to have or not to have a dinner?

Rose March

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:de7b28b7-2922-4c3b-9f87-81c55b42f68d">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]we just dont get the point of wasting 3000 on food... <strong>we wanna do it the cheap way</strong>. <strong>i mean we did go all out on our rings and stufff</strong>. my engagement cost 2500 . his band was 600 and my band is 500.. but thats cause its for us and we are gonna have them forever... we arent really concerned about the whole food ordeal cause <strong>we know <u>we</u> will be eating before the wedding</strong> and <strong>we are more concerned about getting drunk</strong> with our family and friends. i talked to a bunch of ppl in my family and they will be ok with it. they onyl hav to wait from 6 till 9 for food... they will be fine. my dad came up with the idea cause thats what my dad and mom did.. itll be fine .. i hope lol.
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This may sound harsh but a lot the comments (above in bold plus others) you've made sound very selfish (I'm hoping this is not your intent). I know you said people are okay with it, I'm glad you have kind and understanding family and friends but just because they wont judge or be offended (openly?) that dosen't make it ok to not properly host your guests.</div><div>
</div><div>Since you posted I'm assuming you actually want advice.</div><div>
<div>Just some things to think about.</div><div>1)Timing - You want to start at 6, most guest will arrive at least 15 minutes early, Probably give about 1/2 hour to get to the wedding. That means most guest will leave the house by 5:15.  Give them 1/2 an hour to an hour to get ready and 1/2 hour to eat before hand that means you guests will be sitting down to "dinner" at 3:45 to 4:15, that's very early.</div><div>2) Food - What are you planning on serving at the "late night buffet"? Could you start service at 8pm? I would serve something for the hour and a half you are taking pictures even if its just cheese & cracker and veggies & dip. How many guests are you having? What is you food budget PP? There are a lot of low cost "meal" options that would fill your guests and not cost you tons of money.</div><div>3) Timing - could you try to cut the photo time? I don't know the logistics of your wedding but maybe Family pics before and slipping about for 15 minutes to do some group shots during the reception?  or like the other poster have said change the timing to suit you plans/budget.</div><div>4) Open bar - Probably the biggest wedding etiquette fail. Please reconsider.</div><div>
</div><div>I understand the pressures and concerns of paying for your own wedding. If you are getting married you are now all "grown up" that means doing the right thing as opposed to having everything you want. Based on what you've said You can't have it all. If you want the whole guest list and to skip the meal you have to change the time. If you want the evening wedding then either cut the guest list or cut back on the other things in order to feed your guest and at a decent time.</div><div>
</div><div>Please remember your guests are there celebrating your marriage, whether or not they expect anything, treat them as what they are, your <u>guests</u>. Would you have someone to your home and ask them to pay for the drinks you serve? Would you not serve anything to eat between 6 and 10pm  knowing that they had not eaten since at least 4pm if they where at your home for a visit?</div></div><div>
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Rose March

In Response to<strong> <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:4cb6ec13-1b3c-44cc-b029-e898ac29a1c3">to have or not to have a dinner?</a></strong>:
[QUOTE]so heres the thing.... my fiance and i are the ones paying for the whole wedding.  we were wanting to get married at 6pm and which will last till 630 then pictures from then till 8. and the first dance will begin as we walk into thr reception hall... then have a big buffett with good food at 1000 or 1100pm . so instead of having the usual sandwhiches and veggies we will have a decent buffett instead of having a dinner.... <strong>whats everyones thoughts about this???</strong> Also, the cake will be served at the same time as the buffett at 10 or 11... what do we do.... we dont wanna put of 3000 for a dinner.
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

<div>Can I ask why you posted if you didn't want input?</div><div>
</div>

brosters

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:adf38740-c4c3-43a7-b4ac-25bd16e12329">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]Why not just put a trough down and fill it with slop for your guests?  Then they'll know exactly how you really feel about them and it will fit in with your "farm girl" theme.
Posted by bemo12[/QUOTE]

what a good idea! i think i might try this.

