Cookie cutter TK advice you hate.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cookie cutter TK advice you hate. : Those are good examples of clear cut-offs, IMO. But maybe I'm too relaxed on that one for some people. :)
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

In my post I meant clear age cut offs, sorry.  But I agree.  If you're closer to one friend's kid than another, I don't see the big deal there either.

Your point makes sense, East--and I would hope that someone who would choose to not serve alcohol wouldn't be an idiot and have a NYE wedding, but I could definitely think of worse things.  Like an open bar and crappy/not enough food.  I'd prefer good food and lots of it to alcohol.  But I'm not typically a huge drinker (perhaps why I was so miserable yesterday).

Wrkn925

I'll probably ask for my Dad for help paying for the wedding.  It will be a carefully planned, gentle request with an easy out if he's not interested.
I think I'm close enough to him for us to have an honest conversation about it.

I've been to a wedding with a cash bar.  It was before I started posting here, and I didn't know it was 'bad'. I had fun and didn't care. 

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]Oh, I think my #1 thing I don't care about is if you were already married or not so the JOP then party doesn't bother me. However, I love how TK has changed me. Over the holidays SIL was talking about how she really really really doesn't want to be the centre of attention so she doesn't want a ceremony at all. She wants to go to the court house, just her and whomever she ends up marrying and then have a big party. She said she didn't even want her parents/family there. She also doesn't want BMs or anything, or even a big white dress. She just wants to have a wicked party. I told her that her guests would feel shafted.  But then in hindsight, I don't think that is fair, because if she doesn't want to be the centre of attention I get that. And if she still wants to throw a huge party, more power to her.   Of course, my favourite thing in all this is that she is single. I wanted a tiny destination wedding or JOP before I met DH (and have you SEEN my wedding pics?)...he is the one who wanted a huge wedding (it wasn't huge # wise but it was an event)...I bet ya that she will end up with someone who wants a traditonal ceremony and stuff...ha! edited for better word choice that didn't have negative connotations.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

And see, I think that's cool.  It's not like she's saying "well some of you are good enough to come, and some of you aren't"  She doesn't want ANYONE there, and then she wants to throw a kickass party?  Hell yeah I'll go to her kickass party! 

However, I could see being upset as parents or siblings to not be there.

katiewhompus

* It's inconsiderate to have a Friday/Sunday wedding (know your guests)

* You are being a bad hostess by not having a fully stocked open bar (again, know your guests)

* This is a less popular one but I do get annoyed when people come in concerned because they have a bsc relative and want to know how to lessen the amount of bsc they release at the wedding and are told "Oh no one will notice, they just pay attention to the bride". No, if they are truly bsc they probably will notice.

* Guests will eat what you give them.- Granted this has become a new problem for me, but now I see why people get annoyed when dietary restrictions aren't considered. You don't need to go all out and make a different 5 course meal for everyone, but I've been to 5 parties in the past 6 months where I couldn't eat anything, not even a salad, and it bummed me out and resulted in us leaving early because I was starving.

Steph0871

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[QUOTE]When the OP has already said their parents have offered money and they just need to know the tactful way to see if that offer still stands or how to ask mom and dad how they want to handle the payments, the first response is, "OMG, another one of these questions?? You can't just ask for money." Dude, read the post before you spout off.  There is a difference between straight out asking for money, and following up on an offer the parents already made.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh yeah.  This is the other one I was trying to remember.  I see no problem asking your parents if they're stil able to contribute, and if so, how much.  Assuming they've at least mentioned being able to help you pay at some point in the past.  If you have that open of a relationship with your parents that they're willing to help you pay for your wedding, and have already offered... then you should be able to ask them to confirm.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: I'm still totally against the people who complain their parents aren't contributing 'enough', etc.</div>

eastunder1

I think the whole "shop like its their birthday"  is a good idea just to not waste money on sh*t no one wants.  The wedding I was just in, the bride made us totes with all of the usual things that brides give out.  Tote bag, makeup bag with our initial on it,  jewelry to wear in the wedding, rubber flip flops.  How much of it will ever be used again by me?  zero.  Times that by eight and she's just wasted a lot of money.  I  would have rather she kept it and bought herself a nice wedding present then spend all this wasted money on stuff thats just going to end up in a bottom drawer never to be seen again. 

