Another fun update from drunken aunt land

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : The fact that you said it's been bothering you for awhile... but you didn't speak up about it until it already been voiced.
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

This type of thing happens on here all. the. time. FFF? AYG? Any other thread where someone's feelings are at stake and you don't want to just confront someone for no reason, but after you realize it's been said and it's being talked about (<strong>ETA:</strong> as in, a discussion by parties from both sides) then it feels more acceptable to say how you feel too?

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : If it's been so uncomfortable for you, why didn't you say something about it? And, you're not really here that much anymore. Same with Suc. I think that's what caught me off guard by Suc's post before.  It was the whole "I don't post here at all anymore, but let me come in for one day, AW my kid (which by the way, I think it's far worse to plaster pictures of your kid on a public forum than talking about an aunt.) Then I'm going to come in and reminisce about how when I was around, people didn't post things like this. tsk tsk tsk."
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Actually, I came to AW my friend since I don't know anyone else who potentially reads Brides magazine.  Then I figured I'd aw a few pics since she's 1 and I guess I thought some people here who I used to post with would like to see how she's grown.  It's kind of a big milestone and all.

Then I read some other posts while I was here.

And - if you think it's worse to post pics of my kid, then by all means call me out on it but not in a passive aggressive way.  Have some balls, Steph, if that's how you really feel.

I think you're reading waaaay too far into my text.  I stated how it's different than it was.  That's a fact.  It's text.  You can't tell my tone of voice or body language from it, so I don't know where you're getting the 'tsk tsk tsk' from.  I don't know what happened on here to make you all defensive.

AATB - please let me know if I offended you in some way.  I thought we were all good but apparently your friends think otherwise.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I don't think there was anything cryptic behind my thought that Suc's post was weird.  It was.  She hasn't posted on here in months (that I've noticed?) and she pops in to AW her daughter and<strong> tell AATB to not post about her aunt.</strong>  It was weird, that's all. This isn't the first time I've noticed this from a few of you 'older regs', but I usually don't comment because I don't catch the threads until the next day. I didn't SOMETHING ELSE IS GOING ON, did I?  
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

That's exactly what I said. 

"AATB, don't post about your aunt anymore!"

Should I tell KA to ignore my email about it?

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I figured. ;) ETA: That you skimmed. I certainly don't think you're a dumbass.  I just didn't want you to think I was whining about a post count, either.  I really couldn't care less about how many posts someone has... <strong>but if someone uses that as a 'defense', I think it's lame.
</strong>Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

I'm a notorious skimmer. I do not love words. And ITA with the bolded part. But I will say that's not how I interpret it from Sucrets. I think it was more said in a "believe me, I've seen some fuucked up shiit go down on TK and I'm trying to keep that from happening to you" kind of way.

Steph0871

Suc, I really couldn't care less about you posting pictures of your baby for all the world to see. But if you're going to comment about internet safety on a public message forum, I thought I'd point it out.

Oh, and that 'newb' has probably posted more on SB in the last few months than you.  That's why I thought it was kind of a lame comeback.

And, I'm really not defensive.  That must be the other side of the whole 'not being able to read body language' on an internet forum.  Seriously, I'm really not all that upset or anything.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I'm a notorious skimmer. I do not love words. And ITA with the bolded part. But I will say that's not how I interpret it from Sucrets. I think it was more said in a "believe me, I've seen some fuucked up shiit go down on TK and I'm trying to keep that from happening to you" kind of way.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

That's how I read it too, especially given that she was talking to a newer poster who probably doesn't recognize Sucrets and therefore doesn't know that they don't need to tell her how things are here.

/weird bandwagoning

Steph0871

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I'm a notorious skimmer. <strong>I do not love words</strong>. And ITA with the bolded part. But I will say that's not how I interpret it from Sucrets. I think it was more said in a "believe me, I've seen some fuucked up shiit go down on TK and I'm trying to keep that from happening to you" kind of way.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm surprised you open any of AATB's threads at all then ;)</div>

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I'm surprised you open any of AATB's threads at all then ;)
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Ha! I stopped for a while, but she got better about it. :) Or maybe I just got better at skimming.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Suc, I really couldn't care less about you posting pictures of your baby for all the world to see. But if you're going to comment about internet safety on a public message forum, I thought I'd point it out. Oh, and that 'newb' has probably posted more on SB in the last few months than you.  That's why I thought it was kind of a lame comeback. And, I'm really not defensive.  That must be the other side of the whole 'not being able to read body language' on an internet forum.  <strong>Seriously, I'm really not all that upset or anything.</strong>
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

