Did you get married at the age you planned?

gmack2011

I always dreamed I'd be married and have 2 kids by age 27...I'm 37 now and getting married. I do admit, at first, throught those 10 years, I felt like it was never going to happen. I saw all my friends doing the marriage and family thing while I was always the "odd one out" when it came to dinner parties and kid functions. But now...most of my friends that got married right out of high school are either divorced or unhappy. I know that marrying in your early 20s does last for some - I'm not saying it always happens. That being said - I am sooooo glad that I waited for the right guy! This is both our first (and last) marriage. We know this is for life because we were best friends for years before we even started dating - 6 months after we finally started dating we were engaged. Good things come to those who wait - and I have the best thing ever!!!

jdkarsten

I just want to thank all of you that have confirmed that it is ok to be married in your late 20s, early 30s.  This is not quite when I thought I would, but I knew that I had to be patient.  Thank you to all those.  You are a gift to me.

JEeyore28

I will be 26 when we get married and he will be 28.  I never really thought of a specific age, but I suppose I was hoping somewhere in my mid to late 20's.   

I was maybe hoping I would get married a little earlier, but I wanted to be done with my undergrad before we got married and so, I'll be finishing this December (YAY!).  We're getting married next June.  I want to finish my grad work before we have kids.   
We will have been together for 10 years this coming October and so of course everyone who knows us says, "it's about time!"  LOL!!

coker90

i will be 22 when i get married which is right around the age i thought i would be.
my mom made the comment today on the way to my younger brother's football game (he is a senior in high school) that she is "totally over the whole high school sports scene and high school drama. im just ready to be a grandma" woah mom. my FI and i are thinking that we will wait at least 3 years after we are married to have kids ( or when we are financially stable) which puts us both at 25 or so, which is 5 years from now. i guess im ok with these timelines as long as im done having babies by the time im thirty. im just ready to finish up college and get on with my life!!!

kateandmiah

growing up i thought i would get married by 23 have babies at 26, 28 and 30 and be set...  im 26 now and getting married in october and i turn 27 in nov.  Im glad i waited i was no where near ready 3 years ago and im still not ready for kids!  although when i think of my age i think i should have them soon but when i think of my life i think i should wait....  all in all im happy with the way it all turned out i got mr right

Ashes_3

I will be 24. It was a little later then the age I was expecting and that is fine with me!!! I would have waited all my life for TJ if that is what it took!

cgonzalez808

Honestly I always thought I would be getting married young. My mom was 21 when she got married and my whole life I said if I find someone young I want to be with them for the rest of my life. I am 21 and I will be getting married in almost 2 months. I am very excited and happy to be with my future husband for almost 4 years. I have a lot of people telling me they think I am too young to be getting married, if I am sure I want to do this, I have never been so sure of something in my life I just knew the day I met him we would be together forever. As long as my family and friends are supportive thats all the matters. Good luck to everyone on their wedding planning and congrats:) 

C*Mia

I'll be 25 and 1 day. I made a rule I wouldn't get married until at least after 25. Well FI didn't want to wait any longer than 1.5 years to get married after engaged. I always saw myself married at 30 or older but i'm ok with 25. Kids on the other hand.... no way before 30!!!

aummer1987

I had the same married at 25 thing kids by 27 onward - I will be 23 when we get married in 6 months and he is 26 - as PP it just felt right we are both going to be done school - we also feel strongly about having kids early so I guess it is just fate - I feel like everything is falling into its neat little puzzle piece spaces.  I am a planner so it is very nice for me to have everything falling into place neatly,. gives me a bit of breathing room on the kids thing - we want to be in our own house before we have them.

amandakbailey

I always swore I would never get married before 25. My mother got married at 17 and her relationship with my father ended badly and it scared me. I will be married two weeks after my 20th birthday. Other than all the negitive judgement my fiance and I face about me being too young and he being too old for me, (He will be almost 28 when we marry) I am perfectly happy about the choice. I met my soul mate early, I don't see it as a bad thing, its a blessing.

tropicanagrl8

I always thought I'd get married in my early 20's after college, which I did.  However, the marriage didn't work.  I don't have regrets, I learned a lot about myself and what I really wanted in a husband. We had an amicable divorce.