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]* It's inconsiderate to have a Friday/Sunday wedding (know your guests) * You are being a bad hostess by not having a fully stocked open bar (again, know your guests) * This is a less popular one but I do get annoyed when people come in concerned because they have a bsc relative and want to know how to lessen the amount of bsc they release at the wedding and are told "Oh no one will notice, they just pay attention to the bride". No, if they are truly bsc they probably will notice. * <strong>Guests will eat what you give them</strong>.- Granted this has become a new problem for me, but now I see why people get annoyed when dietary restrictions aren't considered. You don't need to go all out and make a different 5 course meal for everyone, but I've been to 5 parties in the past 6 months where I couldn't eat anything, not even a salad, and it bummed me out and resulted in us leaving early because I was starving.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

That annoys me too.

This is more of a general catered meal annoyance than a TK annoyance, but I hate "vegetarian option", it's not descriptive at all.  Vegetarian =/= pasta.  You wouldn't say "Meat eater's entree" so why is "Vegetarian" acceptable?  It annoys me, because sometimes I would rather not eat whatever chicken dish is offered, but there's no telling what "vegetarian" will end up being. 

number55

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[QUOTE]I bought all my bridesmaids matching jewelry and gift cards to VS. I've seen two of my bridesmaids wear the jewelry since the wedding, lol.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>I saw my SIL wearing her earring the other day and when I asked her about it both of my SILs said that they have worn their wedding jewelry on several occasions since the wedding. </div><div>
</div><div>I am fairly certain that my MOH and DHs best woman will never ever wear their jewelry again since it isn't their stye (MOH actually mentioned the day before the wedding that she had brought a different pair of earring for the reception because she figured the photos would be done by then, it rubbed me the wrong way, that should couldn't at least just pretend that my choice in jewelry was okay for 8 hours but whatever, I said it was fine and she never remembered to change them).</div>

arwo

I hate the idea that correct etiquette is always black and white. Yes, it's true that there are books on etiquette that will tell you "this is good" and "such and such is bad" but those things vary between books, and etiquette certainly changes over time.

I honestly think the real point of any etiquette is to make people feel comfortable in social situations--so the best way to judge whether something is a good idea or not is to think about if it will make anyone (guests, parents, whoever) uncomfortable. Will your guests feel uncomfortable if you do a dollar dance or a honeymoon registry or a wedding party dance? If so, then don't do it! And of course, I know that sometimes it's hard to predict, or there's no way around making SOMEONE feel uncomfortable, and in those cases sometimes you just have to make a judgment call.

number55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cookie cutter TK advice you hate. : That annoys me too. This is more of a general catered meal annoyance than a TK annoyance, but I hate "vegetarian option", it's not descriptive at all.  Vegetarian =/= pasta.  You wouldn't say "Meat eater's entree" so why is "Vegetarian" acceptable?  It annoys me, because sometimes I would rather not eat whatever chicken dish is offered, but there's no telling what "vegetarian" will end up being. 
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]

<div>I was lucky, I had 3 vegetarians guests, I emailed them and gave them the 4 options the venue gave us and they chose one. I figured some don't eat dairy, one of mine is allergic to mushrooms...it was a little complicated but worth it so that they could eat something they liked. </div>

GreenPepperBurger

I hate when people judge you by your age. Yes, if you're 18 and you're engaged to your BF of 6 months, it's side-eye worthy. But not everyone under the age of 23 is BSC.

cha+ching

-If you pay for your own wedding, you get to plan the wedding exactly how you want. While I agree that this makes sense, I don't think its very diplomatic - especially if you live/deal with your parents/ILs a good bit. FI and I are paying for about 95% of our wedding (my parents are covering 2 (smaller ticket) things) but FI's mother would lose it if she didn't get at least some say so. She lives 3 blocks away from us and it would be miserable to upset her over something so petty (as most of her requests have been).

-If you want your BMs to wear certain shoes, have their hair done at the same place, etc, you pay. I have had to pay for my own shoes, dress, jewelry, make up, hair, etc. for every wedding I've been in. I think it comes with the territory of being a BM and why you know your BMs budget.

katiewhompus

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[QUOTE]-If you pay for your own wedding, you get to plan the wedding exactly how you want. While I agree that this makes sense, I don't think its very diplomatic - especially if you live/deal with your parents/ILs a good bit. FI and I are paying for about 95% of our wedding (my parents are covering 2 (smaller ticket) things) but FI's mother would lose it if she didn't get at least some say so. She lives 3 blocks away from us and<strong> it would be miserable to upset her over something so petty</strong> (as most of her requests have been). -If you want your BMs to wear certain shoes, have their hair done at the same place, etc, you pay. I have had to pay for my own shoes, dress, jewelry, make up, hair, etc. for every wedding I've been in. I think it comes with the territory of being a BM and why you know your BMs budget.
Posted by cha+ching[/QUOTE]

Picking your battles is such an important part of life. :)

Bkseller13

Number- Love your photos, especially your hair.  I've been hemming and hawing about what I want to do with mine, now I have a concrete idea. 

