This is what makes me a monster - TK edition.

jasmineh7777

I guess I'm a TK monster because I don't mind questions about BC. We talk about personal stuff all the time, often stuff that directly affects women. If I'm asking without going to the doctor, well then I'm stupid, but I don't find simply asking that offensive.

I don't mind "vow renewals" at all. And I don't think they should have to be called "vow renewals" just because the legal ceremony was done prior to. Who gives a fuuck? People who are too damn judgmental, that's who.

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition. : Yup.  Its not like I am going to think you are a big LOSAH for doing it, but I am probably going to be annoyed at it.  A week later I will<strong> probably</strong> even forget about it.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]
Hehe :)

TheCranberry

I think it's okay to ask your parents whether they're contributing to the wedding.  If you ask nicely and with no expectations why not.  They're your family, why do you have to be afraid to talk to them?  Obviously if you know they can't afford it or are having money troubles or would be offended, don't do it, but otherwise, I don't see the big deal.

I also get pissed that when people say BMs only have to show up sober in a dress.  Really?  Some of those same people also say you should choose your closest friend, the one you'd call to help bury the body.  So you can ask them to bury a body for you, but going wedding dress shopping or planning a bachelorette party is just over the top and bridezilla?  Please.

Blueyed228

Jas- doesnt judging people who judge make you too judgmental as well?

jasmineh7777

Blue, I suppose it does. Nicely done.

Maggie214624

I also don't care where you bought your dress or how much you paid for it.  Unless Vera Wang personally made it for you I don't give a shlitz.

jaycee7389

-I think a BMs job is more than buying the dress and standing at your side. They are either one of your closest friends or family members and I would hope they all plan on doing more than just that.

-I rather have a cash bar than no bar at all.

-I don't really care about B lists (to a point). I think if you invite someone and know right away they can't come there is nothing wrong with inviting someone else you wanted to come but couldn't fit in your venue or afford.

-I don't care about peoples drama with in laws, BMs, parents, etc...get over it.

-I don't pity anyone who doesn't have their wedding paid for by someone else.

-I don't really care about most things people do at their weddings, I care more about people posting shiit on here like Katelyn did (not to bring her up again but everyone knows what I mean)

Yep, I'm a monster

edit: i think vow renewals are pointless but IDGAF if someone has one, and I don't really care when people post personal stuff like BC questions, I just dislike when it's complaining about the above things

MandK9

Ugh, people judge buffets? Seriously? I haven't seen that, thank God.  That's definitely lame.

Blueyed228

I judge buffets when they are not done right.

Meaning when there is not enough food or when it takes too long to get to the food because the logistics were not planned out properly and then the food is cold.

MandK9

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[QUOTE]I judge buffets when they are not done right. Meaning when there is not enough food or when <strong>it takes too long to get to the food because the logistics were not planned out properly and then the food is cold</strong>.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]


Yeah, well that's definitely bad.  Don't blame you there. 

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is what makes me a monster - TK edition. : Yeah, well that's definitely bad.  Don't blame you there. 
Posted by MandK9[/QUOTE]

It has happened more times than not at the wedding I have been to.  So thats why I dont like buffets.  In my experience, they are rarely done correctly.

Nina0528

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[QUOTE]I also am sick of people (mostly on Reception Ideas) that say things like "who cares?  Your guests won't notice." when someone asks about first dance songs, cake cutting songs or chair covers.  You know what?  The bride and groom are allowed to do some things that might be just for them or might make their night more enjoyable. I can guarantee very few people remember what H and I danced to or cut our cake to.  But WE do so shove it. Not every.single.thing is for the guests.  GAH
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

ITA with this. I think the same thing when someone asks about favors. It drives me nuts that the first response is always "nobody will care/don't do them". Maybe the girl just wanted to give out some damn favors. I agree that edible is best, and it's not like guests are going to horribly offended by some Hershey Kisses.

-I agree that guests shouldn't have to open their wallets, but other than that I really don't care about all of the other wedding "group think". As long as you feed me <em>something</em> I"m all good. That's probably why I don't post on any WR threads.

-I never understood getting all up in arms over address lables. Who really cares? I did labels for our STDs & response cards. I can't imagine anyone getting upset.

-I think that honeymoon registries that are done through Sandals/Disney (where all the $ goes right to the resort/gift cards) are fine. Other sites that take a % or just cut a check are not so fine.

ewhiteman06

When OP asks a question and then 8973894798374 people reply with the exact same answer. Redundancy is so irritating to me. Oh and when OP asks a dumb question and people reem him/her for it and then little miss rainbows and sunshine comes along and says "oh my gosh I bet you are so stressed from planning your wedding, it's totally fine to go a-wall on your MIL xoxo <3"

Steph0871

Any- that seriously sucks you felt that way.

