The worst wedding trends on Pinterest...

aspoonfulofsugar

http://www.weddingpartyapp.com/blog/2013/03/19/10-ways-to-be-the-coolest-bride-ever-from-your-future-bridesmaid-planning-humor-advice-etiquette-cool-laid-back-bridezilla/

I just came across this article.  Really?  "Pay for my hair,"  "Shower me with gifts."  Ack!

sarahufl

kaitlinLs said:

http://www.weddingpartyapp.com/blog/2013/03/19/10-ways-to-be-the-coolest-bride-ever-from-your-future-bridesmaid-planning-humor-advice-etiquette-cool-laid-back-bridezilla/

I just came across this article.  Really?  "Pay for my hair,"  "Shower me with gifts."  Ack!

7. Warn me of creepy groomsmen, or set me up with the hottie if I’m single! I’d love to have the best time possible at your big day.

Really?! REALLY!?

hellohkb

sarahufl said:

kaitlinLs said:

http://www.weddingpartyapp.com/blog/2013/03/19/10-ways-to-be-the-coolest-bride-ever-from-your-future-bridesmaid-planning-humor-advice-etiquette-cool-laid-back-bridezilla/

I just came across this article.  Really?  "Pay for my hair,"  "Shower me with gifts."  Ack!

7. Warn me of creepy groomsmen, or set me up with the hottie if I’m single! I’d love to have the best time possible at your big day.

Really?! REALLY!?

Because the only way to have a best time at your wedding is through a man!

sarahufl

hellokellybean said:

sarahufl said:

kaitlinLs said:

http://www.weddingpartyapp.com/blog/2013/03/19/10-ways-to-be-the-coolest-bride-ever-from-your-future-bridesmaid-planning-humor-advice-etiquette-cool-laid-back-bridezilla/

I just came across this article.  Really?  "Pay for my hair,"  "Shower me with gifts."  Ack!

7. Warn me of creepy groomsmen, or set me up with the hottie if I’m single! I’d love to have the best time possible at your big day.

Really?! REALLY!?

Because the only way to have a best time at your wedding is through a man!

and/or just because they are single they will LIKE ME! Sigh. Weddings bring out the WORST in people!

jalyndani

After reading this thread... It looks like I need to rethink my entire wedding. I had no idea that some of the design concepts that I chose to implement because they reflected our personalities/ and identity as a couple were so hated by the general public. Wow. For example: My FH's last name is also the name of one of those mason jar manufacturing companies. We thought incorporating them in moderation in our simple, rustic country (NOT redneck or hillbilly- there's a difference) wedding would be cute and creative. I didn't realize it was a hated "trend".

KeptInStitches

@jalyndani, It's different if it means something to you. If you're only using details because you saw them on Pinterest, then it doesn't mean anything. For example, since your FI's last name is the name of a mason jar manufacturing company, a few mason jars could be a nice touch.

sarahufl

jalyndani said:

After reading this thread... It looks like I need to rethink my entire wedding. I had no idea that some of the design concepts that I chose to implement because they reflected our personalities/ and identity as a couple were so hated by the general public. Wow. For example: My FH's last name is also the name of one of those mason jar manufacturing companies. We thought incorporating them in moderation in our simple, rustic country (NOT redneck or hillbilly- there's a difference) wedding would be cute and creative. I didn't realize it was a hated "trend".

I wouldn't worry about it. My bridesmaids are wearing grey dresses and yellow shoes- someone on here said that was the worst thing ever. I don't really care and am doing it anyway. I am not doing it because I love Pinterest, just because I like the combo.

antoto

kaitlinLs said:

http://www.pinterest.com/pin/233202086925273339/

These.  

A) My mom would slap me if I gave this to her and tell me to get my sh*t together (not really, but she's not the overly-emotional type).

Yeah, I love my Dad but I think it strange with all of this "He's the first man I loved."

Yes!!  All of the hankies with the "You were the first man I ever loved" or "I'll always be your little girl" messages on them make my gag reflex work.  It's creepy and weird and omg I am not a little girl.

hikebikebemerry

prettybirdy27 said:

I'm a little late to the party, but I absolutely abhor all the jokes at the groom's expense like "this is the last time you'll ever getthe last word."  I was at a wedding last fall where that seemed to be the theme of their wedding, even the officiant made a joke about it at the ceremony.  Thing is, that bride was a complete bitch and control freak and forced the groom to change in a bunch of ways, so I guess I"m not surprised that it was emphasized so much.

