I flame newbies who think they are super special just because they already live with their FI and think they can go straight to The Nest. I know a lot of people disagree with me, but it still bothers me a lot. Respect the process people!
I flame myself, for repeatedly packing things I needed, and of course packing them in the bottom of something. Oh well.
I don't get the whole TK to TN thing. I have posted once on TN to get a vet rec but other wise I haven't even lurked yet. So, should you be married before you post on TN? (No snarkiness implied. serious question!)
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:d34bb2cc-5d66-4117-88de-4ec9798f1850">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I flame myself, for repeatedly packing things I needed, and of course packing them in the bottom of something. Oh well. :) I don't get the whole TK to TN thing. I have posted once on TN to get a vet rec but other wise I haven't even lurked yet. So, should you be married before you post on TN? (No snarkiness implied. serious question!) Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
Not necessarily. I post there every once in awhile too. The way I see it (and I know this isn't the actual rules for TN, and I'm only talking about the DFW board) is that all of the OMHs moved over there to create their own spot since they were over weddings in general and had moved on with their lives. I post there every once in awhile because I was supposed to be married already but broke my ankle & had to push my date back. So I was planning with most of those girls and am pretty much done planning myself. (Ask Stephie & Bobbileigh, my dining room is full of wedding crap just waiting to be used!) A lot of Knotties here have been with their FIs for years already, but don't feel comfortable posting over there because they aren't OMHs. I feel like it's a rite of passage thing. I will be glad once I am actually married and officially an OMH! I know this is really silly and will probably get flamed for it too, but I just feel it's really disrespectful of the Knotties patiently waiting for the wedding day to go to join them over there. Does anyone get what I'm saying, or am I just caring a little too much? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
I think it's time to let the whole posting on TN thing go. No one should feel more priviledged over another to post over there just because they've been around longer. What if someone skipped the whole TK in general and started posting over there without being married? Would they get the same grief?
~DFWs Resident Snark~
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
It doesn't sound like such a big deal because even people who are planning their weddings might want to go over and talk the the OMHs who were around for most of their "knot life". KWIM?
Nevermind. I talked to another Knottie about it off board and she didn't care, so I guess I don't have to care anymore. I just wanted everyone to be included if a few people were going to be!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:08dc2fb6-bfb3-4acc-b44d-509950a4516a">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]Nevermind. I talked to another Knottie about it off board and she didn't care, so I guess I don't have to care anymore. <strong>I just wanted everyone to be included if a few people were going to be!</strong> Posted by TexanTreasure08[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:dd90a4fa-2c2f-4e1b-9705-4d8d5e96bca8">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'm confused now! It's too early... lol Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
If angelsong was welcome there, then I didn't want any of the regs to get side eyed when they posted there.
In regards to regs posting over there, I really haven't seen side-eyes from the OMHs. If people want to PM back and forth questioning about me posting over there I won't be getting my panties in a wad. Strangers that I've never met talking about me won't hurt my feelings. It's the Internet.
~DFWs Resident Snark~
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
I will say this about the TK/TN thing and leave it alone:
Telling people where they can and can't post is exactly the mentality that will lead people to call the DFW girls "Mean Girls" and call the OMH's a "clique" when in actuality, we aren't any of those things. This is the internet and every one is allowed to post where ever they would like, we obviously have no control over it, unless they are breaking specific forum rules. There have been other knotties posting on TN and there are Nesties that post on TK... but no one else has a problem with them. I have a feeling that it goes a little deeper than that with this certain issue.
I will say, Angela, in your defense... I never even thought of posting on TN until I was married... I just thought that was the process too. However, there is no rule that explicitly states that you (or anyone else) can't.
Angelsong, I may have some misinformation, which is why I am not really intending this to be a flame, but rather some unsolicited advice (so take it or leave it). Am I correct in thinking that you have now put money down on two separate wedding-related products (photographer and dress) only to change your mind a few weeks later and then buy something else? I worry that if this becomes a pattern, you will find yourself doubling your wedding budget just because you see something you think you like better. I totally get it about why you switched photographers and why you bought another dress, I just hope you'll take your time and do some thorough research before you make another deposit. And if I'm wrong, then please ignore.
Here is a real flame: wtf students this is DALLAS. I am going to set fire to those stupid Heat shirts!
