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IS IT WRONG??

IS IT WRONG TO BE ENGAGED BUT HAVE NO RING YET!!
WE DONT HAVE THE RING BECAUSE OF MONEY ISSUES BUT IM JUST WONDERING?
Can someone tell me something!
sorry for me writing in all caps!! i dont mean any of it in a wrong way!
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Re: IS IT WRONG??

  • cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    edited December 2011
    Personally I think it's more wrong to shout at someone. But I'm KUI, so take that with a grain of salt.

    PS It's ok to be engaged without a ring.

    PPS Don't eat yellow snow (You asked someone to tell you something... well, that's something!)
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:0f342b40-36cf-4f68-acf9-c8ebf135af0f">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]Personally I think it's more wrong to shout at someone. But I'm KUI, so take that with a grain of salt. PS It's ok to be engaged without a ring. PPS Don't eat yellow snow (You asked someone to tell you something... well, that's something!)
    Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
    sorry:( i really didnt mean it in a bad way!!
  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    NO!! YOU DON'T NEED A RING TO BE ENGAGED!!
    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    I'VE READ YOUR OTHER POSTS. HOW OLD ARE YOU?
    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]NO!! YOU DON'T NEED A RING TO BE ENGAGED!!
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
    THANK YOU!
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]I'VE READ YOUR OTHER POSTS. HOW OLD ARE YOU?
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    In general, when someone says "Is it wrong?" especially in all caps, my instinct is to reply: "Yes."

    But it actually is okay to be engaged without a ring. It is not okay to write in all caps on a message board.
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In general, when someone says "Is it wrong?" especially in all caps, my instinct is to reply: "Yes." But it actually is okay to be engaged without a ring. It is not okay to write in all caps on a message board.
    Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]
    sorry i found that out tonight lol sorry if i offended anyone :)
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    How old is your fiance?  What do you guys do for your livings?
  • edited December 2011
    No.  You don't need a ring to be engaged.  You do, however, need to be literate enough to sign the marriage license, which I think you may need to work on.
  • polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    edited December 2011
    From her other posts, it sounds like she lives with her BF/FI.

    Yes, its' fine to be engaged without a ring.
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  • polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    edited December 2011
    She also said she's still in high school on another board...

    Sweetie, please. Quit thinking 'wedding wedding weddings', and just work on school. Enjoy your friends. While in high school, weddings should not be on the brain... And you're living with your BF/FI and engaged (?) and planning a wedding, and in another post, said you get upset when he leaves... This is not a good idea.
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  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    edited December 2011
    ENGAGED WITHOUT A RING=OK

    ENGAGED WITHOUT A HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA (YET)= NOT OK, REGARDLESS OF RING STATUS.


  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]No.  You don't need a ring to be engaged.  You do, however, need to be literate enough to sign the marriage license, which I think you may need to work on.
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]
    sorry but i can read an write! im not stupid like all of ya'll of you women are trying to make me seem!
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]ENGAGED WITHOUT A RING=OK ENGAGED WITHOUT A HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA (YET)= NOT OK, REGARDLESS OF RING STATUS.
    Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]
    i didnt ask you for that!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:f2f6ee1b-3336-4818-81cd-db038b265a23">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]She also said she's still in high school on another board... S
    Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]
    weetie, please. Quit thinking 'wedding wedding weddings', and just work on school. Enjoy your friends. While in high school, weddings should not be on the brain... And you're living with your BF/FI and engaged (?) and planning a wedding, and in another post, said you get upset when he leaves... This is not a good idea.<div>Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]</div><div>im sorry and i mean this in no disrespect at all but really i didnt ask you for that you read didnt you sooo didnt you read that we are taking our time!! with everything..</div>
  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:dc2f6d33-731c-45a4-938d-bea50e1b4332">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : weetie, please. Quit thinking 'wedding wedding weddings', and just work on school. Enjoy your friends. While in high school, weddings should not be on the brain... And you're living with your BF/FI and engaged (?) and planning a wedding, and in another post, said you get upset when he leaves... This is not a good idea. Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE] im sorry and i mean this in no disrespect at all but really i didnt ask you for that you read didnt you sooo didnt you read that we are taking our time!! with everything..
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    What? Please, please, please make school a priority over anything else right now.
    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : im sorry and i mean this in no disrespect at all but really i didnt ask you for that you read didnt you sooo didnt you read that we are taking our time!! with everything.. Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE] What? Please, please, please make school a priority over anything else right now.
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
    it is thank you! but i cant go to school right now can i?? 
  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    ::peeks in::

    I think this is why I lurk on the weekends. I'm happily reading "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail" by John Gottman, while curled up on my couch.

    OP, Perhaps you would like this. Oh, And as for another question you asked- growing up a bit will help with the "attitude problem."