Not a pinterest thing, but I hate it when the officiant jokes during the ceremony at all.  This is serious shit, don't be cracking jokes.

I do hate the pinterest thing of boots (cowboy, wellies, or other) with the wedding dress.  It just doesn't go.

 

I have mixed feelings about this.  Some people it just reflects their personalities, so it makes sense.  That being said, there should be no jokes when talking about the vows, and ill-timed or ill-humored jokes are never appreciated.  If my officiant told a light-hearted story about us that resulted in some laughter, I'm fine with that.  If the officiant did something to the extent of, "to love, honor, and obey *guffaw*", I would be furious.

tcnoble

On a related note... My friend attended a wedding where the bride wouldn't say "and for poorer..." and everyone did that awkward laugh like ha..ha..not funny..

Megusler

My close friends' officiant did the joking thing to a level where I was extremely uncomfortable. It didn't help that this pastor was chosen because the church was pretty and not because the couple shared his or the churches'  opinions. He took the wedding as a moment to say something about same sex marriage and the one true God. Not realizing that the best man was Jewish and the other groomsman  was gay. Needless to say those of us of the younger generation were very uncomfortable, but it made the grooms family happy to have their views reinforced.  :-P

FiancB

prettybirdy27 said:

I do hate the pinterest thing of boots (cowboy, wellies, or other) with the wedding dress.  It just doesn't go.

 

This kind of relates to what @jalyndani said with the mason jars... I'm wearing boots at my wedding. However, I'm from a small town, my parents were ranchers, and I used to be a horse trainer and still ride so it makes sense, it's "me". Plus my dress is the one in my avatar and no one's going to see them unless I lift it up. I do hate that it's a trend- I thought of doing this a long time ago, way before pinterest was a thing. I agree it looks hideous when they actually show, or when the BMs have to wear them. 

I actually love the idea of getting married in a barn but now if I do it I'll look like every other prat on pinterest. And unfortunately since it's a fad every barn out there that would be a good place to have a wedding now charges an arm and a leg. To get married in a barn. Kind of defeats the point of rustic, no?

These bachelorette invites I keep seeing are weird:

For one, I get that bachelorettes are supposed to be a little naughty, but half my bms are my sisters and it's just weird. That and it's like "buy me this!"

jalyndani

@FiancB  Agreed. My family is in cattle ranching. I literally grew up in a barn. I absolutely LOATHE all these people coming out of the woodwork to have a "country wedding" with matching boots on the bridesmaids and bride when NONE OF THEM have ever even touched a horse, a cow, or any livestock for that matter. It's not a fashion style, it's a way a life. Boots were designed with a practical purpose, not for the trendy bride. However, despite my ranching lifestyle, I'M not even wearing boots for my ceremony, only to dance in for my reception. Nobody is wearing boots as part of a matching "costume". Ugh. Just ugh. Like you said, boots- and mason jars- were a part of my wedding "vision" long before Pinterest ever existed. 

Inkdancer

jalyndani said:

@FiancB  Agreed. My family is in cattle ranching. I literally grew up in a barn. I absolutely LOATHE all these people coming out of the woodwork to have a "country wedding" with matching boots on the bridesmaids and bride when NONE OF THEM have ever even touched a horse, a cow, or any livestock for that matter. It's not a fashion style, it's a way a life. Boots were designed with a practical purpose, not for the trendy bride. However, despite my ranching lifestyle, I'M not even wearing boots for my ceremony, only to dance in for my reception. Nobody is wearing boots as part of a matching "costume". Ugh. Just ugh. Like you said, boots- and mason jars- were a part of my wedding "vision" long before Pinterest ever existed. 

I am totally okay with people doing it when it's a way of life for them. I grew up drinking out of mason jars because that's just what you did. You got nice glasses when you got married and if they broke, you just used jars. I still have a bunch of jars to drink from, even though I live in the city and can go to Target whenever I want, because they're my great grandma's jars and I love them.

