Want to be one of you

krissymcmahon

Yeah, I looked at your profile and saw your ring. It's really nice. No, I'm just from a city where racism is really bad - on both sides. I'm only there for school and once me and my FI are done we are getting out of there. It would be a beautiful place if people would grow up (and maybe lay off the pills). It's nothing like Compton I'm sure but you can't really go anywhere (especially at night) without some coked out loser trying to fight you. The gang violence is a joke but it's still scary to not find a "good" neighbourhood anywhere =\

I know not all girls asked for them. I'm only 21, my FI was 20 when he proposed. I'm two, almost 3 months older. We're also both in university. I honestly didn't expect him to propose for another few years for this reason. I knew he would it was just when he would.

I think it was just her "story" that bothered me about the big ring thing. She just didn't seem grateful to have someone love her and needed a "giant rock" for him to prove he loved her.

vegasgroom

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_want-one-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:6cab8d1b-2d1f-4f3a-97fb-1e06e0f10a61Post:c31d627c-38eb-4cb8-9244-b8e322c75531">Re: Want to be one of you</a>:
[QUOTE]And some of us are older and at a more financialy stable place in our lives because of that.  If I had gotten engaged before I was 26 I am sure the diamond would have been smaller.  FI and I are both out of college and well into our careers.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

If I had gotten engaged at 24 instead of 34, FI's ring would have been dramatically different.  I hope she's not secretly unhappy that I got her an ugly ring; I'm going to have to start watching KPS now.

aprovencher21

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_want-one-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:6cab8d1b-2d1f-4f3a-97fb-1e06e0f10a61Post:aaae23e5-10b4-4971-9450-a1c930e7f433">Re: Want to be one of you</a>:
[QUOTE]Nope. I don't know anyone with a giant e-ring but then again I'm from a small town where people are barely surviving due to no jobs and the city I actually live in right now - I avoid most people because everyone threatens to stab one another. Most people I know and associate myself with are students or broke because of the lack of jobs. I'm not saying you threw a fit because it wasn't big enough but OP clearly did. I'm sure you have a beautiful ring. I agree - a twist tie would look weird. I was speaking on how he didn't need an expensive ring for me to say yes. It reminds me of that Simpons episode where Homer puts an onion ring on Marge. <a href="http://www.shapirodiamonds.com/galleryimages/white/4.11big.jpg" rel="nofollow">http://www.shapirodiamonds.com/galleryimages/white/4.11big.jpg</a> This is what I would think is ugly and a tad overdone but that's just my taste. I'm sure someone out there thinks my ring is ugly and so be it. This is what I picture when someone tells me "giant rock". Clearly, not everyone who has a "giant rock" has one this big but that is what I would consider to be an ugly ring.
Posted by krissymcmahon[/QUOTE]


Well I loved the ring you think is ugly.  Interesting.  I think the point we;re trying to make is that its not okay to judge the size of the diamond and the girls who have them (unless they've done something ungodly judge-worthy....such as telling her FI to get a bigger stone). 

jollcm18

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Want to be one of you : Well I loved the ring you think is ugly.  Interesting.  I think the point we;re trying to make is that its not okay to judge the size of the diamond and the girls who have them (unless they've done something ungodly judge-worthy....such as telling her FI to get a bigger stone). 
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]


I agree - it's not about the size of the ring, it's about someone saying theirs is not good enough. My friends have e-rings that are not my style, but I still think they are beautiful because of what they represent. 

My fiance and I looked at rings for like a year before he asked.  Some of the ones he looked at were not my style, but I would have been thrilled to get it anyway.  In fact, I even told my Fiance that a twist tie would be good enough.  All that mattered was that he MEANT it when he asked me.

I have been engaged before and later found out that I was asked because he thought that was "what I wanted".  Been  there, done that.  And didn't want to do it again.   I love the ring that I got, but the most important part is that I'm with someone that truly wants to be with me, and the ring is just a bonus.