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    Exactly, kd. That guy is a POS.
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    [QUOTE]AATB, has she talked to an attorney about that? I mean, if the father is essentially poisoning his kid against the mother and the kid is repeating the things he is saying, then you'd think she would have a case against him. Especially since he threatened her with the whole making her life hell thing.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    They do everything they can but you can't really control what people say you know?  What I do know is that her ex's first lawyer quit because he was literally trying to do things that were so insane, even his lawyer didn't want to help him.  She has sole custody, he only gets her like every other weekend and on Thursday nights.

    And the stuff she repeats aren't directly disrespectful, mostly just curious for a child to say.  Like last time I was with them my SIL was talking about her job, and my niece said "Well yeah, if you don't get fired."  Um.  Where would an eight year old get that idea?  Lol not from any of us, so obviously her dad probably said something like "oh she's such an idiot she'll probably get fired."

    Dude is up his ass.  He is always late to drop her off but is always early to pick her up, and he flips his shiiit if people aren't ready for him when he wants them there.  When my niece is with him and she wants to call her mom, she almost has to do it in secret because he doesn't let her do it very often, but my SIL always lets her call her dad any time she wants.  Just stuff like that.

    The way I see the situation - I'm kinda hoping that as she gets older she can see past a lot of it.  He acts very unreasonable and doesn't make a whole lot of sense.  I know that the guy is pissed off and hates his ex wife, but he's not really thinking about his daughter by acting this way.  She's still young, but she's old enough now to start noticing things.  He will probably not have the best relationship with his daughter and its his own doing. 
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    Oh and kd - that article describes him to a T.  I mean... it's why they're divorced.  He was terrible.  I could literally write a novel on the guy.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_morning-114?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8602db12-dcf7-4f18-9f7b-8e6cfd544de7Post:aaf2f632-388d-4f1f-a34f-889b932fcc8e">Re: Morning</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : That right there is why I want to keep things as friendly between me and my H as I can. I never want the kids to think anything bad about me or him. And honestly, that's just not the kind of person I am. Even if he had been a bad husband or cheated or whatever, I would never talk to the kids about it. That's not fair. And I judge the hell out of people who do that.
    Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

    Exactly, BJs.  The problems xH and I had don't have anything to do with our daughters.  I kept my mouth shut (when they were little) and let them figure out their own relationship with him.  It's rocky because of his own behavior, and they know he wasn't there for them growing up. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning :  The way I see the situation - I'm kinda hoping that as she gets older she can see past a lot of it.  He acts very unreasonable and doesn't make a whole lot of sense.  I know that the guy is pissed off and hates his ex wife, but he's not really thinking about his daughter by acting this way.  She's still young, but she's old enough now to start noticing things.  He will probably not have the best relationship with his daughter and its his own doing. 
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    <div>My niece is 10 and has just started being vocal about her dad and coming to her own conclusions.  In past years she's asked things like "why doesn't my daddy come see me?" and we've always been honest without being blunt. "I guess he just doesn't realize how cool you are to play with."</div><div>
    </div><div>Last weekend we got: </div><div>
    </div><div>Mo: "Is my dad a loser? Because E says dads are supposed to call their kids."</div><div>Me: "I don't know about loser.  But I think E is right"</div><div>Mo: "I thought so.  I want to kick him"
    Me: "Well make sure you tell him that when you speak to him"
    Mo: "Okay.  Nothing's sadder than a loser who doesn't know it."</div>
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     "Okay.  Nothing's sadder than a loser who doesn't know it."

    Brilliant observation.  What a great kid.
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    Your niece is a pretty remarkable kid, Anna.  She is no doubt becoming a very perceptive and smart young lady.
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    [QUOTE]Your niece is a pretty remarkable kid, Anna.  She is no doubt becoming a very perceptive and smart young lady.
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    <div>She totally is.  I worry about what's going to happen when she becomes a teenager and learns that she can use her powers for evil.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : She totally is.  I worry about what's going to happen when she becomes a teenager and learns that she can use her powers for evil.
    Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

    LOL I'm sure she will use them for good :) She has a great role model in her aunt!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : She totally is.  I worry about what's going to happen when she becomes a teenager and learns that she can use her powers for evil.
    Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

    Hahaha!

    If she's this good now......
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : She totally is.  I worry about what's going to happen when she becomes a teenager and learns that she can use her powers for evil.
    Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

    Geeze Anna! What do you think she's going to turn into a super villian? No she'll be a little angsty. That's probably as evil as she'll get.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : LOL I'm sure she will use them for good :) She has a great role model in her aunt!
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    <div>I don't know.  I was a pretty good manipulator as a teenager.  Found out that since I was a good-girl, no one ever suspected me of anything wrong so I could get away with a lot.  Heck, I was so trusted that I had no curfew and took a job with a 50 minute commute when I was 16.  I was sneaky.</div>
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    Well then you will see right through her antics.  Takes one to know one ;)

    I was a good kid but it was mostly because I was scared to death of my mother.  I tried sneaking out ONE time.  Even if I hadn't gotten stuck in a snowbank on my way out I still woulda been caught.  I swear, my mom knew everything.  She still knows everything. 
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    [QUOTE]Well then you will see right through her antics.  Takes one to know one ;) I was a good kid but it was mostly because I was scared to death of my mother.  I tried sneaking out ONE time.  Even if I hadn't gotten stuck in a snowbank on my way out I still woulda been caught.  I swear, my mom knew everything.  She still knows everything. 
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    That was me too - I was terrified to do anything that would get me in trouble!
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    anna - you and I were very similar teenagers. I think the only reason my parents set a curfew for me was because my 4 other siblings had one. My curfew would be 10pm on schoolnights and I'd be in by 9. Midnight on weekends and I'd be home by 11.