What bugs me is the people who think "oh this is a good idea, but I don't want plain mason jars, let's wrap them in burlap and lace and make them pretty! and this table is nice and rustic but I don't want splinters, let's cover that with lace too" and suddenly all of my family's culture of having a farm with hay and feed sacks and mason jars gets subsumed into this "rustic picturesque" concept that has no emotion behind it.

tcnoble

jalyndani said:

@FiancB  Agreed. My family is in cattle ranching. I literally grew up in a barn. I absolutely LOATHE all these people coming out of the woodwork to have a "country wedding" with matching boots on the bridesmaids and bride when NONE OF THEM have ever even touched a horse, a cow, or any livestock for that matter. It's not a fashion style, it's a way a life. Boots were designed with a practical purpose, not for the trendy bride. However, despite my ranching lifestyle, I'M not even wearing boots for my ceremony, only to dance in for my reception. Nobody is wearing boots as part of a matching "costume". Ugh. Just ugh. Like you said, boots- and mason jars- were a part of my wedding "vision" long before Pinterest ever existed. 

THIS. SO MUCH THIS.

I've been riding horses for 15+  years and while yep, I love my boots and how comfortable they are, putting my BMs in them would be such a charade as most of them wouldn't know the front end of a horse from the back. And really... from my experience, these "fashionable" cowgirl boots aren't even the least bit comfortable, nothing compared to real worked in boots, and not something I would want myself or my BMs wearing for hours.

Pinterest has taken a lot of things and turned them from purposeful, REAL parts of life in to decor and props. Boo.

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I think there's big different between using things that are trendy and using things that have meaning. I too hate the country trend because it seems to be most loved by girls who can't stand to get dirty...but I don't think anyone here is hating on something that actually has meaning to you.

 

Marzipan13

I'm also getting really sick of seeing "Ways to Propose to Your Bridesmaids!" posts on Pinterest.  
Really?!  Call me cynical and no fun, but I just asked mine whenever I saw them after we got engaged.  When I asked my MOH, we were at a bar just hanging out, the bartender overheard us, and gave us each a drink on the house.
Now isn't that much better than this shit?  (see pic)

sarahufl

Marzipan13 said:

I'm also getting really sick of seeing "Ways to Propose to Your Bridesmaids!" posts on Pinterest.  
Really?!  Call me cynical and no fun, but I just asked mine whenever I saw them after we got engaged.  When I asked my MOH, we were at a bar just hanging out, the bartender overheard us, and gave us each a drink on the house.

Now isn't that much better than this shit?  (see pic)

Now, this is something I just REALLY don't understand. Why do people send these elaborate gifts to people? I can't even remember how I asked, but I am pretty sure I was having a casual convo with SIL and said we decided to just have family- then I realized I forgot to actually ASK her! lol. We had a good laugh about it then started talking about shoes.

flyingfoxes

Marzipan13 said:

@kasmith1 @GlitterWitch22

Hahahah...  I have to tell this to people all the time, too.  A theme?  Really?  We have to have a theme?   That's fantastic if it can work for some couples, but I think you walk a very fine line between being cute and being cheesy.  FI and I are both musicians, so everyone thinks we're DEFINITELY going to have a music-themed wedding.  Not so!  We're having a wedding themed wedding, with good music of course (;

This.  One friend asked if I was doing a tropical theme because of the two colors I picked (Oasis and Punch from David's Bridal - I had to not pick the same colors as my sister who's getting married this summer).  No - I just like the colors.  I don't want a "theme".  

clueclaw.defunct635777689035314155

Musikalbunni said:

I've never understood this one. Is this for the photo album? Or is this for the groom/guests to read it at the wedding?

If for the wedding album-it seems like a stupid idea since the groom already saw her ____ days ago so this photo opt is the stupidest idea ever.

If for groom/guests to read at the wedding...then it's just dumb. 

I've seen that with the caption to send to the groom a little before the ceremony. In that sense I guess it is cute, but what if he is not paying attention to his phone.

Marzipan13

AND THIS.

I'm sorry, I thought this was a wedding ceremony, not a daycare?
I get that couples want to be unique & fun & cute... but... really?  

(and is that lower, far left one... a Jesus action figure...?)  

aspoonfulofsugar

@marzipan13 omG (no pun intended?) that is Jesus!

grumbledore

I think it's Buddy Christ from Dogma.

rajahmd

grumbledore said:

I think it's Buddy Christ from Dogma.

I think you're right. Which makes me absurdly happy. I love that movie.

McCMal

I'm using mason jars and burlap. I love it. 

Of course, we're farmers, and are getting married at an original homesteaded church on our property. And I'm using our wheat and lavender I grew myself for flowers, and need something else besides that for the reception. And I'll reuse everything at home. 

