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Its hard to have those off-the-wall family members, but you are marrying into the family and truth be told, they're not going to change anytime soon. To keep yourself from stressing, I would not address any formality issues and just make your reception as classy as you want it. Dont fret about the clothes, just make sure your wedding is super enjoyable and you remember the reason why you two are really there.