to have or not to have a dinner?

mrsrichard33

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : Yeah. You're not doing it right. I'm Canadian. I've been to roughly 30 weddings in my life. And your plan is completely insane. Dinner-- /> dance. If the reception goes on for longer than 3 hours, light apps. But seriously folks, Canadians do NOT do it this way. At all. We do it the same way you Yanks do it. :P If I had to guess, the OP is from a rinky-dink town in the middle of nowhere,  where people tend to just roll their eyes and think "<strong>Oh there's Petunia. She's always been an odd child."
</strong>Posted by O Susannah Mio[/QUOTE]


I literally LOL'd. I had a horse named Petunia.

Also, Im Canadian and this is just CRAZY.

sonya+adam

I came in on this really late, but.. what I want to know is (aside from why the OP is so crazy, stubborn, and selfish), is..

OP, why do you think wearing cowboy boots underneath your wedding dress shows how low budget your wedding is? That's dumb. I know a lot of people who have worn cowboy boots under their dress and they did not starve their guests. In case you didn't know, cowboy boots are not cheap by all means. Definitely more expensive than a plain pair of heels.

For some reason, that comment just irked me.

hearthemelody

[QUOTE] <strong>people tend to just roll their eyes and think "Oh there's Petunia. She's always been an odd child."
</strong>Posted by O Susannah Mio[/QUOTE]

Brosters will always be Petunia in my mind from now on.

For that matter, all MUD-ers will be Petunia from now on.

Mrs. Chapiko

brosters...

I can only shake my head.  You've been told over and over again this is a bad idea and inconsiderate of your guests and you...don't care.  And stop with the "this is how we do it in Canada" or, the "this is regiona" bs.  Bad manners is bad manners regardless of what year it is and no, you're not doing it right.  Doing it right means having consideration for your guests and their comfort.

If you want people walking away from your wedding rolling their eyes and snickering and sorry they came, by all means, proceed.  I get the impression all you want is an audience for YOUR big day and you really don't give a damn if anyone else has a good time or not.  Your family isn't doing you any favors in encouraging your selfishness - your other guests won't be nearly so indulgent.

I just don't understand what the big deal is to change the timing of the food service to the beginning and then go to the dancing? People will certainly have more fun and be more energetic when they're not hungry and annoyed.  But, its your Titanic.  Steer right into that iceberg!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

This is what my wedding schedule was like:

11am - start getting dressed, do hair and makeup
2pm - pictures with wedding party
5:30pm - ceremony
6:15pm - guests begin arriving at reception and enjoy drinks and hors d'oeuvres, family stays at ceremony location for pictures
6:30pm - family goes to reception, husband and I do pictures alone
7pm - we arrive at reception
7:15pm - we are announced and go sit down at our table, speeches
7:30pmish - dinner is served, we are served first and after eating, we go around and greet tables
8:30pm - first dance
8:35pm - floor open for dancing
9:30pm - cake cutting, cake is served
11pm - end of reception

Do pictures before your ceremony. Do your first dance AFTER the buffet, and eat as soon as you are announced at the reception. There's nothing wrong with the type of wedding you want (BBQ, sandwiches, etc), or having an evening wedding, just with when you are actually serving food.

I still get compliments on how great my wedding was, and I was married over a year ago, because we cared about our guests and provided really great food and drinks.

But, hey, I also don't think you are real.

cwaggoner07

IF this is real.... there is going to be so much vomit at that wedding.

bunni727

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_to-have-or-not-to-have-a-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:7c18fa78-8f1e-451b-8dd7-8b24944bb1e1Post:55712915-9a15-4957-bd2a-435346814aff">Re: to have or not to have a dinner?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: to have or not to have a dinner? : 1) i have a little more respect for my self then to a falling down bride. 2) peoplewill not be leaving my wedding before 1 am and the buffet will be out at 930. and everyone invited to the wedding knows there is no dinner therefore they can make arrangements before they come. they realize we are a young couple and the food isnt the biggest deal of the day. we are married thats what they are there for. 3) i never once said something abiout marriage its self. i<strong> was talking about all you people with your 10 grand budget and more. your dresses were probably at least 5000 thats just crazy</strong>. my dress was on sale and it looks perfect. anywayssssss apparently americans do it differently. im a farm girl. we are having a casual wedding. im wearing my cowboy boots under my dress.... so that gives you an idea on how low budget it is. i wouldnt have it any other way.  we are either getting a pig and that will be served or we are going with out otiginal plan
Posted by brosters[/QUOTE]
I had to stop at the bolded part. I  very rarely post, but I'm insulted by this. You don't need that muct money to properly host anyone. My guests will be fed, hydrated and entertained at no cost to them, at a resonable hour, on a $1500 budget. It can be done, and done gracefully.

amybelle02

   Honestly, the cash bar doesn't bother me as much as most. It's not something I would do, but it's also not something that offends me either. I do think the alcohol on empty stomachs may turn out to be a bit of a disaster. I'm sure the last thing you want on your big day is a puddle of puke in the middle of the dance floor.
   I understand that you aren't able to afford a full meal, and thats fine, as hopefully your guests want to help celebrate your day, and aren't too hung up on proper etiquette. But, with that being said, I think it would be just as easy to switch the buffet and the dance. Why not still start the dance portion of the evening at 8, but begin with the buffet, then as most people are finishing up eating, begin the speeches, and the first dance, etc. and at 9/10pm start the party portion. That way guests stomachs will be satisfied enough to spend the evening with you. That doesn't up your cost any, but it probably will make for some happier guests. You could even leave the buffet out, or have it refreshed again later in the night for some late night snacking.