ElleB87

Don't even try the "I'm Canadian, this is how we do it" card.  I'm Canadian and I wouldn't dream of treating my friends and family the way you are.  I also wouldn't trust you with anything health related since you can't spell or use proper grammar. Also, don't blame your lack of class on being from a small town; there are plenty of small town folk that don't starve their nearest and dearest. Your wedding sounds like a train wreck but you seem to be okay with that so good luck!

brosters

look you girls are ridiculous! the wedding is at 6. and dance starts at 8pm. we are not the only people ever to do this type of thing. it happens all the time around where we are from.

and im not straving my guests haa. they will be eating at cocktail hour before we get there and then they will be eating at the late night buffet.
the only difference from my wedding than other "traditional" weddings is that we arenot having a full sit down meal. they will be getting a buffet later at night. and its not like they will be waiting hours upon hours for food. it will be comning out within an hr and half of the dance starting.

DONE END OF POST!

OBX2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:63ed9fd7-9fcb-4458-b5f0-6ce750ab0bd4">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>look you girls are ridiculous!</strong> the wedding is at 6. and dance starts at 8pm. we are not the only people ever to do this type of thing. it happens all the time around where we are from. and im not straving my guests haa. they will be eating at cocktail hour before we get there and then they will be eating at the late night buffet. the only difference from my wedding than other "traditional" weddings is that we arenot having a full sit down meal. they will be getting a buffet later at night. and its not like they will be waiting hours upon hours for food. it will be comning out within an hr and half of the dance starting. DONE END OF POST!
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

No, we have something you don't....it's called proper etiquette.

And yes, they will be waiting for hours for food.  10:00 buffet - 6:00 wedding = 4 hours.

ETA:  you spefically asked "what do we do" in your OP.  Everyone answered you and told you that this was a bad idea.  We don't validate bad ideas here....and the same goes for bad ideas in Canada.  Period.

brosters

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:6b0f95df-1b04-4933-9d2b-f981e4c3b60a">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : No, we have something you don't....it's called proper etiquette. And yes, they will be waiting for hours for food.  10:00 buffet - 6:00 wedding = 4 hours. ETA:  you spefically asked "what do we do" in your OP.  Everyone answered you and told you that this was a bad idea.  We don't validate bad ideas here....and the same goes for bad ideas in Canada.  Period.
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]


dear ya missed the part where i said there would be food out while we were at pictures. either way thats fine. thanks for your words and ill be sure to inform you how my day goes. Thanks ya'll

OBX2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:9b2b62d0-82f3-42eb-be60-a13b1e40b231">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : dear ya missed the part where i said there would be food out while we were at pictures. either way thats fine. thanks for your words and ill be sure to inform you how my day goes. Thanks ya'll
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

Yes, b/c a cheese tray will certainly satisfy all of your guests while "we are getting drunk with family & friends" ....I believe is the way you put it?

Please don't inform me as to how your day goes, as I already know....trainwreck ;)

ATexasBelle

LOL dude how old are you? This is pathetic.

hearthemelody

[QUOTE]Assuming this is not MUD (which I believe it is because of the post count, the astoundingly rude nature of the suggestion, and the fact that the <strong>apparently pregnant bride</strong> just wants to get wasted with her family) my thoughts are this:  OP, if I showed up to your reception and realized it was a cash bar and there was no food in the picture by 7:45 PM, I'd leave and take my gift with me.
Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]

Did I miss this? How did I miss this?

vicki0508

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:30cadba6-5b12-4e06-b3a0-11261d62adf1">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]Did I miss this? How did I miss this?
Posted by hearthemelody[/QUOTE]
She never came out and said it.  Her thumbnail pic was one of those standard pregnant ones you get over on TB.

vicki0508

"We met in 2000. He was my cousins best friend and I spent a week every summer at my Aunts. Therefore, we were always together and we had always had the puppy love "i like you you like me" thing. We went our seperate ways and grew up, then one day out of the blue at a truck show, we literally ran into each other. We were attached at the hip since. Moved in together when i was 16, and the rest is history."

