planning your own proposal

Sharpschruter22

In Response to Re:planning your own proposal:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: planning your own proposal:In Response to Re: planning your own proposal : We have a flow chart for this reason. True facts.nbsp; Some girls will plan the wedding with their BF, yet do not consider themselves engaged. They then come to the board whining and complaining: why oh why hasn't he proposed yet?? We're getting married in six months, but he hasn't propoooooooosed??? HELP MEEEEEEE!! And then when we tell them, hey, you're planning a wedding together, congrats! They come back all, we're not engaged! Who do you think you are! Lurk around NEY on the regular and you'll see it all. People can be crazy pants.nbsp; And we occasionally get the BSC chick who's been dating her BF 2 months and is all OMG HE'S GOING TO PORPOISE!!!!Posted by audrewuhThats offensive to people who get engaged after a few months my H proposed after 3 months that doesn't make our relationship/engagement any less important than someone who waited 3 or 4 years. It just means we knew what we wanted. Posted by brittany634[/QUOTE]

Agreed. My FI and I were engaged after 2 months. We knew immediately we were right for each other and there are no doubts in our minds at all about our decision to marry. We have been together a year now and it will be 1.5 years by the time we get married.

My parents were engaged after 6 weeks. They just celebrated their 33rd wedding anniversary this month.

roxirose

My fiance and I were somewhat planning our wedding before we were engaged. Nothing set in stone though. It was because my parents said they wouldn't give their blessing for us to be engaged until we were together for so long. We were getting a general idea of what we wanted without actually making final decisions or anything.

As for planning your own engagement, I will admit that I had day dreams of exactly how I wanted it to happen and I will admit that I was a little disappointed with how it turned out, but part of that was because I found out when he was going to do it. I wish I hadn't had any idea, that would have made it so much better. I can understand both sides to that question.

thejucheidea

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_planning-your-own-proposal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:e2a1b56e-f457-40c9-98b1-d228b04b642aPost:213dee05-8e15-484c-91c6-cd75b1fada35">Re: planning your own proposal</a>:
[QUOTE]My fiance and I were somewhat planning our wedding before we were engaged. Nothing set in stone though. It was because <strong>my parents said they wouldn't give their blessing for us to be engaged until we were together for so long.</strong>
Posted by roxirose[/QUOTE]
This may be because you're, you know, <em>seventeen</em>.

carlynkevin

I can't imagine picking out my ring or planning any part of my proposal.  Asking my to marry him was my FH job.  I didn't like the ring at first, but he search long and hard for it.   It isn't just something I will wear for the rest of my life but it is a symbol of the two of us I look at everyday.  It's on my hand -  I'm so glad he picked it out himself.

RWolff

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_planning-your-own-proposal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:e2a1b56e-f457-40c9-98b1-d228b04b642aPost:60aee54e-b231-4a8e-93a2-94612ff139cb">Re: planning your own proposal</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it depends on how you define "engaged." Some couples start planning their wedding together before there is a ring or a proposal, though they have already agreed that they want to marry and that they are ready to start planning. These people ARE engaged (though some people don't think they are engaged yet).  Planning a wedding together means you are engaged, even if you don't have a ring. On the other hand, some women start planning on their own before their partners state their intent to get married.  These women are BSC.  
Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

<div>This is exactly what happened with us. We decided in July that we wanted to commit to each other for the rest of our lives, and discussed that, at least for me, that meant marriage. His older brother had always been all anti-marriage, so it took FI a little while to understand that marriage and "together forever" were synonymous for me. On my birthday in August, we really decided that we were going to get married, and that the following May would be the best time for us, taking into account work, school, and the desire for children soon after we both did grad school. He did, however, want to do a surprise, romantic proposal, we did not make our engagement public, although we had an understanding between us the we were engaged.</div><div>
</div><div>As for the ring, FI wanted to make sure he proposed with a ring, but really wanted me to help him pick out my "forever ring" so it would something I would love. He's not super confident about jewelry purchases, but he chose a ring that featured my birthstone, which I love and he knew I would wear again. Then, a few weeks after the proposal, we went together to a store and picked the perfect ring. It was great, because he knows me really well, and was able to take my ideas and pick out the perfect one. I'm still waiting for it to come back from the jeweler (I am a size 4, so they had to customize my ring instead of just resizing).</div><div>
</div><div>So I guess we sort of pre-planned the wedding, but we did it together. The only people who were surprised were his parents. Mine just laughed and said it sounded like us to have all our ducks in a row before telling everyone.</div>