Now I'm 31 and getting married. I'm with someone who is on the same page with future goals, finances, children, etc.. I am definitely in a better place now than I was in my 20's. Our relationship is completely different from my past experience and I have no doubt that it will last. He's my best friend, I've never felt that way before.

sassy1782

I guess I thought be married by my mid 20s with kids by 30.  My mom, oldest & youngest sister all did that.  But, that's not how it worked for me and that's a good thing.  I'll be 28 when we get married and am not ready for kids yet.  I like to be able to take off for a weekend with no worries.  Both of us are self employed and it's only in the last two years that our businesses have taken off and we are financially stable.  We met at a good time in our lives.  My FI married young and his ex even younger. She wasn't ready to be married and he had to work alot to get his business going.  It didn't end well.  

Have I ever felt a "behind"?  Only once.  My last and 3rd sister had been married less than a year and announced she was pregnant at my youngest sister's (who is also expecting) daughter's 2nd birthday party.  I had to leave the room because I started to cry and didn't want anyone to see. At the time I wasn't engaged yet and all 3 of my sisters were married with kids.  I got over it.   My FI popped the question a few months later, which apparently he'd already been planning when the party happened.

rosario11

When I started reading this blog I thought... ooops only gals that can be my daughters,  but when I read yours It was so nice since it is the story of my life too. My first marriage was at 20, with just the wrong guy, stayed together for 11 years and the only good thing out of that is my so, who is a real blessing to me. Now at my 47 I am getting married for the second time with a loving, caring and committed man.He is 6 years younger, detail that I am enjoying

edcedk

All through high school I planned on waiting until I was out of college to even start planning a wedding. I met my fiance 1 week after my high school graduation in May 2009, we got engaged in January of 2010, and our Wedding is this upcoming May 2011. Once I met my one, we couldn't imagine waiting 5 years to say "I do". It's going to be hard but it will be worth it to get to come home to each other after school and work each day. I'll be 19 and he'll be 20 on our wedding day!

uniqueshanny

I definitely didn't think I was going to be married so early. I am going to be 23 when I get married next year, and I thought I would be much older, if I ever did get married.
But I am still waiting until after I graduate with my bachelors' (though the same summer that I graduate, so not much later), which was a condition of mine, mostly because I want to start a new section of my life all at once, not get married and go back to school. however, now I am considerin grad school, but I still consider that a new chapter in my life as well.

So I guess what I am saying is that I am surprised I'm getting married so soon, sometimes I still wonder if it is a good idea, but I've met the love of my life and we'll have been together almost 4 years when we get married and I don't see a reason to wait any longer than necessary. so not sad, just surprised.

faith12186

I'm 23 now and I will be turning 24 two weeks after we get married. I think i'm pretty much right on schedule of when I wanted to get married because I always wanted to start having children at 24. I found out early on that was like a prime age for women to bear children. If things go as planned i'll be 25 when I have my first.

andreejones

I'll be 29 when I get married early next year.  Being 29 doesn't effect me exept for the fact that I'll be 30 or 31 before I have my first child...I always wanted to be a young mother.

lisa12982

I actually never thought about what age I would want to get married.  My parents did say when I went to college that they would not pay for a wedding until i was 25.  They wanted me to establish my education and career first and then move on to finding the one and settling down.  I was 27 when I got engaged and will be 28 I'm married (in just a few weeks! ).  I think this a great age to get married and move to kids in our 30's.  Good luck to all of you ladies .

alehayes

I figured it would take me forever to find someone who wanted to marry me, but I always hoped I'd be married in my early-mid-twenties.  Probably because my sister (ten years my senior) married at 24, and it seemed like a good age (they have a beautiful 7-year-old and an excellent marriage, btw).

Our wedding day is two weeks before my 23rd birthday, and three months before FI's 24th.  I couldn't be happier!  I feel so blessed to have found the one I'm supposed to spend my life with at a young age, and I can't wait to be his wife!

slubkin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_did-married-age-planned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:be2ab6b1-c89a-4241-84d9-e54018d1eb05Post:3337f137-8179-4390-8b2e-a1e909b976e2">Re: Did you get married at the age you planned?</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, ever since I was little I always said I was never, ever getting married. And I stuck with that throughout high school, which is why I didn't date. Even when H and I first started dating I figured he would get tired of me eventually and leave, so I never was even thinking about marriage.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Like you, I truly thought I would never find my ONE, so I never had an age in mind by which to measure. (I'm 30, by the way.)