So, you were grown up before you moved in together at 16?  You're what 18, maybe 19 now?

brosters

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:d56e86d8-5474-4b24-a335-08c8dbd3920c">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]"We met in 2000. He was my cousins best friend and I spent a week every summer at my Aunts. Therefore, we were always together and we had always had the puppy love "i like you you like me" thing. We went our seperate ways and grew up , then one day out of the blue at a truck show, we literally ran into each other. We were attached at the hip since. Moved in together when i was 16 , and the rest is history." So, you were grown up before you moved in together at 16?  You're what 18, maybe 19 now?
Posted by vicki0508[/QUOTE]

good try but no! by grew up i mean we knew eachother since we were little kids. and to be able to move in together yes you do need to be grown up. which i was. my family home wasnt a good place for me and you grow up quick when you have a childhood like mine.  what gives you the impression im a teen??

not that i have to answer anything for you. but its funny how people judge when they dont even have the slightest idea who you are.

jagore08

Clearly OP is going ot do what she wants to do.  She got a unanimous reply that her "reception" is rude.  Let's stop feeding the troll now.

jillzky

I've only read about 20 posts in this thread but it has 'joke' written all over it.  Like maybe someone's FI was bored and wanted to mess with the ladies of The Knot.  OR...the OP is totally clueless about the purpose of a reception. To brag about spending a lot of $$ on rings and things that are just 'for us' and short change your guests because $3k isn't really worth it, sounds like a spoiled brat.  I understand if you don't have $3k for a reception, because I sure cannot spend that amount either.  But you have to treat your guests with honor and respect.  Do a non-meal time cake/punch + light apps reception or totally rethink the whole thing.  Just my 2 cents.

Viczaesar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:a45a93f4-73f6-4bda-9e5a-a228bdabaf40">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]JFC. We're having a buffet as well, but unlike your ridiculous idea, it will be served the same time as a plated dinner would be. I REALLY don't understand why you can't have the buffet while the dance part is going on. This is the dumbest thing I've ever read on TK, FFS.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
For me it's right up there with the girl who wanted live rabbit centerpieces in cardboard boxes.  This one is more of a direct fvck you to her guests, but that one involved rabbit urine and feces on the dinner table and animal cruelty.  Potato potahto, I guess. 

Viczaesar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:93aae324-b263-459c-b68f-13fefec3f41e">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : good try but no! by grew up i mean we knew eachother since we were little kids. and to be able to move in together yes you do need to be grown up. which i was. my family home wasnt a good place for me and you grow up quick when you have a childhood like mine.  <strong>what gives you the impression im a teen?? </strong>not that i have to answer anything for you. but its funny how people judge when they dont even have the slightest idea who you are.
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]
Can't speak for her, but for me it's your inability write like an educated adult, your maturity level (or lack thereof), and your selfishness in planning your wedding.

Chels&Jimmy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:efeb2266-3282-4787-b17c-760a60647c7b">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]Clearly OP is going ot do what she wants to do.  She got a unanimous reply that her "reception" is rude.  Let's stop feeding the troll now.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree... as entertaining as this all is, OP clearly didn't want anyone's advice (for whatever reason) and is charging forward with her train wreck of a wedding. We should stop giving her the pleasure of our shock and dismay at her childishness, selfishness, and rudeness. </div>

button6004

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:2410f374-c0b4-4266-89d5-e21ca0855c71">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : uhm i never ever said that there would be ntohing for them to do when we were doing pics,  the reception hall will be open at 7 dj will be playing and bar will be open. and ive already said during that time there will be cheese and stuff out.. we just arent having a whole plated or buffet dinner. THIS IS MY SCHEDULE 6-cermeony 630- starting of pics and guests head out to the legion <strong>7- legion is open and dj, bar and little foods there 8- we enter have the three dances 8.15 or 830 speeches whenever speeches are over then its PARTY TIME! 1000 food will come out thats it thats all</strong>
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

I'm a little late adding to this, but I just thought I might point out that I went to a wedding like this last year. 

First of all, your wedding isnt a high school dance.  Your guests arent going to a hoedown- they are going to a WEDDING.

