This is what makes me a monster - TK edition.

[Deleted User]

So, I've seen a lot of threads about people doing the JOP thing and then having a vow renewal after and it always gets people riled up. And I get the whole, it's not good to lie to your loved ones and make them think this is your only wedding thing, but ultimately, I really just don't care. I don't care if they call it a vow renewal or a wedding. Hell, I don't even care if they call it Mr. Muffins House of Waxing and Bail Bonds. I also don't care why they are doing it. It's their life, their money, their friends, so it has no impact on me. And honestly, even if I was lied to and went to a fake wedding, I don't know that I would care.

And that's why I'm a monster.

Now you.

Anysunrise

Amen. =D

I'm like that when it comes to almost everything on TK. It has to be fairly awful for me to be appalled. 

MandK9

I don't care about much of anything.  I don't care if I don't have a seat, I don't care if someone is wearing white, I don't care if it's a cash bar, blah blah blah.  I don't often chime in on advice threads.  I would just be saying what I'm supposed to say, not what I really feel.

kd.joseph

I want to know when we are going to rename this The Gyno board.

I really dont care what kind of BC women use, it's a question for your gyno, not a random internet stranger!

KaylaSue19

I agree, Cew. I just don't care that much.

I know I have said it before but I don't see anything wrong with garter throws or dollar dances because it's normal to me. It doesn't gross me out or offend me.

Girlie1030

Had I not been stuck in my own neighborhood Saturday night I would have been at a wedding which was technically a VR (they were married last month in Illinois) - doesn't change how happy I am for them and I'm sure I still would have teared up. 

If I see a post where the OP has only 1 post and still does when I check on the post later, I usually don't bother reading it. 

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I want to know when we are going to rename this The Gyno board. I really dont care what kind of BC women use, it's a question for your gyno, not a random internet stranger!
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Oh god, this too. Yuck. I don't give two fuucks about your BC.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]I agree, Cew. I just don't care that much. I know I have said it before but I don't see anything wrong with garter throws or dollar dances because it's normal to me. It doesn't gross me out or offend me.
Posted by KaylaSue19[/QUOTE]

This is normal around my area also. I didnt have them, but I have had family members that have, I just dont care.

[Deleted User]

They aren't normal around here, so when a coworker had one at a wedding a couple of years ago, I was a little freaked out. The money part is weird, but I also just wouldn't want to dance with that many randoms.

undyingmizery

MandK - I agree with you completely I could care less in 90% of what people say is wrong. I don't usually chime in because of that either.

KD- The whole birth control and other more squeamish posts have me kind of skeeved out honestly. I agree with you on that one.

cardmonsta

I have never cared about the JOP/VR thing.  It has no effect on my life.

I also don't care about HM registries.  Doesn't bother me a bit.

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]They aren't normal around here, so when a coworker had one at a wedding a couple of years ago, I was a little freaked out. The money part is weird, but<strong> I also just wouldn't want to dance with that many randoms.
</strong>Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Dollar dances are so common where I am at. I don't want one for the highlighted reason. It would weird me out really bad. Half of the people coming I have never met before. "Oh hi there great uncle Sam.. Why is your hand on my ass?" Ya no, I am going to be nervous enough as it is.

katiebeth17

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[QUOTE]I want to know when we are going to rename this The Gyno board. I really dont care what kind of BC women use, it's a question for your gyno, not a random internet stranger!
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I just posted this on that thread. I mean really? Really?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

See, I WISH I cared less about things like "real" weddings and wearing white. I feel much too judgy sometimes. My mother is pretty judgy and I really don't want to turn into her. There's proper etiquette and behavior, and then there's judging for the sake of judging. Am I personally offended by most etiquette faux pas? Probably not.

cardmonsta

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[QUOTE]I don't really care what people do with their weddings anymore unless it's really, really appalling. I've been posting here for how long and I stopped caring about etiquette (hence I hardly post on WR threads on E) Whatever people do with their weddings doesn't affect my life directly so I don't get why some people get all riled up over dollar dances, vow renewals, envelope labels, <strong>A & B lists</strong> etc.
Posted by Champagne Supernova[/QUOTE]

<div>We just got B-listed and we're still going.  Even though this faux pas directly affected my life, it STILL doesn't bother me.</div>

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition. : I just posted this on that thread. I mean really? Really?
Posted by katiebeth17[/QUOTE]

Thanks Katie I like you already.

I know this is the poop, sex swing board. But I guess I draw the line at questions that should be asked of a medical professional. And just cause it works for some rando online, doesnt mean it works for you.

My favorite thing at a wedding I went to was when someone passed out keys to all the young women before the couple arrived. When they did the DJ announced that the groom was now a married man, and asked that all the ladies he knew before return his house key. About 30 women walked up he was so embarrassed.

ricksang

Some people deserve the death penalty. End of story. I know this is not TK based but whatever.

saxy414

HM registries don't really bother me--I probably would have had one if I hadn't gotten on here and seen how a lot of people react to them.

The VR/JOP thing with a PPD following isn't a big deal to me, either.  It bugs me that people will so willingly lie to their families about such a big thing, but as long as everyone is honest and knows what's going on, whatever.  It's not what I would do in my life, but I wouldn't really fault someone for it if they needed to do it.

