The worst wedding trends on Pinterest...

Inkdancer

Marzipan13 said:

10) Disagree!  For me, the rehearsal dinner is a special, intimate dinner with the people who you handpicked to help make your wedding awesome.  Even if you're not having a rehearsal, I still like the idea of a rehearsal dinner for them.  

I tend to think of a rehearsal dinner this way too. Unfortunately my FILs think of them as some kind of family reunion and want to invite their entire side to the RD! Um, no. If we do that we might as well get married the day before since 80% of the guests will already be there.

cupcait927

AuroraRose41 said:

ckel24 said:

AuroraRose41 said:

Found this gem on Pinterest.  I think guests probably will notice if you cut some of these out....

 

I am, in fact, cutting every single one of these things. Everything 1 - 9 is unnecessary and for 10, we're not having a rehearsal since it's just FI and I, no bridal party so therefore, no need to have a rehearsal dinner. This is actually one of the better wedding-related things I've seen on Pinterest.

My main issue with this was 1 and 2.  The others are definitely up to the bride and groom, but I think favors and save the dates are worth it.  I just think since you are hosting a party, a favor is a small token of your appreciation to the guests for coming. 

 

And the save the date is very appreciated, especially for out of town guests. One of my best friends from high school is getting married this July. They were initially planning a family only wedding (and my friend told me this in person about a year ago), but decided to have a larger one including all of their friends (which I found out from our mutual friends).  The mutual friends seemed to think that I would be invited, and were shocked that I hadn't heard, since I was a lot closer to the groom then they were.  I was very confused about the situation, and decided to ask my friend about what I had heard (just that the type of wedding was changed and why they decided to do this; did not bring up whether or not I was invited).  After my friend explained all of the details, he told me "oh, and of course you are invited, and here is the date and time."  I live on the other side of the country, and if my friends hadn't told me about the change, I would have had to scramble to make travel plans upon receiving the invitation/just before receiving it, since the groom probably wouldn't have told me until then.  So, IMO, save the dates are very courteous to guests. 

I think STDs are wonderful if you have a fair number of guests that would benefit from it, such as a lot of OOT guests or people with variable work schedules. However, we're only inviting 65 tops, with only two or three that would really benefit from an STD. Since they are family, we're just having our parents pass along the date by word of mouth. I didn't see any sense ordering STDs when I would only need a handful.

Favors are nice, but just not something I can justify spending the money on. They aren't necessary for my marriage to be valid and I haven't found anything yet that strikes my fancy enough to spend the money. We have a smaller budget and a guest list with quite variable interests. I'm still 7 months out so I could very well change my mind if I find something I love but I'm not going to spend the money just because it's been deemed essential by the wedding industry. If I had a larger budget or was more creative, I'm sure my tune would change

jalyndani

Inkdancer said: Marzipan13 said:
10) Disagree!  For me, the rehearsal dinner is a special, intimate dinner with the people who you handpicked to help make your wedding awesome.  Even if you're not having a rehearsal, I still like the idea of a rehearsal dinner for them.  
I tend to think of a rehearsal dinner this way too. Unfortunately my FILs think of them as some kind of family reunion and want to invite their entire side to the RD! Um, no. If we do that we might as well get married the day before since 80% of the guests will already be there.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who had this problem.  We're getting married on a Friday with our rehearsal and RD on Thursday night. My FMIL wanted to "formally invite all of the out of town guests and family" to our RD. Um, newsflash. Everybody is considered "out of town" except my parents, sister, grandma, 2 uncles, and 3 cousins w/ their spouses (a total of 12 people out of the guest list of 70). Hell, if everyone can come into town on Thursday, we could have saved a shit-ton of money by getting married on Thursday instead of Friday. Thankfully I talked her out of this and we're just having immediate family and bridal party at the RD. 

hellohkb

I figured I would just send my invitations a little earlier and let people know about the date if they ask beforehand (which a lot of people have). I've also heard of people getting confused by them because they're a relatively new concept. Even I got confused the two times I received them.

AlwaysMrsWrite

hahahahaha..... I totally agree. All of those things I have commented on at least in my head so I am glad someone compiled it all in one place!

hikebikebemerry

hellokellybean said:

HaileyDancingbear said:

Newest addition to my "Bad Wedding Ideas" board.  Ugh.

This idea was originally supposed to be for in your home. You and your fiance would add money to it every week or how ever often you wanted to so you could have some extra spending money. Not surprised that some pinners think this would be a *GREAT* idea at the actual wedding.

That's what I always thought it was for, or where you tossed the cash/change that you found in your pockets when doing laundry.

