Tacky?

gothicfairy

I am serving bbq at our wedding also. Its an outdoor wedding also. And really I don't see it as tacky. Its all about you & him & about what you two want. Yes it can get messy. HAHA. But there are ways around it. Good luck will you plans.

jbtigger06

I think bbq is a great idea! Me and my fiance are having bbq at our wedding its a pretty casual beach wedding. I was thinking the same thing too, that it might be a little tacky... but everybody I talk to think its a great idea... If thats what you and your fiance want then do it... you figure this is the one event in life that is all about YOU!

soon2bemrsphillips

I think you're totally good! A friend of mine is getting married in a few months and they're having a super formal church wedding and they're doing BBQ for their reception!  This day belongs to you and your fiance...if it makes you happy, go for it :-)

IvorySquirrel

I don't think it's tacky. I am doing a 4:00 wedding and BBQ (I think) - so you are not alone in the idea. Both my mom and my future mother-in-law thought it was a great idea. Also, I went to a very nice wedding show where one of the major caterers was a BBQ place. Since then, I have seen that option available from caterers more than once. I think as long as you pull it off and make the catering display look classy, it can be classy. It's all in the presentation! Good luck.

jaimelee1

I'm having BBQ at my indoor nightime wedding reception.  Most BBQ caterers provide paperplates and plastic utensils but to make it feel more like a wedding, we are renting nice linens, china, and silverware.  I've gotten nothing but positive feedback about it.  Also, to help with not getting any on me that day, I will be wearing a tablecloth as a bib.

pixiepink

I'm doing spaghetti in a white dress, but I'm going to order those plastic lobster bibs, they are fairly inexpensive and I am a fairly tacky person so it's all good.

laurend1980

My advice to you and to every other bride-to-be is-it is your wedding and you do whatever you want! Your wedding should be a time you get to show you and your fiancees favorite things, it should be about the two of you!!

acsewell

I agree - go for it!!!

I was thrilled to see your post because I am planning a very similar October afternoon outdoor wedding. Hey, if it's tacky then we'll both be tacky!! I was also told "It's your day, do what you like," and am taking that straight to heart. Who cares if something isn't traditional?? You're going to have a fun, comfortable, relaxing reception with a meal that many peopelewould consider comfort food. There's nothing awkward about that!
Enjoy your day!

pam wagner

Didn't have time to read all the replies, but if you're worried about your dress, why not get a very simple 50's style apron in a shade to match your dress and hot glue on some nice details? you can wear it just for the dinner, take it off and never see it again.  Maybe this is a good thing to ask a creative but not wealthy friend to do for you in lieu of a wedding gift, especially if he/she can sew and will make it from scratch to match your dress. Most of your guests would probably be tickled by it if they notice at all.

megscatering

We are doing BBQ as well.
I have been to weddings where the food seems to be more for decoration than eating and prefer to have something that tastes good. lol

silverbeltgirl

I am a big believer in doing what you want. this is your wedding and you get to make the decisions. I hate how the "traditional" wedding has consumed us. I think it might be fun to make the bbq semi-fancy. Might be a fun and interesting way of serving some of your favorite food in a non-traditional way. Keep in mind that all food has a smell... if you are having it catered, the smokey smell will not be in your clothing unless you are hanging out in the kitchen   How many people serve salmon? I wouldn't choose to smell like salmon, but then again I wouldn't hang out in the kitchen either! lol. If you are concerned about that, remember that you don't plan on wearing your dress again.... so it doesn't matter how it smells! I was getting fed up with planning our rehearsal dinner, so finally I just decided that we should order pizza (we have about 50 people for the dinner alone since I have a large family - including multiple divorces and remarries - and a large wedding party). My MOH laughed when I told her and told me she was relieved that it was going to be casual. You might be surprised just how relieved people will be when they feel the casual/comfortable feel of your wedding. It's not about following rules, it's about having a celebration that displays your personality. Good luck!

P.S. I think khakis are  casual dress-up. Our groomsmen are wearing black slacks, purple shirts and silver ties. Since it's summer, they are able to roll the sleeves up to 3/4 lenth. You should have seen their faces when I told them. They were like "I don't have to wear a suit in the middle of summer????"  They were very thankful
Most people will welcome the idea of not dressing black tie.

cmtill0131

There is a bbq place close to us that is known for having the best bbq in the city I live in. They're catering my reception, and I can't wait! We are having an outdoor wedding/reception, but I don't see anything wrong with your bbq choice. It's your wedding, and it's what you love! Besides, have comfort food that people will enjoy and want to eat rather than something they won't love. I went to a wedding that had a fancy meal, but it wasn't even enough food. I had to eat after I left!

Good choice on the bbq. I love it!

jdizzl734

See, one thing that bothers me the most is people telling you what they deem "tacky"!! If you and your fiance have decided on khakis and BBQ, then everyone else can get over it. Your choices are completely acceptable. It is not as if you are choosing BBQ to be cheap. Exact opposite, you feel khakis and BBQ reflects your combined personalities. Point blank as long as you and your groom understand the choices being made, that's all that matters. Not everyone will agree with every choice you make, but when the choice is finalized they can keep the criticism to themselves. You should not have to change your vision for anyone's standards of "tacky" or acceptable.

crossingvm

I am planning to have BarBQ at my wedding as well. It was not the intial menu, but I had two caterers to pull out on me. My wedding is less than two months away and we need to stay as close to the budeget at we can.

