.  I'm here if you need to chat.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-confessional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:836ce47f-59c3-4288-9f33-aa1ed40321e1Post:3e227d95-1eb4-4106-a2a4-dcb8b80cefe9">Re: Friday Confessional</a>:
    [QUOTE]i was just saying how if you aren't having sex<strong> alot</strong> and you feel gross and you are upset or wondering about it maybe they are related. not that they are necessarily, but maybe. when I feel gross about myself/fat (which is <strong>alot</strong> just like the rest of you) the last thing i want is to do it.  I agree dewing, everything depends on the situation, and I dont think a relationship should depend on just one thing, if it does that would be THE biggest issue. As for my confession, no one said it had to make sense or be a good one. It IS ridiculous and I know that. I have been in a few long term relationships and its always gone away, and has always stagnated. Maybe I am more confessing that Im afraid it will end and Im just waiting for the inevitable crash? I don't know.
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    I confess that I actually have really high self confidence, and how I feel about myself has nothing to do with how much DH and I get it on. 
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    HAHAHAHAHAHA Bri-I know EXACTLY what blog you are referencing, and the first time i read that post I almost peed myself A LOT.
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    Bri I love you alot.
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    Confession:  bad grammar makes me crazy. Like homicidal crazy.
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    Me too. I have always, always messed up with "a lot" though.

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-confessional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:836ce47f-59c3-4288-9f33-aa1ed40321e1Post:5aee83e2-1824-4451-88b1-3e68f8cf2042">Re: Friday Confessional</a>:
    [QUOTE]Confession:  bad grammar makes me crazy. Like homicidal crazy.
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    Bri you made me snort in a undignified way.

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    [QUOTE]Me too. I have always, always messed up with "a lot" though. In Response to Re: Friday Confessional :
    Posted by katiebelle2882[/QUOTE]

    Based on the content of your posts, I find this very hard to believe.

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    [QUOTE]<strong>i was just saying how if you aren't having sex alot and you feel gross and you are upset or wondering about it maybe they are related. not that they are necessarily, but maybe. when I feel gross about myself/fat (which is alot just like the rest of you) the last thing i want is to do it.</strong>  I agree dewing, everything depends on the situation, and I dont think a relationship should depend on just one thing, if it does that would be THE biggest issue. As for my confession, no one said it had to make sense or be a good one. It IS ridiculous and I know that. I have been in a few long term relationships and its always gone away, and has always stagnated. Maybe I am more confessing that Im afraid it will end and Im just waiting for the inevitable crash? I don't know.
    Posted by katiebelle2882[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ugh, seriously?  You're just not getting it.  </div><div>
    </div><div>How I feel has 0 to do with how much I have sex with my fiance (unless how I feel is directly related to Chipotle).</div>
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    I confess that I interview 150 million times better for sports information jobs than I do for regular public relations jobs. This, along with my passion for college athletics, makes me believe that I should probably stay in this field. That is slightly terrifying, as it means that I will probably have to move further away from home, instead of closer. But I know it will make me happy.

    I confess that my heart is beating out of my chest thinking about moving to Chicago. And I don't even have a guarenteed on-campus interview yet.



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    [QUOTE]I confess that I interview 150 million times better for sports information jobs than I do for regular public relations jobs. This, along with my passion for college athletics, makes me believe that I should probably stay in this field. That is slightly terrifying, as it means that I will probably have to move further away from home, instead of closer. But I know it will make me happy. I confess that my heart is beating out of my chest thinking about moving to Chicago. And I don't even have a guarenteed on-campus interview yet.
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    I'm biased about this city, but I think you would love it.   Plus there are lots of college athletic loving single men here.  I may know a few of them to introduce you to if you head this way:)
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    All I have to say is that Liv, I am jealous of how beautiful you are and always have been. You are seriously gorgeous. 
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    [QUOTE]I confess that I interview 150 million times better for sports information jobs than I do for regular public relations jobs. This, along with my passion for college athletics, makes me believe that I should probably stay in this field. That is slightly terrifying, as it means that I will probably have to move further away from home, instead of closer. But I know it will make me happy. I confess that my heart is beating out of my chest thinking about moving to Chicago. And I don't even have a guarenteed on-campus interview yet.
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    Bri, I know that you and I haven't really connected on here (yet?), but I like you a lot and if you moved here, we could chill (if you'd have me). 
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    Suzie cschiano I well take both of you up on those offers if it happens!! I've never even been to Chicago except in the airport so I'd need some help, and friends :



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    Schiano is a great Chicago tour guide.  If you move there, let her show you around first thing.
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    This was a very emotional thread! I think everyone needs some hugs.

    I'm so glad to know that there are a lot of other couples out there my age that aren't having sex 24/7 either. We have sex probably once a week. I feel guilty if it goes longer than that, like I'm depriving him but I'm just not in the mood often. I used to be all the time- but it's been like this now for longer than I can even think back now. Is it me? Is it us? Is it my body image? Is it just normal to not want it often now? I don't know what it is but it makes me feel like a sucky GF sometimes :(


    Also, Liv, I know it must be very difficult for you because you  haven't had much control over your weight/body because of medical reasons and you're still going to be frustrated no matter what anyone says..but it doesn't change the fact that you really are beautiful! Inside and out. I pretty much only know people here from creeping because I never get to post much but if I feel like what I do know about you makes me want to know you in IRL. You are awesome.

    I hope you can get some clarity on your relationship with Mo and that you have the strength to do whatever is right even if that means leaving. I also can't imagine what I would do if I didn't share expenses with BF. It's scary to think about. But like others have said there's always a way so don't let that hold you back. I really hope it works out for you and Mo, I know you love him to death but you deserve to have everything you want and need!
     




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    [QUOTE]Suzie cschiano I well take both of you up on those offers if it happens!! I've never even been to Chicago except in the airport so I'd need some help, and friends :
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    I would love to partake in being your friend and tour guide!
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