Moving on. My friend did the same schedule you want.  Sitting there for an hour with "little foods" sucks.  It also sucks to not even be able to get a small cup of soda or juice without forking over $3. We were STARVING (and, fyi, we had eaten before we went) by the time the bride and groom arrived over an hour after we had.  And then to make your guests wait another 2 hours for food? We ended up leaving right after the couple arrived, because it was too much.

We are paying for our wedding without family help and my FI is certainly not looking forward to shelling out $6K for food for our guests, but if they are making the effort to come to our event, they deserve to be fed and treated well during it.

NOLAbridealmost

**Just to clarify, I don't think the OP is pregnant.  I was using the fact that she obviously has an account over on the bump to support my gut instinct that this was MUD**

brosters

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:89975f28-d3e7-4b3a-af33-250da82e73e8">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : Can't speak for her, but for me it's your inability write like an educated adult, your maturity level (or lack thereof), <strong>and your selfishness in planning your wedding</strong>.
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

its our weddding. shouldnt we be doing what we want and not what society thinks we should do or what others think we should do...

its 2012 guys, things have changed and I really dont think having a ceremony then skipping straight to the dance is going ot be a big deal. i never thought it would get this much feedback, but clearrly somewhere along the way someone messed up the info... there will be food and my guests will not starve.

and because i know just how much you guys are waiting for me to answer. im 24... that doesnt sound like a teen to me. and yes i do use slang and dont use my shift key because its just a forum. it doesnt need to be a grade a report.

my point being


Thanks for the advice, i will be using some ideas, you all can stop following me now on every post i make, esp regarding my ring.

have a great day.

END OF POST

hearthemelody

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : For me it's right up there with the girl who wanted <strong>live rabbit centerpieces in cardboard boxes</strong>.  This one is more of a direct fvck you to her guests, but that one involved rabbit urine and feces on the dinner table and animal cruelty.  Potato potahto, I guess. 
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]

I will be totally honest here. I didn't believe you.

<a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_this-good-centerpiece-idea_.0">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_this-good-centerpiece-idea_.0</a>

Never will I doubt again.

button6004

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:d5632d93-6068-4862-8e23-21d681544f09">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : i<strong>ts our weddding. shouldnt we be doing what we want</strong> and not what society thinks we should do or what others think we should do... its 2012 guys, things have changed and I really dont think having a ceremony then skipping straight to the dance is going ot be a big deal. i never thought it would get this much feedback, but clearrly somewhere along the way someone messed up the info... there will be food and my guests will not starve. and because i know just how much you guys are waiting for me to answer. im 24... that doesnt sound like a teen to me. and yes i do use slang and dont use my shift key because its just a forum. it doesnt need to be a grade a report. my point being Thanks for the advice, i will be using some ideas, you all can stop following me now on every post i make, esp regarding my ring. have a great day. END OF POST
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

it is your wedding, but the reception is for your guests.  its a way to say "thank you for dressing up, driving to my ceremony and joining us in our matrimony."  wouldnt you WANT to think about their needs?  i just feel sorry for any kids, or elderly, or people with diabetes or other medical conditions, who come to your wedding, because waiting hours for a "late night buffet" could be torturous and detrimental to their health.

i cant understand how anyone could be so thick-headed, but i wish you the best and hope that by the time your "late night buffet" rolls around you still even have guests there to eat it.

Viczaesar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:d5632d93-6068-4862-8e23-21d681544f09">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? :<strong> its our weddding. shouldnt we be doing what we want and not what society thinks we should do or what others think we should do</strong>... its 2012 guys, things have changed and I really dont think having a ceremony then skipping straight to the dance is going ot be a big deal. i never thought it would get this much feedback, but clearrly somewhere along the way someone messed up the info... there will be food and my guests will not starve. and because i know just how much you guys are waiting for me to answer. im 24... that doesnt sound like a teen to me. and yes i do use slang and dont use my shift key because its just a forum. it doesnt need to be a grade a report. my point being Thanks for the advice, i will be using some ideas, you all can stop following me now on every post i make, esp regarding my ring. have a great day. END OF POST
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]
Nope.  You're getting married, you're not the queen of Sheba.  You can make decisions for your wedding without taking into consideration your guests ONLY if you have no guests.  Once you involve other people in this circus, you have to treat them properly.  You're not planning on treating your guests properly.

