my fi has 3 male attendants, i have 4 female and 1 male.sides dont have to be even. my bridesman will be escorting one of my bridesmaids down the aisle then both standing on my side. my bridesman's tux accessories are the same color as my bridesmaids dresses. the groomsmen will be wearing a different color. i will be a groomsmaid in my bridesman's wedding next summer. he wants me to wear a khaki skirt and light blue blouse because his groomsmen are wearing khaki pants and light blue button up shirts.
This a second marriage for both me and my future husband, so when it came to choosing a witness, I automatically thought of Gus. We have been friends for over 30 years. When I was asked, I said that were not having a bridal party, but we were having witnesses! Of course our grandchildren are our flower-girl and ring bearer.
This is a second marriage for each of us and I am having my 3 sons stand next to me and my groom is having his son and daughter stand on his side. Even though it's our children (grown) we have experienced a raised eyebrow or two. Who cares? This is our day and it truly should be about what brings us joy. Right? Do what makes you happy --- that way you'll have no regrets or resentments.