Morning

Brandi0714

Pinterest got blocked at work after I spent a good chunk of the day on it not too long ago.  I can't believe Tk hasn't gotten blocked yet.

mehgank

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : For a while after we split, my X was invited to all the family functions still. And he's still good friends with my brother and nephews. But, they had also known him forever. We got together when I was 16 and split when I was 27, so he was a part of the family by then. Star, I hope you're feeling better soon! You poor thing! ETA: Mehg, I also want to find you on Pinterest - I am an addict.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

For a while after we split, it really bothered me that my family was still in contact with my exH, especially since they knew had badly he hurt me and how nasty our divorce was. Like, WHY would you want to remain friends with someone who has hurt your family? I understand that he was somewhat close with my nieces and nephews, but for a year before we split up, he hardly had any contact with them. It still kinda irks me when I see him comment on their pictures and stuff on FB, but there's nothing I can do about it.

celticmyss

Aw, feel better Star! I got hit by a combo stomach bug/acid reflux flare while traveling in April and it was the worst thing ever.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : For a while after we split, it really bothered me that my family was still in contact with my exH, especially since they knew had badly he hurt me and how nasty our divorce was. Like, WHY would you want to remain friends with someone who has hurt your family? I understand that he was somewhat close with my nieces and nephews, but for a year before we split up, he hardly had any contact with them. It still kinda irks me when I see him comment on their pictures and stuff on FB, but there's nothing I can do about it.
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

I think the nature of the split definitely makes a difference. If my H had done what yours did, it would be harder to be civil, I think. I would still try my best, but it would be a task. And I would DEFINITELY be annoyed. It took a while before my ex and I could be friends, but once we got past everything it was much better.

celticmyss

My parents divorced when I was 3 and I was incredibly grateful that my parents were always civil and never bad mouthed each other. It made such a big difference growing up.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : I think the nature of the split definitely makes a difference. If my H had done what yours did, it would be harder to be civil, I think. I would still try my best, but it would be a task. And I would DEFINITELY be annoyed. It took a while before my ex and I could be friends, but once we got past everything it was much better.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

See my first husband I wanted nothing to do with, neither did my family, he was really abusive, so even living in the sanme town for so many years I think I saw him twice. Although his sister (who is now related to me again through a niece in law, weird) tried to contact me to apologize for her brother.

My second husband has raised my son with me since B-man was 6 months old, so he's his dad. I really could care less to see his bio dad. But even my H likes my exH. And he still calls my mom, Mom. She adores him. 

Now my H wants nothing to do with his Exwife, he is very indifferent towards her. And his family cant stand her.

Starmusica

thanks guys

yea celtic- i feel like my chest and stomach are on fire. all I want to do is crawl in to bed. At least I haven't thrown up today.

acaponi87

Good morning! I finally had a day off so I slept in wayyy too late. I guess the whole waking up at 4 am thing finally caught up to me. I should be working at either 6 or 7 pretty normally now though so I will cherish that extra hour or 2.

Mehg- I'm gonna need running shoe advice from you in a couple of weeks. I need new ones desparately.

Star- that sounds miserable. I hope you feel better.

I'm pretty excited for tonight. H and I get to have our usual Friday date night which hasn't happened since a few weeks before the wedding, due to life craziness. I'm gonna get all cute and actually do my hair and make-up and wear something cute which I never do.

Also Les has made me want Bonefish soooo bad so I may try to convince H to go there. It's been awhile since we've been.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

lbarr, lady doc is probably one of my least favorite appointments.  I really love my doctor, but I kind of hate the fact that she listens to my radio station, lol.  When I first met her she of course made small talk with me and when I told her where I worked it was all "Oh yeah!  I love that station!  And yes I've heard you, you do a great job!" etc.  I know it's all just being polite and trying to make me feel comfortable but hot damn.  She listens to me on the radio, and she looks up my vageen.  Eeeeeek.

All the makeup I wear is cheap asfuck.  I think I can get away with it though since I have awesome skin, lol.

Morning guys.  Thank God it's Friday is all I can say.

[Deleted User]

I still consider my ex-stepmom my actual stepmom and her daughter my sister, even if she won't talk to me right now.They will always be my family. My dad's wife after her? She can EABOD and choke for all I care. Pretty much the entire family feels that way. My mom and ex-stepmom are friends now but the other one, she wasn't even welcome in my mom's house.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : See my first husband I wanted nothing to do with, neither did my family, he was really abusive, so even living in the sanme town for so many years I think I saw him twice. Although his sister (who is now related to me again through a niece in law, weird) tried to contact me to apologize for her brother. My second husband has raised my son with me since B-man was 6 months old, so he's his dad. I really could care less to see his bio dad. <strong>But even my H likes my exH</strong>. And he still calls my mom, Mom. She adores him.  Now my H wants nothing to do with his Exwife, he is very indifferent towards her. And his family cant stand her.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Ha - us too. My exH teases him whenever they see each other, mostly at my expense lol
I've been pretty much cast out by my H's mom and sister, but his dad's side of the family are fine with me. My MIL was never my biggest fan, and I think she sees this as her "I told you so" moment.