    Good Luck!

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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]::peeks in:: I think this is why I lurk on the weekends. I'm happily reading "Why Marriages Succeed or Fail" by John Gottman, while curled up on my couch. OP, Perhaps you would like this. Oh, And as for another question you asked- growing up a bit will help with the "attitude problem." Good Luck! ::sneaks out to see if the new Bridezilla is OnDemand::
    Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
    I do know i need to work on my attitude but some of these women are not helping!! by just being rude..
  • Kimberly0402Kimberly0402 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am engaged and don't have my engagement ring yet. I'm 28 years old and my fiance is 32. The reason we don't have the engagement ring yet, is b/c he was laid off twice last year (he know has a secure job) and he is also SO particular about the diamond. He wants me to have the best possible engagement ring within his means. I don't mind waiting for the ring. I love him and it's not about the hardware. My family knows we are engaged but that's it because everyone always goes for the ring when you say you are engaged.
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:2b7868b2-e407-40b3-ad6a-a8ff45483d58">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : I do know i need to work on my attitude but some of these women are not helping!! by just being rude..
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    I guess the definition of rude is subjective. OP,. I suggest lurking for a bit on the boards to see how other posters are. This is awesome advice for any message board.
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]I am engaged and don't have my engagement ring yet. I'm 28 years old and my fiance is 32. The reason we don't have the engagement ring yet, is b/c he was laid off twice last year (he know has a secure job) and he is also SO particular about the diamond. He wants me to have the best possible engagement ring within his means. I don't mind waiting for the ring. I love him and it's not about the hardware. My family knows we are engaged but that's it because everyone always goes for the ring when you say you are engaged.
    Posted by Kimberly0402[/QUOTE]
    Yeah my fiance wants me to have the best engagement ring too! <div>All thats holding him back is my attitude as you can see its kinda bad!</div>
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : sorry but i can read an write! im not stupid like all of ya'll of you women are trying to make me seem!
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    <div>Nothing about this post proves you are literate. </div>

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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]::peeks in:: I think this is why I lurk on the weekends. I'm happily reading <strong>"Why Marriages Succeed or Fail" by John Gottman</strong>, while curled up on my couch. OP, Perhaps you would like this. Oh, And as for another question you asked- growing up a bit will help with the "attitude problem." Good Luck! ::sneaks out to see if the new Bridezilla is OnDemand::
    Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

    <div>Is it good? I might add this to my list of books to read this summer. </div>

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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Nothing about this post proves you are literate. 
    Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]
    and how is that?? Thank you but i am literate!
  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:07852847-7dc1-499b-a609-4561faf81ac0">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Is it good? I might add this to my list of books to read this summer. 
    Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

    The ladies on here actually recommended it. I literallly just cracked it open. But he claims through his research...he can predict with 94% accuracy, which marriages will fail or succeed. Seems like it's worth reading to me.

    Most everyone gives it 5 stars on Amazon- <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Why-Marriages-Succeed-Fail-Yours/dp/0684802414/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1306684017&sr=1-1" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Why-Marriages-Succeed-Fail-Yours/dp/0684802414/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1306684017&sr=1-1</a>
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  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:233cfecf-ca07-4c28-b336-7e0230020162">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Yeah my fiance wants me to have the best engagement ring too!  All thats holding him back is my attitude as you can see its kinda bad!
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    Try meditation, yoga, and writing letters to deployed soldiers- it will put your life in perspective.

    <a href="http://www.anysoldier.com" rel="nofollow">www.anysoldier.com</a>

    Or you can volunteer at a food kitchen or nursing home. This will also give you an attitude adjustment. And church- try going to a church/synagogue/temple or any other spiritual sanctuary. Is Jorge religious?
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Try meditation, yoga, and writing letters to deployed soldiers- it will put your life in perspective. <a href="http://www.anysoldier.com" rel="nofollow">www.anysoldier.com</a> Or you can volunteer at a food kitchen or nursing home. This will also give you an attitude adjustment. And church- try going to a church/synagogue/temple or any other spiritual sanctuary. Is Jorge religious?
    Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
    He's catholic!  but we havent been to church in a long time!
  • lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:8ba6cf96-e50d-4822-94e7-12b82efb2c2c">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : He's catholic!  but we havent been to church in a long time!
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    ::nods:: Go to church...with or without him. Read the Bible. It's got some pretty good stuff in it. And if you do end up getting married- his mother will appreciate your interest in catholicism.

    Look for peace in the religion. It will help with your attitude.

    This is the most epic bible verse on love:
    <strong>1 Corinthians 13:4–8a</strong>
    <em>Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails</em>

    These are the things you need to work on- just as I do- and probably everyone on this board. Good Luck! Study hard in school! And read- read lots of books- they will open your mind and widen your horizon.
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