What kind of puppies are those? I feel so bad cause I want to get Ed one as a welcome home gift but we cannot til my older one goes and til we have a yard. He wants a dog like that one Roxie and Trevor have on Army Wives.
~DFWs Resident Snark~
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:b36b02ab-83e9-4aa6-b7bc-8a97db1580f2">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]What kind of puppies are those? I feel so bad cause I want to get Ed one as a welcome home gift but we cannot til my older one goes and til we have a yard. He wants a dog like that one Roxie and Trevor have on Army Wives. Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]
They say they are a shepherd mix, but one of them looks like he has a little bulldog in him. The little girl of the bunch is generally pretty calm. Shes real timid looking a lot of the time.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:21c7c9eb-a398-4da8-8c10-a7cdc1a08b63">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I flame anyone who would expect a guest to sit in 100 degree July heat to watch them get married. Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:21c7c9eb-a398-4da8-8c10-a7cdc1a08b63">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I flame anyone who would expect a guest to sit in 100 degree July heat to watch them get married. Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]
Agreed! We went to one of DH's friend's weddings a couple of years ago and it was in the middle of the summer and outside. I was so miserable! There's nothing like being in a nice dress and being all sweaty! :-( Plus they served fajitas for dinner, which didn't help the situation!
I flame my IT department for still not having my new coordinator properly set up with access to create contracts. She's trained and ready to go, but she has to send out things from my computer. I e-mailed again this morning and copied the world on it so hopefully we'll get it fixed.
~DFWs Resident Snark~
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:68886935-3c6c-4e9a-85bd-029f04068944">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I flame myself. FI says he doesn't feel that I'm excited to get married. It isn't that I'm not excited. I'm just doing EVERYTHING and worn out. Posted by MLandCJ[/QUOTE]
Aww, don't flame yourself! I felt this way too. Leading up to the wedding, I kept telling DH, "I hate weddings. I hate this. I want to elope." I was tired of doing 100% of the work when I didn't want a wedding to begin with. I made this clear to him and to almost everyone. I was a grump and a pain those last few days before the wedding -- I admit it.
The part you probably hate -- the part I hated --<em> </em>was the 200 RSVP cards, place settings, final payments to the caterer, hundreds of people asking me questions every day, etc. That part is all just the wedding reception/party, and how you feel about wedding planning has nothing to do with how you feel about marrying him! Take some time for the two of you and make sure he knows how excited you are to be marrying him!
I went to pick up my dress today, and I wanted to put it on just to make sure everything was okay with it, and the lady took me back to alterations, where I put on my own dress,twirled for about 5 minutes and then took it off. Holy crap that thing isn't as light as I thought.
There were no other customers, and no one even came to check on me. I could hear them in the back laughing and whatnot. If I hadn't worked in Bridal dresses before, I would have been pretty ticked.
I'm thinking David's may not be altering my dress.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:21c7c9eb-a398-4da8-8c10-a7cdc1a08b63">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]I flame anyone who would expect a guest to sit in 100 degree July heat to watch them get married. Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]
<div>Is June heat OK? If I had a wedding in any other month that was cold(er) no one would come - so something's gotta give. I wasn't about to give up an awesome venue just because I have to get married in the summer (due to 90% of the guests having school aged children and living far away)</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:3783c24a-ad95-46b0-addf-b62aa1d5e32c">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]Angelsong, I may have some misinformation, which is why I am not really intending this to be a flame, but rather some unsolicited advice (so take it or leave it). Am I correct in thinking that you have now put money down on two separate wedding-related products (photographer and dress) only to change your mind a few weeks later and then buy something else? I worry that if this becomes a pattern, you will find yourself doubling your wedding budget just because you see something you think you like better. I totally get it about why you switched photographers and why you bought another dress, I just hope you'll take your time and do some thorough research before you make another deposit. And if I'm wrong, then please ignore. =) Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]
It's okay, I completely understand what you are saying! We actually did a LOT of research on photographers and I looked at many dresses before going shopping -- but to spare you from reading way too many words I'll just say we had unexpected issues and an unexpected contribution. As you know, the photographer decided for us we weren't going to work together, so it made the decision to look around and find someone else REALLY easy. The dress change was due to me being a moron (who goes to a store and never tries on the dress they went for?! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />) and to the unexpected contribution. We didn't lose any money at all, so no worries on cost. Had there been a price to pay, I certainly would not have changed dresses.