I did have to change my linen...to make things more contenporary than traditional. I may not eat at the reception. I will have them to put me a plate aside for later. I wiill have to depend on the colors and presentation of the room to give a dash of elegance.

AaronJill

I think BBQ is GREAT.  I am also getting married in Oct in a outdoor ceremony at 4, and am then going to the reception hal next door to the ceremony sight.  We are having bbq also.  I love BBQ and my family smokes meat at all of our family get togethers.  I would say do what you want to do, that is what I am doing.  If no one else likes it then that sucks for them because I am going to LOVE it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

FutureMrsJovel

BBQ sounds awesome!! My fiance and I wanted to do something like that but the place that we picked has their own catering so we had to go with something different.  Your wedding is supposed to be about you guys!! I say go for it!

My fiance and I LOVE wearing converse.  Thats pretty much the only shoes we wear when were not in flipflops.  We will be wearing them at our wedding as well and my MOH did the same thing yours did.  "Thats gonna look tacky in a dress!"  Oh well.  Its completely us. 

This is your day.  You dont want to not do it and then regret it either! And theres tons of option for BBQ! Good luck with everything girl!

veneeta23

I dont think that having a BBQ dinner on your wedding day is tacky. Why not have you and your soon to be husband favoraite food on one of the best days of you life.  I have always notice that BBQ food has always brought out a good feeling in people no matter when or where they eat it. And yes you may be in a white dress but if your going to be eating at a table the chances are very slim that you will drop the food on yourself. So i think that having a BBQ dinner on your wedding  is not tacky. Just remenber no matter what you do your wedding will be great.  

thenarrowgate

My mom got married last spring and she had BBQ at her wedding. I was thrilled because I love BBQ at any occasion, and the catering was pretty easy that way too. 

I was a bridesmaid and I got BBQ on my dress. But I enjoyed the food! I say go with the BBQ and make sure you have giant napkins or bibs for the bridesmaids. They may complain, but as long as you have some gesture that shows you care about their needs too, it's no big deal.  

Riko_Teki

We're having BBQ at ours And everyone seems to be thrilled about it!

FutureMrsProctor

I say go for it! Most everyone likes bbq. I would rather eat that than something fancy that cost $65 per person and everyone leaves hungry!!

Afton7

I think that since you are having your reception in a banquet hall, then you should dress up the BBQ. I suggest you put it in nice dishes or something of that nature. I'm sure the table will be nicely decorated, so in my opinion it will not look tacky at all. Whenever I go to a wedding I think of the Bride and Grooms personality or life in general. If you grew up on BBQ then shouldn't people understand? Every wedding has something unique. Why can't BBQ be your something unique?

jflove

Not tacky at all!  I am from a "down-home" type family and so is he so we are doing BBQ at the reception.  I'm a messy eater sometimes so I'm stealing an idea that my brother and his wife did at their wedding... not only to protect her dress but also to protect his Marine dress blues. 

They had aprons made with their names on them and put them on at the reception (only to eat).  It was the cutest thing I've ever seen!  (And they had a super fancy "to the 9's" wedding!)

vegemite

i dont think BBQ is tacky at all! im Australian...we live for barbies! i do agree with the others when it comes to presentation, it doesn't take a great deal to class it up. one important thing to remember is that it is YOUR big day. if you want a BBQ then i say have a bloody BBQ! who cares what anyone else says! if the food is good n presented well there will be no complaints. your wedding is also suppose to reflect you and your partners personalities, why should you have to throw the rigid, stuffy formal affair? personally i hate the formal dining. dont feel you have to comply just because thats the 'norm'. im also planning  an outdoor wedding, for both the ceremony and reception. i want a more relaxed atmosphere too, and even if your guests dress in black tie, they will still feel more relaxed because you set the mood of the day, its whatever you want it to be. 

lanie mackay

Its ur wedding you get to decide whats tacky and whats not

agarci

I don't find it tacky at all. In fact I'm having BBQ at my wedding, and everyone I have told liked the idea.

emandmike7

I went to a wedding last summer that had bbq.  It was in the afternoon but it was as "casual" as yours.  They had tri-tip and ribs and it was catered by a great local deli and was cheaper than getting a full course meal.  It wasnt taky, or out of place.. it fit right in.  This is a recession and its cheaper to bbq than to have a full on banquet.  Plus, everyone loves some "comfort" food.

delia7

I am serving BBQ at my wedding. I am having an outdoor Texas wedding in May and I am also paying for the entire wedding myself. We are starting the reception at 8, but will be serving alcohol and need to get something substantial in our guests bellies. BBQ was the best option for my budget. If anyone complains they have clearly never tried to plan a wedding-and pay for it themselves-in the middle of a recession. I want to have a nice wedding-but I am not willing to go into debt for it. So I say do what you want to do, and do what your budget allows.

jenacolors

Personally - I think a lot of people will be very happy w/ the BBQ!   Sometimes a formal reception makes everyone feel like they have to act different...  This is a party to celebrate your new life together!!  I say enjoy the BBQ - everyone will be more relaxed and laid back and will have a blast at your reception!  

lcoremin

Do you girl...it's YOUR day. If you love BBQ, go for it. I was thinking of having my wedding at a farm in the area and doing BBQ under a huge tent. Don't worry about what others think. As long as you have fun, your wedding will be memorable for you. 

msketa

If I were you I would not worry about what other people think. That day is about you and what you want. Do what makes you feel happy.