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juliebug1997

Amanda,
I remember my parents wanting a parent/teacher conference because I got an 89 in science in 6th grade.  They wanted to know what I should be doing better.  Well, I should have studied.  There are sometimes where I could actually see a parent conference for a B.  What if the kid always gets A's and then gets a B?  They might want to make sure that it's not going to develop into a problem for the kid down the road.  And by that, I mean, like in math.  To go from high A's to a B when you move up a level might be a reason for concern. 

I think we are just tired from the drama.  And I'm going to pull out a Forest Gump quote here:  And that's all I have to say about that.

As I listen to the radio in the mornings, I think the OMH is coming out in me.  Specifically when I listen to the lyrics of songs by Rhianna, Enrique and Britney to name a few.  Is there such a thing as audio porn because that's what I feel like I might be listening to. 

Grey's?  I tried a couple of times but, eh, not for me. 

rcpm44

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[QUOTE]And I flame people who plan weddings they can't afford, and then constantly complain about how much it's costing.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

Agreed! If you have to rent your apartment out to pay for your wedding you need to be doing some major cutting.

Tiffany618

I guess I really only have one.   It is not new, but I feel that it needs to be re-iterated.

It's YOU AND YOUR FI'S WEDDING.  Not Mom, not MIL, not whoever else you are sacrificing your wants for to satisfy someone else.  If they are paying, then sure you must accomodate them to some extent...but please don't be afraid to tell them something is not what you want.

You MUST have a backbone and learn to put your foot down and say "no" when it is appropriate!   Voice your opinion, don't let people walk all over you. 

If you don't do this, and do it early on... you will have the wedding of someone elses dreams.  Not your own.

That is all.

ETA:  I think I put this more eloquently this time.   For those of you who want the abbreviated version...it wen't something like "Grow a Pair" ...

mseale

Oh, I also flame girls who come on here and immediately ask questions with insufficient background for us to answer, but are basically trying to get knotties to plan their whole wedding.

sparklingdiamond

I flame the fact that because I forgot to invite one of my cousins to the wedding (whom I've ony met like twice and don't know well AT ALL), that his mother started drama because he wasnt invited and now doesn't want to come.  Its ridiculous!

Lauren and Bobbileigh- I guess I missed that funness on Facebook :-p

NMac2010

Oh yeah, Tiffany. I knew I was forgetting something. Without all the words she said, grow a pair of effin balls and tell your MIL, or whoever it is to back off; it's your wedding. And if you can't do that. SHUT UP ABOUT IT.

NMac2010

Julie- I agree sometimes if the kid is an A student and they get a B maybe they slacked off. But I was that kid in highschool that sometimes tried at certain subjects really hard and still made B's. If my mom had been on my ass every time I got a B, my self esteem would have been 6 feet under. And does it warrant a parent teacher conference on the first B? I don't know. That seems much to me. I'd tell my kid to study harder, it's no big deal. I don't understand the parents that put so much pressure on their kids to make straight A's in highshool. I didn't, I didn't even have a 3.5 in HS. I still went straight to college, graudated, got a good job, and am doing well for myself. Did I go to a big 12 school or have it all paid for by scholarships? No. Does it REALLY matter in the long run? No. A degree is a degree, at the end of the day. And after you've been in the workforce a few years, then it doesn't matter even more where you went to school. Sorry for the rant. It's not directed at anyone. I just have never understood why parents get their panties all in a wad about kids' grades in highschool. If they're failing, ok I get it. But give them a break. Let them enjoy being kids. And, done.

MissAngel

ok ok... maybe some of the flames are directed at me... but in my defense, I eventually learned and we have been telling her no on everything starting the day after they met up with my parents for a 'logistics' meeting a while back.  She's being ridiculous at this point and it's just annoying. 

Tiffany618

Re:  Grades

I was pressured, but not hard.   I am a better person for it, though.  I'm not saying you have to do it the way that my parents/I did....but I graduated high school with my entire first year of college courses completed already (and I was not even in the top 10%!).   I got about a 50% academic scholarship to TCU and graduated college in 3 years.   I literally went to TCU for less than it would have cost to go to a state school.

So, it kind of does matter.   Because of the work that I did in HS I got a college degree from a great private school with no student loan debt at all.

sparklingdiamond

I made pretty good grades in school and my parents didn't put a lot of pressure on me.  I was self-motivated though.  I know a lot of kids don't care what grades they make, but I always did.

holi108

I flame my job because I will be stuck here till the early hours of the morning and may possibly have to be here all day Saturday as well!!