I really don't have anything new to add to the hate list.  People have it pretty well covered!  :-)

marriedfilingjointly

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[QUOTE]Ok, this one is flamable so I will try to explain it to the best I can (and if others catch my drift and can explain it better feel free). But sometimes hearing "at the end of the day you'll be married and that's all that matters" really bugs me. Yes I agree with the sentiment, and yes that's what is the most important thing about the day, but if shiit hits the fan I think most people would be upset about it. People have spent a lot of time and money with weddings so while the marriage is the important part, it doesn't make the bad things just disappear from memory.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

Yeah.  If someone says their mother pulled them to the floor by their hair and started a Jerry Springer style fight in the middle of the reception, saying "well you're married now and that's all that matters" is a bit insensitive. 

Steph0871

KW- I totally understand what you mean.  I think it's like J (?) said earlier though.... while you have every right to be upset about it, I might still side-eye your reaction to it.  If you whine and complain and say you have to have a redo wedding (someone on our club board said this, because her H was sick and left the reception early), that's ridiculous.

On the same note, I have uttered those words before on my local.  I think it was someone complaining that OMG her BM might wear different shoes or something ridiculous.  In the grand scheme of things, yes, "as long as you're married at the end of the day is all that matters" is true.  However, I think someone has every right in the world to be annoyed/pissed/hurt/upset if things go wrong.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]Ok, this one is flamable so I will try to explain it to the best I can (and if others catch my drift and can explain it better feel free). But sometimes hearing "at the end of the day you'll be married and that's all that matters" really bugs me. Yes I agree with the sentiment, and yes that's what is the most important thing about the day, but if shiit hits the fan I think most people would be upset about it. People have spent a lot of time and money with weddings so while the marriage is the important part, it doesn't make the bad things just disappear from memory.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

I agree with this too.  I mean - I think yes, at most weddings, tiny things go wrong here and there.  But you'd be hard pressed to find a couple who wouldn't be upset if their DJ canceled last minute or the bridesmaids dresses arrived all the wrong color.  I think it's okay to get upset at things - as long as you look at the situation and then just focus on "what can I do now to get past it," KWIM?

eastunder1

I think that makes sense Katie.  If my drunk uncle knocks over the dessert table and a bird doodies on my head, yeah I'll still be married but I'll also still always remember my drunk uncle knocking over the dessert table and a bird crapping on my head.  People put a lot of time and money into these things.  Its ok to want everything to go well, and its ok to be upset after the fact if something doesn't in a bad way. 

katiewhompus

Yeah, I just remembered a poster a ways back whose husband got drastically sick, forced himself through the ceremony then went to the ER. Everyone was all "Oh but all that matters is you're married!"

Yeah, but it still sucks that she and her husband spent the reception at the ER while everyone else stayed at the venue and went...so....how you doing...

anna.oskar

I don't like when people tell other people that their purchase or decision for their wedding is a "waste of money".

If it makes me happy and I have the cash to buy it, that doesn't sound like a real waste.  Buying cheap plastic handled but pretty cake servers that'll get tossed after the wedding, might be a bit of a waste but who cares.  I got a beautiful cake server set that a few people insisted on telling me was a waste of money.  Just because one person buys and throws away, doesn't mean that's what i'll do.  That darn server set will come out of the drawer for every celebration, every party, and hopefully will be handed to a grandchild one day so they can "cut" their own baby birthday cake.

I totally went on a rant and that probably made no sense.  What i'm saying is: just because something holds no value to you, doesn't mean it's not valuable to someone else.

number55

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[QUOTE]Number- Love your photos, especially your hair.  I've been hemming and hawing about what I want to do with mine, now I have a concrete idea.  I really don't have anything new to add to the hate list.  People have it pretty well covered!  :-)
Posted by Bkseller13[/QUOTE]

<div>thanks! :)</div>

MeaghanandMichael

After reading these, I think most of the advice here (while hated) can be perfectly appropriate. The only time I realllllly hate knot advice is when responders don't read the context of the situation or ask for more information.

The one I have been seeing people use a lot lately is the whole, "you get one day thing." I think it does suck to have your best friend or sister or whoever get married the same month as you. I think this mostly because it can be a real financial/time consuming hardship on guests who would attend both weddings and it would stink for people to have to chose between loved ones.