Everyone in the 70's had full sleeve lace dresses that were poofy, and had powder blue tuxes. Every generation has it's themes. I'm not ashamed of using ours because, well it actually fits us PERFECTLY

McCMal

jalyndani said:

@FiancB  Agreed. My family is in cattle ranching. I literally grew up in a barn. I absolutely LOATHE all these people coming out of the woodwork to have a "country wedding" with matching boots on the bridesmaids and bride when NONE OF THEM have ever even touched a horse, a cow, or any livestock for that matter. It's not a fashion style, it's a way a life. Boots were designed with a practical purpose, not for the trendy bride. However, despite my ranching lifestyle, I'M not even wearing boots for my ceremony, only to dance in for my reception. Nobody is wearing boots as part of a matching "costume". Ugh. Just ugh. Like you said, boots- and mason jars- were a part of my wedding "vision" long before Pinterest ever existed. 

partially Agreed. I am wearing boots, mostly because, well I have a pair of white ones that I wear for good occasions, I need them to dance in, and I actually haven't worn a pair of shoes that weren't boots for three years. Also, I'm 5'9. I can't wear heels, even if I tried. 

My bridesmaids are too. They're all comfortable in them. My wedding is laid back, the guys are wearing vests and white shirts. My fiance HATES suits. He requested that I tell everyone not to wear a suit. His sister (My maid of honor) hates dresses, and that was one thing I wasn't going to budge on. She has no problem wearing one though, and I figured that she'd be more comfortable with the boots too. 

aannndd the wedding is outside. In the dirt/grass. Have fun keeping goat heads out of your sandals or flats. 

Also, burlap, mason jars, big part of my wedding. Again, it's because it's what I love and hey, we're FARMERS. 

Inkdancer

BuckarooChaser said:

I'm using mason jars and burlap. I love it. 

Of course, we're farmers, and are getting married at an original homesteaded church on our property. And I'm using our wheat and lavender I grew myself for flowers, and need something else besides that for the reception. And I'll reuse everything at home. 

Everyone in the 70's had full sleeve lace dresses that were poofy, and had powder blue tuxes. Every generation has it's themes. I'm not ashamed of using ours because, well it actually fits us PERFECTLY

I think if you actually own a farm, this is adorable.

I just think it's hilarious when born and bred city girls want to wear big fancy ballgowns in a dirt-floored barn. Like, you know animals poo in there, right?

Marzipan13

Wow, Pinterest is cranking out some real special winners lately...

WHAT THE HELL IS THIS.  IS THIS EVEN SUPPOSED TO BE FUNNY?!  THIS ACTUALLY MAKES ME NAUSEOUS.  Maybe this would be funny to parents to whom money is no object?  I don't get it. It comes across as ungrateful and "daddy's princess"-y.  I don't know how else to describe its tackiness, except with a *barf*

tesgirl123

I had my nails done when my FI proposed but only because I suspected it was coming, when he randomly suggested going away to Atlantic City for a weekend, but there was no photographer there so I guess I shouldn't have said yes.

I really hate the signage about picking a seat and not a side. Sides make it easier for me to spot my friends/family in the crowd.  

I also roll my eyes at the "powerful" pics of people praying together before the wedding.   I'm not super religious and am a bitch, so sue me.

Trash the dress shoots also drive me crazy.   You spent hundreds, if not well over a thousand dollars on your dress, veil, alterations, and you are going to destroy it?   WTF is wrong with you?   Donate the dress to a returning soldier or his FI.   Sell it or something, but don't destroy it.

Inkdancer

tesgirl123 said:

I had my nails done when my FI proposed but only because I suspected it was coming, when he randomly suggested going away to Atlantic City for a weekend, but there was no photographer there so I guess I shouldn't have said yes.

I really hate the signage about picking a seat and not a side. Sides make it easier for me to spot my friends/family in the crowd.  

I also roll my eyes at the "powerful" pics of people praying together before the wedding.   I'm not super religious and am a bitch, so sue me.

Trash the dress shoots also drive me crazy.   You spent hundreds, if not well over a thousand dollars on your dress, veil, alterations, and you are going to destroy it?   WTF is wrong with you?   Donate the dress to a returning soldier or his FI.   Sell it or something, but don't destroy it.

Re: the "pick a seat not a side" thing-- my "side" is going to be about 40 people, max. My FI's "side" is about 80. I really don't want to look out there and realize that none of my family cared enough about me to show up, and FI's family is there in droves. I'd rather just have everyone sit where there's a chair.

Totally with you on the "trash the dress" though... there are so many people who could benefit from a discounted/ gently used dress, but no, you had to have a stupid photo shoot where you ruin it on purpose.