A lot of things like dollar dances, Jack and Jill parties, cash bars, are completely accepted regionally.  I think it sucks when someone gets jumped all over on an international board, even though, quite possibly, everyone they know IRL is completely ok with them dancing with guests for money. The first time I saw a dollar dance, I was a little weirded out, but it may have been a-ok in their circle.  I just didn't participate.

Saying a BM's only job is to show up is a little ridiculous, as well. Sure, that may technically be the case, but I would consider myself a sucky friend if that was all I did as a BM, and I would absolutely have my feelings hurt if my BMs decided they were only going to "show up" in the correct dress.  If the girls are super busy, I don't think it's ok for a bride to require things of their BMs, but as long as there aren't extenuating circumstances, if a bridesmaid doesn't step up with anything, that's not cool.

I'm having a hard time coming up with something someone hasn't already mentioned.

Girlie1030

I don't care about dollar dances but I do think that B-lists and tiering is rude.  My husband invited some people to our reception only and only after dinner, cake, first dance, etc..  and I was mortified.  It was the one fight we had about the wedding.

allisong23

Can I bitch about posts on TB? It scares me how there are some people that are about to become parents that don't have basic spelling and grammar skills. If you can't put together a simple paragraph  using basic capitalization/punctuation, it scares me to see how your kids will turn out since it is obvious you didn't value your education.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Some people deserve the death penalty. End of story. I know this is not TK based but whatever.
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE]

I agree with this.

cardmonsta

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[QUOTE] Saying a BM's only job is to show up is a little ridiculous, as well. Sure, that may technically be the case, but I would consider myself a sucky friend if that was all I did as a BM, and I would absolutely have my feelings hurt if my BMs decided they were only going to "show up" in the correct dress.  If the girls are super busy, I don't think it's ok for a bride to require things of their BMs, but as long as there aren't extenuating circumstances, if a bridesmaid doesn't step up with anything, that's not cool. I'm having a hard time coming up with something someone hasn't already mentioned.
Posted by saxy414[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this.  They're your family and best friends.  Come on.  If you're asking someone to be a BM and all you expect of them is to show up in a dress, then I just seriously wonder why you asked that person.</div><div>
</div><div>You obviously don't make them slaves, but just to be a listening ear, or to bounce ideas off of each other.</div>

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition. : Oh god, this too. Yuck. I don't give two fuucks about your BC.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
Wait...not even mine?!

number55

I don't care about individual sins. I care about multiple sins. I become a monster when the 'fauxpas' are numerous. In and of themselves I can't really think of one wedding issue that is enough to get me riled and become a monster. However, I have been to a wedding recently (last summer) and will be at another soon (this summer) where there were several things that when put together, made me give the side eye. However, it doesn't really get me all that upset even then. It rarely causes me to act any different (I will admit to giving a less expensive gift to the bride and groom at the wedding this summer because I was irked by multiple things. And then I felt like shitte about it afterwards).

I don't feel like weddings are worth getting that up in arms about, I mean really, at the end of the day, I usually get well fed and get to dance. That's a good day in my books. 

Oh, and JOPing is the lowest on my list of things I take issue with. I will be completely honest and say that I totally do think that you should get a day to get all dressed up and feel special regardless of if you JOPed. As long as it is with a few months of the legal shitte, I don't give a crap. 

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition. : Wait...not even mine?!
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

No. You're the exception. I always want to hear about things that you are sticking in your pussy.

Too much?

Birdie1483

I'm getting burnt out on my own wedding drama, let alone helping others with theirs

And yeah, I'm not doing a dollar dance because I don't want to touch people.

And I'm tired of the same answer being said a million times in a thread with no deviation. After the 10th post I just want to be like "Yeah. We get it."

I think I have my cranky pants on today.

ZombieNates

These are good.

We're having a B list and we don't giveafuck.  N's family is literally about 110 out of our 150 guests and they have to travel to the wedding. It's a situation where his mom's family is huge and so is the stepmom's and he grew up with all of them, so they're all really close. We can't invite one without the other and so on.  We had to cut a bunch of friends to have the family there and, because it's important to him, I'm okay with that.  But I'm not okay with finding out only 50 of them are coming and we could have invited a ton of other people we love, so we're doing two rounds of invites.  I know, I know, everyone hates it. ::Shrugs::

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_this-monster-tk-edition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:99017d91-994e-4e9b-97cc-e47ccf2c51d8Post:4a48e5d8-a6c2-4a4f-b2bf-37bac6b480db">Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition. : No. You're the exception. I always want to hear about things that you are sticking in your pussy. Too much?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
From you? Never. I love you.

Steph0871

I don't mind cash bars at all. In fact I think it's more rude to only host one specialty drink and not give me the option of buying what I want.

[Deleted User]

I love you more. I miss you. Where the hell have you been?

Celles

I agree with you, Cew.  Two of my WoW guildies JOP'd it six months ago to get a head start on US immigration (he's from New Jersey; she's from Brazil) and are having their church wedding in Rio de Janeiro in July.  I don't judge that at all... and not just because I did the same thing in reverse!  I don't care if a couple calls their post-civil ceremony ceremony a "wedding" or a "vow renewal."  If they say it's their wedding, it's their wedding.  Who am I to argue?

I think TK is crazy paranoid about Internet security.  Don't get me wrong: I'm not about to post my date of birth and social security number in my signature.  But my full name and e-mail address?  BFD.