Another small one: when people say guests don't notice ugly rugs, banquet chairs, wall paper etc? I absolutely think they do. I don't think any one gives a flyingfluck, but let's not be naive here.

maratea

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[QUOTE]Yeah, I just remembered a poster a ways back whose husband got drastically sick, forced himself through the ceremony then went to the ER. Everyone was all "Oh but all that matters is you're married!" Yeah, but it still sucks that she and her husband spent the reception at the ER while everyone else stayed at the venue and went...so....how you doing...
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

This whole discussion made me think of my cousin's wedding- I don't remember any of it except when one of the centerpieces caught fire and everyone freaked out. It ruined the tablecloth and some serving ware I think.

"You can't have an hour long gap between the ceremony and reception. Think of the guests!" Yes, while some people might not be familiar with the area, they aren't stupid either. They'll figure out something to do. I don't see the big ass deal with a sizeable gap between the ceremony and reception. I kind of like it sometimes.

Celles

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[QUOTE]I eyeroll the whole" ZOMG you can't get JOP married and then have another ceremony!" Whatever. There are 100000 reasons people may need to do the legal thang first, but still want a special time with family and friends, and I don't begrudge anyone that so long as everyone involved knows what's up.
Posted by rhodesign[/QUOTE]

I agree.

I'm on board with the whole not lying about it thing, but I think that for a lot of people, the legal wedding <em>is</em> less meaningful than the spiritual or traditional ceremony.  I know my FI is one of them; he's upset with me for referring to our upcoming fake wedding as a fake wedding.  (Although we're on the opposite side -- ceremony first, then legal signing whenever his K-1 comes through.)

katiewhompus

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[QUOTE]I don't like when people tell other people that their purchase or decision for their wedding is a "waste of money". If it makes me happy and I have the cash to buy it, that doesn't sound like a real waste.  Buying cheap plastic handled but pretty cake servers that'll get tossed after the wedding, might be a bit of a waste but who cares.  I got a beautiful cake server set that a few people insisted on telling me was a waste of money.  Just because one person buys and throws away, doesn't mean that's what i'll do.  That darn server set will come out of the drawer for every celebration, every party, and hopefully will be handed to a grandchild one day so they can "cut" their own baby birthday cake. I totally went on a rant and that probably made no sense.  What i'm saying is: just because something holds no value to you, doesn't mean it's not valuable to someone else.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

I agree, it's all relative! It may not be my style to buy something uber expensive that someone else has, but really we're all spending money on one giant party so if you can afford it, have fun. If you are going to rag on other people for wasting money but didn't go jop it then I'm going to side-eye you.

number55

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[QUOTE]I don't like when people tell other people that their purchase or decision for their wedding is a "waste of money". If it makes me happy and I have the cash to buy it, that doesn't sound like a real waste.  Buying cheap plastic handled but pretty cake servers that'll get tossed after the wedding, might be a bit of a waste but who cares.  I got a beautiful cake server set that a few people insisted on telling me was a waste of money.  Just because one person buys and throws away, doesn't mean that's what i'll do.  That darn server set will come out of the drawer for every celebration, every party, and hopefully will be handed to a grandchild one day so they can "cut" their own baby birthday cake. I totally went on a rant and that probably made no sense.  What i'm saying is: just because something holds no value to you, doesn't mean it's not valuable to someone else.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I know what you mean...I am sort of the same way with decor. I don't love other people's decor ideas but I also don't expect them to like mine. I think it is a person choice kinda thing. 

</div>

marriedfilingjointly

Someone a few weeks ago said her SIL wanted to get married the day before her.  "You get one day" doesn't really work there.  What about her rehearsal?  What about the 3 hour drive between the two weddings?  That's kind of a big deal.  Maybe we should change "you get one day" to "you get one weekend."

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]Why do people seem to think that having children in your wedding party means you are 'forcing them' to perform or be there or something. Some kids love that stuff and some don't. Just know your kids, right?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Exactly!  My niece was SO excited to be a flowergirl. She had been bugging me to get married (even before I met my H) so she could do it. I think the 7 year old might have shanked me had I chosen not to have one.

number55

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[QUOTE]Someone a few weeks ago said her SIL wanted to get married the day before her.  "You get one day" doesn't really work there.  What about her rehearsal?  What about the 3 hour drive between the two weddings?  That's kind of a big deal.  Maybe we should change "you get one day" to "you get one weekend."
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

<div>yeah, that one was ridiculous, although I think most of the people responding agreed that it wasn't really doable.</div>

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]Someone a few weeks ago said her SIL wanted to get married the day before her.  "You get one day" doesn't really work there.  What about her rehearsal?  What about the 3 hour drive between the two weddings?  That's kind of a big deal.  Maybe we should change "you get one day" to "you get one weekend."
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

Wel, if we're making exceptions.. I want a whole month  ;)