Stupid Wedding Industry

MeaghanandMichael

Arod- I agree about the customs thing.

Gobos = wtf?

deepcovejackie

Anna-how wonderful that your Dad was so able to participate. 
LC-great bouquet

My dislikes--forced dances, garter toss, strippers, lap dances, "wedding-y" anything really.  Any with lace or ribbons on it that shouldn't usuallly have them, like knives and glasses.  Clinking of glasses in order to get the couple to kiss.  I have lots, those are just some of them.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]Arod- I agree about the customs thing. Gobos = wtf?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

I like my GoBO....=(  Wait are you asking what one is??

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stupid Wedding Industry : I like my GoBO....=(  Wait are you asking what one is??
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

Never mind, I know what it is now ;) I just knew it by a different name.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stupid Wedding Industry : Never mind, I know what it is now ;) I just new it by a different name.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Ya.  I have no idea what GOBO stands for.....when my lighting company first asked if I wanted one it was a head scratching moment.

ARod22

aprovencher- I said nothing judgmental about how other people spend money.  The subject is what bugs us about the wedding industry, not people.  What I said is no different than what others have said about frilly guestbooks or monograms.  I really don't care how others spend money.

katiewhompus

Ok I'll bite, GoBo = what?

I think the thing that is tricky about culture customs is sometimes it's hard to see. For instance if you just looked at pics you probably wouldn't see Native American in my face or dress, but we used readings and much of the ceremony was drawing from that culture because it is a big part of my daily life.

I agree that it's silly of someone to use something just because it's trendy or cool, but why shouldn't people be able to appreciate a reading just because it's not their culture?

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]aprovencher- I said nothing judgmental about how other people spend money.  The subject is what bugs us about the wedding industry, not people.  What I said is no different than what others have said about frilly guestbooks or monograms.  I really don't care how others spend money.
Posted by ARod22[/QUOTE]

Um ya you did judge.  You said its "wasteful" to have an elaborate cake design since its "just a cake."  This implies money is better spent on something else.  This is a different type of judging.  While I may not like ribbons on toasting flutes or cake knives I wouldn't say that's wasteful since it's just a cake knife.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]Ok I'll bite, <font color="#800080">GoBo = what?</font>I think the thing that is tricky about culture customs is sometimes it's hard to see. For instance if you just looked at pics you probably wouldn't see Native American in my face or dress, but we used readings and much of the ceremony was drawing from that culture because it is a big part of my daily life. I agree that it's silly of someone to use something just because it's trendy or cool, but why shouldn't people be able to appreciate a reading just because it's not their culture?
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

Lighting option that is usually a monogram, phrase, design or something that's displayed on the dance floor or wall.  I have an example of mine in my bio.

katiewhompus

Ah ok.

shoegal715

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[QUOTE]Oh.. I dislike guests books and cake cutting utensils, but that's been discussed.  I'm currently hating wedding albums that are re-donk-ulously priced ($2000) and "tells the story of the couple's love as it began to the wedding day."  <--- please read that in a singsong voice.  My parents don't even know where their wedding album is!  I just want some nice pictures to frame  and a reasonably priced album.  <strong>Seriously. I also really don't understand why no one will listen to me when I say I don't want/can't have a shower.  Please listen to me.</strong>
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

<div>This this this this this x 100. I said it over and over, alas - I am having one next month.</div>

MeaghanandMichael

I thought of another, wedding chair covers. Whoever thought those bad boys up? Seriously, if a chair is in rough shape, either rent nice chairs or don't have the reception there. Seriously, if you feel strongly enough about the chairs to think about putting ill fitting reems of taffeta into your wedding equation, then just please know  there are other less agressive options.

misscarolb

Ah! I love all the answers...was hoping for a little more snark, but that's cool! And please, go ahead: judge, isn't that what this board is for? judge, snark, be downright mean - it makes for good reading.

I agree with using other traditions that aren't yours, it's not okay! I'm in the position where neither FI nor I are religious, we have no family traditions to speak of so we're stuck without any cool ceremony things. That's life

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I thought of another, wedding chair covers. Whoever thought those bad boys up? Seriously, if a chair is in rough shape, either rent nice chairs or don't have the reception there. Seriously, if you feel strongly enough about the chairs to think about putting ill fitting reems of taffeta into your wedding equation, then just please know  there are other less agressive options.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Love it! Chair covers make me think they're painting the room or something. I mean, I would never think to <em>decorate </em>my chairs at home with tulle or draped fabric.

Wmb0124

garter tosses make me want to puke, especially when the groom sticks his head up the bride's dress. can we say get a room?

Mioh1

When vendors try to sell you things and say things like "well it is YOUR day you should have the finest ..." I said I don't want to spend 700 on invitations or 3k on a wedding cake.

ARod22

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[QUOTE]When vendors try to sell you things and say things like "well it is YOUR day you should have the finest ..." I said I don't want to spend 700 on invitations or 3k on a wedding cake.
Posted by Mioh1[/QUOTE]

<div>aprovecher- This is what I meant by the fondant cake.  I gave a well-known wedding cake baker in my area a budget but when I told him about the simple decorations I wanted, he kept pushing and pushing more elaborate designs that I didn't want, think were necessary for me, and all of which required fondant.  We ended up with a quote for a cake that was a hefty amount over our budget, and as it turned out, the cake wasn't even good.</div><div>
</div><div>So yes, I'm judgmental about the wedding industry.</div>