acaponi87

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[QUOTE]lbarr, lady doc is probably one of my least favorite appointments.  I really love my doctor, but I kind of hate the fact that she listens to my radio station, lol.  When I first met her she of course made small talk with me and when I told her where I worked it was all "Oh yeah!  I love that station!  And yes I've heard you, you do a great job!" etc.  I know it's all just being polite and trying to make me feel comfortable but hot damn.  She listens to me on the radio, and she looks up my vageen.  Eeeeeek.<strong> All the makeup I wear is cheap asfuck.  I think I can get away with it though since I have awesome skin, lol.</strong> Morning guys.  Thank God it's Friday is all I can say.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Same. I barely wear what I do have. I could never spend money on nice make-up because I don't know what to do with it. I'm hair/make-up clueless.

I think the dynamics between people's exes are so interesting. I tend to be friends with my 2 serious exes. 1 was at our wedding and I consider him to be one of my best friends.  Between from when we first met to like 6 years later, it took a long time and a lot of work to get to the point where we are just good friends w/o any of the sticky feelings so I cherish our friendship a lot.

H's xGF hates him I think. At least her family does. She did not take that break-up well.

I'd rather have the family hating the ex (unless there are kids). My mom always seems to take the side of our exes. Even after my sister's longtime boyfriend had cheated on her and stuff she still got all misty whenever she talked about him, misses him, etc. Effing annoying and pretty hurtful.

LesPaul

Feel better soon, Star!

I'm still close with xH's family.  Ten of them came to my wedding to current H.  We joke that they like me better than they like xH (which may have a little truth to it - he can be a real PITA).  We all consider ourselves to still be family, and usually spend TGiving together.  One year MIL, xH's wife, and I left the 3 girls with xH and went shopping and got facials on Black Friday.  It was fun.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : Same. I barely wear what I do have. I could never spend money on nice make-up because I don't know what to do with it. I'm hair/make-up clueless. I think the dynamics between people's exes are so interesting. I tend to be friends with my 2 serious exes. 1 was at our wedding and I consider him to be one of my best friends.  Between from when we first met to like 6 years later, it took a long time and a lot of work to get to the point where we are just good friends w/o any of the sticky feelings so I cherish our friendship a lot. H's xGF hates him I think. At least her family does. She did not take that break-up well. I'd rather have the family hating the ex (unless there are kids). My mom always seems to take the side of our exes. Even after my sister's longtime boyfriend had cheated on her and stuff she still got all misty whenever she talked about him, misses him, etc. Effing annoying and pretty hurtful.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

When my mom was alive, she had a tendency to always blame us for anything that went wrong, too. It IS hurtful. You need your family to be supportive, and it's hard when they aren't.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Haha, I'm pretty sure my ex-bf's entire family all hates my stinkin guts.  His mom even gives my mother dirty looks when they run into each other around town.  FFS.  We broke up four damn years ago, get over it people.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]Haha, I'm pretty sure my ex-bf's entire family all hates my stinkin guts.  His mom even gives my mother dirty looks when they run into each other around town.  FFS.  We broke up four damn years ago, get over it people.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

She is still jealous of your amazing rack.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : She is still jealous of your amazing rack.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

Obviously.  And pissed that her grandkids won't be blessed with my gene pool.

LOL jk but for real, it's just... awkward.  She wrote me a long email after I broke up with him and she found out I was dating Ben, begging me to not date Ben and to take her son back.  Lady, your son had six years to win me over, and he sucked.  So.  Yeah.  Awkward.

Starmusica

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : She is still jealous of your amazing rack.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]


i was thinking the same thing lol

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : Obviously.  And pissed that her grandkids won't be blessed with my gene pool. LOL jk but for real, it's just... awkward.  She wrote me a long email after I broke up with him and she found out I was dating Ben, begging me to not date Ben and to take her son back.  Lady, your son had six years to win me over, and he sucked.  So.  Yeah.  Awkward.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Yeah I can see that being very uncomfortable....I can't even imagine. Of course since MIL wishes I would DIAF, that is not a problem I will ever have lol  

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I feel so bad for my SIL and her soon-to-be new husband.  Her ex-H is probably the most horrible person I've ever heard of.  They got divorced two years ago and it's been hell for her ever since, he's always dragging her to court over their daughter.  He's told her that he's going to make her life a living hell until their daughter is 18.  He is always putting bad things into their daughter's head.  And every time he sees her or her FI around town (small town) he flips them off.  He's a psycho.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : Obviously.  And pissed that her grandkids won't be blessed with my gene pool. LOL jk but for real, it's just... awkward.  She wrote me a long email after I broke up with him and she found out I was dating Ben, begging me to not date Ben and to take her son back.  Lady, your son had six years to win me over, and he sucked.  So.  Yeah.  Awkward.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

What mother does that?Weird!

