So at this moment I have 4 bridesmaids and a maid of honour that I have chosen. My fiance said that his 2 sisters should be in my bridal party. I have no problem with having 7 however I have some concerns. They both have young children and each one of them has 4 kids. I'm concerned that they will not be as much help prior to the wedding especially one of them is divorce and basically a single mom. As well, on the wedding day they would need to get their kids ready and I was thinking that I would like to have all my bridesmaids over the night before so we can all be there for hair and makeup. My fiance is thinking of asking his brother inlaw to be one of his groomsmen so this would mean that both my sis in law and her husband would be part of the wedding party. During the reception, the kids are going to need to be fed etc...they would also need to sit at the head table. I have no plans on hiring a babysitter and I am not quite sure who would be looking after their children while we do all the photos etc. plus kids get messy and I do not want any crap on their dress to show up in their photos. They are also in their early 40s and I am in my late 20's and all my bridesmaids are my age and younger, I would prefer to do a more fun bachelorette party and I don't want them to feel left out and uncomfortable. I was thinking of just giving them the choice of being in it if they want to rather not asking them at all. What would you do in this situation.