Ok, I'll admit I'm very ignorant on many religious aspects, but also very curious. I could tell my friend didn't want to go into details, so I didn't ask. I'm wondering if anyone else knows this.
My friends said that on her wedding night next month she needed to find a hotel with a suite and seperate beds for her and her new husband. She said "It's really gross, so I won't go into the reason."
Now I'm curious!! LOL
Can anyone explain?
Re: Jewish wedding night - why two beds?
They do schedule around the time of her period, however, we all know that, sometimes, especially under times of stress, sometimes our cycles change. My assumption was that, when they scheduled the wedding a year ago or so, the timing was good, but, now that she's a month out, the wedding is going to come during her niddah (12 days).
The Knot lost my info, but, I've been married since 6/19/05!
question - is a woman considered niddah if she bleeds after losing her virginity?? that is the only thing i could think of, besides if she is on her period.
What's gross is my future MIL was watching Dr. Oz and they were encouraging women to have intercouse during their periods because it helps with the cramps. My rebbitzin told me you are more likely to obtain yeast infections with intercourse around that time of the month which my gyno confirmed during my annual.
It was interesting when I asked about fertility and my gyno said you are most likely to conceive about 12- 14 days after the first day of your period which is coinicidently the time that niddah ends.
According to all Orthodox authorities, the first time a virgin has sexual relations, she also becomes niddah as a result of her hyminal blood flow. This is observed even if in fact there was no blood present. However, she only counts four days before performing a hefsek tahara (inspection cloth), instead of the usual five
Posted by talgirl84[/QUOTE]
I don't think it is a coincidence at all - G-d says we're supposed to be fruitful and multiply, right?
For most women, following the family purity laws sets one up to get pregnant perfectly, like your gyno said. If you have shorter or longer cycles, it might not though and a Rabbi might allow you to wait a shorter time period.
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[QUOTE]Having never grown up with any Jewish traditions and now coming into contact with it, it is nice to see scientific evidence backing up Jewish law. My Israeli sister is staunchly against religion and was trying to convince me that woman is most fertile right before a woman has her period. I'm going to have to break it to her gently when I see her next week..in ISRAEL
Posted by talgirl84[/QUOTE]
I think your sister needs a lesson in female biology and fertility!
The Knot lost my info, but, I've been married since 6/19/05!
But she was trying to prove to me that scientifically, the laws of niddah are incorrect. She's wrong!
[QUOTE]so that means orthodox jews only have sex 2 weeks a month? That sucks!
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yes approximately 2 weeks, depending on an individual's cycle. they also can not even touch each other during the niddah period. it may seem like it sucks, but for a lot of people i know who practice it, they say it actually keeps their marriage exciting! there are two ways to look at everything i suppose :)