Hello (and sorry for the super long post),
I'm recently engaged and am trying to figure out my bridal party. Right now we are between having three or four couples. The deciding factor: whether I am going to ask a fourth person or not. My fiancé has three picked out for sure and knows his fourth if we go that route (He does not want to for sure ask this person- he just knows who it is if we have four couples). The problem is, I really am having a hard time deciding whether I should ask this fourth person because I really want to but there is one thing that worries me. I guess I need some advice as to what some of you think I should do. Here is the situation (lets say the potential fourth girls name is Sophie)::
I have been friends with Sophie for the last two years. Our graduate program was a two year program and I can easily say she was one of my best friends over the last two years and honestly, I really do not think I could have made it through the program without her friendship and support. We graduated from the program in May and since then, it has been hard to get together with her. I understand its the summer, and don't get me wrong- I somewhat get it because I have been crazy busy this summer too- but its seems like she NEVER has time for me. I take things way personally (I cannot help it- I've just always been that way), so its hard for me to not read into that. However, on that note, I do think that if I really needed to see her and was having some sort of problem- she would be there for me asap.... so I don't know what to think.
I guess I'm wondering what all of you think. What would you do? I mean on one hand, I do consider her one of my best friends over the last two years and I seriously do not think I could have made it through grad school without her and part of me really wants to ask her. But on the other hand, I think the lack of getting together with her over the last few months makes me worry we won't stay friends long-term. Ugh.. I feel like I'm being dumb about this but really any advice would help! So what do you think-what would you guys do?