P.S.- Educators: the state budget goes on to the house floor today. Good luck and keep your fingers crossed for good news!

knottie2733fe6844e988e4

I did have good grades without parental pressure. It was my pride, my motivation. I loved to be at the top of my class. And as Tiffany that helped me get to a private college for way less!

lesalyric

I flame my co-worker. We have those phones that play the radio through the speaker and it was changed from some random, decent, unobtrusive 70's-today station to a freaking country station. AND I CANT TURN IT OFF! I can handle some country but not 5 hours straight every day and their morning show is stupid. Want. to. break. the. phone.

I don't understand the point of bickering on the internet. Ok, you feel differently, noted. I was a competitive debater and one of the things we were taught very early on was that when "moral" issues were involved unless you are Jesus, and sometimes not even then you aren't going to convert anyone. Arguing forever wastes time you could be doing something more productive. Maybe this makes me too passive and seem like a door mat, but honestly it's just not worth the arguing for me.

I love you girls and I don't want to make enemies on here (even you Merritt) but I just wanted to put that out there.

juliebug1997

In my situation, I went from 100+ in trig/analytic geometry to 82 the first six weeks of calculus to failing calculus.  I shouldn't have been in that class and that's kind of what I'm really talking about.  When I tell parents that most of our tests are vocabulary or memorizing some endings, they say "So my child didn't study?" and I say yes and then every thing's fine.  I was just saying that in some instances the parents are just wanting some additional information that they're not getting from the kid.  You know, the truth.

I studied some, graduated #13 in my class, but, since I was going to a public university, I got no scholarships.  That's okay.  I loved my time at A&M and my dad said that it was totally worth the money he spent. 

Many of my kids want to get straight A's to get into schools that are outside the state of Texas and have lots of greenery on the walls (Ivy League).  One was devastated the other day because she didn't get into Yale and she'll probably be the valedictorian this year. 

dtay1986

I flame ppl who admit on a public forum that their husband is helping them cheat on an assignment. You never know who might have connections to your college or your professor. I hear they take cheating pretty seriously these days...

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]I flame ppl who admit on a public forum that their husband is helping them cheat on an assignment. You never know who might have connections to your college or your professor. I hear they take cheating pretty seriously these days...
Posted by dtay1986[/QUOTE]
Whoa!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />

Tiffany618

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[QUOTE]Re: mothers in law and testicles. I torally understand the inability to say no to a MIL. I love my FMIL, but she can be sooooo hard to turn down sometimes. FI's SIL has been talking me through lot of this because for over ten years she's been learning to say no to FMIL, and not like FMIL makes totally irrational demands. She just sometimes gets tunnel vision, only sees her needed outcome, and begins making demands. So, I appreciate being told to grow a pair, because I need to, but I totally sympathize with girls who have demanded MILs.
Posted by mrsamandamiller[/QUOTE]

Haha, I get that too.   I'm not saying disregard them by any means and certainly not be disrespectful....but just let your voice be heard.    There was a post this week that made it sound like this girl was just totally getting steamrolled.

juliebug1997

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Haha, I get that too.   I'm not saying disregard them by any means and certainly not be disrespectful....but just let your voice be heard.    There was a post this week that made <strong>it sound like this girl was just totally getting steamrolled.</strong>
Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]
Probably because she was.  And she was even steamrolling her own son is what it sounded like to me. 

juliebug1997

What are the prices on Texas Discovery Gardens and Cooper Guest Lodge?
Posted by 1fwdarlin

I think google can help with that!

Renee is my current hero.....

lesalyric

Oh man, this may be stupid and flameable, but the Chik-Fil-A cows are cracking me up on facebook. They just posted this status:

We quit. Nu spokzanimul iz Pig! He iz verry xcited. Plz welcum him. If u need us we weel b on beech.

Probably an April Fool's joke, but still funny.

mandaroo7

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I saw that last night... I just got off of FB so it wouldn't keep popping up.  I will say that I am very interested to see some of these weddings from other parts of the country...and part of that may be the snarky B in me... oh well 
Posted by llc2011[/QUOTE]

I missed the chat, probably good.  I want to see all the different weddings too.  Should be interesting.

mandaroo7

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[QUOTE]Oh man, this may be stupid and flameable, but the Chik-Fil-A cows are cracking me up on facebook. They just posted this status: We quit. Nu spokzanimul iz Pig! He iz verry xcited. Plz welcum him. If u need us we weel b on beech. Probably an April Fool's joke, but still funny.
Posted by lesalyric[/QUOTE]

HA HA Funny!