The only person you're hurting by writing like an illiterate teenager is yourself.  Have a little respect, woman.

There isn't an off switch, and you don't get to tell us when to stop responding to you.  So solly cholly.

brosters

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:c7cac143-2163-4f32-a8a7-78ae61a85541">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : it is your wedding, but the reception is for your guests.  its a way to say "thank you for dressing up, driving to my ceremony and joining us in our matrimony."  wouldnt you WANT to think about their needs?  i just feel sorry for any kids, or elderly, or people with diabetes or other medical conditions, who come to your wedding, because waiting hours for a "late night buffet" could be torturous and detrimental to their health. i cant understand how anyone could be so thick-headed, but i wish you the best and hope that by the time your "late night buffet" rolls around you still even have guests there to eat it.
Posted by button6004[/QUOTE]

there are no children... and there is no body at my wedding with medical conditions. but thanks.! and please. torturous and harmful to their health? people go 4 hours ona regular day without eating. omg people give it up!

button6004

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:c66ca346-20a0-4378-bbb5-08ab848aab80">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : there are no children... and <strong>there is no body at my wedding with medical conditions</strong>. but thanks.! and please. torturous and harmful to their health? <strong>people go 4 hours ona regular day without eating. omg people give it up!</strong>
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

are you sure you know everyone invited is without any type of medical condition? im young and vivacious, yet i have a serious medical condition that no one would suspect.  if i dont eat regularly or stay hydrated, i can get extremely sick. 

you clearly just dont care about anyone other than yourself.  i dont even understand why you asked your "question" when you've already made up your mind and dont see the error in your ways.  again, i hope this set-up works out for you.  i just know i wouldnt be able to stay at your reception without a more substantial dinner at a reasonable hour, and i would be really put-off by your decision.

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : there are no children... and there is no body at my wedding with medical conditions. but thanks.! and please. torturous and harmful to their health? people go 4 hours ona regular day without eating. omg people give it up!
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

Are you hiring a caterer?

Rose March

You  know what? Your right you CAN do whatever you want. No one is going to make you have your wedding one way or another and I'm sure other people have done terrible taking /crass/rude wedding before but neither of the things makes it OK FOR YOU TO DO. Just because you can doesn't mean you should!

I keep on thinking why you posted at all? You obviously do not want to hear what anyone is saying and you are unwilling to even try to be more accommodating to your guests. You only care about what you want.

I came up with 2 possibilities.

1) Pure MUD

2) You know what you've planned is really terrible and you where looking for someone to tell you "Its you wedding forget everyone else" you've come to the wrong place!

If you truely wanted this to end all you have to do is stop posting and people will stop responding you are choosing to continue with this. 

Finally, it doesn't matter if you're 24 r 84 you are acting like you're 4! Act like a grown up and do the right thing!

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]I will be totally honest here. I didn't believe you. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_this-good-centerpiece-idea_.0">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_this-good-centerpiece-idea_.0</a> Never will I doubt again.
Posted by hearthemelody[/QUOTE]
Some things you really have to see to believe.  I wouldn't have believed it either if I hadn't seen it unfold with my own two eyes.

O Susannah Mio

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:7b1f738d-90a5-4cf4-b817-a8d0ba3f4492">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]you guys are freaking crazy. you dont even know my family. no one is going to be leaving my wedding bahaa! listen we arent the only people who got married then skipped right to a dance people. listen you guys are all probably americans. <strong>Canadians do it right.</strong>
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]

Yeah. You're not doing it right. I'm Canadian. I've been to roughly 30 weddings in my life.
And your plan is completely insane.

Dinner-- /> dance. If the reception goes on for longer than 3 hours, light apps.

But seriously folks, Canadians do NOT do it this way. At all. We do it the same way you Yanks do it. :P

If I had to guess, the OP is from a rinky-dink town in the middle of nowhere,  where people tend to just roll their eyes and think "Oh there's Petunia. She's always been an odd child."