Does Usher age matter?

ditsyblonde69

All of our friends are in the wedding party (we're new in town, so we don't have many), so we have no one left to be ushers. I thought it would be neat to have my FI's childhood baby sitter and her husband. They're like a second set of parents to him. It would be a nice way to honor them since they're like family. But my FI thinks it would be weird to have 50 year old ushers. He thinks they're supposed to be about the same age as the couple. Any thoughts?

twilight.rose

I feel like it would be odd. There's no hard and fast rule of etiquette that ushers need to be the same age as the couple, but I've never been to a wedding where the ushers aren't in the same age group.

Also, I think it would perhaps be more of an honor to simply have this couple escorted in prior to the families if they are that close to him. I almost feel like making them ushers seems like a last-minute way to attempt to include them.

ETA: Do you have any younger siblings/cousins who could act as ushers? H's two younger brothers were our ushers, and that worked out well.

2dBride

As far as I'm concerned, ushers can be any age.

desert*bride

I had no idea that ushers were supposed to be the same age as the couple, but of course, I also would never go to a wedding and notice the age of the ushers . how weird! ignore that rule, unless of course you can't convince the FI... then I guess you'll have to find someone younger.

jenn.daniel

Age doesn't matter.  The groomsmen could usher as well.

trix1223

You're overthinking this.  An usher's "job" is to show people to their seats.  There is no appropriate age range here.  My SIL had his college b-ball coach as one of his groomsmen.  Clearly a big age difference, but so what?  Coach was thrilled to be in the WP, and SIL was thrilled to have his mentor/friend next to him.

aerinpegadrak

I think that you can be too young to be an usher, but not too old.

Catwoman708

Ushers can be any age, as long as they are old enough to perform the duties.  I'd say from about age 12 and up.

But it seems to me the biggest honor for an older couple who is "like family" would be to treat them as honored guests, not by putting them to work.

MyNameIsNot

Our ushers were my teenage cousins.  My husband was 37 when we got married.

The wedding police didn't show up.  

AbbeyS2011

We are using two of FI's nephews as ushers - they will be 16 and 15 at the time of the wedding, and another nephew and one niece as the  candlelighters - they will be 14 and 11 at the time.  My FI will be 50 and I will be 40 when we get married. 

Age of your attendants does not really matter - you are never "too old" to be part of a wedding!