I was so excited that FI and I had such a successful relationship and when he and his family started joking about marriage and kids I knew that this could be a real possibility for me.  After a couple years of these jokes (we've been together 5 years+) I finally told him- look, our families think we are going to get married, we are obviously compatible, are we going to do this or what?  We started looking for e-rings shortly after that.  :)

lilcherub44

When I was younger (10ish), I really wanted to get married at the age of 27.  However, once I started college, and worked on my career, marriage was the last thing on my mind!! Honestly, I had expected to marry at 35.... Surprisingly, I met the "man of my dreams" WAY before I planned to. I will be 28 years old when I get married.... so weird...

june292012

i thought i would get married at a young age. i met my man when i was 14. ill be about 3 weeks away from my 21 birthday when we get married. he will still be 20 until 4 months into our marriage. it sounds too young to some people but the Lord has blessed us with his job so that we can afford our new life together. i thank God for my future husband and all the things He has blessed us with!

moosebaby2011

When I was younger, I thought I'd get married when I was 20 or so like my older sister did, and have at least two kids prior to turning 30.  Living in a small town where a lot of people married young I thought that was just what you were supposed to do.  I also thought the man was always supposed to be older than the woman.  Then I moved four hours away for college (to the "big city" of Buffalo, NY), and gained some perspective.  I dated a bunch of people that I am really glad I didn't end up with, and learned a lot about myself.  I got engaged at 30 and married a few weeks shy of my 31st birthday.  H had just turned 25.  I wouldn't have it any other way.  We're planning on TTC in another 6 months or so, which is a bit later than I had originally planned on back in the day, but if I'd had kids sooner it wouldn't have been with H, so I'm happy with the way things have worked out.

mklanich

I always thought I would do the 8yrs or so of college before marriage, I thought maybe 26 to get married.
Well, I'm 19 and planning a wedding to get married to the most wonderful man I have ever met.
I am a little sad that I didn't live a little more before my FI, but I know I am ready for our marriage. I am very excited

13jdiva

By the time I am married I will be 24 and a month later I will be 25.  I used to think that I would have gotten married much earlier.  First I moved to North Carolina and realized that getting married young and having babies was NOT a good idea.  Then I started a carrier and bought a house and finally found my soul mate.  Now I am good to go.  Hold off on the babies for a while but other than that life for me is now in the fast lane.  And I LOVE IT!!

mer1227

I always wanted to be married when I was 21 or 22. I will be 23 when I get married, so it's not that bad. I know it sounds crazy, but I would have liked to have been married a year ago, or so. My future sis-in-law will be 21 and so I feel behind

I know I shouldn't.

patte310

I keep hearing the exact same thing. People keep telling us that we should wait a year or two and then we will KNOW if we are ready or not. The problem is that I can see myself standing next to my fiance in 50 years and trusting in him and the fact that we will both trust in God to get us through whatever comes our way... it is depressing though when I tell people that i am engaged and sometimes they don' thave to say anything, they just give me this 'look' like they disaprove, well I dont care what they say because my fiance and I love each other and like I said before, God will get us through whatever hits us.

marybrockington

I always said that I would get married at 24 and have my children by 27.....Well I am 29 years old and I am very happy I didn't get married when I wanted to because I wouldn't have married my soulmate which who I will be marrying in 2 months 2 weeks and 6 days!

However, I did make a promise to myself that I refused to turn 30 and not be married, well I'm getting married on Dec 5 and my birthday is Dec 8th, I kept that promise! lol....

jmneuman

I always thought I would get married at 30 or so. I'll be 25 when we get married.
No plans for when the kids will come yet, but I'm not worried.

JenGin74

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_did-married-age-planned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:be2ab6b1-c89a-4241-84d9-e54018d1eb05Post:61215808-aa4a-4d87-9f86-8c9ee71d4f0e">Re: Did you get married at the age you planned?</a>:
[QUOTE]I always thought I would get married at 30 or so. I'll be 25 when we get married. No plans for when the kids will come yet, but I'm not worried. :)
Posted by jmneuman[/QUOTE]

holy shiit! How far back did you have to dig to find this relic?