I've done a crap-ton of research, but I'm really indecisive. Deciding what's for dinner can take hours sometimes...it's ridiculous. I've had to make a conscious effort not to re-think things. I feel really confident about everything else, so hopefully those were the last changes! Thanks for reminding me though that I need to be confident in the decisions I've made. :)
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-60?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:f9d06942-dcd3-490b-b7d3-71419ef629caPost:db7825d8-e28b-4fc6-8e02-1a99e896d9f3">Re: FFF</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It's okay, I completely understand what you are saying! We actually did a LOT of research on photographers and I looked at many dresses before going shopping -- but to spare you from reading way too many words I'll just say we had unexpected issues and an unexpected contribution. As you know, the photographer decided for us we weren't going to work together, so it made the decision to look around and find someone else REALLY easy. The dress change was due to me being a moron (who goes to a store and never tries on the dress they went for?! ) and to the unexpected contribution. We didn't lose any money at all, so no worries on cost. Had there been a price to pay, I certainly would not have changed dresses. I've done a crap-ton of research, but I'm really indecisive. Deciding what's for dinner can take hours sometimes...it's ridiculous. I've had to make a conscious effort not to re-think things. I feel really confident about everything else, so hopefully those were the last changes! <strong>Thanks for reminding me though that I need to be confident in the decisions I've made. :)</strong> Posted by angelsong21[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I was trying to say. Thank you so much for the explanation. =)
Re: FFF
[QUOTE]I flame myself, for repeatedly packing things I needed, and of course packing them in the bottom of something. Oh well. :) I don't get the whole TK to TN thing. I have posted once on TN to get a vet rec but other wise I haven't even lurked yet. So, should you be married before you post on TN? (No snarkiness implied. serious question!)
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
Not necessarily. I post there every once in awhile too. The way I see it (and I know this isn't the actual rules for TN, and I'm only talking about the DFW board) is that all of the OMHs moved over there to create their own spot since they were over weddings in general and had moved on with their lives. I post there every once in awhile because I was supposed to be married already but broke my ankle & had to push my date back. So I was planning with most of those girls and am pretty much done planning myself. (Ask Stephie & Bobbileigh, my dining room is full of wedding crap just waiting to be used!) A lot of Knotties here have been with their FIs for years already, but don't feel comfortable posting over there because they aren't OMHs. I feel like it's a rite of passage thing. I will be glad once I am actually married and officially an OMH!
I know this is really silly and will probably get flamed for it too, but I just feel it's really disrespectful of the Knotties patiently waiting for the wedding day to go to join them over there. Does anyone get what I'm saying, or am I just caring a little too much? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
[QUOTE]Nevermind. I talked to another Knottie about it off board and she didn't care, so I guess I don't have to care anymore. <strong>I just wanted everyone to be included if a few people were going to be!</strong>
Posted by TexanTreasure08[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm confused now! It's too early... <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> lol</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'm confused now! It's too early... lol
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
If angelsong was welcome there, then I didn't want any of the regs to get side eyed when they posted there.
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
Telling people where they can and can't post is exactly the mentality that will lead people to call the DFW girls "Mean Girls" and call the OMH's a "clique" when in actuality, we aren't any of those things. This is the internet and every one is allowed to post where ever they would like, we obviously have no control over it, unless they are breaking specific forum rules. There have been other knotties posting on TN and there are Nesties that post on TK... but no one else has a problem with them. I have a feeling that it goes a little deeper than that with this certain issue.
I will say, Angela, in your defense... I never even thought of posting on TN until I was married... I just thought that was the process too. However, there is no rule that explicitly states that you (or anyone else) can't.
Now, here's a puppy!
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Here is a real flame: wtf students this is DALLAS. I am going to set fire to those stupid Heat shirts!
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
[QUOTE]What kind of puppies are those? I feel so bad cause I want to get Ed one as a welcome home gift but we cannot til my older one goes and til we have a yard. He wants a dog like that one Roxie and Trevor have on Army Wives.
Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]
They say they are a shepherd mix, but one of them looks like he has a little bulldog in him. The little girl of the bunch is generally pretty calm. Shes real timid looking a lot of the time.
I flame myself.
FI says he doesn't feel that I'm excited to get married.
It isn't that I'm not excited. I'm just doing EVERYTHING and worn out.