    My ex acted-out a lot when we divorced, and he guilted me in to agreeing to a lot of stuff I shouldn't have. Like letting him keep the dogs, the timeshare (instead of selling it back to the company and using the money to pay off our debts), and he was named sole decision-maker on the house we still co-own. The way he acted totally reminds me of Billy Crudup in "Eat, Pray, Love" when he was representing himself in the divorce proceedings. My ex kept saying "But you're the one who left ME!!". Ugh.
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    [QUOTE]Oh and kd - that article describes him to a T.  I mean... it's why they're divorced.  He was terrible.  I could literally write a novel on the guy.
    Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

    Sounds like a serious control freak. My sons father was the same way, left me at 5 months pregnant, never paid CS, then wanted HIS visits when son was 3yrs old (not confusing for him AT ALL) cause the courts forced him to pay his CS, never on time, missed weekends, his now ex watched him and took care of him when he was there. Never took advantage of his summer or holiday hours. Until B-man was about 9, then he decided he wanted full custody.

    When the judge heard everything, he told ex that if he didnt follow the visitation schedule and kept jacking son around and I could prove it, he'd take him away for good. Yeah, he did ok for a few months, than during his one and only summer visit (2 weeks) by end of week one he brought him back.

    Wasnt long before my son told him to get out of his house and stay out. And I let him do it.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : Firing people sucks.  We now have a designated person to do it (thankfully, not me).  We nicknamed her the Grim Reaper.  When she wears all black, people get nervous.  It's kind of humorous.  Just b/c she's wearing black doesn't mean anyone's getting fired ffs. AATB, that guy is a pyscho.  Can we hook him up with my BSC exSIL?  <strong>Match.made.in.heaven.
    </strong>Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

    Psychomatch.com?

    Ugh I hated firing people. So glad I dont have to do it anymore.
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    Just got some crappy news.

    2 boys from the school I did my student teaching at had been missing since Sunday. They found the bodies today, both shot in the head. I didn't know them, but I am feeling for my students.  Horrible.
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    Mehg: I was an army brat.  So sneaking around bivouac sites, racing our cars up range road, and daring new enlisted men to mess with us because "my daddy outranks you"... was all very common in my group.  Hell, we had a walkout at our school that ended up being described by the papers as a melee.
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    [QUOTE]Bj I'm so sorry to hear about your separation. It sounds like you are handling it the best way possible. Hugs. Nebb fingers crossed for you on the hush hush work news. Celtic some of those MAC reps do makeup on the side and you may be able to find one who won't charge as much. I would do a trial at your salon though of they can do it for under $100. I am so grossed out by that story DMill and am so glad they don't allow house boats on the lake where we just went on vacation. I'm avoiding heading into work. I had to fire two people when I returned from vacation so I've been getting the cold shoulder from the rest of the staff. FFs people, it's my job.
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    Thanks, Dot...I'm trying. Wine helps lol - which reminds me, what was the name of that Moscato you sent me? It was seriously the best one I've ever had. It was Toro something, I think? I need to find it here.
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    [QUOTE]Just got some crappy news. 2 boys from the school I did my student teaching at had been missing since Sunday. They found the bodies today, both shot in the head. I didn't know them, but I am feeling for my students.  Horrible.
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    Oh god Al. 
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    OMG That's awful A, I'm so sorry!
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    Al that is awful!
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    [QUOTE]Holyfuck, Al.  That's awful.  How old were they?  
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     17 & 18.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning :  17 & 18.
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    Oh god, I can't even imagine.
    What do they think happened? Or is there a theory yet?
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    My God alcapone I am so so sorry.

    It's been a pretty shiitty couple days :(
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning :  17 & 18.
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    Just young men, do hey have any idea what may have happened?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning : Oh god, I can't even imagine. What do they think happened? Or is there a theory yet?
    Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

    Not much. They were last seen leaving one of the boy's uncle house. They were found in a field by city airport, shot execution-style. They found the car on Monday and it as looted (not surprising in Detroit) and they arrested some people in relation to the theft of car parts though I don't think they are serious suspects in the murder.

    Here's a link to a video:
    <a href="http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/news/region/detroit/two-bodies-found-near-detroits-city-airport" rel="nofollow">http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/news/region/detroit/two-bodies-found-near-detroits-city-airport</a>
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    My gosh capone I am sick watching this news story.  SO heartbreaking omg.
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