I would never think of getting involved in my sons relationships.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]I feel so bad for my SIL and her soon-to-be new husband.  Her ex-H is probably the most horrible person I've ever heard of.  They got divorced two years ago and it's been hell for her ever since, he's always dragging her to court over their daughter.  He's told her that he's going to make her life a living hell until their daughter is 18.  He is always putting bad things into their daughter's head.  And every time he sees her or her FI around town (small town) he flips them off.  He's a psycho.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

What is wrong with people? Seriously, what a douchecanoe.Way to raise your daughter!

And what parent gets involved in their kids relationship. I would NEVER write my sons ex.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]I feel so bad for my SIL and her soon-to-be new husband.  Her ex-H is probably the most horrible person I've ever heard of.  They got divorced two years ago and it's been hell for her ever since, he's always dragging her to court over their daughter.  He's told her that he's going to make her life a living hell until their daughter is 18.  He is always putting bad things into their daughter's head.  And every time he sees her or her FI around town (small town) he flips them off.  He's a psycho.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

That right there is why I want to keep things as friendly between me and my H as I can. I never want the kids to think anything bad about me or him. And honestly, that's just not the kind of person I am. Even if he had been a bad husband or cheated or whatever, I would never talk to the kids about it. That's not fair. And I judge the hell out of people who do that.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : What is wrong with people? Seriously, what a douchecanoe.Way to raise your daughter! And what parent gets involved in their kids relationship. I would NEVER write my sons ex.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

She was special, KD.  I mean, I get that she was sad for her son, but lawdy, he and I were adults.  She told me a story about how when she started dating her now-H, her old boyfriend wanted to get back together.  But she did the right thing, and knew I would too.

And I definitely did :)

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : What is wrong with people? Seriously, what a douchecanoe.Way to raise your daughter! <strong>And what parent gets involved in their kids relationship. I would NEVER write my sons ex.
</strong>Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]


That is some sh!t my MIL would do. When my SIL was splitting from her H, MIL was alllll up in it. She was calling him, harassing him, trying to get everyone involved that she could. BUT she is a twatwaffle, so that's expected of her. But that is messed up that a mom would do that. At least she's setting a good example for what I will never do to my kids.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : That right there is why I want to keep things as friendly between me and my H as I can. I never want the kids to think anything bad about me or him. And honestly, that's just not the kind of person I am. Even if he had been a bad husband or cheated or whatever, I would never talk to the kids about it. That's not fair. And I judge the hell out of people who do that.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]


Yeah it is awful :(  I guess when my SIL calls her ex, he's changed her name to "PSYCHO" in his phone so that's what pops up.  He's actually tried to file a protection order against her FI so he could limit the time her FI spent with their daughter - ffs, her future step-dad?  And he's always just talking about her in a horrible light.  We know just from comments from my niece.  I mean, don't get me wrong - my in-laws and I definitely shittalk this guy, but NEVER around my niece.  She doesn't need to hear that about her father from her family you know? 

Anyway yeah.  Just sad.

[Deleted User]

AATB, has she talked to an attorney about that? I mean, if the father is essentially poisoning his kid against the mother and the kid is repeating the things he is saying, then you'd think she would have a case against him. Especially since he threatened her with the whole making her life hell thing.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : Yeah it is awful :(  I guess when my SIL calls her ex, he's changed her name to "PSYCHO" in his phone so that's what pops up.  He's actually tried to file a protection order against her FI so he could limit the time her FI spent with their daughter - ffs, her future step-dad?  And he's always just talking about her in a horrible light.  We know just from comments from my niece.  I mean, don't get me wrong - my in-laws and I definitely shittalk this guy, but NEVER around my niece.  She doesn't need to hear that about her father from her family you know?  Anyway yeah.  Just sad.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Karma baby! That's all I have to say.

For everything the ex put my husband through, their daughter as she gets older is realizing what her dad had to go through, living with her mother. They get it believe me.

Even my son has made comments to his father about his choices. There will come a day AATB. Does this asshat have custody and if so how did that happen, because there are laws against what he is doing.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]AATB, has she talked to an attorney about that? I mean, if the father is essentially poisoning his kid against the mother and the kid is repeating the things he is saying, then you'd think she would have a case against him. Especially since he threatened her with the whole making her life hell thing.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

<a href="http://mensnewsdaily.com/2010/02/26/why-parental-alienation-is-the-act-of-an-emotionally-abusive-bully/" rel="nofollow">http://mensnewsdaily.com/2010/02/26/why-parental-alienation-is-the-act-of-an-emotionally-abusive-bully/</a>

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : <a href="http://mensnewsdaily.com/2010/02/26/why-parental-alienation-is-the-act-of-an-emotionally-abusive-bully/" rel="nofollow">http://mensnewsdaily.com/2010/02/26/why-parental-alienation-is-the-act-of-an-emotionally-abusive-bully/</a>
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

That makes me really sad.