NMac2010

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[QUOTE]Re:  Grades I was pressured, but not hard.   I am a better person for it, though.  I'm not saying you have to do it the way that my parents/I did....but I graduated high school with my entire first year of college courses completed already (and I was not even in the top 10%!).   I got about a 50% academic scholarship to TCU and graduated college in 3 years.   I literally went to TCU for less than it would have cost to go to a state school. So, it kind of does matter.   Because of the work that I did in HS I got a college degree from a great private school with no student loan debt at all.
Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

My point was that once you are in the workforce, where you received your degree doesn't matter. It's about work experience after that, and how good you sell yourself in interveiws. And I don't have student loan debt either from my first degree. My parents paid for my college and I'm blessed they did. Overall, I don't believe the argument that grades in highschool will ultimately get you any further in life than anything else. Obviously if you don't graduate HS, haha, that's not good. But I know kids I graduated with had 4.0's and got into a big 12 or private college and couldn't even finish their degree because their parents pushed them all through HS and they never found their own motivation. Or they got degrees and aren't doing crap with them. Or, hate to say it, they got jobs with their fancy private school degrees and I got a better job than them with my UNT degree. I think it's what you do after highshool that matters. Just my 2 cents.

NMac2010

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[QUOTE]I flame ppl who admit on a public forum that their husband is helping them cheat on an assignment. You never know who might have connections to your college or your professor. I hear they take cheating pretty seriously these days...
Posted by dtay1986[/QUOTE]

And if this was directed at me, maybe you should get your story straight and understand the details before you make accusations.

dtay1986

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : And if this was directed at me, maybe you should get your story straight and understand the details before you make accusations.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]
Maybe I read it wrong, but if so...what's the story then?

NMac2010

The story is that my husband is helping me by reading a book for me so he can help me understand it, and I can write my essay based off that and spark notes. I don't consider that cheating. I'm reading the cliff notes myself, as am I writing my own essay. I didn't even read the book for the last paper. I strictly wrote it off spark notes. By the way, I find it funny that I've never once seen you on this board, except to accuse someone of cheating.

courtski2004

I flame the Grey's bawl fest last night...it really didn't help that I had to catch up and watch last weeks episode and last night's in succession. FI said he almost teared up, but he mostly made fun of my crying. I guess it was just remembering the episodes that the songs were initially played in that got me! Izzy going up the elevator in her prom dress to see Denny, the bomb, etc. An overall odd episode. I hope they don't choose to do that again.

dtay1986

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[QUOTE]The story is that my husband is helping me by reading a book for me so he can help me understand it, and I can write my essay based off that and spark notes. I don't consider that cheating. I'm reading the cliff notes myself, as am I writing my own essay. I didn't even read the book for the last paper. I strictly wrote it off spark notes. By the way, I find it funny that I've never once seen you on this board, except to accuse someone of cheating.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]
Didn't know I had to get ALL the details about the whole situation to post a flame....just going by what you posted before
"I really appreciate everything you do for me, especially you volunteering to read this horribly boring war novel that I have to read for my History class and write an essay on, so I don't have to read it and can focus on my harder classes. You're the best husband ever."

The fact that you're not reading it and colloborating with someone else who IS reading it could qualify as cheating. But, that wasn't really the point of my post. The POINT is you're posting this in a DFW board...you go to a university here in the area, you never know who is reading the boards or who may have connections to your professor or to someone in the History department. It's probably a good idea to use common sense before posting something like that.

NMac2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Didn't know I had to get ALL the details about the whole situation to post a flame....just going by what you posted before "I really appreciate everything you do for me, especially you volunteering to read this horribly boring war novel that I have to read for my History class and write an essay on, so I don't have to read it and can focus on my harder classes. You're the best husband ever." The fact that you're not reading it and colloborating with someone else who IS reading it could qualify as cheating. But, that wasn't really the point of my post. The POINT is you're posting this in a DFW board...you go to a university here in the area, you never know who is reading the boards or who may have connections to your professor or to someone in the History department. It's probably a good idea to use common sense before posting something like that.
Posted by dtay1986[/QUOTE]

You're right. Why don't you go find my name, which class I'm in, and turn me in.

NMac2010

Tay, just curious, do you have any relation to N&M? Blood or marriage. Man, the similarities.