I want to meet the classypants who decided that it was wedding appropriate.

HaileyDancingbear

This had the caption "Final things before the ring- Bachelorette Bucket list!"  Because how could you possibly get married before flashing a bunch of people in a parking lot first?  There's another one with the same caption, except it's a photo of girls pissing in urinals.  Can't be a good bride if you don't have a photo of yourself peeing in a urinal!

AuroraRose41

@Marzipan13, I posted that because I agree with some of them, but disagree with others. And your list is almost exactly how I feel about my post. Sure, I completely agree that bridesmaid robes or aisle runners are unnecessary, but I do like rehearsal dinners, save the dates, and programs for the exact reasons you mentioned .

Edited to delete a space after the @.

 

 

Marzipan13

jalyndani said:

Inkdancer said:

Marzipan13 said:

10) Disagree!  For me, the rehearsal dinner is a special, intimate dinner with the people who you handpicked to help make your wedding awesome.  Even if you're not having a rehearsal, I still like the idea of a rehearsal dinner for them.  

I tend to think of a rehearsal dinner this way too. Unfortunately my FILs think of them as some kind of family reunion and want to invite their entire side to the RD! Um, no. If we do that we might as well get married the day before since 80% of the guests will already be there.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who had this problem.  We're getting married on a Friday with our rehearsal and RD on Thursday night. My FMIL wanted to "formally invite all of the out of town guests and family" to our RD. Um, newsflash. Everybody is considered "out of town" except my parents, sister, grandma, 2 uncles, and 3 cousins w/ their spouses (a total of 12 people out of the guest list of 70). Hell, if everyone can come into town on Thursday, we could have saved a shit-ton of money by getting married on Thursday instead of Friday. Thankfully I talked her out of this and we're just having immediate family and bridal party at the RD.  -----------------stuck in box----------------------------

Ugh, FI and I were having this exact problem, too.  FMIL actually said to me "Don't you think it would be the nice, welcoming thing to do if you invited all of the out-of-town guests?" 

First of all, I wasn't raised in a barn, FMIL - I know what's "nice & welcoming" and what isn't. Second of all, probably 85% of our guests are out-of-town.  Third of all, FI and I want a pleasant, intimate dinner with our best friends and immediate family; not a dinner with my obnoxious cousins, cranky grandparents, and pissy uncle.  Fourth of all, we already booked the restaurant and it only holds 30   (;

TL;DR - FMIL wanted everyone, nobody else did (not even FFIL, haha).  But it's resolved!  So thank heavens for that.

snikives

Hunger game themed wedding

 

Cause dystopian futures are SOOOO ROMANTIC AMIRIGHT?!?!?!?!

 

The ceremony will begin at 3:00PM and will end with a three fingered salute from the audience.

 

A very light dinner will follow, during which one tribute will be randomly selected from each table to do battle in the dinner hall for the amusement of the bridal party. The winner will be given an extra piece of cake.

Children are welcome.

The dress code is casual. Coal stains optional.

 

sarahufl

snikives said:

Hunger game themed wedding

 

Cause dystopian futures are SOOOO ROMANTIC AMIRIGHT?!?!?!?!

 

The ceremony will begin at 3:00PM and will end with a three fingered salute from the audience.

 

A very light dinner will follow, during which one tribute will be randomly selected from each table to do battle in the dinner hall for the amusement of the bridal party. The winner will be given an extra piece of cake.

Children are welcome.

The dress code is casual. Coal stains optional.

 

Anyone who wants a Hunger Games wedding has not, in fact, EVER read The Hunger Games.

happymellow

For me, what it boils down to is don't do something just because it's trendy or popular on Pinterest.  If mason jars hold a special meaning to you, have at it.  If you grew up on a farm and want to have it in a barn, enjoy!  But do it because it's special for you.  Not because it looks cute on Pinterest.

HaileyDancingbear

snikives said:

Hunger game themed wedding

 

Cause dystopian futures are SOOOO ROMANTIC AMIRIGHT?!?!?!?!

 

The ceremony will begin at 3:00PM and will end with a three fingered salute from the audience.

 

A very light dinner will follow, during which one tribute will be randomly selected from each table to do battle in the dinner hall for the amusement of the bridal party. The winner will be given an extra piece of cake.

Children are welcome.

The dress code is casual. Coal stains optional.

 

BRB I'm off to get a big pile of books to burn for my Fahrenheit 451 themed wedding.  I'll have The Hound for security, wedding crashers beware.

CaitlinGriffin

Chipmunk415 said:

AuroraRose41 said:

Okay, how about a cake topper then? Artistically speaking, the level of detail is great. But, what theme would this even go with?????