That's good to know. I'm actually not either. And I'm speaking seriously too. This is why I don't like arguing over the internet.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]Beats- I'm not sure why you think I wasn't reading your post.  I read it completely.  I never said I agreed with as much as AATB was saying, but I also don't think it's the same as a teacher coming in and mocking a student. Nor do I think it's fair that, just because Sucs said something,<strong> J and you come in at the same time </strong>and say something (after AATB said she'd stop posting about it.)<strong> </strong> What's that saying that gets overused around here? Something about a dead horse?
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Just to state some more facts:
My post - 1:13pm
J&K - 1:25pm
Beatles - 9:10pm

[Deleted User]

I'm upset. I just named my cat Steph and then set it on fire. That's how pissed I am right now.

Steph0871

K. I'm glad you believed me.  I realized after I typed it that it could be taken just as sarcastically as I meant it to be sincere.

Steph0871

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[QUOTE]I'm upset. I just named my cat Steph and then set it on fire. That's how pissed I am right now.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>At least it was a cat, and not a dog.</div><div>
</div><div>Too far?</div>

[Deleted User]

There is no such thing as too far.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]Suc, I really couldn't care less about you posting pictures of your baby for all the world to see. <strong>But if you're going to comment about internet safety on a public message forum, I thought I'd point it out. </strong>Oh, and that 'newb' has probably posted more on SB in the last few months than you.  That's why I thought it was kind of a lame comeback. And, I'm really not defensive.  That must be the other side of the whole 'not being able to read body language' on an internet forum.  Seriously, I'm really not all that upset or anything.
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Those things are totally unrelated.  I can post pics of my child who I am the legal guardian of.  But airing someone else's dirty laundry (apparently repeatedly?) just seems not kosher to me.

But why are you arguing AATB's case?  If she feels the same way as you, let her bring it up. 

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : I'm surprised you open any of AATB's threads at all then ;)
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]

Cew, I'm surprised you made it through my post too. I think all the posting I'm NOT doing here anymore gets condensed into one giant post when I do stop by. Oops.

Aw Sucrets, this is probably the first thread we've both posted in in months! I've missed it.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Cew, I'm surprised you made it through my post too. I think all the posting I'm NOT doing doing here anymore gets condensed into one giant post when I do stop by. Oops. Aw <strong>Sucrets, this is probably the first thread we've both posted in in months! I've missed it.</strong>
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Hiya hot stuff!  We never talk in 'real time' anymore.  I miss it too.  Oh wait, am I not allowed to reminisce?

I just noticed that I only need 2 more posts to 18k!  You'll be here to see it!  ::sniff::

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Hiya hot stuff!  We never talk in 'real time' anymore.  I miss it too.  Oh wait, am I not allowed to reminisce? I just noticed that I only need 2 more posts to 18k!  You'll be here to see it!  ::sniff::
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

Stop reminiscing, it's adversarial! ;) You should post two more baby pictures, that ought to do it.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Stop reminiscing, it's adversarial! ;) You should post two more baby pictures, that ought to do it.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Want to hear something fuucked up?  Someone on TB has a baby that has brain cancer or something awful like that.  Someone stole pictures FROM HER BLOG and made a Facebook page pretending that she has the baby with brain cancer.  FUUCKED UP.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Want to hear something fuucked up?  Someone on TB has a baby that has brain cancer or something awful like that.  Someone stole pictures FROM HER BLOG and made a Facebook page pretending that she has the baby with brain cancer.  FUUCKED UP.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

:( That is super horrible. That makes me sad.

p.s. I feel bad for jacking AATB's aunt thread now that we seem to be done arguing about it. I'll page you, Sooks.

Blueyed228

This thread got really fvckin weird. We are all adults and can post whatever we want. The beauty of these boards is that if you don't want to read it, don't open the thread. I don't understand why this is always a friggin issue.

J&K10910

i just want to point out that this is not the first time ive pointed out that i dont like the situation. first time would be whenaatb first posted about contacting intervention. and blue, the same awesome priciple that lets aatb post what she wants is the same one that lets me voice my opinion about what she posts.

and ftr my original post in this thread really was out of concern, not meant to be combative. people have changed their sns, lost their jobs, upsewt friends and family members, and had venues canceled because of things theyve posted. really. and i think we can all use a reminder of that every now and then.

so aatb, i am sorry if you felt attacked by me. i didnt mean it that way but i know everything is open to interpretation and interpretation is far more influential than intended meaning.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]i just want to point out that this is not the first time ive pointed out that i dont like the situation. first time would be whenaatb first posted about contacting intervention. <strong><u>and blue, the same awesome priciple that lets aatb post what she wants is the same one that lets me voice my opinion about what she posts.</u></strong>and ftr my original post in this thread really was out of concern, not meant to be combative. people have changed their sns, lost their jobs, upsewt friends and family members, and had venues canceled because of things theyve posted. really. and i think we can all use a reminder of that every now and then. so aatb, i am sorry if you felt attacked by me. i didnt mean it that way but i know everything is open to interpretation and interpretation is far more influential than intended meaning.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Obviously.  Im not the one telling people what they should and should not post.  That is my whole point.  There has been a lot of this type of stuff happening lately.