[QUOTE]I flame anyone who would expect a guest to sit in 100 degree July heat to watch them get married.
Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]
omg this.
[QUOTE]I flame anyone who would expect a guest to sit in 100 degree July heat to watch them get married.
Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]
Agreed! We went to one of DH's friend's weddings a couple of years ago and it was in the middle of the summer and outside. I was so miserable! There's nothing like being in a nice dress and being all sweaty! :-( Plus they served fajitas for dinner, which didn't help the situation!
I flame my IT department for still not having my new coordinator properly set up with access to create contracts. She's trained and ready to go, but she has to send out things from my computer. I e-mailed again this morning and copied the world on it so hopefully we'll get it fixed.
I'm not so good with the advice... Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?
[QUOTE]I flame myself. FI says he doesn't feel that I'm excited to get married. It isn't that I'm not excited. I'm just doing EVERYTHING and worn out.
Posted by MLandCJ[/QUOTE]
Aww, don't flame yourself! I felt this way too. Leading up to the wedding, I kept telling DH, "I hate weddings. I hate this. I want to elope." I was tired of doing 100% of the work when I didn't want a wedding to begin with. I made this clear to him and to almost everyone. I was a grump and a pain those last few days before the wedding -- I admit it.
The part you probably hate -- the part I hated --<em> </em>was the 200 RSVP cards, place settings, final payments to the caterer, hundreds of people asking me questions every day, etc. That part is all just the wedding reception/party, and how you feel about wedding planning has nothing to do with how you feel about marrying him! Take some time for the two of you and make sure he knows how excited you are to be marrying him!
[QUOTE]I flame anyone who would expect a guest to sit in 100 degree July heat to watch them get married.
Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]
<div>Is June heat OK? If I had a wedding in any other month that was cold(er) no one would come - so something's gotta give. I wasn't about to give up an awesome venue just because I have to get married in the summer (due to 90% of the guests having school aged children and living far away)</div>
[QUOTE]Angelsong, I may have some misinformation, which is why I am not really intending this to be a flame, but rather some unsolicited advice (so take it or leave it). Am I correct in thinking that you have now put money down on two separate wedding-related products (photographer and dress) only to change your mind a few weeks later and then buy something else? I worry that if this becomes a pattern, you will find yourself doubling your wedding budget just because you see something you think you like better. I totally get it about why you switched photographers and why you bought another dress, I just hope you'll take your time and do some thorough research before you make another deposit. And if I'm wrong, then please ignore. =)
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]
It's okay, I completely understand what you are saying! We actually did a LOT of research on photographers and I looked at many dresses before going shopping -- but to spare you from reading way too many words I'll just say we had unexpected issues and an unexpected contribution. As you know, the photographer decided for us we weren't going to work together, so it made the decision to look around and find someone else REALLY easy. The dress change was due to me being a moron (who goes to a store and never tries on the dress they went for?! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />) and to the unexpected contribution. We didn't lose any money at all, so no worries on cost. Had there been a price to pay, I certainly would not have changed dresses.
I've done a crap-ton of research, but I'm really indecisive. Deciding what's for dinner can take hours sometimes...it's ridiculous. I've had to make a conscious effort not to re-think things. I feel really confident about everything else, so hopefully those were the last changes! Thanks for reminding me though that I need to be confident in the decisions I've made. :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It's okay, I completely understand what you are saying! We actually did a LOT of research on photographers and I looked at many dresses before going shopping -- but to spare you from reading way too many words I'll just say we had unexpected issues and an unexpected contribution. As you know, the photographer decided for us we weren't going to work together, so it made the decision to look around and find someone else REALLY easy. The dress change was due to me being a moron (who goes to a store and never tries on the dress they went for?! ) and to the unexpected contribution. We didn't lose any money at all, so no worries on cost. Had there been a price to pay, I certainly would not have changed dresses. I've done a crap-ton of research, but I'm really indecisive. Deciding what's for dinner can take hours sometimes...it's ridiculous. I've had to make a conscious effort not to re-think things. I feel really confident about everything else, so hopefully those were the last changes! <strong>Thanks for reminding me though that I need to be confident in the decisions I've made. :)</strong>
Posted by angelsong21[/QUOTE]
This is exactly what I was trying to say. Thank you so much for the explanation. =)