I'm guessing for the local taxidermist?

thats not even a cake topper they are called charming tails I collected them when i was little

AuroraRose41

@CaitlinGriffin apparently there are Pinterest users who think it is a cake topper....I have seen it a few times now and the comments are always "OMG this would be such a cute cake topper!!!!!!!!!" or along those lines.

AuroraRose41

Also, I just came across this [CLICKY] with the caption "The Princess Bride! I love it!!!!!!!" (I pinterest way too much...but I have some great bridal shower ideas for my friend now!). Why would you quote a movie scene where the bride is not happy about the marriage and the groom plans to kill the bride afterward? Am I missing the romance behind this quote?

 

hellohkb

AuroraRose41 I've noticed the Princess Bride is a major trend and have seen it on Pinterest, Offbeat Bride, and a few other places. I've never seen the movie, so I didn't know about that stuff! Interesting...

AuroraRose41

@hellokellybean it is a romantic movie, but [SPOILER ALERT] the good guy rescues the princess from being married to an evil prince basically. So the marriage scene is actually between the princess and the villian! I can understand the romance of the "knight in shining armor rescuing his princess", but why quote a scene where the main character is being forced to marry someone? That's not exactly what I think most people now would want to associate their wedding with......

Inkdancer

AuroraRose41 said:

@hellokellybean it is a romantic movie, but [SPOILER ALERT] the good guy rescues the princess from being married to an evil prince basically. So the marriage scene is actually between the princess and the villian! I can understand the romance of the "knight in shining armor rescuing his princess", but why quote a scene where the main character is being forced to marry someone? That's not exactly what I think most people now would want to associate their wedding with......

We thought about it because it's one of our favorite scenes in one of our favorite movies.

HeatherKat

sarahufl said:

snikives said:

Hunger game themed wedding

 

Cause dystopian futures are SOOOO ROMANTIC AMIRIGHT?!?!?!?!

 

The ceremony will begin at 3:00PM and will end with a three fingered salute from the audience.

 

A very light dinner will follow, during which one tribute will be randomly selected from each table to do battle in the dinner hall for the amusement of the bridal party. The winner will be given an extra piece of cake.

Children are welcome.

The dress code is casual. Coal stains optional.

 

Anyone who wants a Hunger Games wedding has not, in fact, EVER read The Hunger Games.

THIS. See also: The Great Gatsby.

mlemoe03

This bothers me to no end...Because if he doesn't show outward emotion, clearly he doesn't care, right? And if I go back and do it again, he's going to be so overcome with emotion seeing me the second time in 30 seconds, he's going to cry

pinkshorts27

mlemoe03 said:

This bothers me to no end...Because if he doesn't show outward emotion, clearly he doesn't care, right? And if I go back and do it again, he's going to be so overcome with emotion seeing me the second time in 30 seconds, he's going to cry

he is going to be so overcome with emotion because he realizes he is marrying a spoiled brat.... oh, that was mean.

CaitlinGriffin

AuroraRose41 said:

@CaitlinGriffin apparently there are Pinterest users who think it is a cake topper....I have seen it a few times now and the comments are always "OMG this would be such a cute cake topper!!!!!!!!!" or along those lines.

those people are stupid and if they're going to do it they have cuter less omg wtf is going on here ones

tcnoble

I think it's very plausible that many of this "younger" generation (I include myself in that at 25, but I'm talking younger) did NOT read The Great Gatsby in school. I didn't read it in high school. I finally read it the summer I turned 22. So if they haven't read it, they ZERO clue that it really isn't all that romantic and suitable as a "wedding theme." They just saw Leonardo DiCaprio looking hot and liked the outfits from the movie.

And The Hunger Games? really? Maybe for your high school costume party but for a WEDDING?? I get it - the love story is so sweet it may induce vomit. But what part of minors being subjected to killing each other makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside? I did read the books and I LOVE them but come on now kids.

I think a lot is to blame on this idea (not sure where it stems from) that your wedding must have a "THEME" and decor to match it and god forbid costume-like clothing. Why why whyyyyy.

Also the cake toppers that show the bride dragging the groom away from a scene. Yep, that's what I want everyone's impression to be on my wedding day. UGH.

Inkdancer

tcnoble said:

I think it's very plausible that many of this "younger" generation (I include myself in that at 25, but I'm talking younger) did NOT read The Great Gatsby in school. I didn't read it in high school. I finally read it the summer I turned 22. So if they haven't read it, they ZERO clue that it really isn't all that romantic and suitable as a "wedding theme." They just saw Leonardo DiCaprio looking hot and liked the outfits from the movie.