And with all of this concern people have, has anyone actually approached AATB privately with some helpful advice or expressing their concern?  Or are we all just here judging what she is saying about her aunt?

Nebb

It just seems that more and more often, people are being told what to do. Theyre adults, they can make their own decisions. Its their choice, just as its your choice to pm her if its really an issue or just not open the thread if you know what its going to be about. If the topic of a thread doesnt interest you or isnt something you agree with, close it.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Obviously.  Im not the one telling people what they should and should not post.  That is my whole point.  There has been a lot of this type of stuff happening lately. <strong>And with all of this concern people have, has anyone actually approached AATB privately with some helpful advice or expressing their concern?  Or are we all just here judging what she is saying about her aunt?</strong>
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

No, I'm pretty sure it's been like 98% support, advice and concern in these threads all along. I posted some information about affordable/state-sponsored healthcare and coverage for detox and rehab in one of the recent aunt threads, because she really seemed to be upset that her aunt was going to lose her insurance and not be able to afford treatment.

I know some folks have been grumpy about the "telling people what/how to post" from the past couple months, but I think that sentiment is unnecessarily spilling over into this topic. As I stated, I'm not here to tell anyone what to do. I am just stating my opinion of something I see as messed up. Like we do every day. Please take my comments in this thread at face value, and not as an overall complaining of how people post on SB.

Blueyed228

Beats- i get that but, and this isnt directed at you (or anyone specific really), it just comes off so holier than thou.  Especially when there is a thread happening right now about what betch wore white to your wedding etc. 

How is that much different?  And why is that ok?

Like I said, im just so confused.  If it was me, and not AATB, I would be super pissed at people trying to tell me what to do. 

J&K10910

i never told her what to post or not to post. i said if i were her family member and i stumbled across it id hate her forever. dramatic? yeah, but i would be pretty damn hurt and angry. im not going to argue pming vs posting because i i dont feel the need to pm  the majority of anything else i have to say whether it be helpful, hurtful, judgmental, etc so im not sure why youd think id start now.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]i never told her what to post or not to post. i said if i were her family member and i stumbled across it id hate her forever. dramatic? yeah, but i would be pretty damn hurt and angry. im not going to argue pming vs posting because i i dont feel the need to pm  the majority of anything else i have to say whether it be helpful, hurtful, judgmental, etc so im not sure why youd think id start now.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Lol, ok.  If what i said about people telling others what to post doesnt apply to you, then im obviously not talking to you.  No?

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]It just seems that more and more often, people are being told what to do. Theyre adults, they can make their own decisions. Its their choice, just as its your choice to pm her if its really an issue or just not open the thread if you know what its going to be about. If the topic of a thread doesnt interest you or isnt something you agree with, close it.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Nebb, with all due respect, I feel like both sides could be interpreted as trying to regulate what the others are doing, despite objections to the contrary. I'm saying this way of representing family seems messed up to me, which some see as telling AATB she can't/shoudn't do it. Then people are telling me I shouldn't comment on how people post, or open certain posts. Like you said, we're all adults and can make our own decisions.

And I also hope that AATB doesn't feel like I came here to attack her. I feel like this is something that has probably gotten out of hand because people have encouraged it, and maybe she doesn't realize how potentially hurtful this looks to people who haven't been invested in the drama all along. I've generally known AATB to take the opposing thoughts of others and actually consider their opinions, so I figured maybe that's what would happen here.

Also, the "not opening of threads you don't care for but think are wrong" thing is great in concept. But look at MISSCOURTNEY. Most of the board strongly disagreed with her posting decisions, but every thread she posted was a multi-pager. It's not always easy to ignore or stay silent on things you object to.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Another fun update from drunken aunt land : Lol, ok.  If what i said about people telling others what to post doesnt apply to you, then im obviously not talking to you.  No?
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]
well then apparently i misinterpreted you. seems to happen a lot. my bad. but for the record, i didnt see anyone telling anyone what to post so apparently my confusion was inevitable.