FWIW, I have no issue at all with 'vow renewals' as weddings or whatever. I have a few friends who have done it due to military deployments.  The only time I care is if you're lying to your guests about it.  or if it's the whole 'but shhh don't tell anyone we're already married, because then they won't buy us lots and lots of presents!"

Wrkn925

I asked questions about IUDs when I was trying to find a new BC.

It helped me to get answers from women and not just googled reviews.  So, the BC questions don't bother me. Of course I was talking to my doctor, but it was nice to have multiple women share their experiences and concerns with me.

[Deleted User]

I don't like BC or health related threads for the same reason that I don't like family drama or vibes threads: I just don't fucking care about them. But I don't hate them enough to post in them and tell the OP that they suck. That's lame.

Rosie109

I have nothing to add other than one night in a drunken discussion a family friend kept referring to IUDs as IEDs.. which is a big mistake but for some reason really made me laugh.

JenGin74

I think cake smashing is fvcking hilarious. We did it and had a blast. I'm a klassy monstah. Whatever.

MandK9

But Jen, doesn't that mean that you and your husband don't respect each other??

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]But Jen, doesn't that mean that you and your husband don't respect each other?? :)
Posted by MandK9[/QUOTE]

I know, right? You should see what he does to me behind closed doors.

But seriously, if either of us had a problem with it, it wouldn't have happened.

NuggetBrain

I honestly don't see the issue with honeymoon registries.  Either way, you're asking people to buy something for you. 

I really really hate it when people break out the party line of "who's paying? If your mom/brother/dad/cat is paying, then they get to decide. If you want to decide you need to pay for you own wedding, yo."  No.  Just because they're footing the bill doesn't somehow make it okay for them to decide to completely disregard your guest list, or your venue choice, or whatever (assuming that cost doesn't come into play).  Or to throw the wedding of THEIR dreams.  It shouldn't be a "their way or the highway" mentality and telling people that it is and they just have to deal with it REALLY irritates me. 

Also, I don't like it when people say that "your BM/MOH is only expect to buy a dress and show up."  I picked my bridal party because they were good friends of mine or soon to be family members.  I have every right to be annoyed or hurt or upset if they blow off every single bit of wedding stuff, show no interest, and only buy a dress and show up.  Your friends are supposed to be there for you when you need them, to be (or at least pretend to be) excited about big things in your life like finally picking out a wedding dress.  That's what friendship is about.  It doesn't suddenly get put on hold just because you're getting married. 

Girlie1030

So, can I ask why you (general you) don't chime in on threads where a OP is getting reamed for doing a B-list or buffet or PPD after a JOP wedding if you don't see anything wrong with it?  I see newer posters coming to their defense and then they're accused of being Captain Save-a-newb.  Not trying to be b!tchy - I don't do it either, but I'm curious as to why others don't. 

[Deleted User]

If they are like me, girlie, they might not even read those threads. I don't open a lot of WR threads unless it sounds interesting. I don't care about vow renewals, so I hardly ever open those threads.

Nugget, I agree about the paying thing. My mom and grandparents paid for the food, but they asked what H and I wanted rather than serving what THEY wanted, which was totally different from our menu wants. I don't understand why parents try to plan their own dream wedding rather than completely disregard their son or daughter's feelings.

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]So, can I ask why you (general you) don't chime in on threads where a OP is getting reamed for doing a B-list or buffet or PPD after a JOP wedding if you don't see anything wrong with it?  I see newer posters coming to their defense and then they're accused of being Captain Save-a-newb.  Not trying to be b!tchy - I don't do it either, but I'm curious as to why others don't. 
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

I don't read most WR stuff because, frankly, I don't care to read them.  So I usually miss it.

Girlie1030

Understood ladies, thanks.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]So, can I ask why you (general you) don't chime in on threads where a OP is getting reamed for doing a B-list or buffet or<strong> PPD after a JOP wedding</strong> if you don't see anything wrong with it?  I see newer posters coming to their defense and then they're accused of being Captain Save-a-newb.  Not trying to be b!tchy - I don't do it either, but I'm curious as to why others don't. 
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

<div>I usually do say something for these. </div>

jemmini6

I think there's a tastefull and a tacky way to do just about everything WR.  Even things that are 'etiquette correct' can be done tacky, and some 'etiquette incorrect' things can be done tastfully. 

The only thing that I'm a stickler for is people who treat other people like shiit.  Like the girl on CC who was pissed that her flower girls shaved their heads for cancer and didn't let them know beforehand and was bitching about 'how to cover it up' and that if they were bald when selecting them ,they wouldn't have chosen them. 

Or the girl who was pissed at her mom and wouldn't speak to her because she couldn't contribute as much to her wedding as her dad could.

Things like that where stuff is freaking ridiculous are really the only thing I get uppity about.  Other than that, I don't care if you use address labels, have a PPD, etc.