And The Hunger Games? really? Maybe for your high school costume party but for a WEDDING?? I get it - the love story is so sweet it may induce vomit. But what part of minors being subjected to killing each other makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside? I did read the books and I LOVE them but come on now kids.

I think a lot is to blame on this idea (not sure where it stems from) that your wedding must have a "THEME" and decor to match it and god forbid costume-like clothing. Why why whyyyyy.

Also the cake toppers that show the bride dragging the groom away from a scene. Yep, that's what I want everyone's impression to be on my wedding day. UGH.

Throwing bread at me is an effective method of courtship.

HaileyDancingbear

tcnoble said:

I think it's very plausible that many of this "younger" generation (I include myself in that at 25, but I'm talking younger) did NOT read The Great Gatsby in school. I didn't read it in high school. I finally read it the summer I turned 22. So if they haven't read it, they ZERO clue that it really isn't all that romantic and suitable as a "wedding theme." They just saw Leonardo DiCaprio looking hot and liked the outfits from the movie.

And The Hunger Games? really? Maybe for your high school costume party but for a WEDDING?? I get it - the love story is so sweet it may induce vomit. But what part of minors being subjected to killing each other makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside? I did read the books and I LOVE them but come on now kids.

I think a lot is to blame on this idea (not sure where it stems from) that your wedding must have a "THEME" and decor to match it and god forbid costume-like clothing. Why why whyyyyy.

Also the cake toppers that show the bride dragging the groom away from a scene. Yep, that's what I want everyone's impression to be on my wedding day. UGH.

It irritates me to no end when people go out of their way to do something inspired by a book they didn't read.  Great gatsby weddings for instance- Anyone who read the book wouldn't want to compare their romance to Gatsby and Daisy, given that it fails so she can end up with her abusive husband in the end and he DIES because of that stupid airhead.  But people are just like "Omg guys this theme is glamourous AND it makes it look like I read books!!!!!"

The only thing more annoying is Catcher in the Rye themed clothing.  Not only does wearing a book cover on your shirt just scream "I'm an AW and I want you to know I read books lol I'm so smarttttt" but anyone who read Catcher in the Rye, or knew ANYTHING whatsoever about JD Salinger  (And how he was so against commercializing the book he didn't even want a movie made) would see how ridiculous it is to buy a Catcher in the Rye shirt.  So by wearing one you're basically saying "Hey guys, I want to seem like I'm well-read and smart but really I have no fucking clue what this book is even about.  I'm a giant phony, and I am probably wearing fake glasses too."  

MrsAitch

tcnoble said:

I think a lot is to blame on this idea (not sure where it stems from) that your wedding must have a "THEME" and decor to match it and god forbid costume-like clothing. Why why whyyyyy.

I blame David Tutera and Four Weddings. Those shows pretty much won't feature a wedding that isn't themed. Pintrest certainly isn't helping the situation.

Also now I desperately wish I had cable so I could watch bride night on TLC...I haven't watched any wedding TV shows since we got engaged. Something Borrowed or Something New was my favorite.

offthemarket915

Ok now I've seen everything.

thelastdreamer

THANK YOU to everyone who said that Gatsby is a ridiculous theme for a wedding because it is not a love story you'd ever want to base your marriage on! I read Gatsby in high school and I just think it's so silly that because there was a movie about it, now everyone needs to have a wedding based on it. Gag. 

Also, I have always loved yellow gold and preferred it over silver tones. I've wanted a yellow gold E-ring since I started thinking about it. Now, since yellow gold has become associate with Gatsby for whatever reason, people are like "OMG your ring is so Gatsby!" WTF? No, it is not. Also, people keep thinking I'm having a "Gatsby wedding" because I'm using a lot of gold and getting married in a building that apparently is "art deco." UGH. No, we chose this building because it's an old train station and FI loves trains, and we're using yellow gold because I like it. Our wedding is not some weird costume party based off a movie, and no, you should not dress like a flapper girl to it.

FML. 

offthemarket915

MrsAitch said:

tcnoble said:

I think a lot is to blame on this idea (not sure where it stems from) that your wedding must have a "THEME" and decor to match it and god forbid costume-like clothing. Why why whyyyyy.

I blame David Tutera and Four Weddings. Those shows pretty much won't feature a wedding that isn't themed. Pintrest certainly isn't helping the situation.

Also now I desperately wish I had cable so I could watch bride night on TLC...I haven't watched any wedding TV shows since we got engaged. Something Borrowed or Something New was my favorite.

I think they're to blame too.  And I really dislike the literal interpretation of themes that they often portray.... what is this, a sweet sixteen?